The Life Review

The Life Review

Looking Back on What Really Matters

When people lose a loved one, the pain is often so strong that they’d do anything to connect with that person again. I get a lot of calls during the early days of loss, and I always urge the bereaved to wait at least a few months before scheduling a reading.

It might seem strange that there’s a “waiting period,” but trust me – when a soul transitions, they have some work to do before they’re ready to come through to a medium. I never thought of passing over requiring a wait until I started talking to the dead on a regular basis – and then it made perfect sense.

So, based on my conversations with thousands of souls, here’s what they’re up to between the time they pass and the time they might come through to a medium or send you a sign that they’re around.

 

Passing Through the Veil.

First thing, when you pass, you have to “lighten up.” There are many heavy feelings and emotions we hang onto in life, like anger, resentment, judgement, jealousy, and insecurity. When you’re alive you know that those emotions are not doing you any good and you should probably let them go, but it’s hard to do.

Once you pass, you don’t have a choice. When you transition to Heaven you have to release the heavy emotions that weigh your energy down. Imagine trying to cross over dragging resentments and negative energy. Talk about baggage!  Heaven wouldn’t be heaven anymore. Transitioning is like passing through a veil or a filter, your energy has to be clear and light to come through.

 

The Life Review.

Have you ever been in a situation – maybe a class or a workshop – where you were learning something new, and afterwards you felt you needed to sit for a while to absorb what you’d learned? It’s the same thing you pass, except the “workshop” is your whole life.

When a soul transitions, they look back on their time on earth as if they’re watching a movie – only from their new perspective, they can see the events very, very, clearly. Without justifying or getting defensive, they review their life, with all its twists and turns. Some souls take longer than others to complete their review and progress to the next level. They might even have some tasks to do to help them raise their vibration.

It’s kind of like AA in that way – you have to acknowledge what you’ve done and sometimes make amends before you can move on.

 

Making Amends.

The life review shines a light on what really matters in life. When you’re on the other side, you’re no longer attached to your career, your bank balance or your body fat ratio. That’s all fine when you’re alive, but you leave that stuff behind when you die.

What you look back on is the love and compassion you shared, the people you helped, and the difference you made in the world. You also see the unfinished business and the  people you hurt. You become fully aware of the ripple effect your behavior had on others. Luckily, it’s never too late to make amends.

When a soul has completed their life review, that’s when they can come through to the living and make things right.

 

I can think of many examples:

  • A woman came to my event and immediately her mother came through apologized for making her daughter feel so guilty for putting her is assisted living.
  • A man came through and said that he wished that he could take back the vicious letter he had left for his wife blaming her for his death. He was bipolar and had killed himself, but he regretted blaming her. Looking back, he realized that his problems had nothing to do with her.
  • An older woman begged me to let her son know that she should never have pressured him to spend so much time with her, and neglect his own children. She realized in her life review that she was being selfish.

The process of passing over, letting go of negative emotions and looking back on life is a gift that allows the soul to evolve. They have the opportunity to let go of any grudges or negative feelings,  go through their life review, and then, when the time is right, help their loved ones on earth to learn from their experience and feel their love.

 

Forgiveness from Heaven

As a medium I never know who will come through and try to talk to me. I will say I find the best readings happen when someone comes through that you are not expecting to hear from. Because of the life review sometimes souls that you never got or have a closeness with will sometimes come through. For example I recently had a woman’s father come through who she never got to know because he left home when she was just a child. Because of his selfish ways, she never eve knew he died until years later.

After he passed on, he was able to see the hurt and pain he caused his daughter by her not having a Father in her life. He came through with a message for her and explained his actions. He wanted her to know that he took full responsibility and that he was sorry. Because of this message she felt she could finally think of her Dad and smile. It was like in an instant the years of pain just lifted away and she could breathe again.

This is the reason why I have been doing online group readings. It’s not about the individual messages as much as it is a learning experience for us all. The spirits have plenty to teach us and tell us. When we connect with them and listen to their messages, we realize that they never truly have left us. If you would like to attend the next online group reading with me, click here to register. 

