I have to say, these last few months have been pretty amazing. I married my soulmate, Alexa, went on an amazing honeymoon, I’ve got a brand-new book coming out, and I’ve been back on the road hosting LIVE events all around the country. I’ve even done shows in Las Vegas, which was a dream of mine for years. But my life wasn’t always like this. If you’d told me I’d be on stage in Las Vegas when I was in high school, well…I’m not sure I would have believed you!
When You’re an Old Soul in High School
Everyone asks me, is there a hell? Yes, it’s right here on earth and it’s also known as High School! To say that my high school years were difficult is an understatement.
People assume that the fact that I speak to dead people was the reason I didn’t fit in with the high school crowd, but that wasn’t it. For the most of that time I didn’t let anyone know about that side of my life- I had pushed it away to the point that I had almost forgotten that I had psychic abilities. But what WAS an issue is that I was an “old soul” trying to connect with a bunch of kids who were basically obsessed with sports and partying.
How Heavy is Your Baggage?
Growing up, my mom and grandma always said I was an old soul, but I didn’t really get what that meant. I asked my mom once, and she said it was because I wasn’t like other kids. I was very sensitive and tuned in to the feelings of other people – even strangers, and she felt like I was “born knowing things.”
That’s pretty much the definition of an old soul. If you believe that we’re all energy, and part of a universal life source, then an old soul is connected to that wisdom on a deeper level (and from an earlier age) during their lifetime.
New souls enter the world to experience things for the first time. It’s like they’re traveling through life with an empty suitcase and filling it up as they go along. Everything feels new to them, and their journey is all about learning lessons. An old soul comes into this life with heavier baggage – filled with karma and memories – so they approach things from a whole different perspective. Because of this perspective, they have a hard time relating to the things that their peers care about so desperately.
How to Know if You’re an Old Soul
If you, or someone you know is having the kind of experience at school or work that I did back in High School, maybe their “old soul” is the reason. If you’re wondering if you, or someone you love, is an old soul, here are some characteristics to look for:
You feel like an outsider. Like I said, old souls are approaching life from a different angle than other people, and their unique perspective makes It hard for others to relate to them. If they’re in an environment where everyone is trying hard to fit in, sensitive old souls can be left out of things, or become the target of bullying.
You know right away when you’ve found a kindred spirit. On the flip side, when you meet a like-minded person (another old soul) you really click. And that’s an amazing feeling.
You feel connected to everyone – you’re sensitive to animals, strangers, plants, and flowers. Your empathy can be a burden or a blessing. You might cry when you watch the news, but you also understand people. When you find people you can trust, it’s easy for you to get close.
You’re more self-aware than most people. “Old souls” tend to look inward and examine their behavior and feelings. This pays off, because they recognize when they hurt others, or make a choice that doesn’t serve them.
You see the big picture. Because an old soul is tapped into universal energy, they tend to understand things on a different level. They can’t just focus on how something impacts them without also seeing the impact of others, their neighborhood, and the planet as a whole.
Finally, you have a gift that you can’t really explain. You sit down at the piano and can play by ear. You have an eye for color and design that comes naturally. Or maybe you can talk to dead people.
Living Your Best Life as an Old Soul
If you checked a lot of these boxes, congratulations! You CAN thrive as an old soul in a world full of newbies if remember these simple tips.
Find your tribe and connect with them often. Everyone is not going to totally “get you” but it’s critical to have other like-minded people that you can spend time with to recharge and relax.
Do meaningful work. I always knew I wanted to help people, first as an emergency medical technician (EMT), and then as a medium. When I recognized my gift, it was like my whole life lit up. I was in the right place, and that resonated down to my soul.
Enjoy life. Don’t let that heavy baggage weigh you down! Feed your “old soul” with music, art, spending time in nature, good food, good friends, and loving pets.
I can hardly express how grateful I am to be spending my time doing work that’s fulfilling and that has such a healing effect on other people. I feel like I’m doing exactly what I was put on this earth to do – and that makes my “old soul” very happy!
