A Lesson in Love

A Lesson in Love

My girlfriend, Alexa, just popped into my office and reminded me that Valentine’s day is coming up. I think she had her own reasons for telling me that – but it got me thinking about relationships, soulmates, and especially, how love endures.

People ask me about love all the time. Will I find a boyfriend? Is my girlfriend “the one?” How will I know when I’ve found my soulmate? I’m a medium, not a matchmaker – but I act as a middle-man to relay messages between souls in heaven and their loved ones on earth – so I  can usually tap into some heavenly guidance to answer their questions.

Love is the answer.

The great thing about talking to dead people is they know what’s REALLY important. When you’re looking back from a heavenly vantage point, you realize that a lot of the things that made you crazy when you were alive don’t matter at all when you look at the big picture. What does matter in life are the people you love – and when you meet your soulmate that love never dies.

So, let’s talk about soulmates.

A soul mate is your twin flame – someone your heart is intertwined with at the deepest level. Some people believe that you’ve shared past lives with this person. I don’t know about that, but I can tell you from my experience as a medium, you will carry that soul connection with you into the next world.

Does everyone wind up with their soulmate?

Every couple you see walking around are not necessarily soulmates. It’s totally possible and very common to have a long, happy, productive relationship with someone who is not your soulmate – but that relationship’s place is in the here and now, and it might not go any further. You might not reconnect with your husband or wife in heaven – but you will surely reconnect with your soulmate.

What if you miss your big chance?

Some people look back and realize they let true love slip away because they were preoccupied with other things or in another relationship. You might not even realize someone was your soul mate until they’re not in your life anymore. If you think you missed your chance – don’t worry. You can trust the universe has a plan to bring the two of you back together.

Be patient. Don’t put your life on hold while you wait– be open to new experiences and relationships. Remember, in the end, if it’s meant to be, it will be.

Your soulmate wants you to have a happy life.

I can’t stress enough that you have to be open to all kinds of love, and to trust in the divine plan. Sometimes people lose their husband and they are afraid to date again because they don’t want to risk not being reconnected in the afterlife. It doesn’t work that way – new people cross your path for many reasons, and sometimes the person on the other side is the one pulling the strings and making things happen.

If your soulmate passes, realize that they’re not looking down at you and feeling jealous! They KNOW that you will be together for eternity. But while you’re going through your life on earth, they want you to be happy. The absolute last thing they want is for you to be alone and keep on mourning them while you still have a life to live.

A word about my own soulmate.

If you’re watched my new television show, Meet the Frasers’ on E! you’ve seen my girlfriend Alexa. I’ve always loved how easy it is for us to be together. Being with Alexa has made me realize that a relationship doesn’t have to be work.

It’s hard for me to believe how compatible we are. I don’t party and neither does Alexa. We’re both super close to our families. Everything went so well from the very start. Our parents get along. We have the same views and it’s very easy to live together. We understand and support the other’s career. Alexa participates in pageants and aspires to be Miss Rhode Island. She understands what it’s like being in the spotlight and can relate to how committed I am to what I do. I like seeing Alexa achieve her dreams and she feels the same for me.

Alexa and I were both in a good spot mentally and emotionally to start a relationship – we had both been with other people we hadn’t been compatible with, and we recognized something special in each other.

Are we soulmates? We think so! But you can decide for yourself – watch us in action on “Meet the Frasers’ Monday Nights at 10/9c on E! In the meantime, I‘d better start planning something special for Valentine’s Day!




5 Ways To Show Thanks, Love & Gratitude

5 Ways To Show Thanks, Love & Gratitude

I don’t consider myself a spiritual teacher, just a guy blessed with the gift of connecting with souls who have passed over. People have always called me an old soul, and that’s not surprising! As you can probably imagine, I’ve picked up a few pieces of timeless wisdom from my friends on the other side.

I can tell the holidays are getting closer because Alexa is starting to look up recipes, and my family keeps calling asking what the dinner plans are. When Alexa and I first met, we started taking over the holidays. Our families are both small and before we met each other, our parents never did anything big. Alexa’s parents are divorced and my Dad was away in the navy when I was growing up so Thanksgiving to us was just like any other family meal. We decided to change all of that. Every year we host both families at our house, decorate the table with fancy and festive décor and cook all week long. We turned our family into a modern day italian brady bunch. 

