Have you ever lost a loved one and questioned what really happened to them?
People book readings with me for lots of reasons. Usually it’s because they miss their departed loved one like crazy and need to talk to them one last time and make sure they’re okay, but there are times when people are looking for more from a reading. Sometimes there’s a mystery associated with the death that leaves everyone who knew the person wondering what really happened. When there are questions around someone’s passing, it can make the loss even harder on those who are left behind.
Many times, I’ve been able to give closure and peace by answering questions like:
Was my loved one’s death an accident or a suicide?
If it was a suicide, did they regret their decision before they died?
Did something I said or did cause their death?
Was there anything I could have done to prevent the tragedy?
Did the incident really happen the way the police or witnesses said it did?
Is someone hiding an important detail of what happened?
Was my loved one murdered?
Losing someone you care about is painful enough without having to deal with lingering uncertainty and guilt. On the other hand, knowing what really happened makes it possible to start to let go of your grief and sadness so you can begin to heal.
Was it an Accident or Murder?
I’m not a psychic detective, but from time to time I’ve used my gift to solve mysteries. I have to tell you – these have been some of my most gratifying readings.
When your loved ones come through during a reading, they come through for a reason. They want to
I recently had a mother and daughter attend one of my group online readings. The moment Tami and her daughter appeared on screen, her Son in spirit was standing right there behind them. The mother was struggling with the loss of her son, who had died as the result of a tragic accident. She had some doubts about what had really happened. She had been told he had fallen off a train, but she had a nagging suspicion that he may have been pushed. Her son came through and wanted me to convince his mother that the whole thing had been an unfortunate accident. He had been drinking and having fun on the train until he tried to jump the cars, lost his footing, and fell. No one else was to blame.
He let his mother know that he appreciated how she had always looked out for him, and he knew how much she loved him. His wish was for his mother and his sisters to start to let go – and to find joy in life again. He knew his mother didn’t even want to celebrate holidays because she missed him so much, but he wanted his family to find happiness and joy together. He begged his mother to let go of her guilt and grief, and assured both his mother and his sister that he is with them every day.
He shared this final message “I made a mistake and I’m sorry. I didn’t feel anything, one minute I was falling, and the next minute I was in Heaven. I want you to know that I’m here.”
Cherish Every Minute.
It’s natural to want to make sense of a horrible tragedy, but sometimes the worst things just happen and there’s no logical reason at all. Over the years, I’ve learned a lot from souls who have passed. They’ve shown me how unpredictable life is, and how you have to cherish every minute. They’ve shared their regrets at not taking the advice of people who loved them. They always ask me to let their loved ones know that, regardless of what happened – they are always there.
It doesn’t matter if you’re the one passing over or the loved one left behind, either way, it’s difficult to let go.
I’ve seen mothers who were gravely ill hang on with everything they had so they could be there for their daughter’s wedding or their son’s college graduation. I’ve known fathers who wouldn’t quit until they had settled their affairs, and made sure their family would be provided for.
You know that death is a part of life and that Heaven is a beautiful place where your loved one will be at peace and pain-free – but it still hurts to think you won’t be able to spend time with them or talk to them on the phone.
There are ways to ease the pain of letting go. A recent experience I had at an event illustrated this.
What is it like to die ?
A young woman came to an event. She looked like the picture of health. Her mother who’d passed a few years earlier came through immediately and told me her daughter was very sick. She’d been watching from Heaven as her daughter received her treatments.
The daughter came up to me after the event and asked me to tell her about death and dying. What she had to say brought tears to my eyes. She was terrified of dying because she wanted to be there for her two teenage daughters as they reached important milestones – but her doctors were telling her she didn’t have much time left.
I had to help her. We arranged to meet one-on-one a week or so later. I explained what Heaven was like but what she really wanted to know was how to reach out to her daughters after she passed.
I recommended she devise signs she could share with her girls—pennies or rainbows or anything her daughters could look for that would tell them their mother was ok.