 

 

 

Spirit Orbs In Pictures

Spirit Orbs In Pictures

Have you ever taken a photo, and when you looked at it later, noticed something you couldn’t explain?

There may be a ball of light, or a blurry shape, or even a faint image of a person or animal. What the heck! That wasn’t there when you took the picture! What are those things?

The natural reaction when you see something unexpected is to try to find a reasonable explanation. Is it just glare, or a shadow, or a reflection? Sometimes, but a lot of the time, what you are seeing is evidence of souls in heaven that are still around you.

As a medium, I get a lot of photos and videos sent to me. Some of them are absolutely wild!

I remember a woman sent me a video she’d gotten from a security camera in her home. One night she heard some bumps and odd noises downstairs, but in the morning when she looked around, nothing had been moved and everything seemed normal – until she looked at her security footage. In the video she could clearly see several small globes of light zooming around her living room like pinballs! When I saw them, I immediately knew they were orbs.

What is an orb, and why do they exist?

Orbs are transparent balls of light energy that are connected to spirits. They’re usually seen in photos, but in rare cases people who are particularly sensitive can spot them without a camera. These orbs can be a variety of shapes, sizes and colors.

Orbs usually show up when there’s an occasion with a lot of emotional significance – like a wedding, a graduation, or a holiday gathering.  Even though they can’t be there in their physical form, the soul is still drawn to the event and their energy is sometimes captured on camera in the form of an orb.

Discovering the soul behind orbs, blurs, and images.

When people come to me with their photos, they naturally want to know if what they’re seeing is coming from the other side, and if so, if it’s an angel, a departed loved one, or just a random ghost. I usually get a sense of who it is, and some psychics like my mom can even discern a face or a form. Some people are really good at seeing the soul behind the orb or flash of light. My Mom has always been very gifted in seeing faces and spirits revealing themselves in pictures

Sometimes people know exactly who is represented and just want confirmation. I did a reading for three sisters on a recent group call, and their father came through. He had so much to tell his daughters and gave me a lot of information that proved to them that it was really him!

After thanking them for loving him and taking care of him through all his illnesses, he said “Tell them I was the orb in that picture.” It turns out that a photo taken over the holidays had a clear orb, and his daughters felt like it was his energy coming through. They were right!

There’s a ghost in my picture!

Sometimes the image in a picture is more than just a globe of light. I remember something that happened when I was just getting started with my mediumship, and it blew me away! It was Christmas, and my boss invited me to his house for a holiday gathering. As soon as I got there, I saw the spirit of a little blonde girl run by wearing a white communion style dress holding a little Yorkie dog.  I told the group, and they laughed because they were Vietnamese. There were no little blonde girls in their family. My boss used to tease me about it at work – “remember the little blonde girl?”

Later that season, he came to me and he wasn’t teasing me anymore. He showed me a photo he had taken of his Christmas tree, and the little girl and her dog were right there, in the photo, sitting at the base of the tree. My boss asked around and did some research in the neighborhood and sure enough, he found out that there was a young girl on the street who had passed – along with her little dog.

Signs and signals.

Seeing orbs and images in photos shouldn’t come as a surprise, for a couple of reasons. First of all, we are all energy – and that energy doesn’t go away when we pass. Paranormal energy disrupts things like electricity, turning lights on and off and causing static on television and radio, as well as appearing in photos. Souls in heaven can be very determined to let their loved ones know they’re around – especially during significant or emotional events. I think that it’s no accident that their energy shows up. It’s just another way they can be there to share a special occasion with the people they love.

If you would like to learn more about Heaven and the Afterlife, you would really enjoy reading my new book ‘When Heaven Calls’. Each chapter is filled with secrets of afterlife and divine wisdom that I have learned over the many years I have had working with spirit. If you are interested, you can order a copy right now on Amazon by clicking here. I really hope you enjoy it. 

 

The Difference Between Ghosts & Spirits

The Difference Between Ghosts & Spirits

People expect me to be really into Halloween. They figure because I’m a medium, I’m into ghosts and hauntings and stuff like that. That’s not really the case. There’s nothing spooky about the work I do – it’s really the opposite. Most people will do anything to feel connected with their loved ones in Heaven, so I guess you could say they’re running toward those spirits, not away from them.

