I love the holidays. From the time I was little, it was always the same – the house was all decorated and there was nothing better than the warm feeling I got when everyone was gathered around the table. When I was little, my mom cook a big Italian dinner and we’d eat and laugh and have a great time. Of course, I loved getting presents, but Christmas to me always centered around family.
As the years went on, a few of the faces around the table changed. People got married, babies were born, and a few of the older family members passed on. Because my grandmother and I were so close when I was growing up, her death affected me the most.
My grandmother took a while to let go. She would come visit me in spirit at night when everyone was asleep – but as I got older she came less often. I knew it was because she wanted me to focus on living my life, and even though I missed her, I knew she was right.
When the holidays came around, I’d suddenly feel the presence of my grandmother just as if she was still alive and standing next to me. It didn’t feel sad, it just felt natural that even though she was in Heaven, she was still with me when I hung up my stocking on Christmas Eve, when I got all dressed up to go to midnight mass, and when we all opened our gifts and got the whole family together on Christmas day.
As a medium, I talk to a lot of people who struggle with the season because someone they love is no longer with them. It’s not just the holidays, significant events like weddings, births, and graduations are always bittersweet when you’re missing someone, but I like to think that our loved ones are never closer than when we’re sharing good times and thinking of them.
A lot of psychics and mediums feel that during the last few months of the year, the veil that separates the living and the dead becomes thinner. There are several reasons for this…
First of all, in the beginning of November people observe special days of remembrance like The Day of the Dead and All Saints Day. During those times, it always seems to me that our loved ones in heaven draw closer to us. A few weeks later, the Winter Solstice marks the longest night of the year. People have all kinds of beliefs about the Solstice, and some of them can get pretty wild – but suffice to say that there’s a lot of powerful energy in the air during this time.
As far as I’m concerned, the reason that your loved ones in Heaven feel closer at the end of the year is because you’re so focused on the things they are drawn to. You’re shopping for friends and family, cooking and baking, and there’s joy and music in the air. Who wouldn’t want to get closer to that?
Even the souls who weren’t exactly festive in life, change a lot when they pass over. Suddenly that grumpy old uncle has had his life review, and realizes all the things he missed. That soul is now attracted to gatherings of his family, and might even send a sign that he’s with them.
To make the most of this time, there are some things that will help you feel even closer to those who have passed. Here are a few ideas:
- Make a recipe that your loved one was known for. It might be Grandmas meatballs or your aunt’s special holiday cookies – but whatever you choose will help them feel included in the festivities.
- Tell funny stories about them. The last thing you want to do is make everyone sad, so think of one that will get a laugh.
- Play their favorite music. There were certain Christmas carols my grandmother loved. I was young when she passed away, but my Mother always feels Grandma’s energy when she hears them – even after all these years.
- Do something specifically to honor the memory of your love ones in heaven. You might display a favorite photo, light a candle at church, or set a place at the table for them. I have a friend who always lights a cigar after Christmas dinner in honor of her grandfather. It’s kind of funny, because she hated the smell of those cigars when he was alive – but now it makes her feel like he’s still there.
If you’ve recently lost someone, of course it’s normal to be sad – but it helps to remember that your loved ones are always with you. If you would like to be part of an online group reading with me CLICK HERE. During these LIVE events I will be helping you reconnect with your loved ones in spirit as well as sharing life lessons from the other side right from home!
My husband passed away on Christmas morning. It will be 7 yrs this Christmas. I feel him around and he tends to get stronger as we get closer to the date. He wakes me up in the middle of the night. I know he’s ok, but I still get sad.
My baby sister passed away suddenly in October 30th saddest worst day of my life. These holidays will be the hardest. 2020 is horrible for alot. Hoping we find our answers from autopsy in a few months. Hugs to all.
