Losing a Loved One: Learning to Forgive Yourself

Losing a Loved One: Learning to Forgive Yourself

The death of a loved one is never easy, and for many people the pain is intensified by guilt. It’s easy to look back when everything is over and realize you could have done better.  It’s normal to have regrets – you wish you’d spent more time with them when they were alive; you weren’t with them when they passed over; you said something hurtful and never apologized – but remember, no relationship is perfect, and beating yourself up over something that can’t be changed isn’t healthy.

 

You Can’t Turn Back Time

 

I recently did a reading for a woman who had lost her brother to suicide. The moment I tuned into her energy I could feel her tremendous pain. She and her brother had a close relationship, and she had been aware of the emotional struggles he was going through and knew of his suicidal thoughts.

 

She had always done the best she could to support him. She would call him every day to check up on him and ask him how he felt. She constantly reassured him that she was there for him and loved him.

 

The night before his passing, she called him and right away sensed something was different. She asked him repeatedly if he was okay and he reassured her that he was fine. She kept her phone on that night and had it under her pillow in case he needed her. Unfortunately, the only call that came was to let her know that he had passed away.

 

Ever since that day she had been weighed down with grief and regret. She replayed the night over and over, imagining different scenarios where she rushed over, broke down the door, and saved him. She was drowning in guilt and emotional pain.

 

When her brother came through during our reading, his message was filled with love and healing words. He told her he appreciated her always being there for him, and that their relationship had been one of the best things in his life. He assured her that the suicide was not her fault, and that there was nothing she could have done to stop him.

 

Finally, he told her that he was happy in Heaven, and urged her to forgive herself so that she could heal and be happy too.

 

Allowing Yourself to Heal

 

One unfortunate reality of life is that you can’t control everything and everyone. The woman who lost her brother might have stopped him that night, only to lose him to suicide another day. People have free will, their own lessons to learn, and choices that only they can make. When someone passes, you can’t turn back the clock and bring them back for good, but there are ways to replace your grief and regret with loving memories.

 

Here are some techniques that can help:

 

1) Start by remembering the good times. Grief is funny. It blocks out all the happy memories and only leaves us with pain. Don’t let the good memories be lost. Think of the person when they were enjoying life, happy and healthy. Remember the experiences you shared, holidays, trips, inside jokes. Train yourself to replace the sad, regretful thoughts with memories that make you smile.

 

2) Look back on old photos. See the person when they were happy and vibrant. If you can, get a photo album or browse a social media page where there are pictures you haven’t seen before. Images of your loved one during family gatherings, celebrations, and vacations will help you remember them at their best – and keep them alive in your heart.

 

3) Talk about it. Sometimes people avoid bringing up the name of someone who has passed over. Do your best to break through that barrier and share a happy memory. Encourage other friends or family members to relay their own stories about the departed.  If you’re not ready to talk to family members or mutual friends of the deceased, consider a support group. Talking to others who have been through the same thing might be hard at first, but hearing what they have to say will help you

 

When I speak to the dead, one thing always comes through. They don’t want their death to hold you back. Guilt can prevent you from moving on with your life. Give yourself permission to be happy again and let go of the guilt and regret you’re holding on to.

 

If you would like to join me for an online group reading, you can sign up for one here. To make it even more special your family can attend with you and all you need is one ticket. Just make sure they are sitting with you on camera. It doesn’t matter where you live and you don’t need any fancy technology. All you need is a tablet, computer or a smartphone to be able to join.

 

I believe, the more that you learn about Heaven, the more that you learn that your loved ones are not far away. That’s exactly why I want to share my gift with you ! I hope that by attending an event with me, you’ll feel closer than ever to the people you love. I hope it helps you to open yourself up to sensing and feeling spirit and tuning into their special loving vibration!

 

I hope to see your face, and the faces of your loved ones in Heaven, on my computer screen during my next online event!

REPUBLICAN AMERICAN: World has changed allowing psychic to share his gift

REPUBLICAN AMERICAN: World has changed allowing psychic to share his gift

By MIKE CHAIKEN

When psychic Matt Fraser’s grandmother and mother grew up, he said it was a different world.

Both women were psychic, he said. But in the 1950s and 1960s, when his grandmother was growing up, and later when his mother was growing up, there was no social media, or internet. Without those avenues, the women didn’t have any way to learn about what they were experiencing or to help others understand it.

So although both his grandmother and mother had the gift, Fraser said they kept it secret. They never spoke about it, he said.

Fraser said his grandmother kept the revelation so close to her chest that even her own husband, Fraser’s grandfather, had no idea that she had the gift.

Fraser said his mother feared “they would call her crazy.”

Since this was something both women did not want to discuss, Fraser said they did not use their gifts professionally or with family or friends.

