Forgiveness Sets YOU Free

Forgiveness Sets YOU Free

If you are a friend of mine on my Facebook Page, you will notice that I have been posting inspirational memes about forgiveness and letting go. It shocked me how many people replied with such negativity. It was very apparent to me that they were still hurting, sad and scarred from the negativity caused by someone they once knew, trusted and loved.

Forgiving and letting go after someone has done you wrong is indeed the hardest choice you can ever make, but it is one of the most important for you and for your health. Here’s why…

Negativity does not stay with the person you are upset with…

Some people feel that by holding grudges, it protects them from anyone else who tries to hurt them, including the person who hurt them. The truth is that the person who made you feel pain isn’t feeling that energy; you are. Although you think you may have it tucked deep down inside, the energy and pain are still living within you.

Situations we don’t find closure with lives within us and stops us from moving further in our life. Forgiveness does not mean the person was right; it means that you are freeing yourself from that negativity so you can live life again and put it out of mind.

Forgiveness allows you to feel free and happy again…

I was recently doing a psychic reading for a woman who waited over a year to talk to me. During our phone reading, she wanted advice and guidance from her mom who had died.

During her reading, her mom was talking about forgiveness. She had seen that her daughter was feeling lonely and disconnected. She wanted her daughter to make up with her kids and to put herself back out there into the dating world. She could see that her daughter would have the option of getting married again and of developing a close bond with her children.

During the reading, the mother’s spiritual guidance was very clear. She wanted her daughter to take back control of her life and to start to live again, but was her daughter ready to make the change?

I personally love when the spirit comes through with wisdom and guidance. Those we love in spirit can see tomorrow so much more clearly than we can see yesterday.

When I started to deliver some of these messages to my client, she would not stop interrupting me. Instead of wanting to hear about her future, all she wanted to do was hear about her past. She wanted to know if the people who had hurt her felt pain, if her kids regretted what they had done and how they had treated her, if her family knew how judgmental they were, if her ex-husband’s new marriage would fail, and it just continued…

The more I tried to deliver her mother’s messages to her about the future, the more she would try to change the messages and make it about the past. Her mom didn’t want to talk about it. Her mom knew that her daughter had been dwelling on this for years and had pushed everyone away until finally, she was all alone living in the past.

My client at the time couldn’t see it. She thought by pushing everyone away and holding onto grudges, she was protecting herself. She felt it would make her feel better to think negatively about those who had hurt her. Instead, she was the problem to herself; she was closing her heart off and sinking into a depression.

Her mom had an important question for her: “ Are you ready to let go of the past and heal?” Her mom explained to her through me that she was trying to help her, but 25 mins of the reading were spent with daughter complaining and bringing up her painful past.

Finally, it just came out. I said, “Don’t you see what you are doing? Your mom is trying to talk to you and you keep blocking the messages. You  only want to relive your painful past.”

Her daughter stopped talking and remained quiet; suddenly, everything clicked. She saw that the pain was from holding on to the sadness for too long. She immediately began crying, and the pain was finally starting to release. She knew her mom was right; she had stopped living life because she was holding too much.

She didn’t date because of her failed marriage; she didn’t have friends because she was once deceived; she didn’t talk to her children because she felt they didn’t love her. Slowly but surely, she knew she needed to forgive and take her mom’s advice.

Forgiveness starts from the heart. It starts with YOU!

Over the past few weeks, she has started on the path of forgiveness. She first started with forgiving herself for her mistakes and for living in pain for so long. She forgave the grudges she held against her family and started to erase the painful memories from the past. She forgave her ex-husband and decided to put herself online and start to trust dating again.

You see, forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to ring someone’s doorbell and hug them. It all starts with you letting go of the pain and deciding to move forward.

In this case, there were some family members she couldn’t visit or talk to because the relationship was so bad. All she could do was forgive them in her heart and release the pain to the universe. What she could still repair was the relationship with her kids. She took a few weeks and then worked up the courage to grab the phone and call them. She set a date for them to meet up and talk, and they did.

