Forgiveness Sets YOU Free

Forgiveness Sets YOU Free

If you are a friend of mine on my Facebook Page, you will notice that I have been posting inspirational memes about forgiveness and letting go. It shocked me how many people replied with such negativity. It was very apparent to me that they were still hurting, sad and scarred from the negativity caused by someone they once knew, trusted and loved.

Forgiving and letting go after someone has done you wrong is indeed the hardest choice you can ever make, but it is one of the most important for you and for your health. Here’s why…

Negativity does not stay with the person you are upset with…

Some people feel that by holding grudges, it protects them from anyone else who tries to hurt them, including the person who hurt them. The truth is that the person who made you feel pain isn’t feeling that energy; you are. Although you think you may have it tucked deep down inside, the energy and pain are still living within you.

Situations we don’t find closure with lives within us and stops us from moving further in our life. Forgiveness does not mean the person was right; it means that you are freeing yourself from that negativity so you can live life again and put it out of mind.

Forgiveness allows you to feel free and happy again…

I was recently doing a psychic reading for a woman who waited over a year to talk to me. During our phone reading, she wanted advice and guidance from her mom who had died.

During her reading, her mom was talking about forgiveness. She had seen that her daughter was feeling lonely and disconnected. She wanted her daughter to make up with her kids and to put herself back out there into the dating world. She could see that her daughter would have the option of getting married again and of developing a close bond with her children.

During the reading, the mother’s spiritual guidance was very clear. She wanted her daughter to take back control of her life and to start to live again, but was her daughter ready to make the change?

Love & Divine Guidance from Heaven…

I personally love when the spirit comes through with wisdom and guidance. Those we love in spirit can see tomorrow so much more clearly than we can see yesterday.

When I started to deliver some of these messages to my client, she would not stop interrupting me. Instead of wanting to hear about her future, all she wanted to do was hear about her past. She wanted to know if the people who had hurt her felt pain, if her kids regretted what they had done and how they had treated her, if her family knew how judgmental they were, if her ex-husband’s new marriage would fail, and it just continued…

The more I tried to deliver her mother’s messages to her about the future, the more she would try to change the messages and make it about the past. Her mom didn’t want to talk about it. Her mom knew that her daughter had been dwelling on this for years and had pushed everyone away until finally, she was all alone living in the past.

My client at the time couldn’t see it. She thought by pushing everyone away and holding onto grudges, she was protecting herself. She felt it would make her feel better to think negatively about those who had hurt her. Instead, she was the problem to herself; she was closing her heart off and sinking into a depression.

Her mom had an important question for her: “ Are you ready to let go of the past and heal?” Her mom explained to her through me that she was trying to help her, but 25 mins of the reading were spent with daughter complaining and bringing up her painful past.

Finally, it just came out. I said, “Don’t you see what you are doing? Your mom is trying to talk to you and you keep blocking the messages. You  only want to relive your painful past.”

Her daughter stopped talking and remained quiet; suddenly, everything clicked. She saw that the pain was from holding on to the sadness for too long. She immediately began crying, and the pain was finally starting to release. She knew her mom was right; she had stopped living life because she was holding too much.

She didn’t date because of her failed marriage; she didn’t have friends because she was once deceived; she didn’t talk to her children because she felt they didn’t love her. Slowly but surely, she knew she needed to forgive and take her mom’s advice.

Forgiveness starts from the heart. It starts with YOU!

Over the past few weeks, she has started on the path of forgiveness. She first started with forgiving herself for her mistakes and for living in pain for so long. She forgave the grudges she held against her family and started to erase the painful memories from the past. She forgave her ex-husband and decided to put herself online and start to trust dating again.

You see, forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to ring someone’s doorbell and hug them. It all starts with you letting go of the pain and deciding to move forward.

In this case, there were some family members she couldn’t visit or talk to because the relationship was so bad. All she could do was forgive them in her heart and release the pain to the universe. What she could still repair was the relationship with her kids. She took a few weeks and then worked up the courage to grab the phone and call them. She set a date for them to meet up and talk, and they did.