Pre-Order ‘ We Never Die: Secrets of the Afterlife
Psychic medium Matt Fraser, the author of When Heaven Calls, is back with a book that answers the question everyone wants to know the answer to: “What happens after death?” Although the answer might seem complicated, it’s actually pretty simple: We never die.
Drawing from his personal experiences as America’s top psychic medium and the thousands of conversations he’s had with those in spirit, Matt will pull back the curtain on life’s hidden question. He’ll dive into what happens when we cross over, explore the beautiful realities of heaven and eternal life, the guardian angels who keep us safe on earth (including our pets), and much more. He’ll also explain how we can tune into our own inner psychic medium and better recognize the signs and messages our loved ones send us from heaven. As Matt explains, “We all have our own ‘phone line’ to communicate with heaven. All we have to do is figure out how to use it.”
I was stuck in traffic the other day, and I figured I’d take the time to plan out this blog. I knew I wanted to talk about the different kinds of mediums and how they connect with souls on the other side but couldn’t figure out how…
Mediums can serve a specific purpose.
So, I’m sitting there thinking about my upcoming Dr’s appointments when suddenly it hits me! Mediums are kind of like all the different Dr’s we have.. Hear me out!
Just like doctors have a specialty, there are mediums who specialize in different types of readings. For example, there are psychic mediums, pet mediums, medical mediums, mediums that hunt for ghosts – just like there are chiropractors, Dermatologists, Optometrist, Pediatricians, and cardiologists, that all specialize in different parts of our bodies.
You’ll have the most success if you find the kind of medium you need. Just like you can complain to your chiropractor about chest pain, you can go to a psychic medium with a medical question – but it’s not ideal!
Although every Medium has a unique and special way to connect with spirit, they all have their own specialties.
Three generations, three different ways of connecting.
Beyond having a specialty, mediums also receive messages differently. Also, the way psychic and mediums use their gifts varies! Take my family. My grandmother was a medium, my mom is a medium and I am a medium. We share genetics, we’re all mediums, but we have different gifts – different ways of connection.
My grandmother was primarily a card reader. She would do readings, mapping out the past, present and future for her clients using her handmade tarot deck. She relied on psychic ability, but mediumship was not a main connection for her. She could sense and feel spirit, but mainly received premonitions.
My mom is a psychic life reader. Before each reading she meditates on the client she is about to read, pulls a few cards, and suddenly thoughts, visions and feeling start to take over and paint a picture of that persons life. My mom’s readings help people navigate life, career and romance.
She can also decode symbols found in tea leaves or coffee grinds at the bottom of your cup.
It’s funny, because when I see tea leaves or coffee grinds they mean nothing – but to my mother, they tell a whole story. My mom’s mediumship also comes through when she looks at photographs. She is able to identify and see spirit in photos, and bring through messages.
For me, it’s different because I see visions in real life. Spirit appears to me in the form of a shadow or silhouette and I hear messages like a whisper through my thoughts. It’s not the same as the movies, though – they’re more like glimpses or impressions. I also feel physical sensations – I’ll get a sensation in my chest and know the person who passed had heart issues, or feel a sudden pain in my head and know they had an aneurism or stroke.
I use all of these senses and feelings to understand the message spirit is trying to relay. To me it’s like putting together the pieces of a jig-saw puzzle.
Meet the Clairs!
You’ve probably heard of clairvoyance, and maybe you even thought it was synonymous with psychic. Actually, it’s only one of the ways that psychics and mediums receive messages. Here are a few of the most popular “clairs,”and how they feel to the medium.
Clairvoyance – Seeing: Clairvoyant mediums have the ability to visualize memories or events presented to them through the mind’s eye or the third eye. Mediums usually see these visions as quick mental flashes which include pictures of people, places, and objects, or even symbols, colors, and auras.
Clairaudience – Hearing: You can probably guess that this is the ability to hear messages from the other side. The words aren’t crystal clear like a phone call – the medium usually has to piece them together. What comes through is often fast and jumbled, or can even be a mix of voices that sound like what happens when you scroll through the channels on a radio.
