When You’re Feeling Different Than Everyone Else

When You’re Feeling Different Than Everyone Else

 Have you ever felt like you just don’t fit in?

Do you ever feel like you are not like other people your age? I completely understand.

It took me a long time to accept my gift, and I feel very fortunate that I feel like I fit in my life now. However, it wasn’t always like that. I went through a lot of years, especially in high school, where I felt like I didn’t fit and that I didn’t belong. During this time, I learned a lot about life and I know it made me stronger, but it was awful to go through. At one time or another, many of us feel like we don’t fit in, but there are things we can do to change that.

Find your tribe.

Growing up, I was not an athletic kid. Far from it. So I didn’t fit in with all the athletes and jocks at the fancy prep-school my parents put me in. The other kids wanted football scholarships, and I just wanted to go to the mall! I felt like an outcast. Instead of going to parties, drinking and getting into mischeif, I spent a lot of time on my own feeling very left out. At the time I was living in a small community, and I got bullied by kids. My parents transferred me to a different high school for my senior year. All of a sudden, I had people I could connect with. Finally, I found other kids who were like me. We shared the same interests, and I started making friends. It was a great experience.

Looking back, I’m glad that I experienced the challenge of “not belonging” in high school – they taught me so much. We’re all here to learn lessons and to grow. Here are some of the lessons I learned through my high school experience:

Be yourself & love who you are.

What I have learned is that It is so important for kids to learn to be themselves. Society pressures us so much to fit a mold or be like other people. Today’s world is different, I love that there is so much more awareness now that being different is okay.  I know that people still get judged and ridiculed for not fitting other people’s expectations. One of the best things we can do for the people we love is accepting them just the way they are and help them accept themselves. We need to start by looking in the mirror and accepting ourselves first.

Be open to new experiences.

Sometimes feeling different is all in your head. When you were a teenager… and even as an adult…you may meet someone new and automatically place judgment and think they’d never want to be your friend. You try to compare yourself to that person to try to find a reason they would want to be your friend. Instead, you place doubt and never let friendship organically happen. Try the opposite.

The next time you meet someone new, be guided by your heart and not your headTry saying hello! Or try a new activity. Do you know that saying “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks”? Not true! I have lots of friends who have started new hobbies and are doing things they never imagined they’d be doing. And making great friends while they’re at it!

Mean girls (and guys) come in all ages.

Even as adults, we sometimes find ourselves in a group of people where we don’t really fit. Sometimes as we get older, some of our friendships don’t age very gracefully. We might not have as much in common anymore. A friend of mine realized that she had a bunch of friends who were “mean girls”…and they are all in their forties! She didn’t want to hang out in the negative energy hearing them gossip. It made her feel bad. She signed up for a yoga class on her own and ended up making some new, more positive friends. We are never too old to make new friends!

Out with the old and In with the New.  

Sometimes it’s hard to let go of old friends, even when they treat you bad. There is a piece of you that wants to hold onto the hope and belief that they will end up being that happy person again that you once knew and loved. The issue, however, is that if they make you feel bad then they just don’t belong in your life. Remember that when you subtract negative people from your life, you open the door for new positive people to enter.

Life is all about change, growth, and development. Remember that at the end of the day you are in control of your own Happiness and your own emotions. If someone is bringing down your energy, it might be time to separate yourself. Always remember that you are unique, special and different. If someone does not value your friendship or love you for who you are, there is someone out there that does.

It might seem difficult, but once you accept yourself and embrace life, good people, experiences and friendships will just have a way of finding their way into your life.

Let’s keep in touch.

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NEW YORK TIMES: Matt Fraser American Psychic Medium

NEW YORK TIMES: Matt Fraser American Psychic Medium

The New York Times

The Valley Forge Casino in King of Prussia, Pa., is one of those modern revenue-enhancement ecosystems whose carpets ease the crushing of your soul with faded earth colors. The wall décor is best described as bankrupt-dentist’s office. Down a football-field length of sterile corridors is a conference room with a poster outside of a beaming Matthew Fraser.

To open his show, Fraser deployed some self-deprecating jokes, salted with some spicy obscenities, to warm up the crowd. The audience was sizable and
mostly women; the few disgruntled husbands in the crowd wore the faces of men who had been blackmailed. Zoe and Ed and the other Guerrillas sat near the front in hopes of being noticed. I sat alone, about four rows behind them.