Times changed, however, as Fraser, now 27, grew up. And these days, he shares his psychic abilities on radio and television as well as live appearances across the country.

And he will be appearing at Foxwoods Resort Casino in a public event on Jan. 6.

Fraser said his ability to reach to the other side started to reveal itself from ages 3 to 5.

But, he said, his gift began to find focus when his grandmother passed away and he began to converse to her from the other side. “That was my first true connection.”

The conversations with his grandmother became regular occurrences. He said his mother told him that many of the conversations he recalled for her were quite detailed. She figured the conversations could not be imagined.

As he got older, Fraser said he wasn’t just speaking with his grandmother. “Other souls would come to me.”

Fraser said he would see people standing at the end of his bed. They weren’t just ghostly apparitions or silhouettes but fully formed. “It was very real to me.”

However, Fraser said he didn’t think he was psychic. Since he had no perspective on the gift, he thought the house was haunted. It wasn’t until he realized the appearances of these souls were specific to him, that he had an inkling he was psychic.

But Fraser said he didn’t embrace this gift. “I was pushing it away.” Seeing these souls and hearing voices were “scary.”

In a way, Fraser said, he initially missed his calling. He knew he wanted to help people. But instead of using his gift, he trained to be an emergency medical technician.

But still the souls spoke to him, said Fraser. Trying to get a handle on what was happening, and since his mother refused to give him insight into her abilities, he went to a psychic for the perspective he needed.

Finally, Fraser said, he learned about what his gift meant.

“It changed my life,” he said.

Initially, said Fraser, he only did readings for close friends. The questions were simple, such as, who would they marry.

“I didn’t really know what I was doing,” Fraser said.

But then word spread, he said. The parents of his friends would ask for readings. From there, he said the parents began to organize group readings for Fraser. The questions became more urgent. Then he was called in to speak on radio programs and started making appearances on national television.

“I realized this could be my job,” said Fraser.

“Heaven has led me on this journey,” said Fraser.

When he does readings, Fraser said there are questions that typically arise. The first thing they want to know is if their loved one is okay. He said they are seeking some sort of closure.

Fraser said clients also want to know if their loved ones can see what is happening in their lives. They want to know if their loved ones can see the choices they make and if they are close by.

At events such as the one at Foxwoods, Fraser said he selects as many people as he can—but not all—to help reconnect with loved ones who have passed to the other side.

“I never know what the message will be,” said Fraser.

When audiences leave the appearance, Fraser said, he wants them to walk out with a sense of hope, renewal, and inner peace— even if they weren’t selected by Fraser that night.

“They’re not alone,” said Fraser. “Their loved ones are just a thought away.”

Matt Fraser will appear in the Grand Pequot Ballroom at Foxwoods Resort Casino in Mashantucket on Sunday, Jan. 6 at 2 p.m.

For more information, go to Foxwoods.com or MeetMattFraser.com

Is My Loved One Still Sick On The Other Side?

Is My Loved One Still Sick On The Other Side?

The best part about Heaven is that there is no cemetery and everyone in Heaven lives forever without illness. It is so amazing to see those who were so sick when they were alive transition into Heaven where they have been healed. It is always amazing to see the comfort that families received when they find out that their Dad who had passed away and could not walk is now running around and shaking his legs. Or a little boy who had autism when he was here in this world and could not speak, but can finally speak now that he is in Heaven and is relaying message after message of all the beautiful things that his family had done for him when he was here in this world.

One of the most inspiring stories about the miracles that Heaven brings was at one of my Live Events. I had saw a young boy standing behind a woman no older than 30 years old. I walked over to tell her a young boy was standing behind her and asked if this was her son. Starting to cry, she shook her head. Fast visions followed of the traumatic illness he faced here in this world. He showed me him being in a wheelchair and having to be fed by a feeding tube and not being able to speak. He showed me that immediately upon entering Heaven, he was now cured.

He wanted his mom to know not to hold onto the pain of feeling like she did not do enough for him. He remembered the times that his mom had brought over other children to play with him, quit her day job to take care of him, and had devoted her life to making sure that all of his needs were met and that he had lived a “normal” life. He wanted her to know that he knew she felt that he was robbed, or that he did not have a very good quality of life here in this world, because of his illness, but wanted her to know that because of her he never knew that he was sick or ill.

He remembered sharing a last birthday before he had his transition into Heaven, and wanted his mom to know that he was now fine and just like all of the other kids. He kept telling her, “If only you could see me now, you would see that I have no more pain. I am free.” This is the same with all of our loved ones. Pain, suffering and illness are all things that only living beings on Earth are faced with. Once we transition to the other side, all is left behind and we start our new life in paradise.

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