Thanksgiving for us includes the traditional turkey and sides, along with –you guessed it – pasta and lasagna! Did I mention we’re Italian?

Why am I telling you this – to make you hungry?

Nope. I want to remind you of something really important that comes up over and over when I do my readings.

The importance of being grateful for your life and the people you love.

If I had a dollar for every time I heard someone in Spirit say “I wish I’d appreciated the good things in my life” or saw someone in my audience crying because they never let their mom know how much they loved her when she was alive – well, I’d have enough money for those Gucci loafers I’ve had my eye on!

Life is short. You know that – we all do. But what can you do to make sure that you make the most of the time you have? I want you to add a helping of gratitude to go with the turkey, and lasagna, this thanksgiving!


Here are five ideas to try :

  • Write a little card or note to everyone in your family and slip it to them when you get together. Let them know how much you love them and what makes them so special to you. Share a memory that you cherish.


  • Be “in the moment” when you’re with the people you love. People always wish they’d spent more time with grandma or listened closer to grandpa’s stories after it’s too late. Do yourself a favor, don’t wait till your loved ones are gone to appreciate them. Ask them questions, write down their special recipes, give them a hug and tell them you love them.


  • Don’t put off enjoying your own life till tomorrow. Take a chance, take the vacation with the kids, eat that cheesecake, adopt a kitten. There’s never going to be a perfect time, so make today count. Life is a gift, so say “Thank You” and appreciate it.


  • Be generous with everything – your time, your money, and your words. Smile and chat with the people in line at the grocery store. Make friends with everyone. Being kind, helpful and positive makes every day better for you, and the people around you.


  • When you’re feeling worried or overwhelmed, make a list of people and things that you’re grateful for. No matter how sad you are or how dark life feels, there’s always something beautiful around you. You just have to open your eyes and see it. It might be a sunset, or your girlfriends smile, or an act of kindness.


When your heart is full of gratitude, there’s not much room for sadness and worry. If you’re mourning the loss of someone you love, take a few minutes to remember the good times, and send some love to them in Heaven, thanking them for the good times you shared.

I’m sending you my very best wishes for this holiday season and every single day of the year. I’m so grateful to have you as part of the Matt Fraser community! I hope you will watch out new TV show Meet The Frasers and invite us into your living room. Meet The Frasers Premiers on Jan 13th, 2020 on E! Entertainment.

I hope I see you before the TV show airs. I have just finished adding new tour dates to my LIVE event calendar. To attend a LIVE group reading, https://meetmattfraser.com/events/

The Limitless Love of Pets

The Limitless Love of Pets

“Such short little lives our pets have to spend with us, and they spend most of it waiting for us to come home each day.
It is amazing how much love and laughter they bring into our lives and even how much closer we become with each other because of them.”
― John Grogan, Marley and Me: Life and Love With the World’s Worst Dog

Pets are such a great way to experience unconditional love. If you’ve been on my Instagram account, you’ve seen my three Bengal Cats. Bengals are like a cross between wild cats and house cats, and as soon as I became aware of this breed, I knew I had to have one (or three) because they’re smart, exotically beautiful and so, so, loving! Our kitties bring Alexa and I tons of joy, and I hope we have them with us for many years to come.

Cats, dogs, and most pets (with the exception of certain birds and tortoises) don’t live as long as humans – but that’s one of the priceless lessons they teach. We have to cherish and appreciate them while they’re here, since their time on earth is so short.

People often ask me where souls of our pets go when they die, and if they can look forward to being reunited with their four legged friends in heaven. I know the answer – since often, when I’m hosting a group reading, the spirits of pets show up to give a sniff or a tail wag to their human families. They’re usually in the company of family members and other pets who have crossed over.

When cats, dogs, horses and other pets come through to me, they bring with them a powerful love energy. Their messages are overwhelmingly positive, and they usually want me to remind their owners of cherished time spent together taking long walks, cuddling on the couch, and sitting by the fire. They want to share that they’re happy, healthy and free, running and playing in heavenly fields. Best of all, they love to show me images of their spirit beings still curled up in their old, favorite places in the family home – and hearing that gives so much comfort to the people who miss them!

