As a medium, I look at death differently than most people. When I connect with souls on the other side it’s clear to me that while the dead may no longer be with us in a physical sense, their personalities and memories endure – and so does their love for the people they left behind. Because of that perspective, I don’t consider death to be an ending, but rather a transition to another state of being.
That being said, I absolutely understand how devastating it is to lose someone you love. It doesn’t matter if they were young or old when they passed, if they died suddenly or suffered for years. Death leaves a hole, an open wound that can block out the joy and happiness from your life.
When someone passes, you might go through a period of denial, but it doesn’t take long before you feel that first wave of grief, probably accompanied by loneliness, tears, and regret. Grieving is hard. Everyone who loses someone must go through the stages of grief in their own way. But it doesn’t have to be forever, and you can come out the other side stronger and with a new sense of purpose.
When you break your arm, it hurts when the doctor sets the bone and continues to ache as the bones knit together. But with that pain comes healing. It’s the same thing with grief. The pain and loss you feel means you are moving toward healing.
Sometimes, all you want to do is hide from the pain, avoid memories of the person, and pretend nothing happened. I get it! But the steps you take in the grieving process are important if you want to feel better and make the most of your own precious time on this earth.
Having your broken arm set, wrapped in a cast, then wearing that clunky cast as a reminder of your injury is no fun. It’s hard to shower. You can’t exercise the way you’d like to. But you must go through those steps for your arm to heal, so you can be active and whole again.
The things that are hard to face can be the key to your recovery
Years ago, I had a woman attend one of my events. She was still stuck in a state of grief over her daughters passing, years earlier. After the tragic loss of her beloved daughter, she shut the door to the girl’s bedroom and never opened it again. After 12 years the door was still firmly shut, and everything in the room was exactly the same as it was the day her daughter died. Unfortunately, the mother’s grief was the same too. She was afraid to take the steps she needed to start processing her loss.
She refused to look at pictures, relive memories, or go through her daughters’ belongings because she was so afraid that the sadness would be too much for her to bear.
I talked to her and explained that as much as she wanted to avoid it, she needed to feel that pain to heal and eventually move on.
And while going through her daughters’ belongings would make her sad, it also would bring back all the memories and good times. As she looked at photographs and mementos, she would cry, but she would also smile, and remember her daughter – the way she had been in life. In that way, she would be reconnected with the soul of her daughter, and would finally be able to move on and find comfort.
Don’t hold onto your pain.
Healing pain is a breakthrough pain. It’s the anger and sense of loss that is released after the grief of a loved one. If you hold it in, you’re holding on to that anger, and that can make you feel depressed and hopeless. If you let out the tears, and talk about your loved one, visit places they loved, make their favorite recipes, play their favorite songs, you’ll feel them, and you’ll slowly start to feel better.
It’s not hopeless. Just like I am telling you that you must go through the hard process of grieving, I can assure tell you, without a doubt, that your loved one is not gone! They are with you, loving you and watching over you. And you can feel their presence if you open yourself up to those painful, beautiful memories of them, and your time together.
As you navigate through grief, it can help to experience proof of the afterlife. If you’re ready, I suggest attending one of my online reading events. You don’t even have to leave home! Even if you don’t get a reading, seeing other souls come through can give you a hope and comfort. Or check out my YouTube channel to watch some amazing messages from souls in Heaven.
It happens all the time. For years, someone will follow me on social media or write to me. They make it clear that they can’t wait to attend an event so they can meet me in person and get a reading. Then, when the time comes and I am finally in their city or state, they get cold feet and don’t show up.
Recently, a woman bought a ticket to my Las Vegas show, and at the last moment decided not to attend. I know she had someone she wanted to connect with – but something held her back.
This to me is just the saddest thing. There may have been a loved one in Spirit waiting for her and when she decided not to attend, it left no way for me to give her the message.