Fraser walked down the aisle and straight to my row. Right off, he said he had a vision and asked the dozen or so of us to stand. I was momentarily terrified, not only because I had prepared nothing, but also because if he asked me why I was there, I would feel obligated to tell him I was there to observe a secret sting operation.

The crowd was older, and without much trouble, Fraser easily divined the very likely fact that someone’s mother on the row had passed. He quickly identified a woman near me and handed her a microphone. “Your mom is acknowledging that I have to speak to my daughter,” he said, and then let the woman know that Mom was O.K. in the afterlife. “Your mother says that she wants you to know that she loves and cares about you.”

It was a classic cold reading, all generalized notions searching for something slightly more specific to move to. Fraser often nodded his head as if to nudge her to go along. “Your mom tells me that she was angry before she left this world, and you don’t want to talk about that.” Fraser stepped back, held her gaze and encouraged her, “You understand that?” She agreed. As he teased the story along, Fraser might, oddly, crack a joke to ease the tension but then take the room right back to this quiet place. Fraser said, “I need to apologize to my daughter because every day she deals with the stress and the burdens.”

Suddenly, the real sorrow of this stranger’s loss was here, near me, on my row. And then the whole room felt it. “Your mom says I am taking responsibility for that.” I could barely look up. This little moment felt so intimate and private. Grief is one of those emotions that doesn’t happen publicly too often, and so when it does, the mood easily dominates the room. With each reading, Fraser was, in fact, summoning the dead because all these middle-aged people had lived lives. We all knew death, family death, deeply felt. One by one, everyone in the room was reliving some loss. Helplessly, I thought of my own father, who died when I was 11, and those old emotions, stored away but never far off, took hold of me as if I were graveside.

By the time Fraser inched his way to the other side of the auditorium, people were even more forthcoming. Fraser came to a middle-aged woman dressed in a colorful scenic sweater. Her burly husband with a snow white goatee and veteran’s cap was beside her as she revealed losing two of her sons, in tragic ways. She said she missed them every day.

The audience was with her; our grief held her. We were all wrapped in rich, old memories of aching pain. Maybe dead spirits aren’t real. But these emotions were. My exhausted father waking up early on his Saturday off to watch cartoons with his little kid. Decades disappeared. I squeezed back a little boy’s confused tears. “Sonny boy,” my mom said one morning, “I have something sad to tell you.” I so miss him.

Fraser consoled the mother with news. “Your son says he’s O.K.,” Fraser said, speaking in the voice of one of her deceased boys. The mother sobbed and sank into her husband’s big chest. “More important, they are together on the other side.” Fraser learned that Christmas was no longer celebrated at home, and Fraser crushed the room: “He says you have another son, who needs you?” The husband nodded; she nodded. “He says to me, just because we’ve passed, it doesn’t mean my mother stops her life.”

Even the most stoic of men were overwhelmed, heads turned away, into shirt sleeves. Fraser stepped toward the couple and took both of them in a long, sobbing group hug. Then he moved away.

There were a few more readings, each a little bit easier emotionally. Fraser was a brilliant performer, cooling off the room. With a couple of light jokes salted with naughty words, he bolted onto the stage, and then disappeared into the wings. Eventually, Gerbic’s Guerrillas will produce an account, and Operation Peach Pit will be online with the hope of reaching a future audience with logic. But there was no denying the real power of what we all felt in the room. “Reason,” wrote the philosopher David Hume almost 300 years ago, “is and ought only to be the slave of passions.”

The real world was out there, in fact, just down this hall, but it was hard for me to get there as the crowd inched along. Fraser appeared in the corridor at a table with stacks of his book, “The Secrets to Unlocking Your Psychic Ability.” On the cover was oversmiling Tom Cruise bathed in heavenly light, clutching a gigantic key longer than his forearm. Out the corner of my eye, I caught a blue wig in the line of fans. Zoe couldn’t quite get out of character as Fraser signed one of his books for her: “Trust your own psychic voice.”

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Forgiveness Sets YOU Free

Forgiveness Sets YOU Free

If you are a friend of mine on my Facebook Page, you will notice that I have been posting inspirational memes about forgiveness and letting go. It shocked me how many people replied with such negativity. It was very apparent to me that they were still hurting, sad and scarred from the negativity caused by someone they once knew, trusted and loved.