If you’re mourning the loss of a beloved pet, here are some insights that might bring you comfort:

Don’t feel guilty. Animals remember the good times and forgive everything else. The love and care you gave to your pet throughout their life is what they carry with them to the Spirit realm. If you had to make the hard choice to end their suffering, they understand that you did it to stop their pain.

It’s okay to “love again.” Pets who have passed on don’t resent their replacements. In fact, often they will drop in Spirit form to give your new friend some instructions! They are happy in Heaven, and they want you to be happy and protected too.
They send you signs from the other side. If you still sense your departed pet around you, you’re probably right! Pets often make themselves known while you’re in a relaxed or dreamlike state – so if you feel a whisker across your face or a warm sensation at your feet while you’re in bed, it’s not your imagination. Your pet is making their presence known.

Your pet wants you to heal. The best way to recover from any loss is to share compassion and kindness with others. Learn from your pet’s example and love unconditionally.

All souls on the other side, wait for the day when they will be reunited with their earth families. Learn a lesson from your pets and cherish the time you have with your loved ones – two legged and four legged! Every day is precious.

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How to Clear Negativity, Increase Positivity, and Create Balance

How to Clear Negativity, Increase Positivity, and Create Balance

Sometimes life can get a little overwhelming. You feel you never have enough time to get it all done.

But you need to remember is that the keys to happiness and stability are created through balance, focus and intention. Just like you clean the house during spring cleaning, you should also take the time to wipe the slate clean and clear out some of the emotional clutter rattling around inside your head. Focus on creating more time and space for the things that bring you joy and make you happy.

With that in mind, here are some steps that you can take to rid yourself of negativity and put a spring back in your step.

To begin, start by taking a look at your normal week. Begin to think about, and write down, all the things that you are working on, are responsible for, or that take up your time. As you look at some of the items, do you feel drained, or do some of them make you feel anxious? Those items that make you roll your eyes are known as emotional clutter. It’s that draining feeling you get when looking at a to-do list and feel overwhelmed. That overwhelming feeling shows that you are probably overstressed or need to balance things out a little bit better. Energy balancing is when you restore the nourishing things in life that help to ground you, and allow the anxiety and stress to “funnel out” of your body.

It all begins with habit changing, and looking deep within yourself to find out what you truly love to do. Sometimes, it’s the most simple things in life that bring the most joy, such as taking a walk, singing and dancing like nobody is watching, or just sitting on the sand of a beach and letting your mind get lost in the tide. Many times you can feel yourself becoming overwhelmed when the material things in life pull you back from enjoying the things Heaven created for you.

So, here are some habit changing suggestions that will help you to clear out the emotional clutter and find positivity in your daily routine.

Going to come home and watch tv?  

TRY: Taking a walk outside while listening to music instead.

Going to the mall with your family?

TRY: Going to the beach and spending time talking and playing with one another.

Going to the gym?

TRY: Digging out your bicycle and taking a trip down the neighborhood bike path.

Going to talk with a friend on the phone?

TRY: Planning a day to meet your friend for coffee and spending the day together.

Going to surf the internet?

TRY: Using your free time to engage in something that will use your inner talents and abilities, such as taking an art class, learning a new language, or trying gardening.

Do you see the difference? You are putting some personal time aside to get back in touch with you, your family, and your friends, and allowing the positivity of life to lift you up. No matter what age you are, or how many responsibilities you have, there should always be enough room for you to have fun and enjoy yourself. If you are having a hard time getting through the week, the best thing you can do is create a schedule with “personal days” that you block off and plan to do something you love and enjoy.

Just one personal day every week will help you in so many ways, and it will give you something to look forward to, and to stay positive about, throughout the week. Just knowing in the back of your mind that at the end of the week you have a day set aside just for you to do anything that you want will help you to feel like you can make it through!

Many times, it’s the overwhelming feeling of being in the same schedule day in and day out that gets you so overwhelmed, so spice it up a bit and enjoy yourself!

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Giving A Relationship A Second Chance.

Giving A Relationship A Second Chance.

Are You Thinking About Giving a Relationship a Second Chance ?

