The Life Review

The Life Review

Looking Back on What Really Matters

When people lose a loved one, the pain is often so strong that they’d do anything to connect with that person again. I get a lot of calls during the early days of loss, and I always urge the bereaved to wait at least a few months before scheduling a reading.

It might seem strange that there’s a “waiting period,” but trust me – when a soul transitions, they have some work to do before they’re ready to come through to a medium. I never thought of passing over requiring a wait until I started talking to the dead on a regular basis – and then it made perfect sense.

So, based on my conversations with thousands of souls, here’s what they’re up to between the time they pass and the time they might come through to a medium or send you a sign that they’re around.

 

Passing Through the Veil.

First thing, when you pass, you have to “lighten up.” There are many heavy feelings and emotions we hang onto in life, like anger, resentment, judgement, jealousy, and insecurity. When you’re alive you know that those emotions are not doing you any good and you should probably let them go, but it’s hard to do.

Once you pass, you don’t have a choice. When you transition to Heaven you have to release the heavy emotions that weigh your energy down. Imagine trying to cross over dragging resentments and negative energy. Talk about baggage!  Heaven wouldn’t be heaven anymore. Transitioning is like passing through a veil or a filter, your energy has to be clear and light to come through.

 

The Life Review.

Have you ever been in a situation – maybe a class or a workshop – where you were learning something new, and afterwards you felt you needed to sit for a while to absorb what you’d learned? It’s the same thing you pass, except the “workshop” is your whole life.

When a soul transitions, they look back on their time on earth as if they’re watching a movie – only from their new perspective, they can see the events very, very, clearly. Without justifying or getting defensive, they review their life, with all its twists and turns. Some souls take longer than others to complete their review and progress to the next level. They might even have some tasks to do to help them raise their vibration.

It’s kind of like AA in that way – you have to acknowledge what you’ve done and sometimes make amends before you can move on.

 

Making Amends.

The life review shines a light on what really matters in life. When you’re on the other side, you’re no longer attached to your career, your bank balance or your body fat ratio. That’s all fine when you’re alive, but you leave that stuff behind when you die.

What you look back on is the love and compassion you shared, the people you helped, and the difference you made in the world. You also see the unfinished business and the  people you hurt. You become fully aware of the ripple effect your behavior had on others. Luckily, it’s never too late to make amends.

When a soul has completed their life review, that’s when they can come through to the living and make things right.

 

I can think of many examples:

  • A woman came to my event and immediately her mother came through apologized for making her daughter feel so guilty for putting her is assisted living.
  • A man came through and said that he wished that he could take back the vicious letter he had left for his wife blaming her for his death. He was bipolar and had killed himself, but he regretted blaming her. Looking back, he realized that his problems had nothing to do with her.
  • An older woman begged me to let her son know that she should never have pressured him to spend so much time with her, and neglect his own children. She realized in her life review that she was being selfish.

The process of passing over, letting go of negative emotions and looking back on life is a gift that allows the soul to evolve. They have the opportunity to let go of any grudges or negative feelings,  go through their life review, and then, when the time is right, help their loved ones on earth to learn from their experience and feel their love.

 

Forgiveness from Heaven

As a medium I never know who will come through and try to talk to me. I will say I find the best readings happen when someone comes through that you are not expecting to hear from. Because of the life review sometimes souls that you never got or have a closeness with will sometimes come through. For example I recently had a woman’s father come through who she never got to know because he left home when she was just a child. Because of his selfish ways, she never eve knew he died until years later.

After he passed on, he was able to see the hurt and pain he caused his daughter by her not having a Father in her life. He came through with a message for her and explained his actions. He wanted her to know that he took full responsibility and that he was sorry. Because of this message she felt she could finally think of her Dad and smile. It was like in an instant the years of pain just lifted away and she could breathe again.

This is the reason why I have been doing online group readings. It’s not about the individual messages as much as it is a learning experience for us all. The spirits have plenty to teach us and tell us. When we connect with them and listen to their messages, we realize that they never truly have left us. If you would like to attend the next online group reading with me, click here to register. 