My baby sister passed away in 1992 at 4 months old i feel ur pain
My husband passed away on December 27, 2018 he was 48yrs
Old we have 2 kids at that time my son was 5 years old and my little one was 2 years old I’m so lost of words and with life with home I so miss him😢
Hi I can relate I lost my husband was 4 yrs on June 12th 2020, I miss him everyday, but he is with me in Spirit I am sure. I am so sorry for your loss, may God Bless you and Comfort you everyday. I hope you and your Family have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!!! Sincerely, Lisa Castello
My mom passed away on my birthday March 8th. It devastated me. We were best friends and I miss her so much. Christmas was always her favorite holiday. I feel her with me all the time and she’s always sending me signs that she is always around.
No, you must not feel sad because your sadness affects his soul . Think and laugh about the happy times you spent together during Christmas . Your joy and laughter will make him happy too.
I get visitors all the time.Just a couple weeks ago I woke to feeling someone rubbing my back and I also heard shuffling of feet on my carpet,one New years eve I heard a plate move in my dish rack and when I went to kitchen it was sitting on counter.I welcome my visits and acknowledged them when they do.
Wow my partner left my side 3 yrs ago. I look for signs but I have been waking up in middle of the night. Wud love to think it’s him. The grief never goes away sadly.
I miss my soulmate so badly i cry everydsy like now i miss him Matt so much he hasnt sent me any signs i want him to be ok.
Love hearing this.
Hi, I live in the uk, if the reading is at 7pm USA time, am I correct the uk time will be 12pm my time in the uk
Its 12am…as in midnight😄
My my beloved mother passed away the day before Thanksgiving 2017. I miss her terribly. I have a flower arrangement in my room that was hers. I added in some Christmas lights. These lights have come on numerous times on their own! I know it’s her way of saying “hello” to me from the other side. I have had many spiritual signs since her passing. Helps me in many ways to move on without her here. I love you ❤️ Mom forever! Until I see you again… Rest in the loving arms of our Heavenly Father. Merry Christmas 🎄 Mom!!! Forever in my ❤️ ❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻
I lost my beautiful sister November 25th 2020 from cancer I miss her so much but I know she wants be to be happy and remember the special times we had together I will always love her big smiles and hugs xxxx
Merry Christmas Matt! 🎄🎁merry Christmas everyone! God bless us All 🎄🎁🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hi Angela – I hope this helps you, regarding time zones. I checked first, before sending you this message. You can google to see the time zone conversion USA to UK : Time in United Kingdom vs United States
Matt I saw god 4 days ago he held my face and told me everything is gonna be alright
Then it will be!
Excellent article … thanks for sharing.
Very nice article
My beloved dad passed Nov 2016. We were very close and I still miss him. Shortly after he passed I began getting the feeling he was communicating. Christmas was a special time in our family. We all sang in out church choir and Christmas there was always special music. One Sunday evening shortly before Christmas a random thought about a special christmas event our choir put on …. and mentioned how we sang ‘Bring us some Figgy Pudding’….the radio was playing carols at the time. The very next Carol that played was ‘bring us some Figgy Pudding’.
That was my validation.
We communicate regularly now…
And with other members of my family. I lts awesome
Merry Christmas to you and your family! You feel like family to me! Hugs!
Thank you for your uplifting messages and cheerful outlook…especially during these trying times. Looking forward to a meeting online in January.
Thank you Matt! My husband passed away very unexpectedly this last May 2020. I found him in my kitchen. Every day is a struggle. But your e-mails do seem to bring me a little joy! And I thank you for that!
Today is my first born son’s birthday.
I was hoping for a reading online last night. It was a first for me. About midway, I was afraid I might get a reading. By the end I was thankful for no reading.
We lost my son two and a half years ago.
Matt’s readings for others comforted me. So many were very close to my experiences. I also thought about people gone for many years. It was heartwarming. Thank you.