That doesn’t mean I don’t like Halloween. I think it’s fun!

Alexa and I love celebrating Halloween in the same way most people do. We get all dressed up every year and our families do too. I love the creativity that goes into the Halloween costumes and decorations, and it’s fun to see the kids running from door to door trick-or-treating.

Since I get so many questions on this topic, I thought I’d share some thoughts about Halloween and the days that immediately follow it.

My Halloween History.

When I was a kid, my father hated Halloween. He felt that when you celebrated it, you invited negativity and evil souls into the house. He still let us dress up and trick-or-treat, but he wasn’t happy about it.

I thought my dad’s attitude was unusual until other people started saying similar things and asking me questions. They wondered if celebrating Halloween, watching scary movies, or practicing mediumship invited ghosts into to your house. The truth is no.

Why not? Well, it helps to understand the difference between a spirit and a ghost.

Spirits are deceased family members and friends that you loved, knew and cared for here in this world.  They are familiar to you because you once shared a bond and connection with them.

A ghost is someone that you don’t know that has died. That’s what makes them a little bit scary. They too are spirits, just ones that you are not familiar with because you never knew them here in this world or had a bond with them.

Growing Up Psychic.

When I was a kid that’s the reason why I was so afraid of ghosts. When my family members in spirit used to visit me, it was fine. I loved connecting with my grandmother and other relatives in spirit. It brought me comfort and I never even realized when I was young that they died. The moment that strangers started to appear in spirit it would freak me out!

The more I pushed them away or tried to ignore them, the more persistent they got. My mom explained that they recognized my gift, and just wanted to get a message through to their own loved ones. They didn’t mean any harm.

Remember that just like your loved ones in spirit, ghosts used to be someone’s family as well. Even though you didn’t know them in life, it’s possible to sense their presence under certain circumstances.

For example, years ago my neighbor died. She had loved her house, but after she passed away her family had to sell it. The new family told me they could still feel her presence there. It wasn’t spooky, but they knew that as long as that house was standing, she’d be watching over it, and the people who lived there. As strange as it was, they felt comforted by it.

 Are There Evil Spirits?  

There is a darkside to psychic ability, and there are such things as negative souls just like there are negative people. My Mom always taught me , “Don’t go looking for trouble.” You won’t find them unless you seek them out. Negative souls like to spend time alone. Participating in Halloween or going to a reputable medium doesn’t open up a portal of invite spirits into the house.

Have I ever sensed a malignant spirit? Yes, but they’re extremely rare. I’ve had thousands of connections with loving, well-meaning souls for every one that was even slightly negative.

I don’t spend a lot of time dwelling on negative spirits and I certainly don’t go looking for trouble. I’d never dream of touching a Ouija board, and I don’t make it a habit to seek out haunted places. Remember that negativity of any kind can ony affect you if you invite it into your life.

Choose to do all things with your heart.  If you don’t focus on darkness, you’ll be fine. Watch your intentions, keep your energy light, and to play it safe, don’t mess around with spells, the occult, or Ouija boards they are not needed. The love in your heart is the strongest connection between you and your loved ones.

All Saints Day and the Day of the Dead.

While I don’t feel a special attachment to Halloween just because I’m a medium, I do feel very connected with the two days after Halloween when Mexican families honor their departed loved ones.

While we are getting dressed up and having fun being scared, in Mexico families are getting ready to honor those they love who are now in spirit.  Their celebration starts late on October 31st and goes through November 2nd.  November 1st is “el Dia de los innnocentes” or the day of the children and All Saints Day.  November 2nd is All Souls Day or the Day of the Dead.

In the Mexican culture, this is a special time that’s all about celebrating the lives of those who have passed over. Families visit the cemeteries where their ancestors and loved ones are buried, bring gifts, food, and pictures and spend the night with them thinking of the joyful times.

While this is not part of my culture, this celebration resonates with me and I deeply appreciate it. During this time, I like to remember my own lost loved ones in a very special way and send them prayers.