 

 

 

Spirit Orbs In Pictures

Spirit Orbs In Pictures

Have you ever taken a photo, and when you looked at it later, noticed something you couldn’t explain?

There may be a ball of light, or a blurry shape, or even a faint image of a person or animal. What the heck! That wasn’t there when you took the picture! What are those things?

The natural reaction when you see something unexpected is to try to find a reasonable explanation. Is it just glare, or a shadow, or a reflection? Sometimes, but a lot of the time, what you are seeing is evidence of souls in heaven that are still around you.

As a medium, I get a lot of photos and videos sent to me. Some of them are absolutely wild!

I remember a woman sent me a video she’d gotten from a security camera in her home. One night she heard some bumps and odd noises downstairs, but in the morning when she looked around, nothing had been moved and everything seemed normal – until she looked at her security footage. In the video she could clearly see several small globes of light zooming around her living room like pinballs! When I saw them, I immediately knew they were orbs.

What is an orb, and why do they exist?

Orbs are transparent balls of light energy that are connected to spirits. They’re usually seen in photos, but in rare cases people who are particularly sensitive can spot them without a camera. These orbs can be a variety of shapes, sizes and colors.

Orbs usually show up when there’s an occasion with a lot of emotional significance – like a wedding, a graduation, or a holiday gathering.  Even though they can’t be there in their physical form, the soul is still drawn to the event and their energy is sometimes captured on camera in the form of an orb.

Discovering the soul behind orbs, blurs, and images.

When people come to me with their photos, they naturally want to know if what they’re seeing is coming from the other side, and if so, if it’s an angel, a departed loved one, or just a random ghost. I usually get a sense of who it is, and some psychics like my mom can even discern a face or a form. Some people are really good at seeing the soul behind the orb or flash of light. My Mom has always been very gifted in seeing faces and spirits revealing themselves in pictures

Sometimes people know exactly who is represented and just want confirmation. I did a reading for three sisters on a recent group call, and their father came through. He had so much to tell his daughters and gave me a lot of information that proved to them that it was really him!

After thanking them for loving him and taking care of him through all his illnesses, he said “Tell them I was the orb in that picture.” It turns out that a photo taken over the holidays had a clear orb, and his daughters felt like it was his energy coming through. They were right!

There’s a ghost in my picture!

Sometimes the image in a picture is more than just a globe of light. I remember something that happened when I was just getting started with my mediumship, and it blew me away! It was Christmas, and my boss invited me to his house for a holiday gathering. As soon as I got there, I saw the spirit of a little blonde girl run by wearing a white communion style dress holding a little Yorkie dog.  I told the group, and they laughed because they were Vietnamese. There were no little blonde girls in their family. My boss used to tease me about it at work – “remember the little blonde girl?”

Later that season, he came to me and he wasn’t teasing me anymore. He showed me a photo he had taken of his Christmas tree, and the little girl and her dog were right there, in the photo, sitting at the base of the tree. My boss asked around and did some research in the neighborhood and sure enough, he found out that there was a young girl on the street who had passed – along with her little dog.

Signs and signals.

Seeing orbs and images in photos shouldn’t come as a surprise, for a couple of reasons. First of all, we are all energy – and that energy doesn’t go away when we pass. Paranormal energy disrupts things like electricity, turning lights on and off and causing static on television and radio, as well as appearing in photos. Souls in heaven can be very determined to let their loved ones know they’re around – especially during significant or emotional events. I think that it’s no accident that their energy shows up. It’s just another way they can be there to share a special occasion with the people they love.

If you would like to learn more about Heaven and the Afterlife, you would really enjoy reading my new book ‘When Heaven Calls’. Each chapter is filled with secrets of afterlife and divine wisdom that I have learned over the many years I have had working with spirit. If you are interested, you can order a copy right now on Amazon by clicking here. I really hope you enjoy it. 

 

The Difference Between Ghosts & Spirits

The Difference Between Ghosts & Spirits

People expect me to be really into Halloween. They figure because I’m a medium, I’m into ghosts and hauntings and stuff like that. That’s not really the case. There’s nothing spooky about the work I do – it’s really the opposite. Most people will do anything to feel connected with their loved ones in Heaven, so I guess you could say they’re running toward those spirits, not away from them.