Forgiving and letting go after someone has done you wrong is indeed the hardest choice you can ever make, but it is one of the most important for you and for your health. Here’s why…

Negativity does not stay with the person you are upset with…

Some people feel that by holding grudges, it protects them from anyone else who tries to hurt them, including the person who hurt them. The truth is that the person who made you feel pain isn’t feeling that energy; you are. Although you think you may have it tucked deep down inside, the energy and pain are still living within you.

Situations we don’t find closure with lives within us and stops us from moving further in our life. Forgiveness does not mean the person was right; it means that you are freeing yourself from that negativity so you can live life again and put it out of mind.

Forgiveness allows you to feel free and happy again…

I was recently doing a psychic reading for a woman who waited over a year to talk to me. During our phone reading, she wanted advice and guidance from her mom who had died.

During her reading, her mom was talking about forgiveness. She had seen that her daughter was feeling lonely and disconnected. She wanted her daughter to make up with her kids and to put herself back out there into the dating world. She could see that her daughter would have the option of getting married again and of developing a close bond with her children.

During the reading, the mother’s spiritual guidance was very clear. She wanted her daughter to take back control of her life and to start to live again, but was her daughter ready to make the change?

Love & Divine Guidance from Heaven…

I personally love when the spirit comes through with wisdom and guidance. Those we love in spirit can see tomorrow so much more clearly than we can see yesterday.

When I started to deliver some of these messages to my client, she would not stop interrupting me. Instead of wanting to hear about her future, all she wanted to do was hear about her past. She wanted to know if the people who had hurt her felt pain, if her kids regretted what they had done and how they had treated her, if her family knew how judgmental they were, if her ex-husband’s new marriage would fail, and it just continued…

The more I tried to deliver her mother’s messages to her about the future, the more she would try to change the messages and make it about the past. Her mom didn’t want to talk about it. Her mom knew that her daughter had been dwelling on this for years and had pushed everyone away until finally, she was all alone living in the past.

My client at the time couldn’t see it. She thought by pushing everyone away and holding onto grudges, she was protecting herself. She felt it would make her feel better to think negatively about those who had hurt her. Instead, she was the problem to herself; she was closing her heart off and sinking into a depression.

Her mom had an important question for her: “ Are you ready to let go of the past and heal?” Her mom explained to her through me that she was trying to help her, but 25 mins of the reading were spent with daughter complaining and bringing up her painful past.

Finally, it just came out. I said, “Don’t you see what you are doing? Your mom is trying to talk to you and you keep blocking the messages. You  only want to relive your painful past.”

Her daughter stopped talking and remained quiet; suddenly, everything clicked. She saw that the pain was from holding on to the sadness for too long. She immediately began crying, and the pain was finally starting to release. She knew her mom was right; she had stopped living life because she was holding too much.

She didn’t date because of her failed marriage; she didn’t have friends because she was once deceived; she didn’t talk to her children because she felt they didn’t love her. Slowly but surely, she knew she needed to forgive and take her mom’s advice.

Forgiveness starts from the heart. It starts with YOU!

Over the past few weeks, she has started on the path of forgiveness. She first started with forgiving herself for her mistakes and for living in pain for so long. She forgave the grudges she held against her family and started to erase the painful memories from the past. She forgave her ex-husband and decided to put herself online and start to trust dating again.

You see, forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to ring someone’s doorbell and hug them. It all starts with you letting go of the pain and deciding to move forward.

In this case, there were some family members she couldn’t visit or talk to because the relationship was so bad. All she could do was forgive them in her heart and release the pain to the universe. What she could still repair was the relationship with her kids. She took a few weeks and then worked up the courage to grab the phone and call them. She set a date for them to meet up and talk, and they did.

It was not a joyous family reunion at first. In the beginning, it was awkward and emotionally painful, but she decided to push through it. She sat down and actually listened to what her kids had to say, and it was heavy. She cried but was ready for a change. For the first time ever, she was repairing and healing the past, not just living it. Her children forgave her and she forgave them. She was ready to put in the work, and it forever changed her life. They now talk every day, and she now has her family back.

Today, she is a different woman. She is finally living in the future. She is spending time with her grandchildren, dating an amazing man, and rediscovering her love of painting. She has even made like-minded friends by joining new classes. The people whom she once hated, no longer have control over her. She freed the energy and let go.

There is something we can all learn from this message from the spirit. Let go of the things weighing you down and take back control over your life. It may be painful at first, but it is worth the journey to heal and to be free.

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Soulmates DO Reunite

Soulmates DO Reunite

 “Will I be reunited with my soulmate in Heaven?”