Clairsentience – Sensing / feeling: This is the ability to sense emotions from spirit both positive and negative. Mediums with this gift can also “feel” any physical pain associated with the spirit connection. These feelings are being transmitted from the soul they’re connecting with, and are clearly different from their own feelings.
Claircognizance – Knowing: This is commonly described as flash of understanding, a premonition, or a sudden understanding that comes out of nowhere. Mediums who have this gift can often gain valuable insights in a reading that answer a question or help the recipient gain clarity or closure.
Clairalience – Smelling: This is the ability to smell a fragrance being transmitted by the spirit. It can be related to the spirit who is sending the message such as smelling cigarettes or pipe tobacco for someone who smoked or catching a whiff of the soul’s favorite perfume.
Finding a medium who is a match for you.
Why am I telling you all this? You might feel that I’m giving you TMI (too much information). However, it’s always good to have the knowledge to make an informed choice. If you’re in need of a medium for a reading, or for any purpose, it’s important to find out a little about them. I’ve said this often, a medium is like a translator between you and the spirit realm. That’s the reason you need to find a psychic or medium you connect with. It’s like finding a teacher that speaks your language, and communicates in a way that helps you to learn.
Now that you’ve been educated on the types of mediums, I invite you to see one in action. ME!
You can experience my style of readings without leaving your couch. Check out my online group reading page, sign up for one of my Online Group Readings and find out if someone on the other side has a special message for you.
Okay, so I just realized something. As a medium, I’m accustomed to hearing people talk about how they wish they could see their loved one in spirit, or give them a hug, or do any of a million activities you’d normally engage in with a friend or family member. But they can’t, because the person has passed.
That’s why I love what I do!
It’s so gratifying to be able to help someone feel a little closer and more connected with their loved ones in Heaven. Not only do I bring through messages that provide healing and closure, but I also reassure the person that when they leave my event or hang up from our FaceTime session, their departed loved one will still be with them. They might not be able to have a cup of coffee and share a piece of cake, but they can still reach out and “feel” them. They just have to keep an open mind, and find different ways to connect.
Many people who have been in semi-isolation during Covid have been forced to find new ways to stay in touch with their living friends, extended family, and co-workers.
It took a while to get used to. At first the idea of having Thanksgiving in separate places and saying grace together over Zoom seemed insane! However, it worked! Families still laughed, shared holiday recipes, and told stories. Grandparents could FaceTime their grandchildren and send them gifts over Amazon.
Was video chatting with your loved ones exactly the same as being in the same room with them?
Not really. But the important part – the love and the memories that came through loud and clear. As the pandemic went on, longer than most of us expected, we got better and better at staying connected without actually being together. We got creative! There were Zoom book clubs, and FaceTime happy hours. At work there were virtual conferences and online office parties. People played chess, and watched movies together, virtually. A friend of mine just had an online baby shower, and she loved it!
Now back to connecting to the dead.
I’ve always said that souls in Heaven are energy, and I can connect to that energy and relay a message regardless of where everyone is. People have been loving my Live Online Group Reading Events just as much as they loved my in-person events. The audience still feels the same closeness with spirit, and everyone gets just as excited and emotional when a reading hits home with the person receiving it.
I guess all this has taught us that love endures.
And as powerful as my online events are, when you attend one, you leave with a lasting benefit. My events open the door to a spirit connection you can carry with you every day – no medium needed.
All that’s required is that you be open to a different kind of connection than you had when your loved one was alive.
So, if you’re missing a friend or family member who has passed and would give anything to feel close to them again, here are some suggestions:
Actively invite signs from heaven. You can start the day by having a silent conversation to your loved one and ask them to send you a sign. Don’t be afraid to get specific and ask for something that’s meaningful to both of you. Then pay attention and see what happens!
Find something you enjoyed together, and invite the soul to join you. It doesn’t have to be anything too complicated. Watch a television show, listen to music, or take a walk. As you engage in the activity, keep your loved one in mind. Start a dialogue with them in your head, and be mindful of the thoughts and answers that come through.
