We Just Broke Up, Now What ?

We Just Broke Up, Now What ?

What does speaking to the dead have to do with getting back together? Believe it or not, there have been many times when I have used my psychic gift to help those here in the physical world recover from a breakup. If you are reading this article right now, I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. Healing from a broken heart is sometimes just as painful as healing from an illness. The hurt is lingering, and it can even make you lose hope.

The secret is knowing that you are not alone. Remember that your loved ones in Heaven can see tomorrow just as clearly as you can see yesterday. Here are some life lessons I have learned through my many readings. What ones apply to you?

If it’s meant to be, it will be…

True love always finds a way back. If the person you were with was truly your soul mate, you will be reconnected in the future. Sometimes things fall apart and we realize how valuable that person is and how special the relationship was to us. We reconnect with the person only to find and discover an even more meaningful love, friendship and connection.

Other times, it’s the opposite. The time apart can make you see things from a different angle and help you realize you need and desire something more. In the end, things will work out the way they should. If you are meant to be with that person, the universe will make sure you are brought back together in a divine way. If you are not brought back together, it simply means there is someone out there who is more deserving of your love. The next step is finding them or letting them find you.

Take time to rediscover yourself.

So many times after a breakup, the sudden loss can make you want to reach out and reconnect right away. If the relationship ended without closure, it can play tricks with your mind. You may not be able to get that person out of your mind, or you may replay things again and again. Through all of this, you need to make sure you don’t lose yourself in the process. Remember, true happiness comes from within and only you can create happiness within your life. Take this opportunity to rediscover yourself and the things that make you happy. Reach out to old friends, engage in recreational activities and enjoy the time with yourself. You will discover things about yourself that you have long forgotten.

Trying to reconnect immediately after a breakup is not a good idea. These things take time, and just as you are trying to process your own emotions, so is your partner. Give it a few weeks until you feel you are emotionally in a good place. In the meantime, keep your heart and mind safe. Remember, if you still love and respect your partner, you need to show it. Respect them by not talking bad about the them, and don’t say anything you will regret in the future.

Always make sure you have a handle on your emotions. You control your emotions; your emotions do not control you.

Don’t be afraid to let your walls down.

It’s okay to be afraid to date again. A breakup can make it hard for you to trust anyone with your heart ever again. Don’t let yourself shut down. Being able to love is being able to love with an open heart. It’s being able to share your heart with someone who is special to you. If you can’t let down your walls, how do you ever expect for someone to get close to you? During the time apart, you do not have to date, but instead, be open. You never know who will divinely come into your life. If someone wants to take you out or get close to you, let them. The worst-case scenario is that it doesn’t work. Just make sure you are not limiting yourself. Remember, when one door closes, another one opens. You just have to make sure you are ready when it does so you can walk through it.

Don’t be afraid to let go.

If reaching out to your ex or trying to reconnect doesn’t work, it’s time to let go. I have read for so many people who have a hard time with this. Some have held onto past relationship even though the person they once were with has since remarried, starting a future with someone else. It’s not fair to you to stop your life. The best advice I can give you is to move on and open your heart up to dating someone. Some people are put into our life as lessons. They teach us patience, faith and trust among other things. Your next relationship will be so much more meaningful than the first.

Do you ever notice sometimes people in their second marriage have so much fun? Many times, it’s because the first marriage taught them valuable life lessons they have carried with them to the next relationship. Sometimes, the first time, we made a mistake and ended up with the wrong person. The moral of the story is that you do not know who you will feel a soul connection with until you get out and meet new people.

Trust in the divine plan.

If there is one thing I know, it’s that Heaven has your back. You are in the right place at the right time, even though you do not feel that way. Use this experience as a life lesson to learn and grow from. Take a look back on the things you did right in the relationship and the things you did wrong. Use them to your advantage. Start to think about your next relationship. What do you want to change? What do you want the relationship to be like?

Remember, in the end, if it’s meant to be, it will be. I have a personal story to share. My grandfather was crazy about a girl he met when he was 16. He wanted to be with her in the worst way and felt she was his soulmate. She turned him down for another man because he was “too young,” and she wanted someone older. She went on to meet her husband and my grandfather, broken-hearted, eventually went on to meet my grandmother whom he married. They both had beautiful families and kids in their lives apart.

Almost 50 years later, both of their significant others passed of illness around the same time. As fate would have it, they ran into one another all those years later and decided to pick up the relationship they had left behind in their teenage years. They never regretted marrying whom they did, but they were thankful to divinely connect in love years later.

