My girlfriend, Alexa, just popped into my office and reminded me that Valentine’s day is coming up. I think she had her own reasons for telling me that – but it got me thinking about relationships, soulmates, and especially, how love endures.

People ask me about love all the time. Will I find a boyfriend? Is my girlfriend “the one?” How will I know when I’ve found my soulmate? I’m a medium, not a matchmaker – but I act as a middle-man to relay messages between souls in heaven and their loved ones on earth – so I  can usually tap into some heavenly guidance to answer their questions.

Love is the answer.

The great thing about talking to dead people is they know what’s REALLY important. When you’re looking back from a heavenly vantage point, you realize that a lot of the things that made you crazy when you were alive don’t matter at all when you look at the big picture. What does matter in life are the people you love – and when you meet your soulmate that love never dies.

So, let’s talk about soulmates.

A soul mate is your twin flame – someone your heart is intertwined with at the deepest level. Some people believe that you’ve shared past lives with this person. I don’t know about that, but I can tell you from my experience as a medium, you will carry that soul connection with you into the next world.

Does everyone wind up with their soulmate?

Every couple you see walking around are not necessarily soulmates. It’s totally possible and very common to have a long, happy, productive relationship with someone who is not your soulmate – but that relationship’s place is in the here and now, and it might not go any further. You might not reconnect with your husband or wife in heaven – but you will surely reconnect with your soulmate.

What if you miss your big chance?

Some people look back and realize they let true love slip away because they were preoccupied with other things or in another relationship. You might not even realize someone was your soul mate until they’re not in your life anymore. If you think you missed your chance – don’t worry. You can trust the universe has a plan to bring the two of you back together.

Be patient. Don’t put your life on hold while you wait– be open to new experiences and relationships. Remember, in the end, if it’s meant to be, it will be.

Your soulmate wants you to have a happy life.

I can’t stress enough that you have to be open to all kinds of love, and to trust in the divine plan. Sometimes people lose their husband and they are afraid to date again because they don’t want to risk not being reconnected in the afterlife. It doesn’t work that way – new people cross your path for many reasons, and sometimes the person on the other side is the one pulling the strings and making things happen.

If your soulmate passes, realize that they’re not looking down at you and feeling jealous! They KNOW that you will be together for eternity. But while you’re going through your life on earth, they want you to be happy. The absolute last thing they want is for you to be alone and keep on mourning them while you still have a life to live.

A word about my own soulmate.

If you’re watched my new television show, Meet the Frasers’ on E! you’ve seen my girlfriend Alexa. I’ve always loved how easy it is for us to be together. Being with Alexa has made me realize that a relationship doesn’t have to be work.

It’s hard for me to believe how compatible we are. I don’t party and neither does Alexa. We’re both super close to our families. Everything went so well from the very start. Our parents get along. We have the same views and it’s very easy to live together. We understand and support the other’s career. Alexa participates in pageants and aspires to be Miss Rhode Island. She understands what it’s like being in the spotlight and can relate to how committed I am to what I do. I like seeing Alexa achieve her dreams and she feels the same for me.

Alexa and I were both in a good spot mentally and emotionally to start a relationship – we had both been with other people we hadn’t been compatible with, and we recognized something special in each other.

Are we soulmates? We think so! But you can decide for yourself – watch us in action on “Meet the Frasers’ Monday Nights at 10/9c on E! In the meantime, I‘d better start planning something special for Valentine’s Day!