What does speaking to the dead have to do with getting back together? Believe it or not, there have been many times when I have used my psychic gift to help those here in the physical world recover from a breakup. If you are reading this article right now, I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. Healing from a broken heart is sometimes just as painful as healing from an illness. The hurt is lingering, and it can even make you lose hope.

The secret is knowing that you are not alone. Remember that your loved ones in Heaven can see tomorrow just as clearly as you can see yesterday. Here are some life lessons I have learned through my many readings. What ones apply to you?

If it’s meant to be, it will be…

True love always finds a way back. If the person you were with was truly your soul mate, you will be reconnected in the future. Sometimes things fall apart and we realize how valuable that person is and how special the relationship was to us. We reconnect with the person only to find and discover an even more meaningful love, friendship and connection.

Other times, it’s the opposite. The time apart can make you see things from a different angle and help you realize you need and desire something more. In the end, things will work out the way they should. If you are meant to be with that person, the universe will make sure you are brought back together in a divine way. If you are not brought back together, it simply means there is someone out there who is more deserving of your love. The next step is finding them or letting them find you.

Take time to rediscover yourself.

So many times after a breakup, the sudden loss can make you want to reach out and reconnect right away. If the relationship ended without closure, it can play tricks with your mind. You may not be able to get that person out of your mind, or you may replay things again and again. Through all of this, you need to make sure you don’t lose yourself in the process. Remember, true happiness comes from within and only you can create happiness within your life. Take this opportunity to rediscover yourself and the things that make you happy. Reach out to old friends, engage in recreational activities and enjoy the time with yourself. You will discover things about yourself that you have long forgotten.

Trying to reconnect immediately after a breakup is not a good idea. These things take time, and just as you are trying to process your own emotions, so is your partner. Give it a few weeks until you feel you are emotionally in a good place. In the meantime, keep your heart and mind safe. Remember, if you still love and respect your partner, you need to show it. Respect them by not talking bad about the them, and don’t say anything you will regret in the future.

Always make sure you have a handle on your emotions. You control your emotions; your emotions do not control you.

Don’t be afraid to let your walls down.

It’s okay to be afraid to date again. A breakup can make it hard for you to trust anyone with your heart ever again. Don’t let yourself shut down. Being able to love is being able to love with an open heart. It’s being able to share your heart with someone who is special to you. If you can’t let down your walls, how do you ever expect for someone to get close to you? During the time apart, you do not have to date, but instead, be open. You never know who will divinely come into your life. If someone wants to take you out or get close to you, let them. The worst-case scenario is that it doesn’t work. Just make sure you are not limiting yourself. Remember, when one door closes, another one opens. You just have to make sure you are ready when it does so you can walk through it.

Don’t be afraid to let go.

If reaching out to your ex or trying to reconnect doesn’t work, it’s time to let go. I have read for so many people who have a hard time with this. Some have held onto past relationship even though the person they once were with has since remarried, starting a future with someone else. It’s not fair to you to stop your life. The best advice I can give you is to move on and open your heart up to dating someone. Some people are put into our life as lessons. They teach us patience, faith and trust among other things. Your next relationship will be so much more meaningful than the first.

Do you ever notice sometimes people in their second marriage have so much fun? Many times, it’s because the first marriage taught them valuable life lessons they have carried with them to the next relationship. Sometimes, the first time, we made a mistake and ended up with the wrong person. The moral of the story is that you do not know who you will feel a soul connection with until you get out and meet new people.

Trust in the divine plan.

If there is one thing I know, it’s that Heaven has your back. You are in the right place at the right time, even though you do not feel that way. Use this experience as a life lesson to learn and grow from. Take a look back on the things you did right in the relationship and the things you did wrong. Use them to your advantage. Start to think about your next relationship. What do you want to change? What do you want the relationship to be like?

Remember, in the end, if it’s meant to be, it will be. I have a personal story to share. My grandfather was crazy about a girl he met when he was 16. He wanted to be with her in the worst way and felt she was his soulmate. She turned him down for another man because he was “too young,” and she wanted someone older. She went on to meet her husband and my grandfather, broken-hearted, eventually went on to meet my grandmother whom he married. They both had beautiful families and kids in their lives apart.

Almost 50 years later, both of their significant others passed of illness around the same time. As fate would have it, they ran into one another all those years later and decided to pick up the relationship they had left behind in their teenage years. They never regretted marrying whom they did, but they were thankful to divinely connect in love years later.

That being said, trust in the road ahead. Life is too short to get hung up. Keep moving forward and everything will happen in a divine way. Take some time for yourself to heal. Remember, the thing you cannot understand now will all make sense as you look back on them in the future.

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