No Birthdays in Heaven

No Birthdays in Heaven

Why Souls Don’t Celebrate Their Birthdays in Heaven


Have you ever tried to figure out how old your loved one is in Heaven? You might think, “Hmm, let’s see, Grandma died when she was 89, and that was 20 years ago. Does that mean she’s 109 now?” Absolutely not. She’s not 109, and she’s not 89 either. In fact, your age is one of the things you don’t take with you when you pass over. Your body houses your soul during your time on earth, but when you die, your soul transitions and you leave your body behind. Souls in Heaven get to  “travel light” without clothes,  jewelry, or any earthly possessions. And they definitely don’t need any clocks or watches – because they’re in Heaven for eternity, time is irrelevant! 


Leaving Time Behind


I’m excited to share insights about Heaven that I’ve learned over the course of many readings. We all want to know what the afterlife is really like, and it’s really interesting to understand time (or the absence of it) from a Soul’s perspective. Let’s start with when you’re alive. During your physical lifetime, every year matters. Each birthday marks another milestone passed on your life’s journey.  You are on this planet to use this time to face challenges, learn lessons, create memories, share love, and fulfill your destiny. 


As humans, we see our “lifetime” as all the time we have. But it’s different in Heaven.


Your age marks the amount of time you’ve been alive on Earth; when you pass over time just stops. The important connections you made on Earth stay with you in the afterlife, but Heaven is eternal, so there are no hours, days, weeks, or years.


That’s why your loved ones don’t celebrate their own birthdays, anniversaries, or any other milestone date after they pass over. However, they will be there in Spirit when you enjoy your own special days, and they especially enjoy watching you make progress on your life’s journey. 


When someone dies, the people left behind may feel their absence even more on the birthday or anniversary of their death. Souls don’t want you to be sad on that particular day. In fact, they don’t want you to be sad at all, because they’re doing just fine, and they are always around you! But they do enjoy their memories of you, and want you to remember the happy times you shared with them.


Thanks for the Memories!


Here’s another crazy thing. As you go through your life, it’s impossible to remember everything. A few early memories may stand out, but for the most part, you don’t remember your first steps, your first birthday party (or your second or third), and many other events you experienced when you were young. As we get older, our brains can only hold so much. If you’re anything like me, you’re probably thinking,”Right, Matt, I can barely remember what I had for breakfast!” That’s okay, you don’t need to remember everything while you’re alive.


But those memories are not lost forever. Even if someone was suffering from Alzheimers, dementia, or were distracted and not paying attention when they were alive, when a soul transitions, all the things they experienced in their life, significant and insignificant, come rushing back. 


That’s why, if you get a reading, you might notice that your loved one will share all kinds of memories of you. They’ll jump from something that happened when you were very young, to your wedding. They will even have memories that happened to you after they died. 


That’s right. Time isn’t important in Heaven, but memories are treasured.


When it Comes to Memories, The Line Between Heaven and Earth is Blurred.


I just did an online reading for a woman whose mother died when she (the daughter) was just six years old. The woman wasn’t sure if she could get a good reading, because her mom had passed so early in her life – but as the reading went on, she was shocked to learn that her mom had memories from when they were together, and also up to the present day! In the reading, it was clear that her mom was still watching over her daughter, and the grandchildren she had never met in life, and had the loving memories to prove it.  


Here’s another interesting fact about the memories Souls retain in Heaven. When they go through their life review they  recall EVERYTHING with total clarity and understanding! Every step they took, every person they interacted with. They not only see the people they met, but also fully understand why their path crossed with them. 


Your loved ones watch over you with pure love. They want to see you make the connections and have the experiences you need to grow. Sometimes they will send you a sign to let you know they’re around, or give you a nudge to keep you on course. They want to see you make the most out of your life, and to be happy. 


Next time you attend a live mediumship event, in-person or online, and are selected for a reading, know that you will be connecting with the soul, the essence, of your loved one. No matter how old they were or what state they were in when they passed, you can be confident that from their place in Heaven, they will have perfect, loving recall of their time with you. 