I decided to write this blog post for one important reason – to explain why you should never fear attending a mediumship event or getting a reading. Here are ten facts about mediumship that will put your fears to rest:
1. Your loved ones are not dead, but they have transitioned.
Many people think that their loved ones will be “different” on the other side. Although they may now be a spirit, one thing will never change – your connection to them. Your mother is still your mother, your father is still your father, and your sister is still your sister in Heaven.
The bond that you shared with them is still alive, even though they have passed on. And here’s something you’re going to like! When you’re having a reading, you might be surprised to find your loved one’s personality is just the same as when they were alive – and the memories and stories they share in a reading can reassure you they are still with you.
2. Readings give everyone in the room a little glimpse of Heaven.
With every reading that I give, something amazing happens. Even if you are not the one receiving the reading, you’ll learn about Heaven and the Afterlife.
In fact, that’s the reason I know so much about Heaven and the afterlife. With every message I share, souls give me window into their lives in Heaven – including who they are with and what they are doing. Take if from me, getting that peek into what happens when we pass is life-changing!
3. We become more aware of our own psychic connection and are better able to recognize signs from Heaven.
During readings, souls will often tell me the signs they use to reach their loved ones in this world, like dreams, animals, repeating numbers and songs on the radio. They also help us recognize and understand our own psychic connection. You’ll realize that you are more psychic than you might think, and can feel their presence even when there’s not a medium in the room!
4. Souls only come through when you are ready to hear a message.
When it comes to connecting with loved ones in Heaven, it’s best not to overthink things. If you are being drawn to a mediumship event, but question if you’re “ready” to hear a message, my advice it to “let go.” Show up at the event and let heaven decide.
Remember that even with private readings, there is no guarantee that you’ll get a particular type of message or that a certain soul will come through. This is why I encourage everyone to attend an event, because it gives your loved one the opportunity to reach you if the time is right and you are ready.
For example, it you attend an event and are not emotionally ready to hear a message, your loved one will wait until you’ve had a chance to heal, because they only want to deliver messages that will be helpful to you.
5. There may be unfinished business to resolve.
Some people won’t attend an event because there is someone they don’t want to hear from. They might be afraid that the message will be negative, judgmental, or in some way difficult to hear. Don’t worry! When a loved one chooses to come through, they do so with love.
I have seen many relationships heal after death because of a particular reading. Keep an open mind! Sometimes it’s the souls that you don’t want to hear from that come through and bring the most healing.
6. Will I hear bad things?
Remember that your loved ones in Heaven are there to love, watch over, and protect you. The readings I bring through prove that fact again and again. Sometimes the information might not be what you want to hear, but at the end of the day, it will help you to heal and confirm that your love are watching over you
7. Attending a mediumship event opens the door to Heaven.
Remember that attending an event doesn’t just give you the opportunity to reach a loved one in spirit, it also gives your loved one a way to reach out to you.
It always amazes me that before every event there are a bunch of “early-bird” spirits that show up way before the show. They have usually been trying to reach you, but you may not have felt them. When you make plans to attend an event, they know it’s their chance to deliver you a message – loud and clear.
8. It’s not a sad experience!
The other night after my Arizona show, a woman came up to me and said she had no idea an event could be so “fun”! It’s true there are sad moments when we talk about death and dying, however many of the souls that come through are quite funny and full of personality.
During the night, so many souls come through, share stories, and act like their old selves. I love when their personality comes through because it reminds us of who that person was before they were sick
9. Readings give us hope.
When I first met Alexa, she was petrified of the thought of death and dying. Today, that’s no longer that fear. When we talk to souls that have crossed over and they share what Heaven is like, it demystifies the afterlife and helps us to feel closer to those we love. That’s such a healing, life-changing thing!
10. You will sense the presence of those you love.
If “letting go” of someone you love after they pass doesn’t feel right to you, I am here to tell you that you don’t have to. Spirits are with you each day. My readings show people that although we may lose someone physically, we never lose them spiritually.
