For some, Valentine’s Day is a special holiday of romance, love and appreciation for the soul connection that you feel with a new girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse or even your kids. But, if you are in grief over a loved one that has passed on, Valentine’s Day can be a painful reminder of the love you shared with someone while they were here in the physical world.
As a medium, I have been blessed to have had the ability to share messages from those in the Spirit world. Every Valentine’s Day for the past several years, I’ve had to share this message: they want you to know they have not left you. As you sit and think about that special someone who has crossed over and the special times you shared with each other, know they are still with you. That same love that you experienced with them here in this world is actually a very special glue that keeps you connected both in this world and in the next. Even death cannot break it.
This bond is so strong that as you think of your loved ones during a special time or a holiday like Valentine’s Day, you may even begin to feel their presence around you. It might be as gentle as just feeling their spiritual presence by your side, or as obvious as hearing your name being called in their voice. These are divine signs they are using to get your attention. Their hope is to let you know that no matter how much time passes, they still are able to celebrate every holiday and celebration with you in the Spirit. If you are missing someone this holiday, here are some tips to help you remember them in a loving way that can help ease the pain.
1. Celebrate as if they are still here with you. If every year your loved one bought you a Valentine’s Day card and you can’t imagine this year without one, dig out the ones from the past and read them. If you don’t have cards saved, take a moment to look at things they wrote to you. It could be Facebook messages, letters, texts or maybe just call a friend and ask them to share some stories of your loved one with you. When you do this, you will be reminded of the happy, positive stories of your loved ones and you will feel closer to them.
2. Have a conversation with them. You don’t need to be at their grave to speak or communicate with those you love. The truth is they can hear you no matter where you speak to them. Whether it be you speaking to them out loud, writing a letter, or simply speaking to them in your head, they can hear you. Conversation is a two-way street. When you speak to your loved ones, it reminds you they are still close by and it allows yourself to open up to the spiritual signs they are sending you.
3. Share with others how you feel. Sometimes, the best way to heal is by letting out the heaviness through speaking. When you talk to others about your thoughts, feelings and emotions, it helps you to find peace in your heart. There is no need to keep things bottled up. When you start to speak to those around you, not only will you feel better, but you will begin to release pain.
4. Do something special for yourself. When you feel the pain of a loved one starting to set in, shift your focus on doing something for yourself. It could be going for a walk around the block to clear your mind, going to the library and picking out a new book for the weekend, or even pampering yourself with a massage or a day trip to somewhere special like the waterfront. Take this time to appreciate yourself. The more you focus on yourself, the more you bring your intention away from the pain you have been feeling. It completely opens you up to new energy, people and opportunities. Also, if you feel you want to help a charity, this is the right time to reach out to a local one and become involved or to assist them for a day or at one of their events.
As you think about someone in Heaven this Valentines Day, don’t feel you need to be alone. Your loved ones want to see you happy and most of all enjoying your life. They are in a place where they are feeling extreme peace and are away from all negativity and illness, and so should you. As a medium, I have read clients around the world and one message from those in Heaven remains the same. Oftentimes, they tell me to tell my clients to release the grief, let it go, live without regret and embrace their soul. That being said, take that message and hold it close to your heart.
Spend this Valentine’s Day in your loved one’s honor. Spend time with that new grandchild who was just born into the family, call up an old friend who you lost touch with and invite them for coffee, or spend time reconnecting with those family members who live far away. Doing this work as a medium, I know how hard it can be to heal and to find the happiness in yourself again. You are not alone. If clients of mine have found healing, then so can you. Sometimes, it can be inspirational to you to read and connect with those who have gone through a similar experience. I would like to invite you to read stories of those who have lost loved ones and have found healing on my website at MeetMattFraser.com by clicking on stories at the bottom of the page. As you read through some of these stories, you will notice that everyone started right where you are: feeling a little lost. By the end of each story, it is amazing to see how hope was restored and how many hearts were healed just by knowing that Heaven was a real place.
If there is one thing you take home from reading this today, I hope it is that death is not the end. Your loved ones are always with you. Sometimes, you just have to remind yourself of that