Why Some Souls Choose To Hang On

Why Some Souls Choose To Hang On

Should I Stay or Should I Go? Why Some Souls Choose To Hang On Just a Little Longer – And Others Don’t

One thing I’ve learned over the years of being a psychic medium is that the dying have their own ideas about when to let go and when to hang on. I’ve heard from souls who clung to life with every drop of their remaining strength waiting for one special person to arrive so they could say goodbye – and others who took advantage of a moment when they were completely alone to take their final breath.

Naturally, there are catastrophic events and sudden accidents where people pass immediately, but when someone dies of illness or old age, they may have some measure of control at the end. I have learned from spirit that the reasons they decide to hang on a few more days or hours or to pass quickly are as individual as the souls themselves.

 

 

When It’s Hard to Say Goodbye

 

Once during an event, I connected with a father who had barely survived after having a massive stroke. He was put on life support and just when his family thought they had lost him, he pulled through. He couldn’t speak or communicate, but the machines were removed and he lived for two more weeks as his loved ones gathered from around the country to be with him.

During the reading, he told me he had consciously made the choice to hang on. His soul had been on the way to Heaven when he realized he wasn’t ready. He said that he had asked God for just a little more time with his family before he passed over. He was aware that during that time he would not be able to speak, walk, or communicate, and that hanging on would be painful, but he didn’t care, he just needed some time before he said goodbye.

Not everyone gets the opportunity for a “late check-out,” but I have heard of it happening every so often, especially to those who have lingering illness or a deep-seated fear of dying.

 

 

A Helping Hand From the Afterlife

 

I’ve been in contact with so many souls on the other side that I don’t view death as an ending – simply a transition.

However, some people are afraid to leave the familiarity of their earthly life and cross over alone. When they need someone to guide them across the veil, help is available in the form of loved ones who have passed before them. They might show up days or even weeks before. It’s common for the dying to be visited by a mother, grandfather, even a deceased pet before they pass. If they’re reluctant to let go, the comfort and support of that soul is sometimes all it takes to ease their journey.

 

Leaving Pain Behind

 

When you think of a dying person choosing their time to go you might assume they want more time. Maybe they’re holding out for something – a significant event, seeing someone for the last time, getting their affairs in order. But it also happens that people make the transition sooner than expected.

Often this is because they don’t want to cause their loved ones any more pain – or they don’t want to experience their own physical and emotional pain any longer.  These souls usually tell me that they had clarity at the moment they chose to pass and realized they would be leaving behind their pain along with their physical body but would still be there in spirit for their loved ones.

I recently did a reading for a Man who had suffered a massive heart attack and lost oxygen to the brain. He explained to me that he chose to transition into Heaven rather than stay alive on a machine. He felt it was more painful for his family to see him like that, and it would be easier for everyone if he just passed away.

 

Memories of a Lifetime

When someone passes over, the loved ones they left behind tend to think about their last days a lot. They worry if they weren’t in the room when the person drew their last breath and beat themselves up about the things they didn’t have a chance to say. They might not realize that their loved one might have engineered their final moments for a reason. I always tell people not put too much weight on those last moments – from the perspective of a soul in Heaven, it’s the whole relationship that matters.

In fact, many souls will come through and apologize for what their family had to wait them go through in their final moments. It is for this reason that souls will often come through during a reading or in dream to show their loved ones here on earth that they are no sick anymore. As a medium I love seeing the joy and relief that families experience by hearing from their loved ones and knowing that they are not sick anymore.

If you would like to connect with a loved one in spirit or learn more about Heaven and the Afterlife, I hope you will attend an online group reading or LIVE event by Clicking Here. When you attend an online reading or event, you give your loved ones the opportunity to reach you with a message. I never know who will come through or speak to me, but I do know one thing… I am happy to be their voice.

The Heavenly Perspective

The Heavenly Perspective

Leave Your Baggage at the Gates 

 

Sometimes people will say to me, “Matt, my father never believed in mediumship or anything like that when he was alive.” They think being a skeptic will keep their loved one from reaching out to a medium after they die, but that’s not true. Countless times, I’ve received amazing messages from souls who were the biggest non-believers when they were alive! And that’s not the only thing that changes.

 

If you’ve ever wondered if your loved ones are “different” in Heaven, the answer is, yes and no….

 

When someone dies, it’s like going through a screen, and a lot of things don’t pass through. That’s a good thing! As they transition to the other side, your loved one leaves behind all the “heavy emotions” like anger, pain, and judgement they carried with them in life, and become the best version of themselves. They still have their memories, their personality, and their sense of humor, but they exist in Heaven without judgement, addiction, and anger.