Right after we talked, she sat down with her daughters to put together different words, songs, and signs they could watch for after she passed. That way she could send specific messages when they were sad, celebrating, or just missing her. It put her mind at ease to know she now had a way to be there for them as they grew up.
About two years later the mother of two young women in the audience came through.
“I feel I know her,” I said but I couldn’t place her.
“She did a reading with you when she was alive.”
The women told me they’d come that night because they knew that if their mom came through to anyone it would be me. Their mother let me know our plan had worked. The daughters thanked me for encouraging them to set up the signs before she passed.
Doing so had made her passing a just a little less painful, and had given them great comfort over the years.
Staying In Touch With Those Who Pass Away.
Not everyone has the chance to set up signals and signs for loved ones before they pass. Sometimes death comes suddenly, and there’s no time. But there are many ways to feel connected to loved ones in Heaven.
Here are just a few ways to keep the close:
1. If possible, arrange for a sign before they die, just like the girls did in the story I just shared with you.
2. Write a letter to your loved one and “send” it to them. You can burn it, read it aloud to their picture, or if your message is short, write it in the sand at the beach, and let the tide wash it away.
3. Create a personal shrine with a picture of your loved one and something that belonged to them. This doesn’t have to be a “traditional” shrine. Anything that is meaningful to you, set in a place where you will see it often, will keep their memory close.
4. Look out for coins, cardinals, butterflies and dragonflies. These are all classic ways that souls in heaven reach out to the living.
5. Pay attention to songs on the radio – you might hear one that was significant to both of you, like a song you danced to at your wedding, or it might contain a message that resonates with you at that moment. Either way, it’s their way of reaching out to you.
6. Write down your dreams. Dreams are probably the most common way the dead bridge the gap between heaven and earth.
7. Talk about them! Keep their memory alive with others, but don’t focus on their death. Sharing happy memories and funny stories is what attracts them and brings them closer.
8. Visit a place they loved. This doesn’t have to be a big production. Of course, you can travel across the globe (when it’s safe to fly) but you can also go to their favorite restaurant or park.
9. Don’t be afraid to be happy and enjoy your life. Souls in heaven are not jealous or resentful. Their greatest wish is for their loved ones to live their best life.
10. If you’re not sensing the presence of loved ones, be patient. They might be adjusting to the transition. It sometimes takes souls up to a year to come through to a medium, or to send a sign to loved ones.
As a psychic medium I wish that I could loan a pair of my eyes to every single one of you so that you could truly see that your loved one in spirit is right by your side. Of course that can’t happen, but I did the next best thing. I started doing Live Online Group Readings during the pandemic where you and family can join me with other families across the country and be part of an online psychic reading event.
The experience is truly amazing. Its all done by video and so I will be able to see all of you and you will be able to see me LIVE right from your home. What is truly incredible is that during these events as I start to see different families appear on screen, I also start to see their loved ones in spirit standing behind them. So far these Live Online Group Readings have allowed me to meet so many of you that I would have never been able to meet and read before. As of today I can proudly say that I have read over 250 people during these readings alone.
If you are stuck, anxious or missing a loved one, I hope you will join me with your family and take part in this event with me. All you need is a computer, iPhone/smartphone or tablet to attend. Space is limited so if you would like to attend, please Click Here.
In the meantime, keep an eye out for all the amazing signs around you. Even though you may not feel them at times, I promise you your loved ones are closer than you think.
When I was growing up, I was really sensitive. I felt different from the other kids, and the fact that I could see and hear dead people didn’t help! When I needed to feel like everything was going to be okay, my grandmother was there with that special “grandma love” that’s like nothing else. The fact that she was also a medium was a big plus, because she could understand what I was going through.
My grandma passed when I was really young, but love like that never dies, and the fact that she was no longer alive wasn’t going to keep her away from her grandson. She often visited me at night, giving me that same sense of comfort and love that she had when she was alive.
To this day, I still feel a special soul-connection with my grandmother, and it’s a source of comfort to me whenever I feel stressed and overwhelmed.
2020 has been a crazy year, and we’re barely halfway through it. It’s times like this when you crave the presence of the special people in your life – living and dead.