Heavenly Advice About Finding Your Soul Mate

Heavenly Advice About Finding Your Soul Mate

What Heaven Says About Finding Your Soulmate


If you ask a hundred people to share what they believe is the most important ingredient for a happy life, you’ll get a lot of different answers. If you were to ask a Soul in Heaven the same question, they’d all focus on one important thing – LOVE. 


When I’m bringing through messages from Heaven, you can be sure that the Souls are not preoccupied with work, money, or the physical things they left behind. When you pass over you let go of those worldly things, and what remains for eternity is the love you shared with family, friends, pets and, most importantly, your soulmate. 


The Right Person at The Right Time


People often ask me for advice about finding their soulmate. I’m definitely not the “love doctor,” and I don’t have all the answers, but I’ve learned a lot about the subject from my conversations with the Spirit world. 


I was fortunate to find my soulmate relatively early in life, but I can’t take all the credit for that! Looking back, I’m convinced Spirit was behind Alexa and I getting together. My Guides made sure that our paths crossed at the perfect time –  when we were both ready to have a serious relationship. 


When I think back over the people I dated when I was younger, I wish them all the best! I realize that those relationships were all leading up to my meeting Alexa. The times I shared with those past girlfriends and the lessons I learned were important, because they helped me evolve into someone who was capable of sharing his heart completely when the right person came along. 


Insights From Heaven About Finding Your Soulmate 


I’ve picked up so many helpful insights about finding love and meeting your soulmate, and now, with Valentine’s Day around the corner, it’s the perfect time to share them with you. I’m just beginning my love journey, but this information comes from Souls who have lived, loved, passed over, and now have access to Universal Wisdom. 


Here’s what Heaven wants you to know about finding your soulmate:


  1. To find the right person you have to be the right person.Put your energy behind being the best you can be at work, at home and in every aspect of your life. That way, when the right person comes along, you’ll be ready.
  1. Be present for the person you’re with,not just when you’re on a date but all the time. If you’re always running around, distracted and focused on your to-do list and what you’re doing next, you might miss a chance encounter with someone who could change your life. This is good advice for living your best life in general, but it’s particularly important when it comes to love. Remember – your Guides and Angels will put your soulmate in your path, but it’s up to you to recognize the opportunity when it happens.
  1. Spend as much time as possible doing things you love.Dating apps are kind of like social media. Everyone on there is creating an image they want the world to see. Is it who they really are? Who knows! But if you’re hiking, traveling, volunteering, or participating in an activity you love, it allows the “real you” to shine through – and the same goes for the people you meet.
  1. Create a vision board,where you put together pictures, words, phrases, etc. that reflect the person and the relationship you’d aspire to have. Be creative and let your intuition guide you. Have you ever heard my story of how I met Alexa? If so, you’ll remember that I created a vision board shortly before we met, and when I looked back at it, I saw that I’d included a picture of a girl who looked very much like her.
  1. Love yourself (and others).The most basic piece of advice that you’ll hear when it comes to finding a soulmate is to first learn to love yourself. That goes without saying, but I want to add something to that. The more love you can send out to the world the more love you’re going to attract. We receive from life what we put into it, so shower, your friends, family, pets, and the people you meet with love, kindness and compassion. You’ll find yourself with an abundance of love in your life and that includes meeting a soulmate.
  1. Have an image in your headof the person you’re looking for. I can’t stress this enough – this is personal. It might be fun looking at the hottest actor or supermodel on Instagram, but would you really want to be married to that person or in a relationship with them? Your soulmate is someone you connect with her much deeper level beyond the physical – so know the qualities that are important to you, and be picky about what actually matters!
  1. Tear down the walls. How many times have you heard people say they’re afraid to get in a relationship because they’ve been hurt before. Those walls can protect you, but they also keep you from experiencing the joy that comes from finding your special someone. The secret to getting past this? Do some soul-searching and look for the lesson in that past relationship, forgive, send love, and move on!
  1. Trust your gut. If you meet someone and you feel a special spark, don’t ignore it. Maybe the person isn’t your usual type, but your intuition is telling you to give them a chance. Your intuition is the voice of your Guides and Angels, so pay attention!
  1. Finally, when you find the right person, don’t blow it! So many souls have regrets about this when they pass over and realize they let their soulmate slip away. They met, spent time with, and maybe even married their soulmate. But even if you’re with the right person, there’s no guarantee that you’ll stay together forever. Your Guides can only take you so far, and then it’s up to you to treat your soulmate well and keep the flame alive.


