We all have them from time to time. Those nagging, negative thoughts that crop up and try to tell us we’re not good enough, smart enough, or that we’ll never achieve our dreams. These are not psychic feeling or premonitions, instead these are our fears stopping us and blocking us.
In Heaven, the souls that I speak to are living the life they should have here on Earth because fear doesn’t exist. Just like in the spirit world, we don’t have to be a victim of our own negative thoughts! Here are four tips for overcoming negative thinking patterns so you can get back to living your best life.
1. Acknowledge the Thought
The first step to overcoming negative thinking is acknowledging that the thought exists. A lot of times, we try to ignore our negative thoughts or push them away, but that only gives them more power. So instead, take a deep breath and acknowledge the thought. Recognize that it’s normal to have negative thoughts from time to time, but that doesn’t mean you have to listen to them!
2. Reframe the Thought
Once you’ve acknowledged the negative thought, it’s time to reframe it. For example, if you’re having a thought like “I’m not good enough,” try reframing it to something like “I am doing my best.” It may seem like a small change, but changing your inner dialogue from negative to positive can make a big difference in how you feel about yourself and your ability to achieve your goals.
3. Challenge the Thought
After you’ve acknowledged and reframed the thought, it’s time to challenge it. Ask yourself whether the thought is based in reality or if it’s just a limiting belief that you’ve been hanging onto for far too long. Chances are, if you take a closer look at the evidence, you’ll see that the negative thought is not actually true!
4. Let It Go!
Once you’ve challenged the negative thought and seen that it doesn’t stand up to scrutiny, it’s time let it go for good! Release yourself from the chains of negativity and know that you are capable of achieving anything you set your mind to—regardless of what your inner critic might say.
Thoughts are powerful things—they can either hold us back or propel us forward towards our goals and dreams. The next time you find yourself caught in a cycle of negativity, remember these four tips for breaking free: acknowledge the thought, reframe the thought, challenge the thought, and then let it go! You deserve to live your best life free from self-doubt and negativity.
Don’t Be Afraid To Look Back…
Last, look back and acknowledge how far you have come. So often we get caught up in day-to-day life and forget to celebrate our accomplishments, both big and small. Acknowledge how far you have come, even if it feels like you have a long way to go. Remember that every step forward is a step toward your future.
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Have you ever watched a television show or movie with a complicated plot and wondered how things would turn out? If the show is well written, you can be pretty sure everything will get explained and resolved before the final credits roll.
Our time on Earth can be a lot like that, we’re filled with questions, and we hope that by the time we pass, we’ll have all the answers! Life can be hard, and it doesn’t always seem to make sense while you’re going through it. You might wonder:
“Why do I have to struggle through all these challenges?”
“Where the heck are my guardian angels when I need them?”
“What is my purpose on Earth, and am I fulfilling it?”
I don’t want to spoil the ending, but I do have some insight on what happens when the “credits roll” on our earthy existence. If you’re the type of person who has a lot of questions, I think you’ll want to know about what to expect when you take that final journey to Heaven.
I’ve been told by Spirit that the moment we transition into Heaven, these things happen:
- You meet your spirit guides, angels and loved ones, and, even if you had days where you wondered where they were, you’ll be able to clearly see all the ways they helped and guided you in life.
- You learn about your God given gifts. Souls in Heaven have told me that everyone is born with certain gifts that they will use on Earth. It’s funny to think that you can go through life not realizing all the things that make you special – but it happens! That doesn’t mean the gifts aren’t there, and that you’re not using them. When you pass, you see how special you really were, and how your gifts affected you and the people whose lives you touched.
- You discover why you failed and struggled. Challenges help you to learn and grow. They seem bad now, but later in life you’ll understand how they affected your future and what they taught you.
- You’ll understand your soul connections. You may have been married more than once, and fallen in love countless times, but in Heaven your true soul mate will be revealed. You’ll also learn why certain people came into your life – Some were there to show you love, others to teach us hard lessons.
- You’ll gain clarity on your life’s purpose. Although you might think you have a good understanding of your life purpose (and you probably do), the true meaning of our life is not fully revealed to any of us until we pass on.
- You’ll realize the impact you made. Trust me, you’re here for a reason, and made a difference in this world whether you realize it or not. Don’t believe me? Just wait. In Heaven you will be shown exactly how you made a difference
- You’ll tap into vast, universal knowledge. When you pass, you will add what you’ve learned and experienced to the huge, universal “database” that contains all knowledge, and is shared by all Souls in Heaven.
Life can make you question everything, and it’s good to start seeking the answers while you’re alive – so pray, meditate, set your intention to understand yourself and the world around you as best you can. Just know that when you pass over, you’ll gain the ultimate insights and wisdom that will make everything clear.
Do you ever wonder if a loved one in Heaven is sending you a sign?