It was not a joyous family reunion at first. In the beginning, it was awkward and emotionally painful, but she decided to push through it. She sat down and actually listened to what her kids had to say, and it was heavy. She cried but was ready for a change. For the first time ever, she was repairing and healing the past, not just living it. Her children forgave her and she forgave them. She was ready to put in the work, and it forever changed her life. They now talk every day, and she now has her family back.

Today, she is a different woman. She is finally living in the future. She is spending time with her grandchildren, dating an amazing man, and rediscovering her love of painting. She has even made like-minded friends by joining new classes. The people whom she once hated, no longer have control over her. She freed the energy and let go.

There is something we can all learn from this message from the spirit. Let go of the things weighing you down and take back control over your life. It may be painful at first, but it is worth the journey to heal and to be free.

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Soulmates DO Reunite

Soulmates DO Reunite

 “Will I be reunited with my soulmate in Heaven?”

I love this question because it means the person asking it got to meet his or her soulmate here on earth and actually realized it too! That doesn’t always happen, and I am

always so happy when I meet someone who got to have that wonderful experience.

Some soulmates are not meant to have a long lasting connection in this lifetime. They might meet at a crossroads to help each other when one of them is supposed to make a difficult decision or take a new direction. Sometimes the connection is very short and the relationship is an opportunity to learn lessons, but is not meant to last.

On the other hand, some lucky people get to share many years of their lives with their soulmate. They experience a deep and abiding love and feel connected to each other in every possible way. It seems like heaven on earth – but there’s a downside to that too. Losing someone who has been your perfect partner, your twin flame, in life is so very painful.

My friend’s parents were married for over 50 years before her father died. “Our love went very deep,” her mother often says. “The pain of losing him goes just as deep. But I know we will be together again.”

She’s right! You will be connected with your soulmate in Heaven. Of course you will. You belong together. Your soulmate is always with you throughout your life, and you will be reunited when you pass over.

In the meantime, your soulmate is watching over you, protecting you, helping you as you do the work you are meant to be here to do, and waiting for that time when you will be together again.

 You might wonder how you will recognize your soulmate on the other side. Will your soulmate look the same as you remember? The reality is that our physical form is not really what makes us who we are. The essence of your true love will be waiting to greet you in Heaven. You’ll see one another as you remember each other and connect for all eternity at the deepest spiritual level.

Sometimes people come to my events and tell me their loved one passed during their engagement, or just a short time into their marriage, before their life together could even have a chance to start! They understandably feel cheated out of all the the happy  years they expected to have together before being separated.

They feel cheated out of having children, buying a home, celebrating anniversaries, taking vacations – all the things they anticipated doing together.

Losing that person is painful, but if they really are your soulmate, you will be reunited on the other side. In the meantime, your soulmate in Heaven is cheering you on, hoping you live a wonderful life…maybe even helping you meet someone new who makes you happy.

There’s no jealousy between soulmates because it’s a sure thing that you will be reunited in Heaven. In the meantime, your soulmate wants you to live your best life here and now. In fact, it makes them happy to see you enjoy life – because you are getting to experience life for both of you!

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Bon Voyage !

Bon Voyage !

Tickets to my cruise are still available! Last year we had the most AMAZING time – I don’t know if the ocean “conducts” spirit messages, or it was just that that everyone was having such a blast that Spirit wanted to join the party! I’m pretty sure it was both.

If you missed out last year, here’s your chance. Give yourself permission to be spontaneous, and join us February 24-March 3 for a wonderful 7 day cruise!