During COVID 19 you might be wondering if loved ones in Heaven are watching over you. The answer is YES! Souls in Heaven are tuned into your energy, so when life is challenging, emotional and scary they draw closer, keeping an eye on things and sending you love.
Sometimes it’s hard to feel their presence, especially when you’re distracted by everything that’s going on.
I’ve heard a lot of people talk about feeling alone right now, and I wanted to do something to remind you that your loved ones are with right there with you and watching over you.
But what could I do?
Live events are not an option, and posting videos on Facebook or YouTube is great (I do that too), but I wanted something more…
My team and I started looking into offering LIVE online group readings. In the beginning we weren’t sure it would work.
My team was a little skeptical, “Matt do you really think your gift will work this way?”
Honestly, I didn’t know. Some of my best readings have been over the phone or on video – I know I don’t have to be in person to connect, but those were always private readings. I didn’t know what would happen when doing it LIVE with a group of people.
On the other hand, I could sense that so many people needed to connect with loved ones on the other side that I would not be able to help all the people who needed me if I stuck to individual readings.
So we decided to host our first live virtual event a few weeks ago, and something amazing happened… It worked so well!
As soon as the audience started to tune in and their webcams turned on, I didn’t just see their faces, but I also saw their loved ones in spirit standing with them on camera.
Amazing! Just like at a LIVE event message after message, soul after soul, started to come through with messages of healing. I should have realized that even though we may be socially distant we’re still connected energetically – and emotionally.
After the event, the feedback was so good!
People got so much comfort from hearing all the readings and realizing that their loved ones were right there too. Even if they didn’t receive a message they loved connecting with spirit and the afterlife together and learning about the other side.
So, are you ready to experience something healing, comforting, and AMAZING?
If you would like to join me for an online group reading, you can sign up for one here. To make it even more special your family can attend with you and all you need is one ticket. Just make sure they are sitting with you on camera.
It doesn’t matter where you live and you don’t need any fancy technology. All you need is a tablet, computer or a smartphone to be able to join.
I believe, the more that you learn about Heaven, the more that you learn that your loved ones are not far away. That’s exactly why I want to share my gift with you.
I hope that by attending an event with me, you’ll feel closer than ever to the people you love. I hope it helps you to open yourself up to sensing and feeling spirit and tuning into their special loving vibration!
I hope to see your face, and the faces of your loved ones in Heaven, on my computer screen during my next online event!
In the USA, The 4th of July is a pretty big deal. I’ve always loved everything about it – getting together with the family, eating tons of food, and watching fireworks. This year, with many people avoiding large groups, celebrations might look a little different. My family won’t be getting together on the 4th this year, because we’re being super careful not to expose my mom to any germs. I was talking to Alexa about that the other day, and I had this crazy idea. How about making 2020 the year to celebrate “Spiritual Independence?”
What the heck is Spiritual Independence?
You know I don’t think of myself as a spiritual teacher, but when you hear messages from souls in Heaven like I do, you start to notice some patterns.
I realized a long time ago that dead people can teach you a lot about life. For instance, I used to wonder why the souls who came through to me never seemed to hold a grudge toward anyone – even if that person had been responsible for their death. Also, they didn’t seem bothered if their loved one was with another person, as long as they were happy.
Bottom line, it became clear to me that when you pass over you leave behind things like jealousy, resentment, anger, and even fear.
Think of it like this – negative emotions are like heavy baggage, and a soul can’t ascend to heaven with all that stuff weighing them down. So, they hang on the light emotions like love, gratitude, and compassion, and they jettison the heavy ones so they can transition.
Which brings me to my point about Spiritual Independence.
You don’t have to wait until you die to release yourself from the grip of heavy emotions. Think about how negative thoughts might be blocking you from having the things you want in life. Wouldn’t everything be a whole lot better if you took control of those feelings, and could live your life independent of them?
But wait! This is terrible timing. How can anyone focus on positive things right now, when there’s so much negativity and fear everywhere you look? Isn’t that like starting a diet on the day before Thanksgiving?