Set up a small space dedicated to your loved one. Maybe a section of your bookshelf, or a spot on your bedside table. Include a picture of the person, a piece of jewelry, or anything that makes you think of them. Whenever you glance at it, mentally say “hi!” This simple shrine will keep their memory alive, and help you feel close and connected.
Talk about your loved ones with other people. Sharing stories and memories makes you feel close and is a healing way of staying connected.
Allow yourself some quiet time when you can remember the loved ones who are no longer with you. You might want to say a little prayer or write about them in your journal. Doing so will let them know how grateful you are that they were a part of your life.
Now that we’ve all gotten used to connecting with our living friends and relatives in new ways, it might be easier to feel the presence of loved ones in Heaven. The love you share for the person who has passed is still there, just in a different form.
If you’d like proof that love endures, I hope you’ll join me for one of my Live Online Group Events. Seeing how souls come through regardless of time and space might be just what you need to feel connected with your loved ones, every single day!
When I get ready for any kind of public appearance, I know what’s waiting for me.
Every living person will have someone in mind who they’re hoping I’ll bring through.
Spirits will be gathered, waiting for me to show up and channel their message to someone in the room.
Here’s something you should know. Everyone (living and dead) might not always get exactly what they’re expecting. That’s alright, because the spirits are calling the shots, and there’s always a reason or purpose behind the messages that come through. Let me give you an example…
Recently, I was a guest on the talk show, E! Daily Pop. I walked in and I could see that Carissa, the host, was pregnant. I immediately spotted her deceased grandmother standing behind her, signaling me that she had something to say. She wanted to thank Carissa for being there when she passed and tell her how happy she was that her beloved granddaughter was having a baby girl.
I started to share her grandmother’s message with Carissa, and next thing you know, the cameras turned on and there was the host, crying on live TV. Of course, everyone was happy that Carissa had heard from her grandmother, but they were also anxious for their own loved ones to come through.
The other hosts, Justin and Morgan Stewart really wanted a reading, but there was nothing coming through for them that day. What I did receive was a very powerful message for one of the production girls that sent chills through the room.
That message came through from a family member who had taken his life and wanted to help his family heal.
Watch the segment here:
As a medium I’m the conduit – the messenger – connecting the soul in heaven with the person they want to talk to. But remember, the soul is in control, and they don’t always have messages. For example, your mom won’t come through just to say hello and chit-chat. They will talk when someone is living in pain over their passing, or if their death was unexpected and they left unfinished business behind. Maybe, like in Carissa’s case, they want to acknowledge an important event like the birth of a baby. They don’t talk unless they have something important to say. I wish my own family was a little more like that!
Here’s how psychic messages come through.
Every psychic medium sees things differently, but the way my gift works is that I am aware of souls standing behind or near someone. I will see a shadow or outline of a person and I will hear a message that needs to be brought through to them.
Getting a message from a medium proves to us that those we love are close by. If I ran into you at the supermarket, chances are, I would probably see you father, grandmother, or whoever you lost standing behind you or close by. They never leave us.
What makes me a psychic medium is that I am able to see, hear, speak and feel your loved ones that have died. I’m really good at translating, but the truth is, you can receive messages on your own.
Spirit will come to you when the moment and time is right and when you most need to hear from them. If there isn’t a medium handy when they need to connect with you, they will appear in a different way — in signs, dreams, or through your feelings and emotions.
Who’s that coming through?
Want to hear something crazy? Even people who may have forgotten about, like old co-workers, neighbors or friends are also there.
That makes my job as a medium so interesting. I never know what soul will come through or who will receive a message. It’s all up to them. For all of you who haven’t received a sign yet, please, don’t give up. When the time is right you too will receive a message.
If you haven’t received a sign or message yet, here are some possible reasons:
The death may be too recent. Your loved one may not have been gone long enough to come through. There have been exceptions, but it sometimes takes a year or more.
Your loved one is a peace and doesn’t have a message at this time. Back to what I was saying earlier. They are definitely watching over you, and will be there if you need them, but they want you to live your life and not be focused on them.