 

This matters for a few reasons. First, it explains how someone’s mindset about mediumship can do a total 180 when they reach the other side – and it also means your dearly departed has let go of any grievances and grudges they have with the living. For the most part, they don’t care if you cremated them instead of burying them, or if you didn’t visit them as often as they would have liked.

 

They are drawn to bring siblings together and want everyone they left behind to get along and be happy. They see everything through the most loving filter, and their best self only sees the good intentions in the people they care about.

 

Sometimes when an unexpected message comes through, people have a tough time accepting it. They can’t believe their grumpy old uncle is watching over them and sending them love – but trust me, it’s true.

 

Those are NOT my Parents!

 

I’ll never forget a reading I did years ago in New Hampshire. A woman came to a show and immediately I saw her Mom and Dad behind her in spirit. The moment I told her they were both there and standing together, she looked at me and said “There is NO way that is possible, you have the wrong person! Those can’t be my parents.” She explained that her Mom and Dad hated one another and there was NO WAY they would ever spend a minute in Heaven with one another. I delivered her a detailed message from each of them; however, she couldn’t absorb the message. She could not stop dwelling on the fact that her parents came through together. This woman was so angry she even went as far as to call me a fake and a fraud online and left a bad review.

 

Honestly, I wasn’t hurt by this. I knew she was taking her pain out on me, and I also understood that she didn’t understand what it means to transition to Heaven. Crossing over requires moving on and letting go. It’s not an option. If souls brought their burden of pain and resentment and trauma with us to Heaven, it wouldn’t be a place of peace.

 

Often during readings divorced parents, stepdads, and biological fathers, adopted parents and birth parents will come through together. That’s NOT because Mom and Dad suddenly fell in love again in Heaven. It’s because they’ve “left their grudges at the pearly gates” and they’re together, united in their love for YOU.

 

A loved one in Heaven might have something to tell you.

 

If you’ve avoided meeting with a medium like myself up till now because you think there’s no way a loved one would come through, based on their beliefs when they were alive, give it a try. Souls change when they cross over, and I see people every day who are shocked by who is coming through for them.

So if you’re willing to give them another chance, I’m on the road again doing live events, but also keeping up with my online group readings – so wherever you are, you can join me. Who knows? Someone on the other side might have a surprise message for you.

Sometimes people will say to me, “Matt, my father never believed in mediumship or anything like that when he was alive.” They think being a sceptic will keep their loved one from reaching out to a medium after they die, but that’s not true. Countless times, I’ve received amazing messages from souls who were the biggest non-believers when they were alive! And that’s not the only thing that changes.

 

If you’ve ever wondered if your loved ones are “different” in Heaven, the answer is, yes and no….

 

When someone dies, it’s like going through a screen, and a lot of things don’t pass through. That’s a good thing! As they transition to the other side, your loved one leaves behind all the “heavy emotions” like anger, pain, and judgement they carried with them in life, and become the best version of themselves. They still have their memories, their personality, and their sense of humor, but they exist in Heaven without judgement, addiction, and anger.

This matters for a few reasons. First, it explains how someone’s mindset about mediumship can do a total 180 when they reach the other side – and it also means your dearly departed has let go of any grievances and grudges they have with the living. For the most part, they don’t care if you cremated them instead of burying them, or if you didn’t visit them as often as they would have liked. They are drawn to bring siblings together and want everyone they left behind to get along and be happy. They see everything through the most loving filter, and their best self only sees the good intentions in the people they care about.

Sometimes when an unexpected message comes through, people have a tough time accepting it. They can’t believe their grumpy old uncle is watching over them and sending them love – but trust me, it’s true.

 

Those are NOT my Parents!

 

I’ll never forget a reading I did years ago in New Hampshire. A woman came to a show and immediately I saw her Mom and Dad behind her in spirit. The moment I told her they were both there and standing together, she looked at me and said “There is NO way that is possible, you have the wrong person! Those can’t be my parents.” She explained that her Mom and Dad hated one another and there was NO WAY they would ever spend a minute in Heaven with one another. I delivered her a detailed message from each of them; however, she couldn’t absorb the message. She could not stop dwelling on the fact that her parents came through together. This woman was so angry she even went as far as to call me a fake and a fraud online and left a bad review.

Honestly, I wasn’t hurt by this. I knew she was taking her pain out on me, and I also understood that she didn’t understand what it means to transition to Heaven. Crossing over requires moving on and letting go. It’s not an option. If souls brought their burden of pain and resentment and trauma with us to Heaven, it wouldn’t be a place of peace.