I hope these tips will help you find your twin flame – the soulmate that will enrich your life and remain connected with you through eternity. If you’ve lost someone, and long to hear from them again, I’d love to help! Check out my website to join me for an online reading event, or catch me live. I’ll be touring the United States and Canada this year, and would love to see you. 

Why your child’s imaginary friend might be a SPIRIT

Why your child’s imaginary friend might be a SPIRIT

Your Child’s Imaginary Friend May Be Something More


Recently I did a reading for a woman and her family and a lot of interesting messages came through. One in particular blew everyone’s mind! It had to do with an imaginary friend that had been part of their daughter’s life when she was young. Many years ago, the mother had been pregnant with twins. One was born strong and healthy, but the other had serious health issues and died a very short time after birth.


The soul of the twin who had passed came through in the reading to share that she had spent time with her sister when she was a young child, and had actually been able to experience life through the little girl’s eyes. It turns out that the surviving twin had always talked about her imaginary friend, but never mentioned that “friend” was actually her sister.


Everyone was shocked to learn this so many years later! Even the surviving twin had forgotten the true identity of her “imaginary” childhood companion, but during the reading, all the pieces suddenly fit together. The twin who had passed shared how much love she felt from her parents and her sister, and the reading ended on a beautiful and healing note.


If your child has an imaginary friend, it might be a character that they saw on television or something they dreamed up. But there’s another possibility. Your son or daughter might be hosting a visitor from Heaven. If that’s the case, there’s nothing to fear.


The Soul is coming from a place of love, and the relationship can be very positive for both the child and their Heavenly guest!  Of course, the way you respond when your child shares their experience can make a big difference. More about that later. First, I want to take a step back and explain why it’s so common for Spirit to come through to babies and young children.


Open Minds, Open Hearts. 


It’s important to understand that when a child is born, their soul has just transitioned from Heaven. For the first few months of life that baby still maintains a strong connection to the Spirit World. They are aware of the constant presence of their team of Angels, Guides, and deceased loved ones, which is why you might see a baby smile and gesture at something or someone you can’t see.


To the baby, their presence is perfectly normal. As the baby grows into a young child, their connection eventually starts to fade or they may find a different way of interacting with visitors from Heaven. Some children will maintain a connection with a relative who has passed. Sometimes this will be because they shared a special bond with the person in life. That’s how it was when my Grandmother passed over. 


Visits From Grandma.


I remember Spirits visiting me when I was a boy. They’d usually come at night, and sometimes it would scare me. But there was one visitor who I was always happy to see.  


When I was young, I was very close to my grandmother – my Mom’s mom. When she passed, I could still hear her talking to me, which was confusing. I remember being at the funeral, and it didn’t feel like she was really gone at all.


A while after that, Grandma started visiting me at night in my room. She would sit with me, talk to me and read to me. I loved seeing her! I told my mother, and she was very calm about it. My mother and my grandmother were both psychic mediums, back then they didn’t talk about it that much, but my mom definitely understood what was happening. 


What happened to me isn’t unusual. I’ve had many parents tell me stories about their child pointing to someone in a picture who had died before they were born and acting as if they knew them and had spent time with them. Children are more likely than adults to see Spirit, because their connection is still so open. 


Here’s another reason- children accept what they see. They haven’t learned to doubt their own feelings and observations or to concern themselves too much with what other people think of them like adults tend to do. 


What to do if Your Child is Talking to Souls in Heaven?