I love this question because it means the person asking it got to meet his or her soulmate here on earth and actually realized it too! That doesn’t always happen, and I am

always so happy when I meet someone who got to have that wonderful experience.

Some soulmates are not meant to have a long lasting connection in this lifetime. They might meet at a crossroads to help each other when one of them is supposed to make a difficult decision or take a new direction. Sometimes the connection is very short and the relationship is an opportunity to learn lessons, but is not meant to last.

On the other hand, some lucky people get to share many years of their lives with their soulmate. They experience a deep and abiding love and feel connected to each other in every possible way. It seems like heaven on earth – but there’s a downside to that too. Losing someone who has been your perfect partner, your twin flame, in life is so very painful.

My friend’s parents were married for over 50 years before her father died. “Our love went very deep,” her mother often says. “The pain of losing him goes just as deep. But I know we will be together again.”

She’s right! You will be connected with your soulmate in Heaven. Of course you will. You belong together. Your soulmate is always with you throughout your life, and you will be reunited when you pass over.

In the meantime, your soulmate is watching over you, protecting you, helping you as you do the work you are meant to be here to do, and waiting for that time when you will be together again.

 You might wonder how you will recognize your soulmate on the other side. Will your soulmate look the same as you remember? The reality is that our physical form is not really what makes us who we are. The essence of your true love will be waiting to greet you in Heaven. You’ll see one another as you remember each other and connect for all eternity at the deepest spiritual level.

Sometimes people come to my events and tell me their loved one passed during their engagement, or just a short time into their marriage, before their life together could even have a chance to start! They understandably feel cheated out of all the the happy  years they expected to have together before being separated.

They feel cheated out of having children, buying a home, celebrating anniversaries, taking vacations – all the things they anticipated doing together.

Losing that person is painful, but if they really are your soulmate, you will be reunited on the other side. In the meantime, your soulmate in Heaven is cheering you on, hoping you live a wonderful life…maybe even helping you meet someone new who makes you happy.

There’s no jealousy between soulmates because it’s a sure thing that you will be reunited in Heaven. In the meantime, your soulmate wants you to live your best life here and now. In fact, it makes them happy to see you enjoy life – because you are getting to experience life for both of you!

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Bon Voyage !

Bon Voyage !

Tickets to my cruise are still available! Last year we had the most AMAZING time – I don’t know if the ocean “conducts” spirit messages, or it was just that that everyone was having such a blast that Spirit wanted to join the party! I’m pretty sure it was both.

If you missed out last year, here’s your chance. Give yourself permission to be spontaneous, and join us February 24-March 3 for a wonderful 7 day cruise!

We’ll be traveling from Fort Lauderdale, Florida to four wonderful destinations. Our first stop will take us to a private island, Half Moon Cay, Bahamas. The peace and solitude of Half Moon Cay will give you the chance to be still and listen to your inner voice and hear messages from your loved ones in Heaven. Our other destinations are Ocho Rios, Jamaica; Georgetown, Cayman Islands; and Cozumel, Mexico. There will be so many opportunities to connect with your loved ones as you enjoy these beautiful surroundings and the calm and tranquility of an ocean voyage. And there will be a lot of fun to be had on board too!

You can almost be a different person on a cruise, leaving all your day to day responsibilities behind. Usually, you have to pack and unpack and lug all your belongings to your hotel room in each new destination. On a cruise, you take your hotel with you! It’s very freeing to just put your stuff down once, then have time to explore!

A cruise can be the perfect opportunity to tune into your intuition and open yourself to signs and messages from the other side. During the cruise, you’ll have the opportunity to attend an onboard class where I will be talking about how to connect with your own psychic voice. We’ll also have private group meetings. You can even join me for an optional private group excursion. There are more details on my website. I really hope you will join me for the terrific adventure!

 If you are hesitating because it seems like a lot of money, I want to share a story. A woman on last year’s cruise felt a little guilty for signing up. She felt like going on this cruise was too extravagant, that she was spending too much money and time on herself. She thought she was being selfish to go. During the cruise, her husband came through to her. He told her he was so happy she had made the decision to go. He had removed some obstacles to allow her to take the trip! He said that she had taken such good care of the family, and particularly of him when he was sick and dying, that he wanted her to heal on the cruise.Your loved ones want you to be happy…and they want to connect with you!

Give yourself the gift of this experience. We had such a great time last year. I know this year’s cruise will be even better! Connect with your loved ones in heaven while you’re there – you’ll leave transformed, inside and out.

 

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