What is Heaven Like?

If you would like to learn more about Heaven and the Afterlife, you would really enjoy reading my new book ‘When Heaven Calls’. Each chapter is filled with secrets of afterlife and divine wisdom that I have learned over the many years I have had working with spirit. If you are interested, you can order a copy right now on Amazon by clicking here. I really hope you enjoy it. 

 

 

 

 

Breaking Negative Life Cycles

Breaking Negative Life Cycles

Alexa says  I’m pretty predictable, and I guess she’s right. I admit it, I’m a creature of habit!

I almost always start my day with loud music while I get ready, followed by a quick trip to Dunkin Donuts for coffee and a chocolate glazed. After every one of my live events, (except during Covid) I have to go out for a late meal (usually to cheesecake factory) , and I always get dessert. Oh, and I also have a hard time passing a shoe store without going in.

I enjoy my routines and rituals. They’re comfortable, and they help me feel like I’m in control of my day. But habits like singing along with Donna Summer in the morning are different from destructive patterns that block you from having the life you want. That’s when being predictable isn’t so good.

 

Recognizing your Destructive Patterns.

It’s easy to fall into negative behavior patterns without even realizing it – and suddenly you’re asking yourself why you have the same issues over and over again and feeling like the whole world is out to get you.

Examples:

 

  • Do your friends roll their eyes every time you tell them you’ve met someone new and swear that this time it’s going to be different?

 

  • Are you constantly worried about money, but you can’t seem to get a decent paying job or control your spending?

 

  • Are you always sick and tired, battling one health issue after another?

 

  • Do you sabotage relationships with friends and co-workers, and you can’t figure out why wherever you go, the same thing keeps happening?

 

Positive Thinking is Just the Beginning.

They say that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. I’m a big believer in positive thinking and manifesting what you want in life, but I also know that everything isn’t going to go your way all the time and that’s okay. Sometimes life sends you challenges to teach you lessons and make you stronger.

It’s not until you actually recognize what’s going on and make the decision to change course that you break the cycle. These are called learning cycles, and they help you to grow.

 

Searching for her Father’s Love

I once knew a girl named Amanda who could never find love. Even though she wanted to be in a committed relationship more than anything, she would date men that were not serious about her. She seemed to be a magnet for abusive men who didn’t care about her, until suddenly she saw the pattern, and did some soul searching.

Amanda realized all the men she had dated reminded her of her Dad, who left her when she was young. A lightbulb went on! She realized she was trying to replace the love she hadn’t gotten from her dad with these other unavailable, uncaring men.

The moment she realized what was going on she knew what she had to do. She started listing out what she really wanted in a relationship. She wanted a potential husband, someone who was respectful and loving, and who she could depend on.

She decided to change course and try online dating to find someone new. She was going to avoid her old type and seek out a man who met her new requirements. Guess what? The moment she changed her path, her soulmate appeared.

What Does it Take to Break a Pattern?

To find love, Amanda had to do more than just “think positive.” She had to go through a process, and she couldn’t do it until she admitted she had a problem. The steps she went through can help break any kind of negative pattern whether it involves relationships, money, health, or career.

 

Five Steps to Breaking Negative Cycles.
  • Recognize the situation for what it is, and don’t sugarcoat it. Amanda kept making excuses for the men in her life and ignoring the warning signs when she met someone new. It wasn’t until she realized she was picking the same type over and over that she was able to address the problem.
  • Realize that the common denominator is you. If the same thing happens with every job you have or every person you date, it’s not just bad luck. In order to break the cycle, you need to change your mindset, and your behavior.
  • Realize the WHY of what’s happening. Amanda finally realized she was looking to replace her father’s love. That insight helped her break the pattern. Everyone’s WHY is different. Someone who was ignored by their parents might create a lot of drama as an adult because they still crave the attention they missed when they were young.
  • Fear is not your friend. I notice a lot of people who are always worried about their health seem to be sick all the time. Fear can attract exactly what you don’t want. When you feed into a fear, you  give it life. Instead focus your energy into positive thoughts.
  • Close out your learning cycle by deciding exactly what you do want. Make a list, create a vision board, post positive affirmations where you can see them often. Focusing your energy in a positive direction will attract a boost from the universe to help get you there!