That doesn’t mean I don’t like Halloween. I think it’s fun!

Alexa and I love celebrating Halloween in the same way most people do. We get all dressed up every year and our families do too. I love the creativity that goes into the Halloween costumes and decorations, and it’s fun to see the kids running from door to door trick-or-treating.

Since I get so many questions on this topic, I thought I’d share some thoughts about Halloween and the days that immediately follow it.

My Halloween History.

When I was a kid, my father hated Halloween. He felt that when you celebrated it, you invited negativity and evil souls into the house. He still let us dress up and trick-or-treat, but he wasn’t happy about it.

I thought my dad’s attitude was unusual until other people started saying similar things and asking me questions. They wondered if celebrating Halloween, watching scary movies, or practicing mediumship invited ghosts into to your house. The truth is no.

Why not? Well, it helps to understand the difference between a spirit and a ghost.

Spirits are deceased family members and friends that you loved, knew and cared for here in this world.  They are familiar to you because you once shared a bond and connection with them.

A ghost is someone that you don’t know that has died. That’s what makes them a little bit scary. They too are spirits, just ones that you are not familiar with because you never knew them here in this world or had a bond with them.

Growing Up Psychic.

When I was a kid that’s the reason why I was so afraid of ghosts. When my family members in spirit used to visit me, it was fine. I loved connecting with my grandmother and other relatives in spirit. It brought me comfort and I never even realized when I was young that they died. The moment that strangers started to appear in spirit it would freak me out!

The more I pushed them away or tried to ignore them, the more persistent they got. My mom explained that they recognized my gift, and just wanted to get a message through to their own loved ones. They didn’t mean any harm.

Remember that just like your loved ones in spirit, ghosts used to be someone’s family as well. Even though you didn’t know them in life, it’s possible to sense their presence under certain circumstances.

For example, years ago my neighbor died. She had loved her house, but after she passed away her family had to sell it. The new family told me they could still feel her presence there. It wasn’t spooky, but they knew that as long as that house was standing, she’d be watching over it, and the people who lived there. As strange as it was, they felt comforted by it.

 Are There Evil Spirits?  

There is a darkside to psychic ability, and there are such things as negative souls just like there are negative people. My Mom always taught me , “Don’t go looking for trouble.” You won’t find them unless you seek them out. Negative souls like to spend time alone. Participating in Halloween or going to a reputable medium doesn’t open up a portal of invite spirits into the house.

Have I ever sensed a malignant spirit? Yes, but they’re extremely rare. I’ve had thousands of connections with loving, well-meaning souls for every one that was even slightly negative.

I don’t spend a lot of time dwelling on negative spirits and I certainly don’t go looking for trouble. I’d never dream of touching a Ouija board, and I don’t make it a habit to seek out haunted places. Remember that negativity of any kind can ony affect you if you invite it into your life.

Choose to do all things with your heart.  If you don’t focus on darkness, you’ll be fine. Watch your intentions, keep your energy light, and to play it safe, don’t mess around with spells, the occult, or Ouija boards they are not needed. The love in your heart is the strongest connection between you and your loved ones.

All Saints Day and the Day of the Dead.

While I don’t feel a special attachment to Halloween just because I’m a medium, I do feel very connected with the two days after Halloween when Mexican families honor their departed loved ones.

While we are getting dressed up and having fun being scared, in Mexico families are getting ready to honor those they love who are now in spirit.  Their celebration starts late on October 31st and goes through November 2nd.  November 1st is “el Dia de los innnocentes” or the day of the children and All Saints Day.  November 2nd is All Souls Day or the Day of the Dead.

In the Mexican culture, this is a special time that’s all about celebrating the lives of those who have passed over. Families visit the cemeteries where their ancestors and loved ones are buried, bring gifts, food, and pictures and spend the night with them thinking of the joyful times.

While this is not part of my culture, this celebration resonates with me and I deeply appreciate it. During this time, I like to remember my own lost loved ones in a very special way and send them prayers.

What is Heaven Like?

