Losing Your Soulmate

Losing Your Soulmate

Losing a loved one can leave a great big void in your life – and when it’s your spouse or soulmate, the loss is even harder to bear. After all, your significant other was a part of every single day. Suddenly there’s no one to have coffee with, watch television with and your daily routine, and pretty much your whole life is suddenly in turmoil.

After the initial shock of losing someone passes, most people are left with questions.

Is my loved one watching over me?

Are they in Heaven?

Are they reunited with family and pets who have passed?

Are they sending me signs that they’re around?

That’s where I come in.

I’m so grateful to be able to provide people who are grieving comfort and to answer their questions. Actually, it’s the departed who answer – I’m just the “telephone operator” who passes on their messages.

A reading for Dorinda Medley.

Not too long ago I was invited to the Berkshire’s to meet with Dorinda Medley of Real Housewives of New York. Dorinda had lost her husband Richard after only six years of marriage. Before I even arrived at her house, Richard had already started reaching out to me from the other side, giving me information and letting me know how excited he was to communicate with his wife.

He told me that he was concerned she had stopped enjoying life and was constantly searching for signs from him and wondering about him.

He was right. The moment I sat down with Dorinda my heart broke for her. I could feel the pain that she was carrying with her every day. It was like a piece of her heart had been taken when Richard died.

When I started the reading, Richard came through loud and clear. He told me to tell Dorinda that he was with Gerry. That immediately made her smile and start to laugh. Gerry was one of his close friends who had passed just a year before he did.

I love when spirit does that! They bring through little validations that are exactly what we need to hear. It gives us a glimpse at what Heaven is like.

At that moment I saw something change in Dorinda. Everything suddenly clicked for her. Even though she would always miss her daily interaction with Richard, she could rest easier knowing he was at peace and with friends in Heaven.

 

Watch Dorinda’s Reading.

Although Bravo didn’t broadcast my whole reading, Richard came through with validation that he had attended his daughter’s wedding in spirit. He thanked Dorinda for being part of his daughter’s life – supporting her when he couldn’t be there for her.

Five ways to heal your heart.

If you are missing a significant other, there’s something to learn from my reading with Dorinda. Although death may feel like the ultimate divide, your loved one is actually never far away.

When you’re mourning the loss of someone, it can feel like you’ll never be happy again. That’s not what your loved one wants! They’re watching over you, and they want you to make the most of your time on earth.

These simple steps can start your journey toward healing…

1. Give things away.

Often, people are reluctant to give away their loved one’s things. They might just shut the closet door and avoid it entirely. I have a secret for you. Your loved one doesn’t need all that stuff, and neither do you. Give items away to friends and family who will appreciate having something to remember them by, and give what’s left to people who need it. It’s a meaningful way to honor their memory and you will feel good knowing they have a special piece of him or her.

2. Don’t be afraid to talk about them.

Talking about your soulmate is a great way to feel closer to them and start the healing process. Share funny stories and happy memories. You’ll be surprised how good it feels. You’re probably going to have to begin the conversation –  other people are probably afraid to reopen your wounds, so they might avoid the topic. You will notice the moment you start to talk about old memories, those around you will do the same.

3. Letting go.

There comes a point where you have to focus on life and start letting go of your grief. Letting go does not mean you don’t still cherish memories of your loved one. They will always be in your heart. It just means you have to move on, and start to enjoy experiences and people, without guilt.

4. Give yourself a break.

No matter how long someone has been gone, there might still be days when you miss them so much that you can’t stand it. You don’t have to be strong all the time! It’s alright to let yourself give in to grief once in a while. If you want to spend a day in bed crying and looking at photographs – do it. Then say to your loved one, “Okay, I’m going back to my life now!” and get up, get dressed, and take on the day- and the rest of your life.

5. Continue life like you are still together.

Just because your soulmate is gone doesn’t mean you have to give up the things you enjoyed together. Take trips, see your mutual friends, go to your favorite restaurants. Watch a movie that you both loved on Netflix. You’ll find that instead of making you sad, you’ll feel closer to your soulmate in the most joyful way.

If you pull out your photo album and look through old pictures of those who have passed, that’s what Heaven is like. The same people are together on the other side, just as they were in life, but without pain or illness. Remember that life is a gift and live it well. When your time comes, you’ll be reunited with your soulmate in Heaven.

Laughter is the best medicine.

Remember that whether you are feeling lonely, sad, or stressed you can spend Monday nights with me and my family right in your living room. I love sharing my family with you each week on my TV series ‘Meet The Frasers’.  I hope that when you watch you laugh with us, cry with us and feel part of our family each week. It’s hard to believe that we are already half way through season one! If you missed an episode you can binge watch the series on demand or on Hulu or the NBC app. Also, remember to subscribe to me email newsletter by clicking here so you never miss a new inspirational article about Heaven and the afterlife.

