The Difference Between Ghosts & Spirits

The Difference Between Ghosts & Spirits

People expect me to be really into Halloween. They figure because I’m a medium, I’m into ghosts and hauntings and stuff like that. That’s not really the case. There’s nothing spooky about the work I do – it’s really the opposite. Most people will do anything to feel connected with their loved ones in Heaven, so I guess you could say they’re running toward those spirits, not away from them.

That doesn’t mean I don’t like Halloween. I think it’s fun!

Alexa and I love celebrating Halloween in the same way most people do. We get all dressed up every year and our families do too. I love the creativity that goes into the Halloween costumes and decorations, and it’s fun to see the kids running from door to door trick-or-treating.

Since I get so many questions on this topic, I thought I’d share some thoughts about Halloween and the days that immediately follow it.

My Halloween History.

When I was a kid, my father hated Halloween. He felt that when you celebrated it, you invited negativity and evil souls into the house. He still let us dress up and trick-or-treat, but he wasn’t happy about it.

I thought my dad’s attitude was unusual until other people started saying similar things and asking me questions. They wondered if celebrating Halloween, watching scary movies, or practicing mediumship invited ghosts into to your house. The truth is no.

Why not? Well, it helps to understand the difference between a spirit and a ghost.

Spirits are deceased family members and friends that you loved, knew and cared for here in this world.  They are familiar to you because you once shared a bond and connection with them.

A ghost is someone that you don’t know that has died. That’s what makes them a little bit scary. They too are spirits, just ones that you are not familiar with because you never knew them here in this world or had a bond with them.

Growing Up Psychic.

When I was a kid that’s the reason why I was so afraid of ghosts. When my family members in spirit used to visit me, it was fine. I loved connecting with my grandmother and other relatives in spirit. It brought me comfort and I never even realized when I was young that they died. The moment that strangers started to appear in spirit it would freak me out!

The more I pushed them away or tried to ignore them, the more persistent they got. My mom explained that they recognized my gift, and just wanted to get a message through to their own loved ones. They didn’t mean any harm.

Remember that just like your loved ones in spirit, ghosts used to be someone’s family as well. Even though you didn’t know them in life, it’s possible to sense their presence under certain circumstances.

For example, years ago my neighbor died. She had loved her house, but after she passed away her family had to sell it. The new family told me they could still feel her presence there. It wasn’t spooky, but they knew that as long as that house was standing, she’d be watching over it, and the people who lived there. As strange as it was, they felt comforted by it.

 Are There Evil Spirits?  

There is a darkside to psychic ability, and there are such things as negative souls just like there are negative people. My Mom always taught me , “Don’t go looking for trouble.” You won’t find them unless you seek them out. Negative souls like to spend time alone. Participating in Halloween or going to a reputable medium doesn’t open up a portal of invite spirits into the house.

Have I ever sensed a malignant spirit? Yes, but they’re extremely rare. I’ve had thousands of connections with loving, well-meaning souls for every one that was even slightly negative.

I don’t spend a lot of time dwelling on negative spirits and I certainly don’t go looking for trouble. I’d never dream of touching a Ouija board, and I don’t make it a habit to seek out haunted places. Remember that negativity of any kind can ony affect you if you invite it into your life.

Choose to do all things with your heart.  If you don’t focus on darkness, you’ll be fine. Watch your intentions, keep your energy light, and to play it safe, don’t mess around with spells, the occult, or Ouija boards they are not needed. The love in your heart is the strongest connection between you and your loved ones.

All Saints Day and the Day of the Dead.

While I don’t feel a special attachment to Halloween just because I’m a medium, I do feel very connected with the two days after Halloween when Mexican families honor their departed loved ones.

While we are getting dressed up and having fun being scared, in Mexico families are getting ready to honor those they love who are now in spirit.  Their celebration starts late on October 31st and goes through November 2nd.  November 1st is “el Dia de los innnocentes” or the day of the children and All Saints Day.  November 2nd is All Souls Day or the Day of the Dead.

In the Mexican culture, this is a special time that’s all about celebrating the lives of those who have passed over. Families visit the cemeteries where their ancestors and loved ones are buried, bring gifts, food, and pictures and spend the night with them thinking of the joyful times.

While this is not part of my culture, this celebration resonates with me and I deeply appreciate it. During this time, I like to remember my own lost loved ones in a very special way and send them prayers.

What is Heaven Like?

If you would like to learn more about Heaven and the Afterlife, you would really enjoy reading my new book ‘When Heaven Calls’. Each chapter is filled with secrets of afterlife and divine wisdom that I have learned over the many years I have had working with spirit. If you are interested, you can order a copy right now on Amazon by clicking here. I really hope you enjoy it. 





Can Negative Spirits Hurt Me?

Can Negative Spirits Hurt Me?

Understanding Negative Spirits, Souls & Energy.

Sometimes people ask me if all connections to Spirit are positive. “What about bad people who hurt me while they were alive? Can they hurt me after they’re gone?”

A friend of mine bought a beautiful old mansion in Newport to use for entertaining. Her family didn’t spend much time there, but when they did, they were uncomfortable. My friend asked me to come to the house with her because after she had some odd experiences. She thought the house was haunted. When I got there, I could sense a great sadness associated with that house. I felt emptiness, coldness and stagnant energy. The moment I walked in I felt that I was not welcome.

Even though the house was beautiful, it felt cold, sterile and airy – like a hospital. I told her it was really just an energy imprint, not a haunting. While I was there, I was shown that the original owners of the house had experienced tragedy. Their energy was still in the house. As I told my friend, it wasn’t a haunting. The house needed my friend’s energy.