It might be a bright red cardinal who perches on your windowsill and taps on the glass, a coin that appears out of nowhere displaying the year of your wedding anniversary, or an especially vivid dream.
You see, hear, and feel all kinds of things, all day long, and don’t give them a second thought, but a true sign from Spirit somehow feels different. Before you dismiss a sign as just wishful thinking, take a moment to stop, take a deep breath, and try to figure out who is trying to reach you from Heaven.
Not sure? Here are some questions to help you decode Signs from Spirit:
Spirit signs represent the personality of the departed. Think about when you first noticed this sign and ask yourself, “Who was the first person who came to mind?”
For example, if the sign you receive is the sudden smell of cigarettes that immediately made you think of your chain-smoking uncle, chances are that’s exactly who is trying to reach out to you.
Does this sign appear on a certain date that was important to someone like a birthday, anniversary, or special event?
If you hear your deceased husband’s favorite song when you start up the car on the morning of your wedding anniversary – there’s no doubt it’s him, reaching across the veil to send you love.
Maybe you invited the connection. Did you just go through old picture of them? Were you sharing stories about them with a mutual acquaintance?
Our loved ones are never far away, and when you remember happy times together it draws them even closer – and that’s when they might send you a sign!
If you are receiving signs like dragonflies, birds, and other creatures from nature, think to yourself, who loved the outdoors in your family?
Be on the lookout for signs from nature that strike a cord with you. You might see thousands of butterflies in your lifetime, but the bright blue one that lights on your finger and is the same color as your mother’s eyes feels different – and special.
If you receive a sign in the form of a song, think about the memories that tune conjures up. Did Dad used to sing that song to you? Did you dance to it on your wedding day?
Songs bring up such powerful memories. A particular song might remind you of a time in your life, or the lyrics might hold a message that can guide you through challenging times.
The best way to know if a sign is real Is to trust your gut. If you’re still not sure, be patient and watchful. See if it happens again. You’ll know for sure that a sign is real when it keeps repeating.
Inviting Signs From Spirit
Signs from Heaven are so comforting, they’re like receiving little postcards from your loved ones in spirit letting you know they are there. Signs often will come when you least expect them but need them the most.
The good news is that noticing signs encourages your loved one to keep reaching out with more. And signs aren’t a one-way thing. You can respond to these messages.
Once you figure it out who is sending it, acknowledge the sender.
Say “Thank you Dad!” Or “I know you’re there, Mom!”
Acknowledging signs makes your loved ones so happy! They feel closer to you and are encouraged to send you even more signs.
You can ask for more signs. “Mom did you send me that butterfly? That made me so happy, please send more!
If you’ve asked yourself all the questions, and still can’t figure out what you believe is a sign from Heaven, share your experience with friends and family members who are living. They may surprise you by knowing just who sent it
Of course, you can always come to one of my live events and see if your loved one in Heaven shows up to explain the signs they’ve been sending you!
The first wave of grief…
As a medium, I look at death differently than most people. When I connect with souls on the other side it’s clear to me that while the dead may no longer be with us in a physical sense, their personalities and memories endure – and so does their love for the people they left behind. Because of that perspective, I don’t consider death to be an ending, but rather a transition to another state of being.
That being said, I absolutely understand how devastating it is to lose someone you love. It doesn’t matter if they were young or old when they passed, if they died suddenly or suffered for years. Death leaves a hole, an open wound that can block out the joy and happiness from your life.
When someone passes, you might go through a period of denial, but it doesn’t take long before you feel that first wave of grief, probably accompanied by loneliness, tears, and regret. Grieving is hard. Everyone who loses someone must go through the stages of grief in their own way. But it doesn’t have to be forever, and you can come out the other side stronger and with a new sense of purpose.
When you break your arm, it hurts when the doctor sets the bone and continues to ache as the bones knit together. But with that pain comes healing. It’s the same thing with grief. The pain and loss you feel means you are moving toward healing.
Sometimes, all you want to do is hide from the pain, avoid memories of the person, and pretend nothing happened. I get it! But the steps you take in the grieving process are important if you want to feel better and make the most of your own precious time on this earth.
Having your broken arm set, wrapped in a cast, then wearing that clunky cast as a reminder of your injury is no fun. It’s hard to shower. You can’t exercise the way you’d like to. But you must go through those steps for your arm to heal, so you can be active and whole again.
The things that are hard to face can be the key to your recovery
Years ago, I had a woman attend one of my events. She was still stuck in a state of grief over her daughters passing, years earlier. After the tragic loss of her beloved daughter, she shut the door to the girl’s bedroom and never opened it again. After 12 years the door was still firmly shut, and everything in the room was exactly the same as it was the day her daughter died. Unfortunately, the mother’s grief was the same too. She was afraid to take the steps she needed to start processing her loss.