When you attend a reading, you will learn to sense and feel their spiritual presence with you as you walk through life.
Take a leap of faith!
So now that I have told you all the reasons why you shouldn’t be afraid to attend a mediumship event, are you ready to take the leap of faith?
If you’re not ready, take your time. I’m not trying to push you, but I am hoping this blog post will reach that one person who NEEDS to attend an event but is hesitant to fill the trigger.
Maybe that person is you…
If you would like to attend a reading there are two ways to do so, either online, or in person. Either way, you can check out your options by visiting my events page. Go ahead, there’s nothing to be afraid of – and a whole lot of love, comfort and healing to gain!
Do you ever ask yourself why you are here on Earth? The life you’re living right now is just one stop on your soul’s journey, but it’s an important one.
Your purpose is to evolve and grow by experiencing challenges and learning life lessons. Then, when you pass, you take the lessons you learned here on Earth and bring them to Heaven to share. The experiences you had while you were living will allow your soul, and every single soul in Heaven, to continue to evolve, learn, and grow in the afterlife.
Putting it all together
If you think of heaven as a giant database, this will all make more sense. Imagine that everyone who dies brings a “file” or notebook of the lessons they learned with them, adding them to the “universal database” of knowledge that is shared by all souls.
In Heaven, you will finally have access to this vast array of universal knowledge. You won’t be limited by your human brain and five senses. Instead, you will be able to understand and know all things. This will be an incredible revelation, as you can finally understand the mysteries of life.
Knowledge without limits
In Heaven, everyone has access to the sum of all human knowledge. That includes all the arts, all the sciences, all the disciplines of learning. Imagine being able to know and understand everything – the whole story of history, every person’s individual perspective, and the “real” truth about life, death, and the afterlife.
There are no professors or experts in Heaven because everyone is part of the universal consciousness – meaning everyone knows everything. This might sound crazy and overwhelming at first, but it’s the opposite. In Heaven, you never have to worry about making a mistake, because you already know the right answer. You never have to worry about forgetting something important, because you have access to every fact and concept that exists. You never have to worry about being bored because there’s always something new to explore.
Best of all, because the spirits see things through a heavenly perspective, they can see things clearly, without the biases and filters we living people have. That is why they always gives us the best advice and send us signs to help guide us through life.
Everything changes when you cross over
This divine wisdom is why souls in Heaven can be so helpful to the living.
You’ve probably heard me say that when someone passes, they can’t bring their heavy emotions like resentment and fear and jealousy with them to the Other Side. Souls in Heaven also have no self-interest. That frees them up to see things clearly, and with the infinite storehouse of information and wisdom they have access to, they are in the best position to help you on your own journey.
If your deceased Mother is coming through to me and trying to provide you with guidance, it’s worth taking seriously. Mom might have had a personal agenda, and not understood everything when she was alive, but the advice she shares now comes from a whole new perspective.
Everyone can learn from Heavenly messages
Loved ones in spirit come back to guide you and watch over you because they are filled with love and want nothing but the best for you. They want you to be happy and live your best life, and do not want you to make the same mistakes that they did.
When I’m doing a group reading, I remind everyone to listen closely to the messages I bring through to other people. You can learn so much and apply it to your own life. I love knowing that every message I bring through has the potential to help not just the recipient, but everyone in the room, including me! I take every opportunity I can to share this wisdom during events, and through my blog and books.
If you’re wondering why you’re here on Earth, it’s to learn lessons to help your soul to grow, and add to the universal wisdom available to every soul in heaven. Then, when you get to Heaven, you’ll have the chance to share that wisdom with the living, helping them live their best life on Earth, and beyond.
Recently, someone asked me a question that made me stop and think. She wanted to know if you can always count on a message from a psychic or a medium coming true. Well, the answer is, yes and no. Spirit is ALWAYS right in their predictions when they make them, but that’s assuming your own actions don’t cause events to shift.
