Losing Your Soulmate

Losing Your Soulmate

Losing a loved one can leave a great big void in your life – and when it’s your spouse or soulmate, the loss is even harder to bear. After all, your significant other was a part of every single day. Suddenly there’s no one to have coffee with, watch television with and your daily routine, and pretty much your whole life is suddenly in turmoil.

After the initial shock of losing someone passes, most people are left with questions.

Is my loved one watching over me?

Are they in Heaven?

Are they reunited with family and pets who have passed?

Are they sending me signs that they’re around?

That’s where I come in.

I’m so grateful to be able to provide people who are grieving comfort and to answer their questions. Actually, it’s the departed who answer – I’m just the “telephone operator” who passes on their messages.

A reading for Dorinda Medley.

Not too long ago I was invited to the Berkshire’s to meet with Dorinda Medley of Real Housewives of New York. Dorinda had lost her husband Richard after only six years of marriage. Before I even arrived at her house, Richard had already started reaching out to me from the other side, giving me information and letting me know how excited he was to communicate with his wife.

He told me that he was concerned she had stopped enjoying life and was constantly searching for signs from him and wondering about him.

He was right. The moment I sat down with Dorinda my heart broke for her. I could feel the pain that she was carrying with her every day. It was like a piece of her heart had been taken when Richard died.

When I started the reading, Richard came through loud and clear. He told me to tell Dorinda that he was with Gerry. That immediately made her smile and start to laugh. Gerry was one of his close friends who had passed just a year before he did.

I love when spirit does that! They bring through little validations that are exactly what we need to hear. It gives us a glimpse at what Heaven is like.

At that moment I saw something change in Dorinda. Everything suddenly clicked for her. Even though she would always miss her daily interaction with Richard, she could rest easier knowing he was at peace and with friends in Heaven.

 

Watch Dorinda’s Reading.

Although Bravo didn’t broadcast my whole reading, Richard came through with validation that he had attended his daughter’s wedding in spirit. He thanked Dorinda for being part of his daughter’s life – supporting her when he couldn’t be there for her.

Five ways to heal your heart.

If you are missing a significant other, there’s something to learn from my reading with Dorinda. Although death may feel like the ultimate divide, your loved one is actually never far away.

When you’re mourning the loss of someone, it can feel like you’ll never be happy again. That’s not what your loved one wants! They’re watching over you, and they want you to make the most of your time on earth.

These simple steps can start your journey toward healing…

1. Give things away.

Often, people are reluctant to give away their loved one’s things. They might just shut the closet door and avoid it entirely. I have a secret for you. Your loved one doesn’t need all that stuff, and neither do you. Give items away to friends and family who will appreciate having something to remember them by, and give what’s left to people who need it. It’s a meaningful way to honor their memory and you will feel good knowing they have a special piece of him or her.

2. Don’t be afraid to talk about them.

Talking about your soulmate is a great way to feel closer to them and start the healing process. Share funny stories and happy memories. You’ll be surprised how good it feels. You’re probably going to have to begin the conversation –  other people are probably afraid to reopen your wounds, so they might avoid the topic. You will notice the moment you start to talk about old memories, those around you will do the same.

3. Letting go.

There comes a point where you have to focus on life and start letting go of your grief. Letting go does not mean you don’t still cherish memories of your loved one. They will always be in your heart. It just means you have to move on, and start to enjoy experiences and people, without guilt.

4. Give yourself a break.

No matter how long someone has been gone, there might still be days when you miss them so much that you can’t stand it. You don’t have to be strong all the time! It’s alright to let yourself give in to grief once in a while. If you want to spend a day in bed crying and looking at photographs – do it. Then say to your loved one, “Okay, I’m going back to my life now!” and get up, get dressed, and take on the day- and the rest of your life.

5. Continue life like you are still together.

Just because your soulmate is gone doesn’t mean you have to give up the things you enjoyed together. Take trips, see your mutual friends, go to your favorite restaurants. Watch a movie that you both loved on Netflix. You’ll find that instead of making you sad, you’ll feel closer to your soulmate in the most joyful way.

If you pull out your photo album and look through old pictures of those who have passed, that’s what Heaven is like. The same people are together on the other side, just as they were in life, but without pain or illness. Remember that life is a gift and live it well. When your time comes, you’ll be reunited with your soulmate in Heaven.

Laughter is the best medicine.

Remember that whether you are feeling lonely, sad, or stressed you can spend Monday nights with me and my family right in your living room. I love sharing my family with you each week on my TV series ‘Meet The Frasers’.  I hope that when you watch you laugh with us, cry with us and feel part of our family each week. It’s hard to believe that we are already half way through season one! If you missed an episode you can binge watch the series on demand or on Hulu or the NBC app. Also, remember to subscribe to me email newsletter by clicking here so you never miss a new inspirational article about Heaven and the afterlife.

 

 

 

A Lesson in Love

A Lesson in Love

My girlfriend, Alexa, just popped into my office and reminded me that Valentine’s day is coming up. I think she had her own reasons for telling me that – but it got me thinking about relationships, soulmates, and especially, how love endures.

People ask me about love all the time. Will I find a boyfriend? Is my girlfriend “the one?” How will I know when I’ve found my soulmate? I’m a medium, not a matchmaker – but I act as a middle-man to relay messages between souls in heaven and their loved ones on earth – so I  can usually tap into some heavenly guidance to answer their questions.

