It doesn’t matter if you’re the one passing over or the loved one left behind, either way, it’s difficult to let go.
I’ve seen mothers who were gravely ill hang on with everything they had so they could be there for their daughter’s wedding or their son’s college graduation. I’ve known fathers who wouldn’t quit until they had settled their affairs, and made sure their family would be provided for.
You know that death is a part of life and that Heaven is a beautiful place where your loved one will be at peace and pain-free – but it still hurts to think you won’t be able to spend time with them or talk to them on the phone.
There are ways to ease the pain of letting go. A recent experience I had at an event illustrated this.
What is it like to die ?
A young woman came to an event. She looked like the picture of health. Her mother who’d passed a few years earlier came through immediately and told me her daughter was very sick. She’d been watching from Heaven as her daughter received her treatments.
The daughter came up to me after the event and asked me to tell her about death and dying. What she had to say brought tears to my eyes. She was terrified of dying because she wanted to be there for her two teenage daughters as they reached important milestones – but her doctors were telling her she didn’t have much time left.
I had to help her. We arranged to meet one-on-one a week or so later. I explained what Heaven was like but what she really wanted to know was how to reach out to her daughters after she passed.
I recommended she devise signs she could share with her girls—pennies or rainbows or anything her daughters could look for that would tell them their mother was ok.
Right after we talked, she sat down with her daughters to put together different words, songs, and signs they could watch for after she passed. That way she could send specific messages when they were sad, celebrating, or just missing her. It put her mind at ease to know she now had a way to be there for them as they grew up.
About two years later the mother of two young women in the audience came through.
“I feel I know her,” I said but I couldn’t place her.
“She did a reading with you when she was alive.”
The women told me they’d come that night because they knew that if their mom came through to anyone it would be me. Their mother let me know our plan had worked. The daughters thanked me for encouraging them to set up the signs before she passed.
Doing so had made her passing a just a little less painful, and had given them great comfort over the years.
Staying In Touch With Those Who Pass Away.
Not everyone has the chance to set up signals and signs for loved ones before they pass. Sometimes death comes suddenly, and there’s no time. But there are many ways to feel connected to loved ones in Heaven.
Here are just a few ways to keep the close:
1. If possible, arrange for a sign before they die, just like the girls did in the story I just shared with you.
2. Write a letter to your loved one and “send” it to them. You can burn it, read it aloud to their picture, or if your message is short, write it in the sand at the beach, and let the tide wash it away.
3. Create a personal shrine with a picture of your loved one and something that belonged to them. This doesn’t have to be a “traditional” shrine. Anything that is meaningful to you, set in a place where you will see it often, will keep their memory close.
4. Look out for coins, cardinals, butterflies and dragonflies. These are all classic ways that souls in heaven reach out to the living.
5. Pay attention to songs on the radio – you might hear one that was significant to both of you, like a song you danced to at your wedding, or it might contain a message that resonates with you at that moment. Either way, it’s their way of reaching out to you.
6. Write down your dreams. Dreams are probably the most common way the dead bridge the gap between heaven and earth.
7. Talk about them! Keep their memory alive with others, but don’t focus on their death. Sharing happy memories and funny stories is what attracts them and brings them closer.
8. Visit a place they loved. This doesn’t have to be a big production. Of course, you can travel across the globe (when it’s safe to fly) but you can also go to their favorite restaurant or park.
9. Don’t be afraid to be happy and enjoy your life. Souls in heaven are not jealous or resentful. Their greatest wish is for their loved ones to live their best life.
10. If you’re not sensing the presence of loved ones, be patient. They might be adjusting to the transition. It sometimes takes souls up to a year to come through to a medium, or to send a sign to loved ones.
As a psychic medium I wish that I could loan a pair of my eyes to every single one of you so that you could truly see that your loved one in spirit is right by your side. Of course that can’t happen, but I did the next best thing. I started doing Live Online Group Readings during the pandemic where you and family can join me with other families across the country and be part of an online psychic reading event.
The experience is truly amazing. Its all done by video and so I will be able to see all of you and you will be able to see me LIVE right from your home. What is truly incredible is that during these events as I start to see different families appear on screen, I also start to see their loved ones in spirit standing behind them. So far these Live Online Group Readings have allowed me to meet so many of you that I would have never been able to meet and read before. As of today I can proudly say that I have read over 250 people during these readings alone.
If you are stuck, anxious or missing a loved one, I hope you will join me with your family and take part in this event with me. All you need is a computer, iPhone/smartphone or tablet to attend. Space is limited so if you would like to attend, please Click Here.
In the meantime, keep an eye out for all the amazing signs around you. Even though you may not feel them at times, I promise you your loved ones are closer than you think.