Often during readings divorced parents, stepdads, and biological fathers, adopted parents and birth parents will come through together. That’s NOT because Mom and Dad suddenly fell in love again in Heaven. It’s because they’ve “left their grudges at the pearly gates” and they’re together, united in their love for YOU.

 

A loved one in Heaven might have something to tell you.

 

If you’ve avoided meeting with a medium up till now because you think there’s no way a loved one would come through, based on their beliefs when they were alive, give it a try. Souls change when they cross over, and I see people every day who are shocked by who is coming through for them.

So if you’re willing to give them another chance, I’m on the road again doing LIVE events, but also keeping up with my online group readings – so wherever you are, you can join me. Who knows? Someone on the other side might have a surprise message for you.

Spirit Can Be Anywhere At Any Time

Spirit Can Be Anywhere At Any Time

I can’t believe how many of my friends are still working from home after Covid. They’re still as productive and busy as ever – it’s just that their companies now realize it’s not necessary for employees to physically come into the office every day. Employers have a choice and can decide if people are better off working from home, coming into the office, or doing a hybrid of both.

 

It’s the same for me! I’ve chosen the “hybrid option.”

 

I’m happy to be back on the road again, but can’t imagine ever giving up my Online Group Readings on Zoom. I love the fact that people can join me from anywhere, anytime, even if they’re unable to travel or have some other restriction (like, for instance, the fact that gas is $6.00 a gallon).

 

And even after all this time, I’m surprised by how many people still ask me questions like “How can you give a psychic reading on the phone or by Zoom. Don’t you need the person to be in the room with you?”

 

I guess the simplest answer is that I don’t need anyone to be in the room with me – not the person getting the reading, and not the soul in heaven. The connection happens at a much higher level – it transcends the physical.

 

Your Own Energy is the “Link” to Your Loved One in Heaven

 

When people question how I can connect to spirit remotely, it doesn’t upset me. In fact, I like having the chance to demonstrate how Heaven works and that spirit is EVERYWHERE and more importantly, to show how souls will do just about anything to connect to the ones they love most -YOU!

 

To this day, I’m still amazed that when I enter a theater to do a live show, not a soul is there. My footsteps echo in a big empty room. However, the moment people start to enter, they bring their loved ones in spirit with them and next thing you know the room is filled with both the living and the dead.

 

That EXACT same thing happens during my online group readings on Zoom. I sign in a few minutes early to meditate and get in the zone, and the event starts off quietly. But the moment people start to sign on I begin to hear voices and get impressions of their loved ones.

 

The same way as when I’m onstage, I can sense a son looking to connect with his mother, a husband who wants me to communicate with his wife, a sister looking to share a message with her brother, and on and on. I can tell which souls are especially determined to wrap up unfinished business, which ones are shy about coming through, and I feel all the different emotions.

 

A Conference Call with the Other Side

 

How is this possible? How can your loved ones be with you, but also talking with me? Think of it like a 3-way telephone conference. You call me up on the phone or connect with me on Zoom and your loved one is there – as if they’re attending the event or added to the call.

 

If you think about it, they’re never physically in the room with us – even if we’re together. We share an energetic connection, and if they can join us from Heaven, you can certainly connect from New York City, Idaho, Germany, or wherever you happen to be!

 

Who is My Loved One With?

 

I had a woman write to me who was so confused. She woke up from an incredible vivid dream of her Father that had died years earlier. Excited to share the news with her sister, she ran and grabbed the phone, only to find out that her sister had the exact same dream at the same time she did!

 

She was puzzled, was her dad visiting her or her sister? The answer is both.

 

Heaven is a place where your loved ones can be in multiple places at once. They just think of who they want to visit or see, and instantly there are there. Its kind of like television. From our homes we can be in many places. Just by changing the channel we watch the news, see stories, sporting events and conferences LIVE from anywhere around the world.

 

Your loved ones do just that, they use a special ‘channel’ to be able to tune into us and connect with us no matter where you are. For them its just like changing the channel on the TV remote.

 

The Bottom Line – Spirit is Everywhere, All The Time

 

There’s something exciting and fun about attending a live event, and you know I love being on stage and connecting with people on person. But you don’t have to get on a plane or in your car and travel to receive a strong, accurate reading.

 

Still not convinced? I promise, it will just take a few minutes during a group reading event for you to see for yourself. Think of it this way, if I can receive messages from souls on the other side, I can easily connect with a living person anywhere on Earth.

 

When you realize how the love connection you share with that special Soul isn’t dependent on being together physically, you’ll realize something else…

 

Spirit is energy, and that energy is with you everywhere you go. I love being able to bring you messages and healing from friends and family in Heaven and I’m blessed to be able to do that. I like to think that when I bring you that message, I’m giving you an even greater gift – the realization that your loved one ALWAYS THERE and you can feel them at any time, if you just open your heart.