 

 

 

Accepting, Forgiving and Letting Go

Accepting, Forgiving and Letting Go

Have you ever wished there was a moment in time when you could go back and change the past?

Have you ever felt emotionally responsible for something and wish you could let go of the guilt or hurt that it has caused you?

There are moments in life where we have to call upon Heaven and our Angels for divine help & healing either during or after a challenging situation. Whether it is death, tragedy or separation you have the ability to heal within, and Heaven will help you along the way. It all begins first with yourself and looking deeper into the situation that you are seeking healing over. Although it may be hard to revisit or think about a past situation that was painful sometimes its essential to be able to let go and to allow your soul to move forward.

Healing begins with acceptance and forgiveness and letting go. I know that these may seem like hard words to chew and more importantly you probably have heard them time and time again but the secret is looking at them on a deeper level.

Instead of thinking about the traditional meaning behind the words think about how these words can help you in feeling better and allowing yourself to live a happier life. Let these words uplift you and more importantly be the change that you need…

Acceptance: The meaning is knowing and reassuring yourself that you cannot change the past but you can change the future. Acceptance reminds us that it is not healthy to dwell on a past situation but to learn from it and make appropriate changes within life. The reason why is because life is constant and ongoing we are all here to make mistakes to learn, teach and inspire others. It can help to remember that earth is the classroom and Heaven is where we retire in paradise with others who have completed their life journey.

If your are having a hard time accepting the passing of a loved one you can remember that acceptance does not mean your okay with what had happened. It just means that you will accept the passing knowing that you will meet again and that your loved one is with you just in a different way.

Forgiveness: Being able to forgive others from the past but most of all yourself. So many times you may be faced with thinking about a situation that you may hold yourself accountable for. Even if it was something that you could have prevented know that it is ok to forgive yourself. So many times the past can bring back hard memories but when a painful memory surfaces replace it by changing your thoughts around to a happy one. Having control of your thought process will help you with the forgiveness stage. it’s OK to tell yourself that you are sorry for what had happened and begin to heal. If the situation laid with someone else at fault forgive them from the bottom of your heart. Forgiveness does not mean they are right, it is a gift that you give yourself. No matter what the situation is forgiveness allows you to let go of years of hurt, pain and suffering allowing your soul to be free.

Letting Go: Allowing your soul to let go of the pain, sadness and hurt but more importantly holding on to the lessons you were taught. Letting go does not mean you forget about the person or situation, you just decide you will let go of the painful emotions around it and allow your soul to be at peace. Letting go is the biggest step because you begin to let go of the sadness and hurt and invite happiness within your life.

Here are some exercises you can do to help you Accept, Forgive and Let Go:

Write a letter expressing your thoughts and feelings over a situation. It can be a letter saying you are letting go of the situation or a letter forgiving a person that caused you pain or suffering. Write it but don’t send it. Instead, take it and hand it over to the Universe and Heaven to take care of. You can let it go to the wind, cut it up or burn it.  Know that the letter and situation is now in Heavens hands. Let your Angels take care of the past.

Take a healing walk with your Angels. Go outside and tell your Angels that you need there help with healing. Invite them in and as you are walking tell them all the things that have been bothering you in details. As you are speaking your Angels are listening to you. Ask them to help take the pain away and lead you on  path to happiness.

Create a future plan. So many times the past can hold you back from doing so many things. Take your life back in your hands by mapping out life goals and an action plan for yourself. Think of what you want most in life and create a vision board and write it down.

Believe In Yourself. Part of the healing process is believing and encouraging yourself. Heaven and your Angels believe in you and so should you! Healing is a way of life. Take a class, start exercising or find an activity to help lift you up.

Practice random acts of kindness. After you accepted that you cannot change the past, take a step forward and make someones day with positivity. Tell those around you how deeply you feel and care about them. Hold doors open and smile often. Doing positive things for others will lift you up and heal your soul.

Remember that we are all students here on Earth living life learning the lessons that God has in store for us. In the end we are all reunited with those we have ever lost in Heaven where there are no grudges, burdens, guilt or anger. Heaven is the ultimate paradise filled with love and peace. All of the heavy emotions are dropped as someone’s soul makes its way to Heaven so that they can be at peace. None of those emotions or past experiences are brought with them. That being said lets make Heaven a place on earth, you have the power to drop the heavy emotions now and embrace happiness. Heaven will help you along the way!

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We Just Broke Up, Now What ?

We Just Broke Up, Now What ?