If you would like to learn more about Heaven and the Afterlife, you would really enjoy reading my new book ‘When Heaven Calls’. Each chapter is filled with secrets of afterlife and divine wisdom that I have learned over the many years I have had working with spirit. If you are interested, you can order a copy right now on Amazon by clicking here. I really hope you enjoy it. 

 

 

 

 

Breaking Negative Life Cycles

Breaking Negative Life Cycles

Alexa says  I’m pretty predictable, and I guess she’s right. I admit it, I’m a creature of habit!

I almost always start my day with loud music while I get ready, followed by a quick trip to Dunkin Donuts for coffee and a chocolate glazed. After every one of my live events, (except during Covid) I have to go out for a late meal (usually to cheesecake factory) , and I always get dessert. Oh, and I also have a hard time passing a shoe store without going in.

I enjoy my routines and rituals. They’re comfortable, and they help me feel like I’m in control of my day. But habits like singing along with Donna Summer in the morning are different from destructive patterns that block you from having the life you want. That’s when being predictable isn’t so good.

 

Recognizing your Destructive Patterns.

It’s easy to fall into negative behavior patterns without even realizing it – and suddenly you’re asking yourself why you have the same issues over and over again and feeling like the whole world is out to get you.

Examples:

 

  • Do your friends roll their eyes every time you tell them you’ve met someone new and swear that this time it’s going to be different?

 

  • Are you constantly worried about money, but you can’t seem to get a decent paying job or control your spending?

 

  • Are you always sick and tired, battling one health issue after another?

 

  • Do you sabotage relationships with friends and co-workers, and you can’t figure out why wherever you go, the same thing keeps happening?

 

Positive Thinking is Just the Beginning.

They say that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. I’m a big believer in positive thinking and manifesting what you want in life, but I also know that everything isn’t going to go your way all the time and that’s okay. Sometimes life sends you challenges to teach you lessons and make you stronger.

It’s not until you actually recognize what’s going on and make the decision to change course that you break the cycle. These are called learning cycles, and they help you to grow.

 

Searching for her Father’s Love

I once knew a girl named Amanda who could never find love. Even though she wanted to be in a committed relationship more than anything, she would date men that were not serious about her. She seemed to be a magnet for abusive men who didn’t care about her, until suddenly she saw the pattern, and did some soul searching.

Amanda realized all the men she had dated reminded her of her Dad, who left her when she was young. A lightbulb went on! She realized she was trying to replace the love she hadn’t gotten from her dad with these other unavailable, uncaring men.

The moment she realized what was going on she knew what she had to do. She started listing out what she really wanted in a relationship. She wanted a potential husband, someone who was respectful and loving, and who she could depend on.

She decided to change course and try online dating to find someone new. She was going to avoid her old type and seek out a man who met her new requirements. Guess what? The moment she changed her path, her soulmate appeared.

What Does it Take to Break a Pattern?

To find love, Amanda had to do more than just “think positive.” She had to go through a process, and she couldn’t do it until she admitted she had a problem. The steps she went through can help break any kind of negative pattern whether it involves relationships, money, health, or career.

 

Five Steps to Breaking Negative Cycles.
  • Recognize the situation for what it is, and don’t sugarcoat it. Amanda kept making excuses for the men in her life and ignoring the warning signs when she met someone new. It wasn’t until she realized she was picking the same type over and over that she was able to address the problem.
  • Realize that the common denominator is you. If the same thing happens with every job you have or every person you date, it’s not just bad luck. In order to break the cycle, you need to change your mindset, and your behavior.
  • Realize the WHY of what’s happening. Amanda finally realized she was looking to replace her father’s love. That insight helped her break the pattern. Everyone’s WHY is different. Someone who was ignored by their parents might create a lot of drama as an adult because they still crave the attention they missed when they were young.
  • Fear is not your friend. I notice a lot of people who are always worried about their health seem to be sick all the time. Fear can attract exactly what you don’t want. When you feed into a fear, you  give it life. Instead focus your energy into positive thoughts.
  • Close out your learning cycle by deciding exactly what you do want. Make a list, create a vision board, post positive affirmations where you can see them often. Focusing your energy in a positive direction will attract a boost from the universe to help get you there!