 

If you’re not happy with your relationship, your job, your financial situation, your health, or anything else in your life, know that  you have the power to change. There’s no time like the present, because no one knows what tomorrow will bring.

I talk to souls in heaven every day who regret ignoring opportunities to learn lessons and make the changes that would have made their experience on earth better and happier. Looking back, they see the lost opportunity, and realize that they could have broken the negative cycles that kept them from living their best life.

These are just some of the many life lessons and spiritual teachings I have learned from those in spirit. If you have found this helpful, I would like to share with you my new inspirational audio class series. You can start listening right now by Clicking Here. I hope it helps you on your own spiritual journey.

 

An Unexpected Reading…

An Unexpected Reading…

A Sister’s Love

I have enjoyed seeing others experience readings at various psychic medium events; however, I never expected to have a reading myself. But the day I went to see psychic-medium, Matt Fraser, that all changed.

My sister, Judy, had passed just 11 months prior to this particular event, and I have missed her every day. I was her primary caregiver up until the last 18 days of her life when she was hospitalized, and I’ve never felt right about some things.

I’ve always felt that I should have pushed harder, taken her to different doctors, and done something differently. I’ve felt alone and as if I’d let her down.

My First Reading

He was almost finished and had left the row I was seated in and moved toward the back of the room saying, “I need to come back here because there has been someone here all night.”

He had the back row of guests stand and began to speak to them. Of course, we were all turned around in our chairs to see him. He asked, “Who is cleaning off the grave?”

I didn’t speak at first because I felt he was too far away, and it couldn’t be meant for me. Then he turned around, looked directly at me, made eye contact, and asked again, “Who here has recently been cleaning off or sweeping a grave? I see someone almost frantically doing this.” He had turned and made direct eye contact with me. I felt like someone had slapped me in the back of the head (literally), so I spoke up and told him I had.

The Backstory

This is the backstory – not shared with him or anyone!

Just a few weeks before attending the event, I had a mini-breakdown when I brought an arrangement to the cemetery. There was so much snow and ice that I couldn’t be sure if I was at the right spot. I dug through the snow until my hands bled, broke a snow brush from my car, and finally just stopped. Exhausted and half-hysterical, I went back to the car and called my husband, sobbing.

When I got off the phone, I went to visit our old neighbors for a while, and unbeknownst to me at the time, my husband called my oldest son, who went to the cemetery to finish what I had started. I later returned to find it cleared off and the arrangement placed on top. The only people who knew these details were me, my husband, and my son. We had never spoken of it with anyone.

You Are My Sunshine

Matt looked and pointed at me, saying, “YES! It’s you!” He came back, had our row stand, and went on to say, “Your sister is here for you. She’s been back there all night, just waiting! She wants me to acknowledge that she sends you signs all the time that she is still with you, but that you sometimes doubt them or think it’s just coincidence. She’s telling me to tell you it’s not.”

Fact: I get feathers, coins, and specific songs and phrases all the time that I brush off. At this point, I was shaking like a leaf!

He said, “I feel like there is an important anniversary coming up.”
I acknowledged that the anniversary of my sister’s death was March 2nd – only a few days away.

Then he started gesturing around his abdomen, saying, “there was a misdiagnosis, or it took way too long to get a diagnosis or something, and it was too late for the doctors to do anything. But she wants you to know that she is okay. She’s not angry, and she knows that you did everything you could to help her. Do you understand that?”

All I could do was shake my head.

Then, still gesturing with his hand motioning in a circle around his abdomen, he continued, “There was a growth – a mass or a tumor or something – but it was unusual. Did it grow around something? I feel like it strangled or choked something off, and that is why she died. I feel like she had cancer, but there was something unusual about it.”

I told him that yes, she had pancreatic cancer.

He went on, “But she didn’t die just because of cancer. It was this twisting, choking thing that complicated it. Do you understand that? Does that make any sense to you?”