What does speaking to the dead have to do with getting back together? Believe it or not, there have been many times when I have used my psychic gift to help those here in the physical world recover from a breakup. If you are reading this article right now, I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. Healing from a broken heart is sometimes just as painful as healing from an illness. The hurt is lingering, and it can even make you lose hope.

The secret is knowing that you are not alone. Remember that your loved ones in Heaven can see tomorrow just as clearly as you can see yesterday. Here are some life lessons I have learned through my many readings. What ones apply to you?

If it’s meant to be, it will be…

True love always finds a way back. If the person you were with was truly your soul mate, you will be reconnected in the future. Sometimes things fall apart and we realize how valuable that person is and how special the relationship was to us. We reconnect with the person only to find and discover an even more meaningful love, friendship and connection.

Other times, it’s the opposite. The time apart can make you see things from a different angle and help you realize you need and desire something more. In the end, things will work out the way they should. If you are meant to be with that person, the universe will make sure you are brought back together in a divine way. If you are not brought back together, it simply means there is someone out there who is more deserving of your love. The next step is finding them or letting them find you.

Take time to rediscover yourself.

So many times after a breakup, the sudden loss can make you want to reach out and reconnect right away. If the relationship ended without closure, it can play tricks with your mind. You may not be able to get that person out of your mind, or you may replay things again and again. Through all of this, you need to make sure you don’t lose yourself in the process. Remember, true happiness comes from within and only you can create happiness within your life. Take this opportunity to rediscover yourself and the things that make you happy. Reach out to old friends, engage in recreational activities and enjoy the time with yourself. You will discover things about yourself that you have long forgotten.

Trying to reconnect immediately after a breakup is not a good idea. These things take time, and just as you are trying to process your own emotions, so is your partner. Give it a few weeks until you feel you are emotionally in a good place. In the meantime, keep your heart and mind safe. Remember, if you still love and respect your partner, you need to show it. Respect them by not talking bad about the them, and don’t say anything you will regret in the future.

Always make sure you have a handle on your emotions. You control your emotions; your emotions do not control you.

Don’t be afraid to let your walls down.

It’s okay to be afraid to date again. A breakup can make it hard for you to trust anyone with your heart ever again. Don’t let yourself shut down. Being able to love is being able to love with an open heart. It’s being able to share your heart with someone who is special to you. If you can’t let down your walls, how do you ever expect for someone to get close to you? During the time apart, you do not have to date, but instead, be open. You never know who will divinely come into your life. If someone wants to take you out or get close to you, let them. The worst-case scenario is that it doesn’t work. Just make sure you are not limiting yourself. Remember, when one door closes, another one opens. You just have to make sure you are ready when it does so you can walk through it.

Don’t be afraid to let go.

If reaching out to your ex or trying to reconnect doesn’t work, it’s time to let go. I have read for so many people who have a hard time with this. Some have held onto past relationship even though the person they once were with has since remarried, starting a future with someone else. It’s not fair to you to stop your life. The best advice I can give you is to move on and open your heart up to dating someone. Some people are put into our life as lessons. They teach us patience, faith and trust among other things. Your next relationship will be so much more meaningful than the first.

Do you ever notice sometimes people in their second marriage have so much fun? Many times, it’s because the first marriage taught them valuable life lessons they have carried with them to the next relationship. Sometimes, the first time, we made a mistake and ended up with the wrong person. The moral of the story is that you do not know who you will feel a soul connection with until you get out and meet new people.

Trust in the divine plan.

If there is one thing I know, it’s that Heaven has your back. You are in the right place at the right time, even though you do not feel that way. Use this experience as a life lesson to learn and grow from. Take a look back on the things you did right in the relationship and the things you did wrong. Use them to your advantage. Start to think about your next relationship. What do you want to change? What do you want the relationship to be like?

Remember, in the end, if it’s meant to be, it will be. I have a personal story to share. My grandfather was crazy about a girl he met when he was 16. He wanted to be with her in the worst way and felt she was his soulmate. She turned him down for another man because he was “too young,” and she wanted someone older. She went on to meet her husband and my grandfather, broken-hearted, eventually went on to meet my grandmother whom he married. They both had beautiful families and kids in their lives apart.

Almost 50 years later, both of their significant others passed of illness around the same time. As fate would have it, they ran into one another all those years later and decided to pick up the relationship they had left behind in their teenage years. They never regretted marrying whom they did, but they were thankful to divinely connect in love years later.

That being said, trust in the road ahead. Life is too short to get hung up. Keep moving forward and everything will happen in a divine way. Take some time for yourself to heal. Remember, the thing you cannot understand now will all make sense as you look back on them in the future.

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