Sending A Message To Heaven

Sending A Message To Heaven

 

How Can I Get A Message To My Loved One In Heaven ? 

 

People ask me all the time, “Matt, can you tell my loved one how much I love them.” I tell them it doesn’t work that way. As a medium, I deliver messages from heaven, but you don’t need me to talk to someone who has passed. You can connect with them at any time. Your loved one is literally just a thought away. The moment a loved one in heaven comes to mind, picture yourself ringing a doorbell or sending a text. The minute you think about them, they are alerted.

 

But there are other ways to send a message:

  • You can say a message out loud
  • Have a conversation with them in your head
  • Write it down on a piece of paper

Whatever way you choose to reach out, they will get the message and know it’s from you.

 

Wait! What Do I Say?

 

I remember when my grandmother was alive, she loved talking to me. It didn’t matter what I was telling her, she just loved the connection. It’s the same now that she is in heaven. Your loved one loves hearing from you as much as you enjoy hearing from them. You can tell them just about anything:

  • Tell them about your day
  • Let them know what family members are up to
  • Ask for their help: “Mom, I have a job interview, please help me with my anxiety.”

Don’t overthink things. The same things you’d talk about when you were both in this world can be communicated to them when they pass. If you loved telling your mom funny stories about the kids, or asking your dad for advice, don’t stop when they pass.

 

Visiting the Grave Site

 

People make a big point of going to the grave of a loved one, but to be honest, that’s more comforting for the living person. The dead person doesn’t care where you are, just that you’re thinking of them.

The person you’re talking to isn’t in the ground, and you can talk to them anywhere—in the car, in the shower, when you walk the dog. I was doing a reading, and the woman kept thinking, I hope my mom doesn’t know about Billy! I asked her, “Who is Billy?” “How did you know? she asked, Are you reading my mind?”

“No, your mom told me! She can hear your thoughts.”

It turns out Billy was an old flame whom her mom hadn’t liked, and they were dating again. She didn’t want her mother to know, but you can’t keep things from someone who has passed, and you don’t have to!

Your loved ones in heaven aren’t judging you, although they might see the situation for what it is and gently steer you in the right direction.

 

I could go on and on explaining this, but that is the exact reason why I wrote my new book ‘ We Never Die: Secrets of the Afterlife’. If you would like to learn more about Heaven and the afterlife, I invite you to pre-order your copy below.

 

 

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The Silver Lining of Grief

The Silver Lining of Grief

When you’re a medium, you don’t see death the same way most people do. That shouldn’t surprise anyone!

After all, I talk to dead people all the time and prove to myself and thousands of people every day that when someone close to you dies, it’s not over. Those precious souls are still watching over you, sending you signs, and loving you as much as ever.

But while that understanding can soften the blow of losing someone, it doesn’t mean you won’t miss having them with you in the physical sense. Their absence leaves a hole in your life.

You’d probably give anything to have mom, dad, or grandma by your side during every one of life’s big events like weddings, graduations, and the birth of babies. You long for their guidance and support for the little decisions and challenges that come up every day.

I can’t even count the number of people who have come to me, so distraught, because they don’t know how they can go on with their own lives after they lose someone.

But if you feel like you can’t move on from grief, remember this…

Grief has a silver lining. It gives you an opportunity to understand what really matters, to prove to yourself that love endures even after death – and it might even guide you toward finding your true purpose.

 

What really matters?

 

Souls in Heaven love you and want you to live your best, happiest life – and from their Heavenly perspective they know what’s important in the grand scheme of things. When someone passes, their soul goes through a life review where they see the impact of all their actions on Earth.

They review how they treated people, what they accomplished, and the decisions they made – and they learn a lot!

After their review, they want to use that knowledge. If you’re tuned in to their energy, they’ll put thoughts in your head or send you signs. They might even “push” you to see a medium!

In whatever way they can, they’ll guide you in the right direction, so when you pass over, you can look back during your own life review and be happy with what you see.

 

Trust That Your Loved One Will Always be With You – During Big Moments and Small.

 

Open your heart and mind and let your loved one in. Ask them questions, look at photos of them and share funny stories. Share your life with them through your thoughts. And for the best results, do it from a happy, joyful place. Remember, souls are attracted to love, laughter, and celebration.

Here’s an example:

I was recently reading for a mother and daughter who wanted to connect with the father of the family. He had died a year ago, and as soon as he came through, he was persistent in telling me he had been there at the birthday celebration they had for him after they passed.