An Energy Imprint is also referred to as an “energy haunting”. When a tragic, violent or emotional event happens in a house or a certain area, that energy can be left behind leaving an imprint. Even though there may not be any actual “ghosts” there anymore, you may still feel uneasy, sad or scared in the area. This is why so many people feel these sensations when visiting haunted placed like the Lizzy Borden house or the Winchester Mystery House.

I told my friend to infuse the house with her family’s happy, loving presence. The house needed to be recharged with positive energy, with day to day events, meals, sunshine and fresh air. She started going to the house during the day to work. She even took her pets to the house, so they could run and play in its rooms. Over time, her family’s positive energy replaced the old stagnant energy. Some of that old spirit was still in the house, but when the new lifeforce was allowed to come through, it edged that old energy out.

Crossing Over

Since we are all energy, things we interact with keep traces of our energy. That energy can stick around after we’re gone, but it’s not really the same as what people think of as “haunting.” Hauntings are rare and usually indicate a problem with a soul crossing over. Mediums can assist in replacing old energy, like I did with my friend, but transitioning the living over to Heaven is God’s work.

Souls have to be light to cross over. When you die, you let go of old pain, trauma and resentment. On the other side, we have to forgive and be forgiven and let things go. Sometimes, souls are too heavy to cross over, usually because of some darkness in their lives, and they become stuck. That’s what we think of as hauntings.

Those heavy spirits that get stuck here can’t hurt you when your own energy is positive. As my mom said, the only people you have to fear are the living! Still, there are some things you can do to get yourself some extra protection….and these techniques help with those earthly encounters too!

Psychic Protection Rituals
  • Imagine a mirrored wall surrounding you, forming a wall and reflecting negative energy away from you.
  • Get to know your angels and guides, and call upon them to protect you.
  • Burn sage to clear stagnant energy out of any living space that feels uncomfortable to you. It really works!
  • Take a few steps to infuse new spaces with your own energy. For example, I like to personalize hotel rooms by putting a photo of Alexa and our cats on the nightstand. I also play some of my favorite disco tunes!
  • When all else fails open the windows and let in the sunshine and fresh air.

Some people think being a psychic medium might be scary or a morbid way to make a living, I don’t see it that way at all. On the contrary, I feel blessed to be able to spread light and help the living heal by letting them know that their loved ones in Heaven are still with them and wishing them the best!

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Is Spirit Calling Your Name ?

Is Spirit Calling Your Name ?

Have you ever heard your name being called, but when you went to answer, nobody was there ?

It doesn’t surprise me. It’s actually those in spirit testing the psychic connection with you. Many times, they will call your name using a familiar voice. Sometimes, it’s a loved one’s voice who is living, and other times, you may even hear your name being called by your loved one who has passed on. Sometimes, the voice comes through so clearly, you could swear the person was just in the next room or standing behind you. You are not crazy, and yes, it is real. You might notice that when this happens, you are not alarmed but instead, a soothing and sudden calmness comes over you. You might even wonder, who is calling my name, and why? Here is the reason why this is happening to you.

You are sensitive to those in spirit.

Those in spirit know whom they can communicate with and whom they can’t. If you are sensing and feeling those in spirit around you, it means you have a higher level of intuition than most people, allowing you to hear things that normal people wouldn’t. Those with high levels of intuition, or those who are highly sensitive, are the best people for spirit to reach. They are able to pick up and feel things on a different level with little to no effort. Spirit can tell who is more in tune than others, and those are the people they will reach out to. It just means you are an open channel and not closed off to these kinds of communications.

Those you love are reminding you they are close by.

These gentle reminders, like hearing your name being called, normally come at a time when you least expect it, but most often, it is when you need to feel your loved one’s presence. When you are going through major life changes that are causing you grief or if you are in a health, financial or relationship struggle, those in spirit want to remind you they are close by. They don’t want to alarm you, but they want to reassure you they are divinely helping you from above.

Spirit is learning how best to communicate with you.

Even though you may not realize it, those in spirit are trying to get your attention. So many times, I will give readings to people about a loved one who has passed on and the person will say to me, “I never feel my dad or loved one around me in spirit.”

The typical answer from that person who has passed on normally goes something like this:

“I’m trying to reach my daughter, but she doesn’t recognize it’s me; instead, she thinks her house is haunted!”

When a loved one in spirit can’t seem to get your attention, they will try again and again. They will use signs, symbols, dreams and other ways to remind you they are close by. Calling your name is just another way to get your attention and validate their nearness. Acknowledge it either out loud or in your heart. Let your loved one in spirit know that you know they are close by.

There may be an urgent message that Spirit needs to deliver.

Normally, the only reason a loved one would stop by and visit is if there is a message they need to deliver, or if a special date or anniversary is coming up. Think about it: why would you call someone on the phone if you didn’t have anything to talk about ? They want to remind you they are cheering you through every milestone you go through. When there is a birthday, anniversary or celebration, they are there. When you hear them call your name, it means more messages will follow. Pay close attention to the signs and the dreams they are sending you. They will use these channels to deliver the message a little bit better.

Someone may have recently passed away.

Another reason why your loved one might be calling your name is if that person you are hearing recently died. After a loved one passes, the first thing they do is try to let you know they are ok. Although sometimes it can take up to a year for them to come through, you may hear them call your name to let you know they have made it home to Heaven so you do not need to worry.

How to strengthen your psychic connection.

If you are sensitive to those in spirit, I would encourage you to learn more about your connection. You can start by joining my Signs from Heaven online video class by clicking here. Talk to your loved ones in spirit daily and let them know you are open to receiving messages from them. Let them know it is ok to send you signs and dreams . It helps to keep a journal to record all the messages you hear and feel from them. Heaven gives us all a cellphone to call our loved ones who have passed on. They are only a thought away. It’s up to us to believe in that connection and to use it to stay in touch with those we love and miss so deeply.

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