She refused to look at pictures, relive memories, or go through her daughters’ belongings because she was so afraid that the sadness would be too much for her to bear.
I talked to her and explained that as much as she wanted to avoid it, she needed to feel that pain to heal and eventually move on.
And while going through her daughters’ belongings would make her sad, it also would bring back all the memories and good times. As she looked at photographs and mementos, she would cry, but she would also smile, and remember her daughter – the way she had been in life. In that way, she would be reconnected with the soul of her daughter, and would finally be able to move on and find comfort.
Don’t hold onto your pain.
Healing pain is a breakthrough pain. It’s the anger and sense of loss that is released after the grief of a loved one. If you hold it in, you’re holding on to that anger, and that can make you feel depressed and hopeless. If you let out the tears, and talk about your loved one, visit places they loved, make their favorite recipes, play their favorite songs, you’ll feel them, and you’ll slowly start to feel better.
It’s not hopeless. Just like I am telling you that you must go through the hard process of grieving, I can assure tell you, without a doubt, that your loved one is not gone! They are with you, loving you and watching over you. And you can feel their presence if you open yourself up to those painful, beautiful memories of them, and your time together.
As you navigate through grief, it can help to experience proof of the afterlife. If you’re ready, I suggest attending one of my online reading events. You don’t even have to leave home! Even if you don’t get a reading, seeing other souls come through can give you a hope and comfort. Or check out my YouTube channel to watch some amazing messages from souls in Heaven.
Nothing to Fear – So Much to Gain
It happens all the time. For years, someone will follow me on social media or write to me. They make it clear that they can’t wait to attend an event so they can meet me in person and get a reading. Then, when the time comes and I am finally in their city or state, they get cold feet and don’t show up.
Recently, a woman bought a ticket to my Las Vegas show, and at the last moment decided not to attend. I know she had someone she wanted to connect with – but something held her back.
This to me is just the saddest thing. There may have been a loved one in Spirit waiting for her and when she decided not to attend, it left no way for me to give her the message.
I decided to write this blog post for one important reason – to explain why you should never fear attending a mediumship event or getting a reading. Here are ten facts about mediumship that will put your fears to rest:
1. Your loved ones are not dead, but they have transitioned.
Many people think that their loved ones will be “different” on the other side. Although they may now be a spirit, one thing will never change – your connection to them. Your mother is still your mother, your father is still your father, and your sister is still your sister in Heaven.
The bond that you shared with them is still alive, even though they have passed on. And here’s something you’re going to like! When you’re having a reading, you might be surprised to find your loved one’s personality is just the same as when they were alive – and the memories and stories they share in a reading can reassure you they are still with you.
2. Readings give everyone in the room a little glimpse of Heaven.
With every reading that I give, something amazing happens. Even if you are not the one receiving the reading, you’ll learn about Heaven and the Afterlife.
In fact, that’s the reason I know so much about Heaven and the afterlife. With every message I share, souls give me window into their lives in Heaven – including who they are with and what they are doing. Take if from me, getting that peek into what happens when we pass is life-changing!
3. We become more aware of our own psychic connection and are better able to recognize signs from Heaven.
During readings, souls will often tell me the signs they use to reach their loved ones in this world, like dreams, animals, repeating numbers and songs on the radio. They also help us recognize and understand our own psychic connection. You’ll realize that you are more psychic than you might think, and can feel their presence even when there’s not a medium in the room!
4. Souls only come through when you are ready to hear a message.
When it comes to connecting with loved ones in Heaven, it’s best not to overthink things. If you are being drawn to a mediumship event, but question if you’re “ready” to hear a message, my advice it to “let go.” Show up at the event and let heaven decide.
Remember that even with private readings, there is no guarantee that you’ll get a particular type of message or that a certain soul will come through. This is why I encourage everyone to attend an event, because it gives your loved one the opportunity to reach you if the time is right and you are ready.
For example, it you attend an event and are not emotionally ready to hear a message, your loved one will wait until you’ve had a chance to heal, because they only want to deliver messages that will be helpful to you.
5. There may be unfinished business to resolve.
Some people won’t attend an event because there is someone they don’t want to hear from. They might be afraid that the message will be negative, judgmental, or in some way difficult to hear. Don’t worry! When a loved one chooses to come through, they do so with love.
I have seen many relationships heal after death because of a particular reading. Keep an open mind! Sometimes it’s the souls that you don’t want to hear from that come through and bring the most healing.
6. Will I hear bad things?
Remember that your loved ones in Heaven are there to love, watch over, and protect you. The readings I bring through prove that fact again and again. Sometimes the information might not be what you want to hear, but at the end of the day, it will help you to heal and confirm that your love are watching over you
7. Attending a mediumship event opens the door to Heaven.
Remember that attending an event doesn’t just give you the opportunity to reach a loved one in spirit, it also gives your loved one a way to reach out to you.