Actually, this is the perfect time to start shifting your energy. It’s just what you and the people around you need right now. And it’s not that hard.
Let’s make a pact to declare our independence from all things negative by July 4th.
Here are some ideas to get you started…
Minimize your exposure to the news and violence on television. I’m not saying you have to live in a bubble, but the news has a way of stirring up our fear and anxiety. Limit yourself to a few minutes each morning to check the news, then focus on what you’re grateful for, meditate, and have a nice cup of coffee (and maybe a donut).
Think consciously about replacing negative emotions with positive ones. Do a little inventory at the end of each day. Think about how you felt that day, what your mood is now that the day is done, and what contributed to your emotions – good or bad. Set your intention to spend the following day focusing on thoughts and activities that elevate your mood and put you in a positive space.
Be kind to yourself and others. Doing nice things for people, even if it’s just telling a joke and making them smile, has a ripple effect. It brightens up your day, their day, and makes everyone’s interactions with others a little bit lighter.
Spend time with positive people. You know how some people love to complain and gossip! When I’m around them, that energy rubs off on me. But when I’m with Alexa, or any of my positive, grateful friends, the whole world feels brighter.
Know that your loved ones in heaven are cheering you on. When things are hard and you’re faced with sadness and uncertainty, look for a sign from Heaven and remember that you are never alone. Loved ones who pass aren’t really gone – they are with you always, protecting and guiding you.
Don’t let fear, jealousy, insecurity, and anger weigh you down. You have control of your emotions, so assert your independence!
I hope the little messages I have been sharing with you from Heaven help you on your own spiritual journey. Whether you are looking to heal grief, achieve your dreams, or connect with your loved ones in Spirit, I am here to help. That is why I have recorded a brand new series of audio classes where I share with you the same tools and techniques I use in my everyday life. I hope you will take a look and that they will help you the same way they have helped me.
Click Here to check out my brand new inspirational audio series.
After losing a loved one, people go through several stages of grief – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. They never forget the person who has passed, but the idea is that they eventually will continue on and live a happy productive life. But many people find themselves stuck in a place where their loss is consuming, and sadness, loneliness, or regret keep them from moving on.
As a medium, I can tell you one thing for sure. The dead don’t want this to happen.
When your loved ones pass over, they leave behind earthly things like jealousy, resentment, and the need for control. Those feelings are way too heavy to bring along! What souls do retain is the love and compassion they feel for the loved ones they left behind. As they watch over you, their only desire is that you live your best life.
I learned this lesson when my grandmother passed, before I was even old enough to fully understand it. Here’s what happened:
My grandmother and my mother were both mediums. They had a super close relationship when my grandmother was alive, but when she died, she didn’t come through to her daughter. Instead, her soul came and sat with me at night. I was so young that I barely understood that she was no longer with the living – our connection still felt so normal. When I told my mom about this, she was happy for me, but she couldn’t get her head around the fact that Grandma wasn’t also visiting her.
I didn’t get it either and next time my grandma came through to me, I asked her to explain. She told me she wanted my mother to move on with her life and focus on her children, and not get stuck – or fixated – on communicating with her. She asked me to tell my mother that she was fine and well in the afterlife, and that her deepest wish was that she be happy, live her life and be there for her family.
As a medium, I see people every day who are struggling with guilt and lack of closure after a death of a parent, sibling, child or friend. Sometimes they carry that with them for years and years.
Recently, I was a guest on the Kelly Clarkson show. Before the show even started, I encountered some staff members in the hallway and lined up right next to them were their loved ones, hoping to connect.
One woman’s brother came through, and she recognized him when I shared a very unusual detail. I got a sense of his unique cologne, really strong, and he told me he mixed several different ones to get his signature scent. His sister started freaking out as soon as I said that – she confirmed that her brother had owned a bunch of expensive colognes, and he loved to layer different ones on his body.