The Benefit of a Heavenly Perspective
Your loved ones in spirit watch over you, and can clearly see your past, present, and future. If you’re having a reading with a medium, these souls welcome the chance to come through with insights that can help you. Because they are coming from a divine space, they see the whole picture without bias, judgement, or self-interest, so it makes sense to listen carefully to what they have to say.
They may even continue helping after the reading is over, giving you signs you can follow to stay on course to achieve your dreams. But here’s what you need to keep in mind. Your own actions play a part in whether the predictions come true.
That’s where free will comes in.
What is Free Will?
When a psychic mentions “free will,” they are referring to the personal choices you make every day that determine your future. While your past may influence the present, you always have the power to deviate from your future path. This means that you can change your destiny by making different choices.
Don’t get in the Way of Positive Opportunities
People always hope that a spiritual reading will give them encouraging news. Everyone wants to hear that they have an exciting new job or a wonderful relationship in their future. I hear those messages a lot from souls in Heaven, and of course, I’m happy to share them. But the funny thing is, people can still mess things up.
Your father in Heaven might see you getting your dream job, but that just means that the job is out there, and you will have the opportunity to be hired. You could do everything right and enjoy a successful career. Or you could be late for the interview and blow the opportunity before you even get started. You could also get the job but perform in a way that eventually gets you fired.
Your mother might see you meeting your soulmate. She may even pull some strings in Heaven and bring you two together – but at any point in the relationship, you could make a choice that causes it to go sour. You might find someone else more attractive, or you could drive the person away if you take them for granted or treat them badly.
In both cases, the message from Heaven was correct, but your behavior changed the outcome.
Caution Signs from Heaven
Some people worry that a medium or psychic will tell them they have cancer or are going to die in a plane crash tomorrow, I couldn’t do that because souls in Heaven can only see what has happened and what is scheduled to happen in the future. But they can’t 100% predict the future, because you have free will, and can change the course of your life at any time.
Your mother might come through with a message that your blood pressure is high, or that you’re on track for other health issues. If you start eating healthy and exercising, everything can change. People sometimes ask if they should go to a psychic after they make lifestyle to find out if things have improved. I tell them it’s better to take the advice of spirit and follow up with their doctor.
It’s not like a horror movie where you can’t escape your fate, the choice is yours to make. I like to think that Heaven lays out pathways for us to follow, and it is up to us to pick what road to follow.
The choice is yours…
So, bottom line is that when a loved one in Heaven sends you a message through a medium, listen closely to what they have to say.
Remember that those are predictions of things that are “scheduled” to happen, but if they DO happen is based on destiny, combined with your own actions. Free will ultimately puts you in control. If I tell you that your Mother is predicting that you will meet your soulmate this year, take it seriously, and don’t get in the way of your own happiness.
By taking Spirit predictions seriously, being aware of your own behavior, and making conscious, smart choices, you can create the life that you want to live.
Did you know that there are times when people become psychic through means other than heredity? Near death experiences, birth events and sudden life events can suddenly unleash psychic ability.
Near Death Experiences
Most often, it occurs after a near-death experience. I had a client who was involved in a car accident and nearly died. She was on a respirator, and all hope was nearly lost. Her chances of recovery were slim to none.
Right before the family was faced with the decision to take her off life support, she miraculously woke up. When she was released from the hospital and came home to recover, she started seeing strange people in the house. She didn’t realize they weren’t really there. Her family thought she was having hallucinations, but it turned out her brush with death had opened up a connection to the other side.
Near-death experiences have been known to give people psychic ability, and it makes sense to me. After all, they were halfway to heaven, so it’s possible for them to retain that connection even after they recover.
Psychic At Birth
Sometimes an event that happens at birth can cause someone to be psychic. For example, I’ve heard of babies who were born with the umbilical cord wrapped around their neck and grew up to have psychic abilities.