On April 8, 2020 my brother Roy passed away from COVID complications suddenly. My sister, brother and I missed him allot. I was than God able to speak to him right before he passed. He told me he was going home to Heaven. It breaks my heart because he was a great person. Due to today’s lifestyle my brother sister and I have not been able to get together. They live in New York and I live in Florida.m I would like to be part of one of your readings. I live in Ocala, FL
Thank you, I really needed this. I dreamt of my fiance last night, asking me to get off the phone and spend time with him like he sometimes did when he was alive. I woke myself up crying and saying I’m so sorry out loud. He died a year ago this past November. I had a good cry of course, but he’s always in my heart and thoughts as are my parents.
Thank you for sharing this!
Thank you Matt. You’re awesome. After Christmas I’m gonna try a reading. I miss my dad. Merry Christmas.
I enjoy listening to your readings. Last week we lost my little great grand daughter.. 6 years old.. She was born with a bad heart and had a heart transplant when she was 2 months old. She was happy and strong and you wouldn’t know she had been ill at all . Parents found her dead on the floor with her clothes in her hand ready to get ready for school.. We have a large close knit family. I was wondering if the baby and my grand daughter meet in Heaven? We did sign up for one of your programs when my 50 year old daughter died last April.
Lost my Hubby 4th October only a few months ,I put his 2 rings on the Christmas tree ,and i made sausage rolls today ,he always made them ,I’m sure he was watching me make them ,love your message I ans many others thank you .
Thank you! I enjoyed reading this. I think of family who passed while reading this. I will do a few of these tips.
That was very interesting , a very good read .
I am fascinated with what you do. Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!
I want to register for your next online group reading but not sure about the time different as I am in Australia.
Would you tell me exactly what your group reading time in Australian time please.
Thanks matt x
Hi Ellen, I am in Australia as well there is a time difference of 12 hrs
I have signed up to a few group readings with Matt.
NY is 15 hours behind us.
Your words and suggestions are very comforting. Thank you
Ssme as i found mine 11/29/20 i miss him so much hearbroken Nj*
Thank you Matt. I’m reading you book. You and the book are making me more aware of coincidences I am having. Buona Natale to you, Alexa, and the rest of the family
Thank you Matt. I love pulling out my Mom’s old cook book to bake her cookies for Christmas. The two of us used to bake together for over 30 years. She had more baking stamina than I did. Lol! I love treating people that I love on the holidays. and follow my Mom’s tradition of never going anywhere empty-handed, and being prepared to “gift” people if they stop by. She and my Dad are definitely present in my daily life; especially during the stressful times.
Merry Christmas to you and the family!
I have binged watched all the episodes of Meet The Fraser’s lol
I have a group reading with you coming up on Jan 10th..hope your ready I have had A LOT of loss in my world since i was very young..going to be awesome!
I cannot wait!! It was a Christmas gift from my daughter..so excited!!
See you then ..stay safe
Thank you gifted Matt. Your words comfort many, and as it does me. Wishing you love, and joy, and peace for this festive season. Much love. X
Thanks matt x
Hi Matt, I started watching your videos a few weeks ago, they are very inspiring & I love your energy.
I lost my husband 1 1/2 years ago it is still very tough. I talk to him all the time and I can see the signs that he sends. I have received messages from him via a phycic on a few occasions. I would like to have a reading with you though as I am fasinated by how you connect with souls on the other side . Very interesting.
I really loved hearing this. This Will be my first Christmas without my love Alen. I miss him with all my heart and soul. I talk to him and I tell him to never leave me. I wasn’t even gonna put up a tree this year but I asked him to give me a sign. I put my tree up yesterday. Better late then never. Thank you Matt for helping me and giving me so much comfort in this hard time. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ merry Christmas to you and your loved ones.
Matt I have been on so many of your online sessions and you continue to amaze me. My mother and best friend passed away in July and I cry for her every day. I use a pendulum which works, but I still need more proof to make things right for me. Your amazing and if you ever get to Vegas I will fly in and we can play poker and you have one of the spirits tell me to Holden ofr fold. Just kidding my friend, God bless you and your family.
