Thinking About Valentine’s Day


Alexa and I hadn’t even taken our Christmas tree down before we started noticing Valentine’s Day cards and decorations displayed in the stores. It made me smile. Sure, it seemed a little early, but those red hearts and cupids were a happy reminder of how blessed I am to have found my soulmate! 


I’ve been feeling extra grateful for my relationship with Alexa lately. There are a million reasons why, but a big one is that we just celebrated the first holiday season with our beautiful baby boy, Royce.


When I met Alexa, I knew almost immediately that she was “the one.” Not only did we share many important values and experiences, but she fit the image I’d been carrying around in my head (and my heart) for years. In fact, I had made a vision board before we met, and without even knowing why, I included a picture of a girl who was very similar to Alexa. 


I know we are meant to be together, and I’m so glad we met so early in life. I look forward to growing old with Alexa, and I know from experience that everyone is not as fortunate. 


What is a soulmate, and can you count on meeting yours?


A soulmate is your twin flame. Your hearts are intertwined at the deepest level. This special person is part of your destiny, and when the two of you meet it can feel like you’ve been struck by a bolt of lightning. 


It CAN, but it doesn’t always. 


Many things influence what happens when you meet your soul mate – life, circumstances, and free will – to name three!  I can tell you from my experience as a medium, you will carry that soul connection with you into the next world – no matter how the relationship turns out while you’re both alive. 


I understand that it may sound strange to question how the relationship will turn out. After all, if your soulmate is the person you’re destined to be with, shouldn’t everything about the relationship be effortless? As long as you’re both alive, what could possibly go wrong?


Meeting your soulmate is just the first step.


You may have heard me talk about how your spirit guide will do everything possible to help you navigate life. They guide and nudge you along in an effort to ensure that you have the experiences you’re meant to have, meet the people you’re meant to connect with (hello soulmate!), and fulfill your destiny. But your guide can only do so much.

Both you and your soul mate have free will, and the choices you make might accidentally or intentionally separate you from one another. 


With that in mind, here are three reasons you might NOT wind up with your soulmate.


TIMING: The timing isn’t right. Sometimes you meet your soulmate when you’re too young, or when one or both of you is already married. A lot of times when that happens, people find their paths crossing again later in life when both parties are free and available. Sometimes that happens after their original spouse passes, and they might feel a little guilty about it. They shouldn’t!  During readings, I’ve had souls tell me that they were married to someone for decades, but they knew they were not soulmates. From Heaven, they actually helped guide the loved one they had left behind to meet up with their true soulmate. 


SETBACKS: You’re not in the right place emotionally. I said earlier that meeting your soulmate can be a “lightning bolt” experience, but it’s not always that obvious – and the reason is YOU. Sometimes, you’re pursuing another goal, like school or career, and a relationship is the furthest thing from your mind. Your guide will do their best to put you in contact with your soulmate later, when the time is right, but there are no guarantees. You might be closed off from a new relationship, even with your soul mate, because you put up walls due to childhood traumas or a previous bad relationship. One or both of you might be struggling with illness, addiction, or some other relationship that makes you blind to the fact that your soulmate is right in front of you.


MISSED CONNECTION: Something unforeseen has happened. It sometimes happens that soulmates never meet because one of them passes unexpectedly before their paths can cross. Don’t get worried! If this happens, you’re not doomed to live life alone. It’s not unusual to have a long, happy, productive relationship with someone who is not your soulmate. The thing is, you might not reconnect with your husband or wife in heaven – but you will surely reconnect with your soulmate.


So, what happens if you miss your big chance?


Some people get upset when they look back and realize they missed out on being with their soulmate. If you think you missed your chance – don’t worry. You can trust the universe has a plan to bring the two of you back together either later in life or in Heaven. 


Be patient. Don’t put your life on hold while you wait– be open to new experiences and relationships. Getting out in the world, and being open to meeting new people helps your odds of connecting with your twin flame. Stay healthy, and have a positive attitude. Listen to your git! Remember, in the end, if it’s meant to be, it will be. And if it doesn’t happen while you’re alive, you can look forward to seeing your soulmate in Heaven.


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