Love is the answer.

The great thing about talking to dead people is they know what’s REALLY important. When you’re looking back from a heavenly vantage point, you realize that a lot of the things that made you crazy when you were alive don’t matter at all when you look at the big picture. What does matter in life are the people you love – and when you meet your soulmate that love never dies.

So, let’s talk about soulmates.

A soul mate is your twin flame – someone your heart is intertwined with at the deepest level. Some people believe that you’ve shared past lives with this person. I don’t know about that, but I can tell you from my experience as a medium, you will carry that soul connection with you into the next world.

Does everyone wind up with their soulmate?

Every couple you see walking around are not necessarily soulmates. It’s totally possible and very common to have a long, happy, productive relationship with someone who is not your soulmate – but that relationship’s place is in the here and now, and it might not go any further. You might not reconnect with your husband or wife in heaven – but you will surely reconnect with your soulmate.

What if you miss your big chance?

Some people look back and realize they let true love slip away because they were preoccupied with other things or in another relationship. You might not even realize someone was your soul mate until they’re not in your life anymore. If you think you missed your chance – don’t worry. You can trust the universe has a plan to bring the two of you back together.

Be patient. Don’t put your life on hold while you wait– be open to new experiences and relationships. Remember, in the end, if it’s meant to be, it will be.

Your soulmate wants you to have a happy life.

I can’t stress enough that you have to be open to all kinds of love, and to trust in the divine plan. Sometimes people lose their husband and they are afraid to date again because they don’t want to risk not being reconnected in the afterlife. It doesn’t work that way – new people cross your path for many reasons, and sometimes the person on the other side is the one pulling the strings and making things happen.

If your soulmate passes, realize that they’re not looking down at you and feeling jealous! They KNOW that you will be together for eternity. But while you’re going through your life on earth, they want you to be happy. The absolute last thing they want is for you to be alone and keep on mourning them while you still have a life to live.

A word about my own soulmate.

If you’re watched my new television show, Meet the Frasers’ on E! you’ve seen my girlfriend Alexa. I’ve always loved how easy it is for us to be together. Being with Alexa has made me realize that a relationship doesn’t have to be work.

It’s hard for me to believe how compatible we are. I don’t party and neither does Alexa. We’re both super close to our families. Everything went so well from the very start. Our parents get along. We have the same views and it’s very easy to live together. We understand and support the other’s career. Alexa participates in pageants and aspires to be Miss Rhode Island. She understands what it’s like being in the spotlight and can relate to how committed I am to what I do. I like seeing Alexa achieve her dreams and she feels the same for me.

Alexa and I were both in a good spot mentally and emotionally to start a relationship – we had both been with other people we hadn’t been compatible with, and we recognized something special in each other.

Are we soulmates? We think so! But you can decide for yourself – watch us in action on “Meet the Frasers’ Monday Nights at 10/9c on E! In the meantime, I‘d better start planning something special for Valentine’s Day!

 

 

 

Soulmates DO Reunite

Soulmates DO Reunite

 “Will I be reunited with my soulmate in Heaven?”

I love this question because it means the person asking it got to meet his or her soulmate here on earth and actually realized it too! That doesn’t always happen, and I am

always so happy when I meet someone who got to have that wonderful experience.

Some soulmates are not meant to have a long lasting connection in this lifetime. They might meet at a crossroads to help each other when one of them is supposed to make a difficult decision or take a new direction. Sometimes the connection is very short and the relationship is an opportunity to learn lessons, but is not meant to last.

On the other hand, some lucky people get to share many years of their lives with their soulmate. They experience a deep and abiding love and feel connected to each other in every possible way. It seems like heaven on earth – but there’s a downside to that too. Losing someone who has been your perfect partner, your twin flame, in life is so very painful.

My friend’s parents were married for over 50 years before her father died. “Our love went very deep,” her mother often says. “The pain of losing him goes just as deep. But I know we will be together again.”

She’s right! You will be connected with your soulmate in Heaven. Of course you will. You belong together. Your soulmate is always with you throughout your life, and you will be reunited when you pass over.

In the meantime, your soulmate is watching over you, protecting you, helping you as you do the work you are meant to be here to do, and waiting for that time when you will be together again.

 You might wonder how you will recognize your soulmate on the other side. Will your soulmate look the same as you remember?

The reality is that our physical form is not really what makes us who we are. The essence of your true love will be waiting to greet you in Heaven. You’ll see one another as you remember each other and connect for all eternity at the deepest spiritual level.

Sometimes people come to my events and tell me their loved one passed during their engagement, or just a short time into their marriage, before their life together could even have a chance to start! They understandably feel cheated out of all the happy  years they expected to have together before being separated.

They feel cheated out of having children, buying a home, celebrating anniversaries, taking vacations – all the things they anticipated doing together.

Losing that person is painful, but if they really are your soulmate, you will be reunited on the other side. In the meantime, your soulmate in Heaven is cheering you on, hoping you live a wonderful life…maybe even helping you meet someone new who makes you happy.

There’s no jealousy between soulmates because it’s a sure thing that you will be reunited in Heaven. In the meantime, your soulmate wants you to live your best life here and now. In fact, it makes them happy to see you enjoy life – because you are getting to experience life for both of you!

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