If you feel like your child is talking to Spirits, don’t worry! These Souls are not coming through to harm them. Children are pure beings, and will attract only loving energy. Many children treasure their time with their imaginary friends or Heavenly visitors, but some might have fears and concerns. 


Here are some ways you can help your child understand and accept their Spirit connection: 


  • Keep the conversation simple and loving. Talk about their invisible phone line where they can talk to grandma, or something else that is unthreatening and makes sense. 


  • Bring up family members who have passed in a calm, cheerful way, especially when your child asks about people in pictures. If it seems appropriate, let them keep a photo in their room. 


  • When they talk about an imaginary friend, be open and welcoming. Don’t joke around about it with other people, or make a big deal out of it. Take your cues from your child when it comes to involving the friend in family activities. 



Remember, children accept what they see. They haven’t learned to doubt their own feelings and observations. They don’t concern themselves too much with what other people think of them like adults tend to do. Their openness and honesty makes it easier for Spirit to come through! 


Learn more about Psychic Kids


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Can Your Intuition Steer You Wrong? 

Can Your Intuition Steer You Wrong? 

“Trust your gut.” It’s good advice that you’ve probably heard a few times in your life. Maybe your mom said it when you were growing up. More likely you learned the lesson for yourself after you ignored your intuition and regretted it afterwards. 


Listening to your intuition is a way of tapping into the wisdom of the universe. By “tapping in” I mean creating a connection to your psychic self and being aware of what your guides and angels are trying to tell you. 


What if Your Intuition is Wrong?


Can your intuition lead you astray? The answer is complicated. Your psychic intuition is never wrong, however you are a human being, and all kinds of other influences can intrude on your inner knowing. When that happens, wires can get crossed.

Your psychic thoughts and your regular conscious thoughts can easily be mistaken for one another, because they both use your brain to communicate with you. You might be on the right path, being guided in the best possible way, and then your conscious brain jumps in with a thought that incorporates your fears, wishful thinking, and all kinds of outside influences. Suddenly you’re conflicted and unsure of what your intuition is trying to tell you. 


Mixed Messages!


Here’s an example of how your mind can send you mixed messages. Imagine you’re single, and out with friends. A stranger comes up and starts chatting with you. He buys you a drink. You can tell from your friend’s faces that they think he’s attractive, but there’s something about him that seems just a little off.

Your intuition is pinging, sending you warning bells, but your friends are across the bar, giving you the thumbs up. Also, it’s been months since you went on a date, and you worry that you’re being too picky and you’ll be alone forever!

Let’s dissect this situation. First of all, your intuition is telling you that this guy is not for you. But your own fear of being alone and your friends’ signs of approval are “fighting” with your intuition. You also have a conflicting thought that you’re being too guarded and that maybe YOU are the problem.

You start to doubt your intuition, and decide to take a chance on the handsome stranger your gut is warning you against. Weeks later, you realize your intuition was right!

How can you keep this from happening? You can start by  working on identifying your inner voice. 


How do you know if it’s truly your intuition that is guiding you? 


Intuition can be developed and trained over time. You can learn to identify and trust your inner voice more and more as you gain more experience listening to it. Get in the habit of reflecting and meditating on the messages that the intuition is giving you, and keeping track of how often it’s right. 


Keep an eye out for examples of outside influences, free will, and wishful thinking conflicting with what you KNOW in your gut.


Consider these scenarios:


You are sure that someone is going to be your future husband or wife because you feel this enormous infatuation for them, so you ignore the red flags your intuition is sending you. You trust your heart and not your intuition.


Maybe you DO meet your soulmate. You met someone and knew intuitively you were going to be with them forever. But for some crazy reason you treated them badly, or even cheated on them, and you broke up. You changed the future based on your actions. 


Sometimes your timing is off. You may have felt you were going to pass a test and you actually failed it. That doesn’t mean that your intuition was wrong, You could take the test a second time and pass it. Your intuition didn’t give you specifics. It was showing you the end result. 


Your intuition is a valuable tool.


Learning to recognize your intuitive voice is not always easy, but it’s worth it. The more tuned in you are to your intuition and your guides, the less likely you are to be influenced by other people, social media, or anyone who may not have your best interests at heart.