We’ll be traveling from Fort Lauderdale, Florida to four wonderful destinations. Our first stop will take us to a private island, Half Moon Cay, Bahamas. The peace and solitude of Half Moon Cay will give you the chance to be still and listen to your inner voice and hear messages from your loved ones in Heaven. Our other destinations are Ocho Rios, Jamaica; Georgetown, Cayman Islands; and Cozumel, Mexico. There will be so many opportunities to connect with your loved ones as you enjoy these beautiful surroundings and the calm and tranquility of an ocean voyage. And there will be a lot of fun to be had on board too!

You can almost be a different person on a cruise, leaving all your day to day responsibilities behind. Usually, you have to pack and unpack and lug all your belongings to your hotel room in each new destination. On a cruise, you take your hotel with you! It’s very freeing to just put your stuff down once, then have time to explore!

A cruise can be the perfect opportunity to tune into your intuition and open yourself to signs and messages from the other side. During the cruise, you’ll have the opportunity to attend an onboard class where I will be talking about how to connect with your own psychic voice. We’ll also have private group meetings. You can even join me for an optional private group excursion. There are more details on my website. I really hope you will join me for the terrific adventure!

 If you are hesitating because it seems like a lot of money, I want to share a story. A woman on last year’s cruise felt a little guilty for signing up. She felt like going on this cruise was too extravagant, that she was spending too much money and time on herself. She thought she was being selfish to go. During the cruise, her husband came through to her. He told her he was so happy she had made the decision to go. He had removed some obstacles to allow her to take the trip! He said that she had taken such good care of the family, and particularly of him when he was sick and dying, that he wanted her to heal on the cruise.Your loved ones want you to be happy…and they want to connect with you!

Give yourself the gift of this experience. We had such a great time last year. I know this year’s cruise will be even better! Connect with your loved ones in heaven while you’re there – you’ll leave transformed, inside and out.

 

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Wendy at Phone: 800.777.6540 

The Truth About KARMA

The Truth About KARMA

Have you ever heard the saying “What goes around, comes around “? If you have, then you have heard of KARMA.

Have you ever tried to clear out the emotional baggage and clutter and start off new ? We can’t just forget things that have happened in the past. Let’s stop and think for a minute about the idea of Karma. Basically, it means that what you put out into the universe comes back to you. If you are good and kind, goodness and kindness will come to you. If you are generous, your generosity will be rewarded.

But here’s the thing. Sometimes, karma might not come in a straight line. The universe might throw you a curveball. The great relationship you thought was going to be “the one” might end up being a lesson that steers you to something even better. When things don’t work out the way you think they should, instead of getting upset and thinking the universe is out to get you, stop for a moment and breathe, and trust that things will work out.

However you should know, there is both good and bad Karma and it all follows that rule “treat people how you want to be treated”. Even if someone does something that angers you, is it really worth your energy in retaliation ? Instead, stay positive and distance yourself from that person or situation and let the universe work it out.

When things get rough, sometimes you have to walk away. When other people around you are putting out negativity don’t let them drag you down. Don’t get caught up in their cycle of blame and guilt and self-pity. Don’t dwell on the negativity. Believe in the plan that the universe has for you!

Of course, we’re all human, and sometimes we make mistakes. Even when we try our best, there are times when we are the ones putting out negativity. But you always have the power to correct it. Take a minute to write a gratitude list or apologize if you’ve hurt someone’s feelings. If you’ve been grumpy or unkind, try to do something kind to balance it out. There are lots of ways to make it right if you’re willing to try.

And sometimes bad things just happen. But if you’re going through a hard time, try to remember there is a lesson in it for you, and maybe there is something that needs to happen. Losing a job or having a relationship end can be devastating, but keep in mind that if something is meant to be, it will happen. If it’s not, it won’t. And there’s a reason for everything even if you don’t understand it. Even when you can’t see it right away.

A friend of mine told me a story about a time when she lost her job. She was so scared about being unemployed. How would she support her children? While she sent out resumes, she found herself sitting at home depressed. Instead of staying in the negativity, she called her son’s teacher. “Give me something to do,” she asked him. “I need to get out of the house.”