It was not a joyous family reunion at first. In the beginning, it was awkward and emotionally painful, but she decided to push through it. She sat down and actually listened to what her kids had to say, and it was heavy. She cried but was ready for a change. For the first time ever, she was repairing and healing the past, not just living it. Her children forgave her and she forgave them. She was ready to put in the work, and it forever changed her life. They now talk every day, and she now has her family back.

Today, she is a different woman. She is finally living in the future. She is spending time with her grandchildren, dating an amazing man, and rediscovering her love of painting. She has even made like-minded friends by joining new classes. The people whom she once hated, no longer have control over her. She freed the energy and let go.

There is something we can all learn from this message from the spirit. Let go of the things weighing you down and take back control over your life. It may be painful at first, but it is worth the journey to heal and to be free.

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Release Those Chains !

Release Those Chains !

“I wear the chain I forged in life,” replied the Ghost. “I made it link by link, and yard by yard”

Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol

Before I dive into the real message of this blog, I have to share something about the way Spirit communicates that I think you’ll find interesting. Mediumship is a three-way psychic communication between the soul in Heaven, the person receiving the message, and the medium who serves as translator.

The tricky part is that Spirit doesn’t speak in straightforward words, instead they send signs, symbols, impressions, feelings, tingling sensations – you name it! When I started out as a medium, one of the things I worried about was that spirit would show me symbols that didn’t mean anything to me – I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to understand their “language.”

What kind of “translator” would I be if I couldn’t understand what the souls were trying to say?

But that’s not how mediumship works (thank God!). Spirit communicates impressions that make sense to the medium as well as to the recipient. In fact I’m often blown away when I get images and impressions that are so personal and meaningful to me that they speak a thousand words in just a flash. Keep that in mind as I share this story!

I was recently hosting a pretty large hotel event. There was a woman in the audience whose mother was coming through. The woman had passed a couple of years previously and she was letting me know that her death had been sudden and she had died with some unfinished business. She kept telling me to “Ask my daughter about her sister.” The woman in the audience was a little closed off to any reference to her sister, and finally blurted out – “I don’t talk to my sister at all.”

Suddenly I got one of those personal psychic impressions from Spirit. I looked at the woman in the audience, and just as the mother was telling me that she wanted the daughter to forgive her sister and mend the broken bridges between them, I got a vision of the younger woman dragging a big grey chain behind her.

The mother kept saying – “Don’t do what I did, forgive your sister” The daughter was resistant to the message, but the mother would not give up. I got another flash of the daughter with what almost looked like cartoon chains, draped over her shoulders weighing her down. It took me a minute to realize exactly what the mother was communicating and then it hit me.

It was a reference to my favorite Christmas special as a child, the Scrooge McDuck version of Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol. I used to drive my mom nuts, watching that over and over! The cartoon chains that I saw on the women in the audience were like the ones that the ghost of Jacob Marley was sentenced to drag around with him because of the life he had led. Once I put that together the meeting was clear.

The mother has spent her own life holding grudges, and let herself to be weighed down by resentment and her own unwillingness to forgive. She died before she could make amends and lighten her own load by forgiving the people in her life. She didn’t want the same thing for her own daughter. With the perspective she had gained in the afterlife, she was able to see the damage that refusing to forgive her sister was doing to her daughter and like the ghost of Jacob Marley, she was coming through to protect her daughter from her own future, and to encourage her to reconnect with her sister.

I actually referenced a Christmas Carol to the woman when I explained why it was so important to her mother that she reach out to her sister. She finally listened, and she started crying. “My mother was always so bitter and unhappy – and I’ve been feeling that way too.” After a few more messages back and forth between mother and daughter, the daughter softened up. I have a feeling she didn’t wait long before contacting her sister.

If you’re feeling weighed down by your anger toward someone or something, I hope you’ll give yourself the chance to let go of those “chains” and forgive. I promise you’ll feel lighter, happier and more optimistic. I can’t think of a better gift to give yourself this season.

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