All I could do was nod. I was a mess! In fact, she had a blood clot caused by cancer that choked off her portal vein.

“He then said, “She was a real fighter, this one, wasn’t she? (Laughing) I sense that she really didn’t want to give up, and even though the doctors and everyone said one thing, she is telling me that she proved them wrong!”

I literally choked out that after they told us she might have three days, she fought for 17 more!

So many of our loved ones had passed in the month of February, and Judy was determined she wasn’t going to be one of them! Matt then came closer to me – I was about to fall over – and held my hand. He kept saying over and over to me, “Your sister wants you to know that she did

not want to leave you and that she loves you and is still here with you. She wants you to know that she is still taking care of you and watching over you.”

Then he let out a small giggle! And he said, “She is singing to me! Well, I don’t know if it’s to me – do you know the song, ‘You are my sunshine’? Is there significance to that, because she is singing it!”

I laughed out loud! I wasn’t surprised. I told him how just a year ago, we all were gathered in her hospital room, and she wanted to sing the old songs like we did when we were younger. And the fact that she chose that one at that particular moment is significant because it is what she always sang to (my son) Jason. Jason was always her special sunshine, and I wasn’t surprised she would want to send him a message, too.

Then he said, “What the hell are you doing?!” And started laughing! He said, “Ok, what’s with the boobs?” And was gesturing like he was pushing up boobs. “Did she have really big boobs or like to make jokes about her boobs or something? She is doing this (gesturing as if he had boobs), and she is laughing!”

OMG! My sister Judy was the most modest person ever! I couldn’t even imagine, so I said no, no, I don’t have any idea what that could all be about.

He took my hand again and got serious, “Listen, she really wants you to hear this. She loves you. She really didn’t want to leave you, and she’s still with you. She wants you to laugh again. She has been waiting in the back of the room all night to tell you because it’s that important.”

This would have been so typical of my sister to stand in the wings to make sure everyone else got to hear from their loved ones first.

Then he finished up, thanked everyone, and was done.

The Two Massive Balloons

I went to see him afterward to get his book signed – because after that, how could I not – and he started laughing and jokingly said, “You’ve got to figure out this boob thing because she’s still here with you, and she just keeps laughing and doing this!” And he was gesturing again.

After I got home, I told my family all about it. We were finishing dinner when my girlfriend that I had attended with messaged to make sure I was alright. She texted, “Gee, have you figured out the boob thing yet?”

And as I was about to type, “No, I don’t have a clue,” I had a very clear image of what it was.

There is a photo of her with my oldest daughter, who at the time was about 6-8 years old. Judy had on a sweater, and under the sweater, she had stuffed two massive balloons. She made the

statement at the time, “When I’m gone, this is how you’ll remember me, and you’ll laugh!” We always laughed over that memory, and every time the picture would surface, she would say the same thing!

 

I immediately called my daughter to tell her, and even she remembered it along with her Auntie saying that. So needless to say, it was a very emotional evening. I honestly never expected anything to happen, not that I wasn’t hopeful. I will tell you, my heart is in a different place today.

I feel like I’ve been given another incredible gift. I no longer take signs for granted! In fact, I get incredible joy from each and every one, and I know she is still here taking care of me, and one day we will be together again. In the meantime, I’ll enjoy the signs she continues to send.

The Final Message

As I was cleaning out her house after her death, I came across a note addressed to me in her nightstand, seven months after she passed. I had been contemplating getting a different tattoo in her memory when I found it. It had been in the drawer the whole time, but I just had not seen it. Coincidence? I think not!

It read, “God was so good to me you – were here when I needed you most. I didn’t mean to leave you so soon. Know that I loved you dearly and didn’t want to leave you.”

Kind of eerie that Matt spoke those exact same words to me.

I know how blessed I have been, but truthfully, experiencing others on the receiving end of Matt’s gift is incredible, too. Everyone should open their minds and hearts to experience this. It is truly life-changing. There are just so many things that Matt could not possibly have known.

I feel so blessed to have received this gift from Matt, and I will forever be thankful!