It always amazes me that before every event there are a bunch of “early-bird” spirits that show up way before the show. They have usually been trying to reach you, but you may not have felt them. When you make plans to attend an event, they know it’s their chance to deliver you a message – loud and clear.
8. It’s not a sad experience!
The other night after my Arizona show, a woman came up to me and said she had no idea an event could be so “fun”! It’s true there are sad moments when we talk about death and dying, however many of the souls that come through are quite funny and full of personality.
During the night, so many souls come through, share stories, and act like their old selves. I love when their personality comes through because it reminds us of who that person was before they were sick
9. Readings give us hope.
When I first met Alexa, she was petrified of the thought of death and dying. Today, that’s no longer that fear. When we talk to souls that have crossed over and they share what Heaven is like, it demystifies the afterlife and helps us to feel closer to those we love. That’s such a healing, life-changing thing!
10. You will sense the presence of those you love.
If “letting go” of someone you love after they pass doesn’t feel right to you, I am here to tell you that you don’t have to. Spirits are with you each day. My readings show people that although we may lose someone physically, we never lose them spiritually.
When you attend a reading, you will learn to sense and feel their spiritual presence with you as you walk through life.
Take a leap of faith!
So now that I have told you all the reasons why you shouldn’t be afraid to attend a mediumship event, are you ready to take the leap of faith?
If you’re not ready, take your time. I’m not trying to push you, but I am hoping this blog post will reach that one person who NEEDS to attend an event but is hesitant to fill the trigger.
Maybe that person is you…
If you would like to attend a reading there are two ways to do so, either online, or in person. Either way, you can check out your options by visiting my events page. Go ahead, there’s nothing to be afraid of – and a whole lot of love, comfort and healing to gain!
Tapping into the Universal Knowledge of Heaven
Do you ever ask yourself why you are here on Earth? The life you’re living right now is just one stop on your soul’s journey, but it’s an important one.
Your purpose is to evolve and grow by experiencing challenges and learning life lessons. Then, when you pass, you take the lessons you learned here on Earth and bring them to Heaven to share. The experiences you had while you were living will allow your soul, and every single soul in Heaven, to continue to evolve, learn, and grow in the afterlife.
Putting it all together
If you think of heaven as a giant database, this will all make more sense. Imagine that everyone who dies brings a “file” or notebook of the lessons they learned with them, adding them to the “universal database” of knowledge that is shared by all souls.
In Heaven, you will finally have access to this vast array of universal knowledge. You won’t be limited by your human brain and five senses. Instead, you will be able to understand and know all things. This will be an incredible revelation, as you can finally understand the mysteries of life.
Knowledge without limits
In Heaven, everyone has access to the sum of all human knowledge. That includes all the arts, all the sciences, all the disciplines of learning. Imagine being able to know and understand everything – the whole story of history, every person’s individual perspective, and the “real” truth about life, death, and the afterlife.
There are no professors or experts in Heaven because everyone is part of the universal consciousness – meaning everyone knows everything. This might sound crazy and overwhelming at first, but it’s the opposite. In Heaven, you never have to worry about making a mistake, because you already know the right answer. You never have to worry about forgetting something important, because you have access to every fact and concept that exists. You never have to worry about being bored because there’s always something new to explore.
Best of all, because the spirits see things through a heavenly perspective, they can see things clearly, without the biases and filters we living people have. That is why they always gives us the best advice and send us signs to help guide us through life.
Everything changes when you cross over
This divine wisdom is why souls in Heaven can be so helpful to the living.
You’ve probably heard me say that when someone passes, they can’t bring their heavy emotions like resentment and fear and jealousy with them to the Other Side. Souls in Heaven also have no self-interest. That frees them up to see things clearly, and with the infinite storehouse of information and wisdom they have access to, they are in the best position to help you on your own journey.
If your deceased Mother is coming through to me and trying to provide you with guidance, it’s worth taking seriously. Mom might have had a personal agenda, and not understood everything when she was alive, but the advice she shares now comes from a whole new perspective.
Everyone can learn from Heavenly messages
Loved ones in spirit come back to guide you and watch over you because they are filled with love and want nothing but the best for you. They want you to be happy and live your best life, and do not want you to make the same mistakes that they did.
When I’m doing a group reading, I remind everyone to listen closely to the messages I bring through to other people. You can learn so much and apply it to your own life. I love knowing that every message I bring through has the potential to help not just the recipient, but everyone in the room, including me! I take every opportunity I can to share this wisdom during events, and through my blog and books.
If you’re wondering why you’re here on Earth, it’s to learn lessons to help your soul to grow, and add to the universal wisdom available to every soul in heaven. Then, when you get to Heaven, you’ll have the chance to share that wisdom with the living, helping them live their best life on Earth, and beyond.