Alexa and I were hanging out with a couple of friends this past weekend. We were having a great time chatting about all kinds of things, when someone asked me if being a psychic medium meant that I always knew the right choice to make.

Suddenly the whole conversation took a turn. It got my friends thinking about how life would be if you always knew what was around the next corner. There were a LOT of questions:

“Does being psychic mean you never go the wrong way when you’re driving?”

“Is it impossible to play cards without knowing what’s in everyone’s hand?”

“Can you tell if you’re going to be friends with someone when you first meet them?”

And of course, the inevitable question…

“Wait a minute – do you know what I’m thinking right NOW?”

It’s easy to get confused about what being psychic really means. The answer to every one of the questions above is the same – “It’s complicated.” I’ve shared many times that while we all have a life plan and destiny, free will also plays a big part in how things turn out. And not just our own free will – the will of other people can spill over and affect us.

For example, two people might be meant to live long lives, but if one of them chooses to speed to work or run a red light, both their lives could be cut short or changed forever.

So, do I see everything and know everything that will happen? No.

Do I always make perfect choices because of my intuition…. Well, yes and no.

I don’t always make perfect choices, because I’m a human being. I get preoccupied, and I have biases and beliefs that influence me. If I’m in a hurry, or not focused on what’s going on around me, I can miss important impressions and signs. If I take the time to slow down and listen to my intuition, I never regret it.

I don’t focus on predicting the small stuff, I never read my friends minds, and I don’t use my psychic gift to “cheat life,” by peeking at someone’s poker hand or playing the lottery. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good casino. However, my Mom has always taught me to use my gift for good and never for the wrong reasons.

But I ALWAYS make it a point to check in with my intuition in these instances:

  • If I’m committing to something that will impact my career, like writing a book or signing a contract for an event or television show.


  • When I meet someone who has the potential to affect my family, career, or safety. They can be anyone from an uber driver to my sister’s new boyfriend.


  • When it impacts my health or the health and well-being of my friends and family.


  • If I’m going to do something that will have a long-term effect on my life. Buying a house, making an investment, adopting a pet. (Asking Alexa to marry me was definitely in this category).


If I take the time to listen, intuition will always guide me in the right direction, and it can guide you too. You may not make a living with it – but everyone has natural psychic or intuitive gifts that can help them make good decisions.

What is intuition and how can you tap into yours?

Intuition, or your sixth sense, gives you insight about things that are not clearly obvious. It’s that twinge in the pit of your stomach that tells you something is not right. It could be a sign, an internal voice, or a memory that pops up at just the right time.

Intuition can be your secret weapon that helps you to make better decisions in every area of your life. To make sure you never miss a word that your “inner voice” has to tell you, try these tips:

  • Be mindful and aware when there’s a decision to be made. When you’re rushed and distracted, it’s easy to miss the whisper of your intuition.


  • Ask for help. Just say the word to bring in all kinds of support – your guides, deceased loved ones, angels, and your own intuition will respond when you simply ask. And don’t forget to say thank you for the assistance!


  • Tune into your body and your mood. Your mind and body sometimes give you signs that are well worth listening to. For example, if you always feel slightly sick and “off” when you see a certain person, maybe they’re a really bad cook – or maybe they’re not someone you should be spending time with.


  • Learn to tell the difference between wishful thinking and real intuition. This can be tricky, but practice makes perfect. Be honest with yourself. Is it really your gut telling you that new guy is “the one, or are you just tired of being single?” Pay attention to how you feel when you’re making a decision about a person, job – or anything. Then after the fact, see if your intuition was right, or if you were using your own wishful thinking as permission to move forward.


So next time you’re at a crossroads, put your intuition to the test. Check in with your gut, hunches, that little voice inside – whatever you want to call it, and keep track of how often your intuition is right or wrong.

We all have different ways to tap into our own psychic abilities. To learn how,  check out my book When Heaven Calls. It’s a good window into my life, and will show you how tuning into your own spirit connection and intuition can transform your life.