As it happened, the school was going through a transition, and that teacher had been drowning in extra work. He was thrilled to have another pair of hands. Instead of sitting at home feeling sorry for herself, my friend spent her days being useful. Volunteering made her happy, so she went to job interviews with a sunny disposition. Right about the time things started calming down at the school, my friend got an offer for a job that was even better than the one she’d lost. “If I hadn’t lost my job, I couldn’t have been there when that teacher really needed me,” my friend says. “And if I hadn’t been helping him, I might have been too depressed to get my new job!”

What she thought was a tragedy turned out to be a real gift. Trust in the universe and come from a good place, and trust that what you put out will come back to you.

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Should I Let My Loved One Know They Are Dying?

Should I Let My Loved One Know They Are Dying?

How to tell a loved one they are dying, and if you should.

Losing a loved one is the hardest thing in the entire world. When someone you love is sick, it can make you feel like you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. Sometimes, the emotional connection is so strong, you can actually feel their pain. If you are the caretaker for your loved one, you may be faced with the decision of letting that person know they are dying. It’s one of the most sensitive and emotionally challenging conversations you can ever have, but it is an important one, and here’s why…

Everyone has the right to know .

Sometimes, you have to put yourself into that person’s shoes. Wouldn’t you want to know? When you are truthful with that person and let them know their condition, it gives them time to think and act. When you know your time is limited here in this world, your thoughts begin to change. That person might want to reach out to an old friend or family member, take care of some last-minute business, or share things with you they once were afraid to or apprehensive about. They may even want to repair things with someone they disagreed with in the past. It doesn’t take away time from them; it gives them more.

You don’t have to tell them how long they have left unless they ask.

Letting a loved one know they are passing doesn’t mean you have to give them every detail or you need to lay everything out on the line. Normally, that person will give you cues to show they want to know the truth. They may ask you about their general health and what the doctors are saying, or they might come right out and ask, “Am I dying?” The best thing to do is to offer the information slowly. Let them know things like, “The doctors have done everything they could, but it’s ok. We are going to make the best of it.” You can ask them if they want to know more about the results of their illness, and they will answer truthfully. Be sure to give them a lot of reassurance. Most likely, they already have an idea that things are not good, and many times, they will look to your reaction for comfort.

Be honest but gentle.

It all goes back to that saying, “It’s not what you say; it’s how you say it.” Act normal and positive. Your attitude should say, “This is now in Heaven’s hands and you are going to enjoy the time Heaven has given you.” Dying people have high hopes and strong faith. Most people do not want to tell a loved one they are passing out of fear it will upset them and or make them lose the will to live. What I have found is that people who are passing have strong faith for themselves. Many times, when given the news, they don’t give up but fight harder for more days, hours and seconds. They value the time they spend with their families and want to make the most out of it.

No need to repeat it. Just reassure them.

After breaking the news to the person you love, there is no need to repeat it unless they ask. Sometimes, they will bring it up, but many times, they won’t. You don’t need to remind them of their illness or about passing; just go back to normal life conversations. Allow the last days, months or years to be filled with making new memories that will last. Sometimes, the best days of a person’s life are the last days because they are with those they love around the clock. They see friends and family they haven’t seen in years, and they feel loved and safe with their friends and family being with them.

Ask questions, and set aside special time for that person.

It’s important you help the person who is passing with any unfinished business or goals. Asking questions like, “Is there anything special you would like?” or “Is there anyone special you would like to see ?” is important. You will also notice the person passing will want to spend as much time with you as possible. It’s important that you clear your schedule and give them as much time as possible with you. As hard as it is, you may also have to put your personal feeling aside if your loved one asks to see someone you don’t particularly get along with. Although it might be upsetting for you, they might get the inner peace they need from being able to see or connect with that person.

Let that person enjoy their final journey.

