After losing a loved one, people go through several stages of grief – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. They never forget the person who has passed, but the idea is that they eventually will continue on and live a happy productive life. But many people find themselves stuck in a place where their loss is consuming, and sadness, loneliness, or regret keep them from moving on.

As a medium, I can tell you one thing for sure. The dead don’t want this to happen.

When your loved ones pass over, they leave behind earthly things like jealousy, resentment, and the need for control. Those feelings are way too heavy to bring along! What souls do retain is the love and compassion they feel for the loved ones they left behind. As they watch over you, their only desire is that you live your best life.

I learned this lesson when my grandmother passed, before I was even old enough to fully understand it. Here’s what happened:

My grandmother and my mother were both mediums. They had a super close relationship when my grandmother was alive, but when she died, she didn’t come through to her daughter. Instead, her soul came and sat with me at night. I was so young that I barely understood that she was no longer with the living – our connection still felt so normal. When I told my mom about this, she was happy for me, but she couldn’t get her head around the fact that Grandma wasn’t also visiting her.

I didn’t get it either and next time my grandma came through to me, I asked her to explain. She told me she wanted my mother to move on with her life and focus on her children, and not get stuck – or fixated – on communicating with her. She asked me to tell my mother that she was fine and well in the afterlife, and that her deepest wish was that she be happy, live her life and be there for her family.

As a medium, I see people every day who are struggling with guilt and lack of closure after a death of a parent, sibling, child or friend. Sometimes they carry that with them for years and years.

Recently, I was a guest on the Kelly Clarkson show. Before the show even started, I encountered some staff members in the hallway and lined up right next to them were their loved ones, hoping to connect.

One woman’s brother came through, and she recognized him when I shared a very unusual detail. I got a sense of his unique cologne, really strong, and he told me he mixed several different ones to get his signature scent. His sister started freaking out as soon as I said that – she confirmed that her brother had owned a bunch of expensive colognes, and he loved to layer different ones on his body.

She had been thinking of getting a tattoo in his memory and had been regretting that she hadn’t spent enough time with him when he was alive. He came through to her loud and clear, saying, “My sister has to stop trying to remember me in all these ways. I just want her to know that I’m at peace and I’m ok.” I knew that she had been suffering, thinking about his departure – but all her brother wanted her to know was that he was fine, and that he was always with her.

The next man I spoke to had regrets as well. His father had been having chest pains while he was out of town, and his mother was planning to take him to a doctor when he got home. Sadly, he passed away from a heart attack before he got home. His son wished he could hug his dad one more time and was sorry they hadn’t been able to get him to a doctor. His dad came through with a hug, and reassurance for his son that he was watching over him. You can watch these moving readings here:

 

Grief and sadness are natural when you lose someone – and those feelings can last a long time. But they can be a heavy burden to carry around, and your loved ones want to see you face the feelings and “unload them.”  When you focus on healing and understand that the person you are missing is at peace and watching over you, you give yourself permission to let go and be happy.

If you have lost a loved one, and just can’t get over your sense of guilt, regret, or loss at their passing, you might need a little help. I know it’s not easy to heal, and I’d like to pass on some insights that I’ve learned from souls on the other side in my audio class, Grieving to Believing. Click Here to listen.

You know about the seven stages of grief, but in this course, I share one stage you might not know about. It’s called, “Regaining Hope,” and I want you to experience it. I’ll take you on a journey to healing, where you will learn about the inner workings of Heaven and learn the answers to your most sought after questions.

Trust me – your loved one wants you to be happy! You can escape sadness by finding faith again in your life and transform your grieving into believing.

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