Awesome! such a great read
I had never made a pecan pie, but I felt my mother’s presence guiding me on how to make it! The end product was perfect! My senses felt her beside me through the whole project of baking a pie and making Cheesy Potatoes, also her favorite! It was a very nice warm feeling!
I enjoy your readings and hope to get a chance to take part in one in the near future!
Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year, Matt! 🌲☃️🎅
Thank you for sharing this Matt. I’ve always had a ‘knowing’ since being young and my late great auntie who was a spiritualist, help me make sense of it all, so I could help others. I love reading your fb page and it’s helping me understand further and grow. Merry Christmas to you and your family. xx
My son 31 passed 3 year’s ago every year he was our Santa, as he was interning work he collapsed he had artherscloris, and still cry for him ,miss him dearly, your videos help me get through this grieving
My father in law passed away suddenly in October. You are the one who ism helping me get through this by watching your videos and reading your blogs. Believing he is still here with us, and that he has reunited with all his family that have passed away keeps me going and puts a smile on my face because it makes me feel like he’s ok. You have also answered a lot of questions I had about death in your videos. Your amazing. I’m grateful for all that you do. 🙂
Paulette Wed.Dec.23 2020 at5:47 pm I would like register for your next online group reading. Thank You
Thank you Mat i always read what you write i enjoy it. I am sad because i miss my Husband so much i am lost without him we were very close I thank God every day i have my Daughter and four grandaughters thats what keeps me going i loved when you were able to talk to him and he said the things he say that was so dear to me I hope you and Alexa have a wonderful Christmas & a Beautiful New year love you both Josie
Hi Matt, I just wanted to Thank You for the reassurance of our loves ones always being with us. I have to say I just discovered you a few months ago and I am grateful to know that someone else in the world see’s things the way I do. For so many years I thought am I really seeing, hearing and feeling all this, and again a lot of people either think you are crazy or full of crap.. lol I definitely didn’t want to or deal with throughout my life. I am now 41 and now accepting that this as a gift and not a curse. As I’m connecting with my father and mother and I’m so at peace with everything. Just wanted to say Thank You for what you do by helping so many people. I was in a group reading with you Dec 3 I enjoyed it. Merry Christmas and Happy New🌟
I finally received my book in the mail I have been waiting awhile so excited going to start reading it. I also will be in a group reading I am hoping my brother will come he is a big sceptic and then I pray we hear from our loved ones 💕 you are amazing love what you do!
Hi Matt, I always enjoy reading your articles they lift me up, I enjoyed this one too. It has been 4 and a half yrs now since my husband passed away, I keep wishing he would come to me but hasn’t happened yet. I know he would want me to be happy but sometimes it is hard to move on with your life as the saying goes easier said than done, that is how it is for me right now. I would like to join one of your readings but it says in the Bible not to do that I pray my husband will one day come to me and talk to me but just not sure if he will or not I imagine it is hard to appear in Spirit in the physical world if you have any ideas how connect to my husband would surly appreciate any advice you can give. I hope you and your family have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!!! Sincerely, Lisa Castello
Thank you Matt for your encouraging words… wish you a Merry Christmas .
Thank you Matt ! I have had a terrible depressing day .I was surprised as I was sitting crying, when I opened my email and seen your writings ! I actually thought it was a letter to me till I seen the comments !!The lump in my throat and squeeze in my chest is really unbearable! I will try to take what you said and try your suggestions. I have lost my way I can’t get past all of those I have lost . I wish I could ! I feel so alone without my closest family members 💔 thank you for your incouraging words!! I wish you and yours a very merry Christmas and a happy new year.!! Sincerely,
I lost my son suddenly on December 14th, 2020 at age 46. I cannot not wrap my mind around the fact that my baby boy is gone. My heart aches for him. I pray that he is heaven and I will see him again one day is only thing that comforts me. This is the worse thing a parent can ever endure. I guess I am searching for some answers.