She had been thinking of getting a tattoo in his memory and had been regretting that she hadn’t spent enough time with him when he was alive. He came through to her loud and clear, saying, “My sister has to stop trying to remember me in all these ways. I just want her to know that I’m at peace and I’m ok.” I knew that she had been suffering, thinking about his departure – but all her brother wanted her to know was that he was fine, and that he was always with her.
The next man I spoke to had regrets as well. His father had been having chest pains while he was out of town, and his mother was planning to take him to a doctor when he got home. Sadly, he passed away from a heart attack before he got home. His son wished he could hug his dad one more time and was sorry they hadn’t been able to get him to a doctor. His dad came through with a hug, and reassurance for his son that he was watching over him. You can watch these moving readings here:
Grief and sadness are natural when you lose someone – and those feelings can last a long time. But they can be a heavy burden to carry around, and your loved ones want to see you face the feelings and “unload them.” When you focus on healing and understand that the person you are missing is at peace and watching over you, you give yourself permission to let go and be happy.
If you have lost a loved one, and just can’t get over your sense of guilt, regret, or loss at their passing, you might need a little help. I know it’s not easy to heal, and I’d like to pass on some insights that I’ve learned from souls on the other side in my audio class, Grieving to Believing. Click Here to listen.
You know about the seven stages of grief, but in this course, I share one stage you might not know about. It’s called, “Regaining Hope,” and I want you to experience it. I’ll take you on a journey to healing, where you will learn about the inner workings of Heaven and learn the answers to your most sought after questions.
Trust me – your loved one wants you to be happy! You can escape sadness by finding faith again in your life and transform your grieving into believing.
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Believe it or not, some people have mixed emotions when it comes to mediumship.
On one hand, they desperately want to be connected with a loved one who has passed – but at the same time, they worry that opening the door to the other side is asking for trouble.
I try to reassure them that they shouldn’t worry!
My mom always says that dead people can never hurt you – it’s the living people who you have to be afraid of.
I know firsthand that my mom is 100% right about this, but I can see how the idea of souls reaching out to connect with the living can freak some people out. My own father still swears he’s “scared of dead people!”
First thing to remember is that light cancels out darkness.
People who are naturally tuned in to spirit are sometimes reluctant to really develop their spirit connection. They worry that doing so might open up a portal that will allow evil spirits to come through. Should they worry?
The simple answer is no. Most spirits mean no harm, and it’s pretty easy to avoid the bad ones. If you’re coming from a place of light and love, you will attract light. It’s that simple!
Your own positive energy is way more powerful than darkness.
Protect yourself from negative souls and people.
Even though dark spirits can’t harm you when your own energy is positive, there are a few things you can do to give yourself a little extra protection.
Remember how my mom said that the only people you have to fear are the living? Well, these psychic protection techniques help with negative souls and also negative people here on Earth!
Here are a few basic techniques you can use to protect your energy from any kind of darkness that you might encounter:
– Imagine a mirrored wall around you, forming a wall and reflecting negative energy away from you.
– Get to know your angels and guides and call upon them to protect you.
– Clear stagnant energy out of any living space that feels uncomfortable to you by burning sage. It really works!
– Take a few steps to infuse spaces that are new to you with your own energy. I like to personalize hotel rooms by putting a photo of Alexa and our two cats on the nightstand, and by playing some of my favorite disco tunes.
–Nature is a very powerful force – so when all else fails, open the windows and let the sunshine and fresh air in. It is a natural way to clear energy.
Extra sensitive? Develop your personal protection plan.
Psychics, mediums, and other spiritually tuned-in people usually develop their own ways of safeguarding their energy to protect themselves from negative forces and people.
If you’re a sensitive soul, or if you’re at a place in your life where you’re experiencing a lot of draining negativity or “bad vibes,” I can help you develop your own personal force field of psychic protection.
–Use psychic protection to protect your home, workplace, family members, and personal property from negativity.
–Rid yourself of negativity that has been holding you back.
–Banish the fear so you can use your own intuition and spiritual gifts to improve your life.
We all want to feel safe and protected. Now more than ever, it’s easy to let negativity slip into your life – that’s why I created Psychic Protection for Everyday Life. Join me and see how much better it is to live in the light!