When you’re coming from this place of wisdom and knowing, it can bring a sense of peace, fulfillment and harmony in your life because you’re making choices that align with your own values. So be mindful of your inner wisdom. With practice, you can use it as a compass to guide you toward your true destiny.


Learn more about Psychic Intuition


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Why You May NOT End Up with Your Soulmate

Why You May NOT End Up with Your Soulmate

Thinking About Valentine’s Day


Alexa and I hadn’t even taken our Christmas tree down before we started noticing Valentine’s Day cards and decorations displayed in the stores. It made me smile. Sure, it seemed a little early, but those red hearts and cupids were a happy reminder of how blessed I am to have found my soulmate! 


I’ve been feeling extra grateful for my relationship with Alexa lately. There are a million reasons why, but a big one is that we just celebrated the first holiday season with our beautiful baby boy, Royce.


When I met Alexa, I knew almost immediately that she was “the one.” Not only did we share many important values and experiences, but she fit the image I’d been carrying around in my head (and my heart) for years. In fact, I had made a vision board before we met, and without even knowing why, I included a picture of a girl who was very similar to Alexa. 


I know we are meant to be together, and I’m so glad we met so early in life. I look forward to growing old with Alexa, and I know from experience that everyone is not as fortunate. 


What is a soulmate, and can you count on meeting yours?


A soulmate is your twin flame. Your hearts are intertwined at the deepest level. This special person is part of your destiny, and when the two of you meet it can feel like you’ve been struck by a bolt of lightning. 


It CAN, but it doesn’t always. 


Many things influence what happens when you meet your soul mate – life, circumstances, and free will – to name three!  I can tell you from my experience as a medium, you will carry that soul connection with you into the next world – no matter how the relationship turns out while you’re both alive. 


I understand that it may sound strange to question how the relationship will turn out. After all, if your soulmate is the person you’re destined to be with, shouldn’t everything about the relationship be effortless? As long as you’re both alive, what could possibly go wrong?


Meeting your soulmate is just the first step.


You may have heard me talk about how your spirit guide will do everything possible to help you navigate life. They guide and nudge you along in an effort to ensure that you have the experiences you’re meant to have, meet the people you’re meant to connect with (hello soulmate!), and fulfill your destiny. But your guide can only do so much.

Both you and your soul mate have free will, and the choices you make might accidentally or intentionally separate you from one another. 


With that in mind, here are three reasons you might NOT wind up with your soulmate.


TIMING: The timing isn’t right. Sometimes you meet your soulmate when you’re too young, or when one or both of you is already married. A lot of times when that happens, people find their paths crossing again later in life when both parties are free and available. Sometimes that happens after their original spouse passes, and they might feel a little guilty about it. They shouldn’t!  During readings, I’ve had souls tell me that they were married to someone for decades, but they knew they were not soulmates. From Heaven, they actually helped guide the loved one they had left behind to meet up with their true soulmate. 


SETBACKS: You’re not in the right place emotionally. I said earlier that meeting your soulmate can be a “lightning bolt” experience, but it’s not always that obvious – and the reason is YOU. Sometimes, you’re pursuing another goal, like school or career, and a relationship is the furthest thing from your mind. Your guide will do their best to put you in contact with your soulmate later, when the time is right, but there are no guarantees. You might be closed off from a new relationship, even with your soul mate, because you put up walls due to childhood traumas or a previous bad relationship. One or both of you might be struggling with illness, addiction, or some other relationship that makes you blind to the fact that your soulmate is right in front of you.


MISSED CONNECTION: Something unforeseen has happened. It sometimes happens that soulmates never meet because one of them passes unexpectedly before their paths can cross. Don’t get worried! If this happens, you’re not doomed to live life alone. It’s not unusual to have a long, happy, productive relationship with someone who is not your soulmate. The thing is, you might not reconnect with your husband or wife in heaven – but you will surely reconnect with your soulmate.


So, what happens if you miss your big chance?