My father passed away suddenly in June 20 . I have tried a lot but can’t seem to get over his loss and miss him a lot . Is it true that he could have reincarnated by now ? I miss his voice amd his presence .
Yes & sometimes I do have good days other times I don’t & thanks to you now I know that’s normal . I thought because it’s Christmas that it would effect me like it always does & my family always says to me are you ok & frankly I’m getting tired of them saying this to me. I do miss my loved ones & when we lived in Chicago just like you I had a grandmother that I was really close to & when she passed I couldn’t let go actually I blamed myself forget passing but then I got older & that had changed . We moved to Florida Naples & another grandmother had passed & I did here memorial mass & I asked for her favorite singers to sing at her mass & so they did & in fact he helped me to let go & so I did but I do miss her but because of my singer that help me I now fell like there always next to me& now I don’t have to miss them . My aunt that I got close to I cannot get over it & let go & yesterday my aunt came to me with a song called Crazy by Patsy Cline then on the way home I heard Patsy Cline again singing another song & so I know that GOD gave me my Aunt as a gift for Christmas I just wish I knew what she has to say to me . I think she’s my Spiritual Guide coming to help me with Christmas . My cousin husband passed suddenly from cancer & I’m worried now about her & how she’s taking it & I know my cousin that passed does not like how she’s handing it because he talks to me about that & I don’t say anything to my cousin to make her worry more .
Thankyou for writing this piece!
I keep hearing this song in my head “Christmas ain’t like Christmas anymore.” I also came across a country singers name, Martina McBride. Martina was my maternal grandmother’s name. She has passed since. I keep hearing women giggling and that is what my mom and my aunt (her sister used to do). I would hear them laughing when they would talk. They have both passed. My dad loved to hear Kitty Wells, kind of blue grass songs. Now, today I wanted to drink a shot of tequila. My husband and my mom loved the shots. I gave in and went to Taco Cabana for a Mango Margarita. Put the mango drink in the freezer and now drinking the shot slowly with a coke (lol). I am not in a lot of tears like I was last year. I have to own up to my loneliness. Only I can change that. So here I go finishing my doctorates degree. Looking forward to teach at a local community college and finally get to completing my anthology of poems and short stories for children. I have not bought your book yet as I am kind of on limited funds. Maybe later on in March I will buy. I have booked for your online reading for January 10th. I have invited my two sisters, my brother, and my niece to be there with me. Have a merry Christmas and a very prosperous new year!
My mother died this time last year on 12/29/2019. My last parent. I feel like an orphan. The holidays give a bittersweet feeling this year with the pandemic keeping loved ones further away but gives me time to reflect on past Christmases. I still see signs coming from her and am blessed by them. Matt’s messages are a great comfort, especially at this time. Thank you, Matt.