 

If you’re not happy with your relationship, your job, your financial situation, your health, or anything else in your life, know that  you have the power to change. There’s no time like the present, because no one knows what tomorrow will bring.

I talk to souls in heaven every day who regret ignoring opportunities to learn lessons and make the changes that would have made their experience on earth better and happier. Looking back, they see the lost opportunity, and realize that they could have broken the negative cycles that kept them from living their best life.

These are just some of the many life lessons and spiritual teachings I have learned from those in spirit. If you have found this helpful, I would like to share with you my new inspirational audio class series. You can start listening right now by Clicking Here. I hope it helps you on your own spiritual journey.

 

Questioning A Loved Ones Passing

Questioning A Loved Ones Passing

Have you ever lost a loved one and questioned what really happened to them? 

People book readings with me for lots of reasons. Usually it’s because they miss their departed loved one like crazy and need to talk to them one last time and make sure they’re okay,  but there are times when people are looking for more from a reading. Sometimes there’s a mystery associated with the death that leaves everyone who knew the person wondering what really happened. When there are questions around someone’s passing, it can make the loss even harder on those who are left behind.

Many times, I’ve been able to give closure and peace by answering questions like:

  • Was my loved one’s death an accident or a suicide?
  • If it was a suicide, did they regret their decision before they died?
  • Did something I said or did cause their death?
  • Was there anything I could have done to prevent the tragedy?
  • Did the incident really happen the way the police or witnesses said it did?
  • Is someone hiding an important detail of what happened?
  • Was my loved one murdered?

Losing someone you care about is painful enough without having to deal with lingering uncertainty and guilt. On the other hand, knowing what really happened makes it possible to start to let go of your grief and sadness so you can begin to heal.

Was it an Accident or Murder? 

I’m not a psychic detective, but from time to time I’ve used my gift to solve mysteries. I have to tell you – these have been some of my most gratifying readings.

When your loved ones come through during a reading, they come through for a reason. They want to

I recently had a mother and daughter attend one of my group online readings. The moment Tami and her daughter appeared on screen, her Son in spirit was standing right there behind them. The mother was struggling with the loss of her son, who had died as the result of a tragic accident. She had some doubts about what had really happened. She had been told he had fallen off a train, but she had a nagging suspicion that he may have been pushed. Her son came through and wanted me to convince his mother that the whole thing had been an unfortunate accident. He had been drinking and having fun on the train until he tried to jump the cars, lost his footing, and fell. No one else was to blame.

He let his mother know that he appreciated how she had always looked out for him, and he knew how much she loved him. His wish was for his mother and his sisters to start to let go – and to find joy in life again. He knew his mother didn’t even want to celebrate holidays because she missed him so much, but he wanted his family to find happiness and joy together. He begged his mother to let go of her guilt and grief, and assured both his mother and his sister that he is with them every day.

He shared this final message “I made a mistake and I’m sorry. I didn’t feel anything, one minute I was falling, and the next minute I was in Heaven. I want you to know that I’m here.”

Cherish Every Minute.

It’s natural to want to make sense of a horrible tragedy, but sometimes the worst things just happen and there’s no logical reason at all. Over the years, I’ve learned a lot from souls who have passed. They’ve shown me how unpredictable life is, and how you have to cherish every minute. They’ve shared their regrets at not taking the advice of people who loved them. They always ask me to let their loved ones know that, regardless of what happened – they are always there.

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Attend An Online Reading With Me.

If you have some loose ends and lingering doubts about someone who has passed, I’d love to help you get some answers. Go to my website and explore the options. You can book a private session with me, or  attend an online group reading.

 

10 Ways To Connect With Spirit

10 Ways To Connect With Spirit

It doesn’t matter if you’re the one passing over or the loved one left behind, either way, it’s difficult to let go.

I’ve seen mothers who were gravely ill hang on with everything they had so they could be there for their daughter’s wedding or their son’s college graduation. I’ve known fathers who wouldn’t quit until they had settled their affairs, and made sure their family would be provided for.

You know that death is a part of life and that Heaven is a beautiful place where your loved one will be at peace and pain-free – but it still hurts to think you won’t be able to spend time with them or talk to them on the phone.

There are ways to ease the pain of letting go. A recent experience I had at an event illustrated this.