That being said, trust in the road ahead. Life is too short to get hung up. Keep moving forward and everything will happen in a divine way. Take some time for yourself to heal. Remember, the thing you cannot understand now will all make sense as you look back on them in the future.

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Giving A Relationship A Second Chance.

Giving A Relationship A Second Chance.

Are You Thinking About Giving a Relationship a Second Chance ?

There have been many times when I have been asked to use my psychic ability for help with relationships. Many times, someone will call me after reconnecting with a boyfriend or significant other after a breakup. If you’re like me, you believe that with love, there is always a way. If you truly love and care for someone, I believe there are ways to make it work and to repair things. Many times, you may be afraid of entering into a relationship again after being hurt the first time by that person. I believe in second chances, and I personally have seen many relationships fall apart only to come together stronger. If you are thinking about giving your significant other a second chance, here are some things you need to know that will help guide you on the right path.

Know your worth.

Before we get into anything, it’s important for you to remember that you are the most important person in this world. If you are being abused emotionally, physically or mentally, this relationship is not for you. Nothing good can come from abuse. You have a duty to create your own happiness and to open yourself up to someone who will love and care for you. It’s important to remember that you want someone who will truly make you feel special every day and lift you up. Through all of this, you need to think about you and make a promise to yourself to save your heart for someone who deserves it. Think about your future. Ask yourself, will I be happy with this person? Will this person make a good husband, wife or partner?

Listen to your heart, not to other people.

I truly believe that sometimes, the best advice comes from within. It’s hard to make a good decision when you are letting other people influence you. Only you know how you feel and what goes on behind closed doors. Sometimes, asking the advice from others can only make you more confused and stressed. It’s best to take some time to yourself to really think things through without the thoughts of others. If you do feel you need to talk to someone, try to limit it to just one close friend or family member whom you trust. It’s also important to respect your significant other’s privacy too.

Give yourself a second chance.

If you are rekindling a relationship, remember that a relationship is only successful when two people work at it. Just as you are giving a second chance to that person, you need to give yourself a second chance as well. Let go of expectations and focus on truly enjoying and reconnecting with that person. Don’t treat it as a test. Some people say, “I’m not going to call him. Let’s see if he calls me,” or, “ I’m not doing anything anymore. If she wants the relationship, let her prove herself to me.” In the end, that just sets yourself up for failure. In order for things to work, you both need to try to make it work and support and love one another. It’s not a test; it’s a second chance.

Let go of what went wrong.

Letting go of what went wrong is one of the hardest things you can do, but it’s the most important step. If you dwell on the past, you will never be able to live the future. Sometimes, this is hard because you did nothing wrong. Try to work through it with your significant other by talking about it. Let them know you are hurting, let them apologize and together, let it go so you can come back into the relationship stronger as you start anew. A second chance is a gift you give with no strings attached because you truly love the person more than any past mistakes or hurt.

Focus on making things better.

The best thing you can do when reentering a relationship is to have fun with that person. Nobody wants to go back to boring. You want to enjoy that person’s company. Go for coffee and a walk downtown or attend an event together. These are moments to bond and connect with the person in a more meaningful way. The simple things in life, like going for ice cream or cooking at home and trying a new bottle of wine, can lead to beautiful memories.

Take the opportunity to talk.

Believe it or not, the most powerful way to bond with someone isn’t in the bedroom. It starts with feeling each other on an emotional level. Meaningful conversations with one another will bring you closer together. Physical attraction comes and goes, but the conversations and emotional bond is what truly is everlasting and strong. Ask questions. Show the person you are with that you truly care about them and about what is going on in their life. When you ask them questions, you learn more about them and allow them to open up to you in a more meaningful way.

Open your heart to trust.

Trust is the key to reconnecting with someone you love. If you are snooping through drawers or checking their phone for messages while they are in the bathroom, you will never be able to open up your heart fully. Trust can be scary, but it is the chance you take when you truly love and care for someone. Trust begins with you and with having strong confidence in yourself. If you can’t trust a person in the beginning of a relationship, how will you later on in life? Trust is the greatest gift you can give a person. It is a building block that strengthens your relationship and builds a foundation for years to come. If you want to rebuild things, don’t be afraid to put your heart out there. If you truly love this person, it will be worth it in the end.

I want remind you that love takes time. It’s an emotional journey you go through with someone you care for. If you can’t stop thinking about someone special, give them a second chance and try again. The worst thing that can happen is things don’t work out. Sometimes, you might have to give it one more shot to be able to find the closure you need to move on to the next chapter with someone else. Other times, it is the second time that makes things work and fall together as they should.

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