Losing a loved one can leave a great big void in your life – and when it’s your spouse or soulmate, the loss is even harder to bear. After all, your significant other was a part of every single day. Suddenly there’s no one to have coffee with, watch television with and your daily routine, and pretty much your whole life is suddenly in turmoil.
After the initial shock of losing someone passes, most people are left with questions.
Is my loved one watching over me?
Are they in Heaven?
Are they reunited with family and pets who have passed?
Are they sending me signs that they’re around?
That’s where I come in.
I’m so grateful to be able to provide people who are grieving comfort and to answer their questions. Actually, it’s the departed who answer – I’m just the “telephone operator” who passes on their messages.
A reading for Dorinda Medley.
Not too long ago I was invited to the Berkshire’s to meet with Dorinda Medley of Real Housewives of New York. Dorinda had lost her husband Richard after only six years of marriage. Before I even arrived at her house, Richard had already started reaching out to me from the other side, giving me information and letting me know how excited he was to communicate with his wife.
He told me that he was concerned she had stopped enjoying life and was constantly searching for signs from him and wondering about him.
He was right. The moment I sat down with Dorinda my heart broke for her. I could feel the pain that she was carrying with her every day. It was like a piece of her heart had been taken when Richard died.
When I started the reading, Richard came through loud and clear. He told me to tell Dorinda that he was with Gerry. That immediately made her smile and start to laugh. Gerry was one of his close friends who had passed just a year before he did.
I love when spirit does that! They bring through little validations that are exactly what we need to hear. It gives us a glimpse at what Heaven is like.
At that moment I saw something change in Dorinda. Everything suddenly clicked for her. Even though she would always miss her daily interaction with Richard, she could rest easier knowing he was at peace and with friends in Heaven.
Watch Dorinda’s Reading.
Although Bravo didn’t broadcast my whole reading, Richard came through with validation that he had attended his daughter’s wedding in spirit. He thanked Dorinda for being part of his daughter’s life – supporting her when he couldn’t be there for her.
Five ways to heal your heart.
If you are missing a significant other, there’s something to learn from my reading with Dorinda. Although death may feel like the ultimate divide, your loved one is actually never far away.
When you’re mourning the loss of someone, it can feel like you’ll never be happy again. That’s not what your loved one wants! They’re watching over you, and they want you to make the most of your time on earth.
These simple steps can start your journey toward healing…
1. Give things away.
Often, people are reluctant to give away their loved one’s things. They might just shut the closet door and avoid it entirely. I have a secret for you. Your loved one doesn’t need all that stuff, and neither do you. Give items away to friends and family who will appreciate having something to remember them by, and give what’s left to people who need it. It’s a meaningful way to honor their memory and you will feel good knowing they have a special piece of him or her.
2. Don’t be afraid to talk about them.
Talking about your soulmate is a great way to feel closer to them and start the healing process. Share funny stories and happy memories. You’ll be surprised how good it feels. You’re probably going to have to begin the conversation – other people are probably afraid to reopen your wounds, so they might avoid the topic. You will notice the moment you start to talk about old memories, those around you will do the same.
3. Letting go.
There comes a point where you have to focus on life and start letting go of your grief. Letting go does not mean you don’t still cherish memories of your loved one. They will always be in your heart. It just means you have to move on, and start to enjoy experiences and people, without guilt.
4. Give yourself a break.
No matter how long someone has been gone, there might still be days when you miss them so much that you can’t stand it. You don’t have to be strong all the time! It’s alright to let yourself give in to grief once in a while. If you want to spend a day in bed crying and looking at photographs – do it. Then say to your loved one, “Okay, I’m going back to my life now!” and get up, get dressed, and take on the day- and the rest of your life.
5. Continue life like you are still together.
Just because your soulmate is gone doesn’t mean you have to give up the things you enjoyed together. Take trips, see your mutual friends, go to your favorite restaurants. Watch a movie that you both loved on Netflix. You’ll find that instead of making you sad, you’ll feel closer to your soulmate in the most joyful way.
If you pull out your photo album and look through old pictures of those who have passed, that’s what Heaven is like. The same people are together on the other side, just as they were in life, but without pain or illness. Remember that life is a gift and live it well. When your time comes, you’ll be reunited with your soulmate in Heaven.
Laughter is the best medicine.
Remember that whether you are feeling lonely, sad, or stressed you can spend Monday nights with me and my family right in your living room. I love sharing my family with you each week on my TV series ‘Meet The Frasers’. I hope that when you watch you laugh with us, cry with us and feel part of our family each week. It’s hard to believe that we are already half way through season one! If you missed an episode you can binge watch the series on demand or on Hulu or the NBC app. Also, remember to subscribe to me email newsletter by clicking here so you never miss a new inspirational article about Heaven and the afterlife.