My family loves any occasion when they can be together, eat, drink, and have a good time.

Oh, and for Alexa and I, if we have a reason to get dressed up – even better! Weddings, graduations, holidays, you name it; when there’s a celebration going on you can count us in. If you check out the preview for my new television show for a few minutes, you’ll see we’re not afraid to let loose and show our feelings. What can I say, we’re Italian!

Alexa and I love to bring back old traditions. This year we started to sending out personalized Christmas Cards. We hope to save them and send a new one out every year with a personal picture. Our life has been so hectic lately with touring, traveling and filming that we haven’t gotten to see some of our old friends or extended family. We wanted them to know that we still think about them so we decided this year to send out personal cards. We gathered our three bengal cats, got dressed up and sat under the Christmas tree in our matching outfits for the photo for our card.

For people like us, as much as we love the holidays and everything that comes with them, they are not without the occasional tearful moment. Because the time of year is so packed with family traditions and happy memories, it naturally makes us remember our departed friends and relatives and wish they were still around to share the festivities.

When I was a kid growing up, I just adored my grandma Mary. She was a medium too, and she really understood me. She crosses my mind often, but especially during times of celebration, since she loved nothing more than to cook and share good times with family. I have to admit whenever we’re sitting down for a big meal, I miss her cooking. Alexa and I still use some of her recipes when prepare our own holiday feast.

And that reminds me of what I wanted to tell you!

You don’t have to go through the holidays without the presence of all of the people you love, even those who have passed over. Here are a few ways to “prop open the door to Heaven” and experience loving signs and energy from souls on the other side.

Hey, don’t take that the wrong way! I’m not giving you tips to have a “haunted holiday”. This isn’t something scary – the energy I’m talking about is pure love and compassion.

 Here are some ways to enhance the connection with your friends and loved one in Heaven:

  • Keep their favorite traditions alive while creating your own. Whenever Alexa and I prepare one of Grandma’s recipes, I feel her standing over me, reminding me to add a little more salt. If you’re not a cook, don’t worry – you can play a favorite Christmas carol or hang a loved one’s cherished holiday ornament on your tree.


  • Talk about them! Don’t hesitate to talk about those who can’t be with you. Sharing stories and memories makes you feel close and is a healing way of staying connected. The worst thing anyone can do is to stop talking about someone when they pass to avoid making people sad. That just makes everyone miss them more.


  • Set a place at the table. If you have space, leave an empty chair and place setting for a relative who can’t be with you. Prop their photo against a wine glass and make a toast to their memory.


  • Allow yourself some quiet time when you can remember the loved ones who are no longer with you. You might want to say a little prayer or write about them in your journal. Doing so will let them know how grateful you are that they were a part of your life.


  • Look for signs from heaven – and take it one step further. You can start the day by having a silent conversation to your loved one and ask them to send you a sign. You can even get specific and ask for a certain kind of sign that’s meaningful to both of you. Then stay alert and watch what happens!


If I have learned anything from being a medium, it’s that death isn’t the end. Once you realize that it takes the edge off of grieving and missing those you have lost. And when family gathers, it’s wonderful to know that no one is missing. Everyone is there, either in body or in spirit.

If you’ve recently lost someone, of course it’s normal to be sad – but it helps to remember that your loved ones are always with you. If you would like to be part of an online group reading with me CLICK HERE. During these LIVE events I will be helping you reconnect with your loved ones in spirit as well as sharing life lessons from the other side right from home!