 

He showed me his daughter walking into a hotel ballroom with a big cake. His family had been planning a lavish 50th surprise party for a year before he died. They couldn’t get their deposit back, so they thought “What the heck!” They went ahead and sent out the invites and gathered to honor his memory. It turned out to be the best party ever – friends and family laughed and cried and celebrated his life. He validated what they had already sensed – that he had been there for the whole thing. In fact, he’d even looked back to watch all the planning that had taken place.

 

Find Your Purpose.

 

Sometimes, the shock of a loss can move people in positive directions. You might finally take the leap and pursue your dream job, take a trip to a place you’ve always wanted to go, or even end a destructive relationship. Losing someone reminds us that life is short, and sometimes you just have to take a chance. And when you do, know that your loved one is right there, cheering you on.

 

Everyone Wants to Leave the World a Better Place

 

You don’t have to go to great lengths to honor your loved one’s legacy. We tend to think of honoring someone with a statue or a scholarship fund. They don’t think that way. They’re happy if you can use what they taught you to fulfill your purpose, be happy, and help and inspire others. They love seeing the positive impact they had on your life, and want to see you pay it forward and make a difference in the lives of others.

By helping you – during their lives or by guiding you after they pass, they have the joy of knowing they left the world a better place.

 

Reconnecting with Heaven. 

 

What I love most about the reading that I give is that they show families that your loved ones have not changed all the much in the spirit world. Even if your loved one passed away many years ago, their love for you is just as strong as it was before passing. I am always amazed by the pain that is healed with every message that I pass on. If you would like a reading I really hope that you will join me at an online reading or LIVE event by Clicking Here.

These events are so much more that an event. To me it is a powerful family reunion where two worlds meet!

A Special Visit from Heaven

A Special Visit from Heaven

The First Soul Connection

Growing up with a psychic Mom was never boring. I have vivid memories of her having premonitional dreams. There were many mornings when she woke up happy and excited after dreaming that a friend or family member was having a baby. She’d rush to the phone to call the person and share the good news, “I had a dream that you were pregnant!”

For her, the dreams always followed the same pattern. A departed family member would appear in her dream holding a child that would soon be sent down to his or her mother here in this world. The souls were always eager to share this news with my Mom because they knew she would pass the message along to the new parent to be. Usually, her predication would be within a just a few days of the couple getting their positive pregnancy test result.

My mother is a gifted psychic and medium, but dreams and visitations like this can happen to anyone. In fact, it happened to my wife Alexa.

A Dream Come True!

From just about the moment we met, Alexa and I always planned on getting married and starting a family. That plan went into action the moment we each said “I do” back in October. However, when Alexa received her first two negative pregnancy tests, she started to feel sad, anxious, and even a little nervous. She wanted to see that positive mark on the test so badly!

One night, she was really stressing herself out. “What if I don’t get pregnant?” she asked. I could see the worry on her face, but I reassured her it would all happen in God’s time – when it was meant to be. Luckily, I didn’t have to wait long for her mood to shift. That very night she went to bed and woke up a changed person. She shook me out of a sound sleep, excitedly telling me she had met our son.

In Alexa’s dream, she was pregnant and gave birth to a little baby boy. She saw herself singing to him in the car, dressing him up in cute outfits – she could see his personality as he waved and interacted with her in the dream. The details were so vivid! He loved Winnie the Pooh, Disney music, and car rides. He was sassy and energetic. She woke up and knew she had met our son. After so many years as a child, watching my own mom have these same types of dreams, I knew it was real.

Alexa connected with our “dream baby” so strongly that she began to miss him – wondering if she would ever get to hold him and love him in real life. To our delight, we discovered two weeks later she was pregnant. The moment she got that result, I knew it was him. Our son!

 

Confirmation & Validation

Sure enough, when we went to the doctor for bloodwork, and it was confirmed that we were having a boy. As a medium, I’ve had souls explain how babies wait in Heaven to be born. I know for sure our boy was waiting and couldn’t resist dropping in on Alexa to let her know. Since I’m the psychic, you would think that I would’ve known first! However, our little baby decided to give Alexa the upper hand on this one.

This wouldn’t be the first time a baby visited its mother or father before being born. I have talked to many people who have had similar experiences. When we’re in a subconscious state, we’re more open to Spirit connections, which is why so many souls visit us in our dreams. It’s not just babies, relatives, ancestors, and friends that have passed away will also make their appearances in our dreams.

 

Remember, that dreams can be a sign that Spirit is around you. Don’t pass it off as wishful thinking – if you have a dream that seems especially vivid, write down the details as soon as you wake up. You might have a deceased loved one trying to close out some unfinished business, or you might be expecting a new little blessing from Heaven!

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