You may not be ready. Spirit only comes through when a message will help you. If for any reason a message will cause you to be more in pain, they will wait.
Like a lot of things in life, trying to push and control spirit can have the opposite effect. Don’t search too hard for a sign. Let the soul come to you.
If there’s a lot of noise in your head, and you’re stressed and distracted, then it will be hard to receive a message from a living person – forget about a dead one!
One more thing.
If you’re around a medium and the person next to you gets a message and you don’t, think about it like this. Now you have proof that the dead can see and talk to us. If you relax and open yourself up to feel their presence and get signs from them, when the time is right, you will.
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My girlfriend, Alexa, just popped into my office and reminded me that Valentine’s day is coming up. I think she had her own reasons for telling me that – but it got me thinking about relationships, soulmates, and especially, how love endures.
People ask me about love all the time. Will I find a boyfriend? Is my girlfriend “the one?” How will I know when I’ve found my soulmate? I’m a medium, not a matchmaker – but I act as a middle-man to relay messages between souls in heaven and their loved ones on earth – so I can usually tap into some heavenly guidance to answer their questions.
Love is the answer.
The great thing about talking to dead people is they know what’s REALLY important. When you’re looking back from a heavenly vantage point, you realize that a lot of the things that made you crazy when you were alive don’t matter at all when you look at the big picture. What does matter in life are the people you love – and when you meet your soulmate that love never dies.
So, let’s talk about soulmates.
A soul mate is your twin flame – someone your heart is intertwined with at the deepest level. Some people believe that you’ve shared past lives with this person. I don’t know about that, but I can tell you from my experience as a medium, you will carry that soul connection with you into the next world.
Does everyone wind up with their soulmate?
Every couple you see walking around are not necessarily soulmates. It’s totally possible and very common to have a long, happy, productive relationship with someone who is not your soulmate – but that relationship’s place is in the here and now, and it might not go any further. You might not reconnect with your husband or wife in heaven – but you will surely reconnect with your soulmate.
What if you miss your big chance?
Some people look back and realize they let true love slip away because they were preoccupied with other things or in another relationship. You might not even realize someone was your soul mate until they’re not in your life anymore. If you think you missed your chance – don’t worry. You can trust the universe has a plan to bring the two of you back together.
Be patient. Don’t put your life on hold while you wait– be open to new experiences and relationships. Remember, in the end, if it’s meant to be, it will be.
Your soulmate wants you to have a happy life.
I can’t stress enough that you have to be open to all kinds of love, and to trust in the divine plan. Sometimes people lose their husband and they are afraid to date again because they don’t want to risk not being reconnected in the afterlife. It doesn’t work that way – new people cross your path for many reasons, and sometimes the person on the other side is the one pulling the strings and making things happen.
If your soulmate passes, realize that they’re not looking down at you and feeling jealous! They KNOW that you will be together for eternity. But while you’re going through your life on earth, they want you to be happy. The absolute last thing they want is for you to be alone and keep on mourning them while you still have a life to live.
A word about my own soulmate.
If you’re watched my new television show, Meet the Frasers’ on E! you’ve seen my girlfriend Alexa. I’ve always loved how easy it is for us to be together. Being with Alexa has made me realize that a relationship doesn’t have to be work.
It’s hard for me to believe how compatible we are. I don’t party and neither does Alexa. We’re both super close to our families. Everything went so well from the very start. Our parents get along. We have the same views and it’s very easy to live together. We understand and support the other’s career. Alexa participates in pageants and aspires to be Miss Rhode Island. She understands what it’s like being in the spotlight and can relate to how committed I am to what I do. I like seeing Alexa achieve her dreams and she feels the same for me.
Alexa and I were both in a good spot mentally and emotionally to start a relationship – we had both been with other people we hadn’t been compatible with, and we recognized something special in each other.
Are we soulmates? We think so! But you can decide for yourself – watch us in action on “Meet the Frasers’ Monday Nights at 10/9c on E! In the meantime, I‘d better start planning something special for Valentine’s Day!