There are rare instances where psychic ability is totally random. There’s no reason; no one else in the family is a psychic or a medium. For no obvious reason, someone is just born with the gift.
One Last Thing…
There are many people who discover they are psychic at a young age and they push it away. But it never really goes away. They can always get the ability back by opening themselves up to it again.
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Should I Stay or Should I Go? Why Some Souls Choose To Hang On Just a Little Longer – And Others Don’t
One thing I’ve learned over the years of being a psychic medium is that the dying have their own ideas about when to let go and when to hang on. I’ve heard from souls who clung to life with every drop of their remaining strength waiting for one special person to arrive so they could say goodbye – and others who took advantage of a moment when they were completely alone to take their final breath.
Naturally, there are catastrophic events and sudden accidents where people pass immediately, but when someone dies of illness or old age, they may have some measure of control at the end. I have learned from spirit that the reasons they decide to hang on a few more days or hours or to pass quickly are as individual as the souls themselves.
When It’s Hard to Say Goodbye
Once during an event, I connected with a father who had barely survived after having a massive stroke. He was put on life support and just when his family thought they had lost him, he pulled through. He couldn’t speak or communicate, but the machines were removed and he lived for two more weeks as his loved ones gathered from around the country to be with him.
During the reading, he told me he had consciously made the choice to hang on. His soul had been on the way to Heaven when he realized he wasn’t ready. He said that he had asked God for just a little more time with his family before he passed over. He was aware that during that time he would not be able to speak, walk, or communicate, and that hanging on would be painful, but he didn’t care, he just needed some time before he said goodbye.
Not everyone gets the opportunity for a “late check-out,” but I have heard of it happening every so often, especially to those who have lingering illness or a deep-seated fear of dying.
A Helping Hand From the Afterlife
I’ve been in contact with so many souls on the other side that I don’t view death as an ending – simply a transition.
However, some people are afraid to leave the familiarity of their earthly life and cross over alone. When they need someone to guide them across the veil, help is available in the form of loved ones who have passed before them. They might show up days or even weeks before. It’s common for the dying to be visited by a mother, grandfather, even a deceased pet before they pass. If they’re reluctant to let go, the comfort and support of that soul is sometimes all it takes to ease their journey.
Leaving Pain Behind
When you think of a dying person choosing their time to go you might assume they want more time. Maybe they’re holding out for something – a significant event, seeing someone for the last time, getting their affairs in order. But it also happens that people make the transition sooner than expected.
Often this is because they don’t want to cause their loved ones any more pain – or they don’t want to experience their own physical and emotional pain any longer. These souls usually tell me that they had clarity at the moment they chose to pass and realized they would be leaving behind their pain along with their physical body but would still be there in spirit for their loved ones.
I recently did a reading for a Man who had suffered a massive heart attack and lost oxygen to the brain. He explained to me that he chose to transition into Heaven rather than stay alive on a machine. He felt it was more painful for his family to see him like that, and it would be easier for everyone if he just passed away.
Memories of a Lifetime
When someone passes over, the loved ones they left behind tend to think about their last days a lot. They worry if they weren’t in the room when the person drew their last breath and beat themselves up about the things they didn’t have a chance to say. They might not realize that their loved one might have engineered their final moments for a reason. I always tell people not put too much weight on those last moments – from the perspective of a soul in Heaven, it’s the whole relationship that matters.
In fact, many souls will come through and apologize for what their family had to wait them go through in their final moments. It is for this reason that souls will often come through during a reading or in dream to show their loved ones here on earth that they are no sick anymore. As a medium I love seeing the joy and relief that families experience by hearing from their loved ones and knowing that they are not sick anymore.
If you would like to connect with a loved one in spirit or learn more about Heaven and the Afterlife, I hope you will attend an online group reading or LIVE event by Clicking Here. When you attend an online reading or event, you give your loved ones the opportunity to reach you with a message. I never know who will come through or speak to me, but I do know one thing… I am happy to be their voice.