What is it like to die ?

A young woman came to an event. She looked like the picture of health. Her mother who’d passed a few years earlier came through immediately and told me her daughter was very sick. She’d been watching from Heaven as her daughter received her treatments.

The daughter came up to me after the event and asked me to tell her about death and dying. What she had to say brought tears to my eyes.  She was terrified of dying because she wanted to be there for her two teenage daughters as they reached important milestones – but her doctors were telling her she didn’t have much time left.

I had to help her. We arranged to meet one-on-one a week or so later. I explained what Heaven was like but what she really wanted to know was how to reach out to her daughters after she passed.

I recommended she devise signs she could share with her girls—pennies or rainbows or anything her daughters could look for that would tell them their mother was ok.

Right after we talked, she sat down with her daughters to put together different words, songs, and signs they could watch for after she passed. That way she could send specific messages when they were sad, celebrating, or just missing her. It put her mind at ease to know she now had a way to be there for them as they grew up.

About two years later the mother of two young women in the audience came through.

“I feel I know her,” I said but I couldn’t place her.

“She did a reading with you when she was alive.”

The women told me they’d come that night because they knew that if their mom came through to anyone it would be me. Their mother let me know our plan had worked. The daughters thanked me for encouraging them to set up the signs before she passed.

Doing so had made her passing a just a little less painful, and had given them great comfort over the years.

Staying In Touch With Those Who Pass Away.

Not everyone has the chance to set up signals and signs for loved ones before they pass. Sometimes death comes suddenly, and there’s no time. But there are many ways to feel connected to loved ones in Heaven.

Here are just a few ways to keep the close:

1. If possible, arrange for a sign before they die, just like the girls did in the story I just shared with you.

2. Write a letter to your loved one and “send” it to them. You can burn it, read it aloud to their picture, or if your message is short, write it in the sand at the beach, and let the tide wash it away.

3. Create a personal shrine with a picture of your loved one and something that belonged to them. This doesn’t have to be a “traditional” shrine. Anything that is meaningful to you, set in a place where you will see it often, will keep their memory close.

4. Look out for coins, cardinals, butterflies and dragonflies. These are all classic ways that souls in heaven reach out to the living.

5. Pay attention to songs on the radio – you might hear one that was significant to both of you, like a song you danced to at your wedding, or it might contain a message that resonates with you at that moment. Either way, it’s their way of reaching out to you.

6. Write down your dreams. Dreams are probably the most common way the dead bridge the gap between heaven and earth.

7. Talk about them! Keep their memory alive with others, but don’t focus on their death. Sharing happy memories and funny stories is what attracts them and brings them closer.

8. Visit a place they loved. This doesn’t have to be a big production. Of course, you can travel across the globe (when it’s safe to fly) but you can also go to their favorite restaurant or park.

9. Don’t be afraid to be happy and enjoy your life. Souls in heaven are not jealous or resentful. Their greatest wish is for their loved ones to live their best life.

10. If you’re not sensing the presence of loved ones, be patient. They might be adjusting to the transition. It sometimes takes souls up to a year to come through to a medium, or to send a sign to loved ones.

As a psychic medium I wish that I could loan a pair of my eyes to every single one of you so that you could truly see that your loved one in spirit is right by your side. Of course that can’t happen, but I did the next best thing. I started doing Live Online Group Readings during the pandemic where you and family can join me with other families across the country and be part of an online psychic reading event.

The experience is truly amazing. Its all done by video and so I will be able to see all of you and you will be able to see me LIVE right from your home. What is truly incredible is that during these events as I start to see different families appear on screen, I also start to see their loved ones in spirit standing behind them. So far these Live Online Group Readings have allowed me to meet so many of you that I would have never been able to meet and read before. As of today I can proudly say that I have read over 250 people during these readings alone.

If you are stuck, anxious or missing a loved one, I hope you will join me with your family and take part in this event with me. All you need is a computer, iPhone/smartphone or tablet to attend. Space is limited so if you would like to attend, please Click Here.

In the meantime, keep an eye out for all the amazing signs around you. Even though you may not feel them at times, I promise you your loved ones are closer than you think.