My mom passed on Christmas morning 2015 she and I was very very close I was the baby in the family her last child my brothers and sister we like 12 years 10 years 6 years and 4 years older therefore., i was always the baby, she and I would spend long days and nights together always talking about God heaven and the after life. I took care of mom for over 27 years she was 92 years old when she died, She was well educated and had all her capacity up to the day she died. During her funeral service the pastor was seames to be confused while talking and stop in the middle of his prayers walk down to me and called me by my name and told me to give him my hands., he made me stand up in front of over 100 people in the church and said to me Anna your mother wants me to thank you for all the years of looking after her, for being there for her for feeding her for bathing her for taking her for icream and most of all for loving her. This was shocking for me but what was most shocking when he started to speak to me holding my hands a light like came through a window like a small stream of purple flood light and rested on my head I did not see the light but all the people in the church saw it and i was told about it form most of them. 4 nights after her funeral as i went to bed i could smell fresh clean cool air in my room and as i was about to pray i heard a voice said stop praying so i looked at my husband and called out his name Ted Ted but he was sound asleep so i turned and continue to start saying my prayers and i heard the same voice saying stop praying and the room was fill with this white clean mist that was cool….as i open my eyes is saw a tiny light on the wall facing my bed and the light started to move towards me as it came towards me it stop just at my toes and turn into a beautiful golden star with purple colors dripping with gold flickering lights for a minute or so then it went back to the wall and went away,,,,,,,please please tell me what was that. I still cry and think of my mom everyday especially now its christmas and it was christmas morning 11;30AM She died. My mom was the village mom she cared for the children and people she had sunday school in our home for the village children, she had thanksgiving dinner and charity day every year for the village and will take us to the city to feed the poor on that day after lunch was done she was everyone mom she took people of the street to live in our home,,,before migrating to Canada 51 years ago we came from an upper class background live in a big house with many servants and went to private schools and had drivers to take us to school but we were taught by my mom to always share, give, help and be kind…i remember she would take a piece of string and measure the poor children feet and go to the city and buy them shoes, I was only 12 years old when we came to canada to live that is 52 years ago and that teaching has never left my life. please tell me if my mom is happy and waiting for us is she walking with me, i tend to feel her off and on.thank you please answer me or give me an idea…am a strong believer in the after life thank you
My sister, Janet, went to Heaven June 9, 2019. Last Christmas Eve, I had very vivid dream about her, a visitation. She was dressed in a royal blue gown, the one she purchased for my nephew’s wedding, but never had a chance to wear. She was gorgeous, surrounded by a golden glow. At her feet were beautifully wrapped gifts, with bows, and a glow of their own. This is our conversation:
Me (Arlene): “Janet, it’s almost Christmas”.
Janet: (clapping hands and nearly jumping for joy), “I know, she says, “we’re all so excited”.
Me: (just noticing the gits at her feet), I say, in confusion, “You give presents in Heaven”?
Janet: “Oh yes, (as she’s pointing to each gift), “this one is prosperity, this one is harmony, and this one’s for you”. She picks a beautifully wrapped gift and hands it to me and says, “This is for you, it’s peace”. With tears in my eyes, I asked, “Can I share this with my sisters”? And she says, “No, this one’s for you, they’re going to get their own”.
I awoke crying and with peace in my heart, knowing I was in her presence in Heaven. I always remember that visitation whenever I feel sad and sharing that with my sisters also gave them the peace they so needed. Until the day we meet again in Heaven, I will never forget my most precious Christmas gift ever.
Hi Matt, I have experienced loss this past year. My one forever true love, Bob passed away.. We had recently been reunited when he told me he had cancer. We were able to take a few trips together and i enjoyed every second.. then nothing. He quit calling returning my texts and a few months later he passed away. I think it was his way of protecting me and preserving the memories we had made.. but I was so hurt that i didnt get the chance to tell him goodbye and how much i loved him.. i am attending one of your events in Feb and hope he comes through.. thank you for giving me the ability to believe he is still with me in spirit.. God bless you and Merry Christmas. Sharilynn
Started with my son in2010. Bro in 12 aunt in 13 dad in 14 mom 15 and best friend and sister by heart in16… nephew in 18 in
20 my hS crush just reunited..died a month later..
I’m straight up broken,..
Think about All the Angels watching over You
I lost my father sometime ago. He was my best friend. I’ve experienced premonitions personally. They come in dreams and happen the next day. I actually dreamt lottery numbers once. How can I get a readying Sir?
Hi,Matt!! My Name is Chelle My Mother passed November 22,2020….She was 64 She was The Strongest woman I Knew.She was Fighting Brain Cancer the Past 2 years Well that’s when she was diagnosed..I believe she had it for 10 years she had Swollen Eyes for the past 10 years The Docs say that a Sign of Brain Cancer . I Feel So lost with out her here . My grandmother past in 2003 and she was also like a Mother she passed from Colon Cancer … I would love to Know that My Mother and Grandmother are together and Happy and Healthy…