Some people get upset when they look back and realize they missed out on being with their soulmate. If you think you missed your chance – don’t worry. You can trust the universe has a plan to bring the two of you back together either later in life or in Heaven. 


Be patient. Don’t put your life on hold while you wait– be open to new experiences and relationships. Getting out in the world, and being open to meeting new people helps your odds of connecting with your twin flame. Stay healthy, and have a positive attitude. Listen to your git! Remember, in the end, if it’s meant to be, it will be. And if it doesn’t happen while you’re alive, you can look forward to seeing your soulmate in Heaven.


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How To Make 2023 The Best Year Ever

How To Make 2023 The Best Year Ever

Have you ever known someone who really needed to make a change in their life? Maybe they wanted to lose weight, give up alcohol, or break off a destructive relationship. They probably talked about doing things differently, but they never actually did anything.

Then, something happened – a health scare, a breakup, or some other major shift – and they suddenly got motivated to change their ways for the better. After a while, they wondered why they had waited so long.

Change doesn’t have to be about dropping an unhealthy habit. Some of the most significant transformations happen when you start expecting more out of life and are willing to push yourself to fulfill your dreams. But change isn’t easy, even when you KNOW the rewards will be great.


I’m Not a Life Coach, But I Can Help…


Do you long to make a positive change in your life, but fall into the trap of waiting for the “perfect moment” or time when everything “settles down?” Don’t wait! You can do things differently any time – but, since it is the beginning of a new year, let that be your motivation to act.

You know what I do for a living. I’m a medium. I’m not a motivational speaker or a life coach. But I do have a perspective that they don’t. I connect with souls on the other side every single day, and I hear their regrets about the things they would have done differently and the dreams they never got around to pursuing.


Those regrets haunt them, and I don’t want that for you!


Many years from now, when you’re looking back on your life from Heaven, I want you to feel like you made the most out of every precious minute. You don’t have to wait to start living your best life. And you don’t have to do it alone. You have a heavenly team to help you!


Here’s how to make 2023 the best year ever by manifesting help from Heaven:


  1. Take an honest assessment of how things are going. It’s the start of a new year, the perfect time to look back over the past year, and ask yourself, “what went wrong and what went right?” Make a list of the good and the bad in your journal. It’s helpful to see things written down, and it will give you a way to chart your progress.
  1. Now, think about the goals and changes you would like to make in 2023. Imagine a life that makes you happy and fulfills your purpose. Take your time and be sure your dreams are really what you want. This is about YOU; it isn’t about meeting someone else’s expectations.
  1. Ask for help from your Angels, loved ones in Heaven, and Spirit Guides. Create a manifestation list of everything you want, big and the small. Losing weight, dropping a bad habit or addiction, starting a new job, redecorating your bedroom, learning a new language, or taking a wonderful vacation. Every day when you meditate, pray, or take a mindful walk, think about the list, and ask your “Spirit Team” for help.
  1. How can Heaven help you? Your team of divine helpers is there for you, but it’s important to be clear about what you want. Come up with a list of way’s they can help you, such as clearing roadblocks, sending you an encouraging sign, helping you make a tough decision, or putting a person or opportunity in your path. Ask for what you want and be open to receiving it.
  1. Do your part. Make a list for yourself of what you can do to make your goals happen. For example – if you want a new job, sign up for networking groups. If you want to take a vacation, set a saving goal and put money aside weekly. If you want to be more present and focused, download a meditation app and use it!
  1. Whatever you decide, remember that follow-up is important. Schedule weekly check-ins on your phone calendar so you can update your journal and keep on track. And don’t forget to celebrate your successes – even the little ones.


Heaven Works in Mysterious Ways.


Have faith in the fact that your Guides, Angels and loved ones in Heaven will help you as long as it is for your highest and best good. It’s normal to manifest about 80% of the things you want. That’s a pretty good result! However things might not come to you in exactly the way you expect them to, or in the time frame you want. But stay positive, keep focused, and use your journal to track your progress. I have so much faith in you! Happy New Year – let’s make 2023 AMAZING!

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