There have been many times when I have been asked to use my psychic ability for help with relationships. Many times, someone will call me after reconnecting with a boyfriend or significant other after a breakup. If you’re like me, you believe that with love, there is always a way. If you truly love and care for someone, I believe there are ways to make it work and to repair things. Many times, you may be afraid of entering into a relationship again after being hurt the first time by that person. I believe in second chances, and I personally have seen many relationships fall apart only to come together stronger. If you are thinking about giving your significant other a second chance, here are some things you need to know that will help guide you on the right path.

Know your worth.

Before we get into anything, it’s important for you to remember that you are the most important person in this world. If you are being abused emotionally, physically or mentally, this relationship is not for you. Nothing good can come from abuse. You have a duty to create your own happiness and to open yourself up to someone who will love and care for you. It’s important to remember that you want someone who will truly make you feel special every day and lift you up. Through all of this, you need to think about you and make a promise to yourself to save your heart for someone who deserves it. Think about your future. Ask yourself, will I be happy with this person? Will this person make a good husband, wife or partner?

Listen to your heart, not to other people.

I truly believe that sometimes, the best advice comes from within. It’s hard to make a good decision when you are letting other people influence you. Only you know how you feel and what goes on behind closed doors. Sometimes, asking the advice from others can only make you more confused and stressed. It’s best to take some time to yourself to really think things through without the thoughts of others. If you do feel you need to talk to someone, try to limit it to just one close friend or family member whom you trust. It’s also important to respect your significant other’s privacy too.

Give yourself a second chance.

If you are rekindling a relationship, remember that a relationship is only successful when two people work at it. Just as you are giving a second chance to that person, you need to give yourself a second chance as well. Let go of expectations and focus on truly enjoying and reconnecting with that person. Don’t treat it as a test. Some people say, “I’m not going to call him. Let’s see if he calls me,” or, “ I’m not doing anything anymore. If she wants the relationship, let her prove herself to me.” In the end, that just sets yourself up for failure. In order for things to work, you both need to try to make it work and support and love one another. It’s not a test; it’s a second chance.

Let go of what went wrong.

Letting go of what went wrong is one of the hardest things you can do, but it’s the most important step. If you dwell on the past, you will never be able to live the future. Sometimes, this is hard because you did nothing wrong. Try to work through it with your significant other by talking about it. Let them know you are hurting, let them apologize and together, let it go so you can come back into the relationship stronger as you start anew. A second chance is a gift you give with no strings attached because you truly love the person more than any past mistakes or hurt.

Focus on making things better.

The best thing you can do when reentering a relationship is to have fun with that person. Nobody wants to go back to boring. You want to enjoy that person’s company. Go for coffee and a walk downtown or attend an event together. These are moments to bond and connect with the person in a more meaningful way. The simple things in life, like going for ice cream or cooking at home and trying a new bottle of wine, can lead to beautiful memories.

Take the opportunity to talk.

Believe it or not, the most powerful way to bond with someone isn’t in the bedroom. It starts with feeling each other on an emotional level. Meaningful conversations with one another will bring you closer together. Physical attraction comes and goes, but the conversations and emotional bond is what truly is everlasting and strong. Ask questions. Show the person you are with that you truly care about them and about what is going on in their life. When you ask them questions, you learn more about them and allow them to open up to you in a more meaningful way.

Open your heart to trust.

Trust is the key to reconnecting with someone you love. If you are snooping through drawers or checking their phone for messages while they are in the bathroom, you will never be able to open up your heart fully. Trust can be scary, but it is the chance you take when you truly love and care for someone. Trust begins with you and with having strong confidence in yourself. If you can’t trust a person in the beginning of a relationship, how will you later on in life? Trust is the greatest gift you can give a person. It is a building block that strengthens your relationship and builds a foundation for years to come. If you want to rebuild things, don’t be afraid to put your heart out there. If you truly love this person, it will be worth it in the end.

I want remind you that love takes time. It’s an emotional journey you go through with someone you care for. If you can’t stop thinking about someone special, give them a second chance and try again. The worst thing that can happen is things don’t work out. Sometimes, you might have to give it one more shot to be able to find the closure you need to move on to the next chapter with someone else. Other times, it is the second time that makes things work and fall together as they should.

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