I love the holidays. From the time I was little, it was always the same – the house was all decorated and there was nothing better than the warm feeling I got when everyone was gathered around the table. When I was little, my mom cook a big Italian dinner and we’d eat and laugh and have a great time. Of course, I loved getting presents, but Christmas to me always centered around family.

As the years went on, a few of the faces around the table changed. People got married, babies were born, and a few of the older family members passed on. Because my grandmother and I were so close when I was growing up, her death affected me the most.

My grandmother took a while to let go. She would come visit me in spirit at night when everyone was asleep – but as I got older she came less often. I knew it was because she wanted me to focus on living my life, and even though I missed her, I knew she was right.

When the holidays came around, I’d suddenly feel the presence of my grandmother just as if she was still alive and standing next to me. It didn’t feel sad, it just felt natural that even though she was in Heaven, she was still with me when I hung up my stocking on Christmas Eve, when I got all dressed up to go to midnight mass, and when we all opened our gifts and got the whole family together on Christmas day.

As a medium, I talk to a lot of people who struggle with the season because someone they love is no longer with them. It’s not just the holidays, significant events like weddings, births, and graduations are always bittersweet when you’re missing someone, but I like to think that our loved ones are never closer than when we’re sharing good times and thinking of them.

A lot of psychics and mediums feel that during the last few months of the year, the veil that separates the living and the dead becomes thinner. There are several reasons for this…

First of all, in the beginning of November people observe special days of remembrance like The Day of the Dead and All Saints Day. During those times, it always seems to me that our loved ones in heaven draw closer to us. A few weeks later, the Winter Solstice marks the longest night of the year. People have all kinds of beliefs about the Solstice, and some of them can get pretty wild – but suffice to say that there’s a lot of powerful energy in the air during this time.

As far as I’m concerned, the reason that your loved ones in Heaven feel closer at the end of the year is because you’re so focused on the things they are drawn to. You’re shopping for friends and family, cooking and baking, and there’s joy and music in the air. Who wouldn’t want to get closer to that?

Even the souls who weren’t exactly festive in life, change a lot when they pass over. Suddenly that grumpy old uncle has had his life review, and realizes all the things he missed. That soul is now attracted to gatherings of his family, and might even send a sign that he’s with them.

To make the most of this time, there are some things that will help you feel even closer to those who have passed. Here are a few ideas:

  • Make a recipe that your loved one was known for. It might be Grandmas meatballs or your aunt’s special holiday cookies – but whatever you choose will help them feel included in the festivities.


  • Tell funny stories about them. The last thing you want to do is make everyone sad, so think of one that will get a laugh.


  • Play their favorite music. There were certain Christmas carols my grandmother loved. I was young when she passed away, but my Mother always feels Grandma’s energy when she hears them – even after all these years.


  • Do something specifically to honor the memory of your love ones in heaven. You might display a favorite photo, light a candle at church, or set a place at the table for them. I have a friend who always lights a cigar after Christmas dinner in honor of her grandfather. It’s kind of funny, because she hated the smell of those cigars when he was alive – but now it makes her feel like he’s still there.


If you’ve recently lost someone, of course it’s normal to be sad – but it helps to remember that your loved ones are always with you. If you would like to be part of an online group reading with me CLICK HERE. During these LIVE events I will be helping you reconnect with your loved ones in spirit as well as sharing life lessons from the other side right from home!