Nobody goes to Heaven kicking and screaming. It can seem scary at first, but what I have been told by those in sprit is that nobody enters Heaven alone. As they are passing, they are greeted by old friends and family members who have also passed on. Death is the final journey and a beautiful part of life; allow it to be an experience for that person. You can help them by holding their hand, playing soft music or lying next to them so they feel your presence. Sometimes, they might ask to be alone when making their transition, or they might wait for you to leave before passing, and that’s okay too. Even if they cannot speak, remember they can hear you. Let them know you love them and that you are ok. It sometimes can help to remind them that a loved one is waiting for them. For example, telling your Dad, “Mom is waiting for you,” can help to remind him of the beauty in death. You can also ask them to send you a specific sign that you choose to let you know they are ok and at peace.

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Bright Ideas For A Gloomy Day

Bright Ideas For A Gloomy Day

Nothing is worse than a gloomy day. Here are some inspiration thoughts to help you to smile and stay positive.

When it’s cold and gloomy, it can be a challenge to get out of bed in the morning – and working on your new life resolutions is probably the last thing you want to do! It’s tempting to just hibernate, and sometimes the grey skies can even get us into a bit of a depression. Here are some happy thoughts to help warm and brighten you up from the inside.

Your Loved Ones Are With You

Remember your loved ones are watching over you. Look for signs that they are with you. Sometimes it might be something small and silly that makes you laugh. That’s great, because they want you to laugh and be happy! My friend has a small stuffed animal toy that she keeps in her car. It was something that was very special to her and her dad. “It’s been there for a year and has never moved,” she told me. “Then one morning, I was feeling sad and down. I stopped at a red light, and the toy suddenly slid down into my lap. I had to laugh.” She took that as her dad saying hi to her, reminding her that he was there with her. It brightened her day, and now whenever she looks at that toy, she smiles, remembering her dad is there with her every day.

Don’t Forget To Breathe

Sometimes it can be as simple as remembering to breathe. Sit quietly with your hands on your abdomen. Watch your hands rise and fall with each breath. This simple exercise can help re-energize you and get you more in sync with your body, mind and spirit!

Self Care

With all the bundling of scarves and socks and boots, we might forget the person there underneath all those layers. Self care is important in the cold winter months. Treat yourself to a “me day”! Give yourself permission to cuddle up on the couch and watch your favorite show. You don’t have to be busy doing all the time. Sometimes, it’s healthy to just be. When it’s dry and cold, our hands get chapped, and our skin feels dry. Pick up some new lotion or a lip balm with a festive label. Those little touches of self care make all the difference!

Pay It Forward

When you’re really in a funk, it’s good to do something nice for someone else. One time, I was bringing my cat, Lord, to chemotherapy, I had taken time out of my schedule to run to the cat hospital, and I was all stressed out about the work piling up back at the office. I was rattled and upset – worrying about Lord and feeling overwhelmed. I pulled into the drive in for a cup of coffee, and when I pulled out my wallet at the drive-thru window, I learned that the person in front of me paid for my coffee at Dunkin Donuts. Wow! That was so great. The girl at the drive thru suggested that I pay it forward by buying coffee for the person behind me. Great idea! That just made it even better. The kind stranger in the car in front of me had no idea what a terrible morning I was having. I didn’t know who that person was, or even if they were a man or a woman, but they made my day. And their kindness expanded to the next person too!

Whatever is going on, there’s usually a way out of the dark. When it’s cold and dark on the outside, remember you can light a spark of warmth and light on the inside. And your light can shine so brightly that it warms and inspires the people around you too!

Just remember that you are never alone. You have Angels and loved ones in Spirit that are with you and watching over you. Even when you do not feel them, they are there. I hope this article brought you a little bit of comfort and made you smile. I hope one day to see you at one of my group readings in the future. It is truly amazing how so many people walk in sad and nervous but leave hopeful and inspired just by being part of a group reading. If it feels right, I hope that you will take a look at my group reading schedule by clicking HERE. You never know when there is a message waiting for you in Spirit.