Healing heartbreak is one of the most challenging, yet transformative journeys we face in life. If you’re here, reading this, it means you’re ready to take that next step. You might not even realize it yet, but your soul knows. You’re here because something unresolved is holding you back—whether it’s a painful memory, an unspoken goodbye, or the aching void left by someone you deeply love.
Let me assure you: healing heartbreak isn’t about forgetting the person or the experience. It’s about releasing the pain, the hurt, and the emotional weight that grief leaves behind. As a psychic medium, I’ve witnessed firsthand how grief can block not only our spiritual connection but also our ability to live fully. In this blog, I’ll share insights from my class on healing heartbreak, offering practical tools and heart-centered wisdom to guide you toward emotional freedom.
The Invisible Bond of Grief
Grief is an invisible thread that connects us, whether we acknowledge it or not. Everyone you encounter has experienced some form of loss. Yet, grief is often misunderstood or dismissed, particularly because of its hidden nature. Unlike a broken arm in a cast, grief is internal. People don’t hold doors open for you or ask if you’re okay because they can’t see the wounds you carry inside.
I once did a corporate event where colleagues who had worked side-by-side for years discovered through spirit connections the immense losses each person carried silently. It was a powerful reminder: we all have stories of loss, and sharing them can be profoundly healing.
Grief Starts Earlier Than We Realize
Grief often sets in long before we lose someone significant. It might begin with the loss of a childhood pet, a first heartbreak, or the day a parent moved out. These early experiences teach us how to respond to loss. As we grow, grief evolves, but its impact remains. Understanding where grief first entered your life is crucial to your healing journey.
Take a moment to reflect: What was your first experience of heartbreak? How did it shape your view of loss and love? Writing these memories down can offer surprising clarity about the patterns you carry today.
The Hidden Costs of Unresolved Grief
Unprocessed grief creates emotional, mental, and even physical blocks. I’ve had clients come to me convinced their loved ones aren’t sending signs from heaven. Yet, what’s truly happening is that grief is acting like a dense fog, preventing the signs from being recognized. Grief doesn’t just block spiritual communication; it also robs us of joy, energy, and motivation.
For instance, I once read for a woman who wore her late husband’s wedding ring on a necklace. After he passed, she avoided gatherings, stopped visiting her grandchildren, and turned down family vacations. Her husband came through with a poignant message: “Your eyes are my eyes. Whatever you see, I see. Whatever you experience, I experience with you.”
That message shifted everything for her. She realized that by isolating herself, she wasn’t protecting her love for him; she was preventing him from continuing to share in her life. From that day on, she made a conscious effort to embrace new experiences, knowing her husband was right there beside her.
Turning Grief into Growth
Grief can either become a prison or a path to transformation. Here are some tools to help you shift from pain to healing:
1. Write a Letter to Your Loved One
Write a raw, unfiltered letter to the person you lost or to the situation causing you pain. Pour out every emotion—the anger, the sadness, the confusion. Don’t censor yourself. At the end of the letter, ask your loved one to send you a specific sign (like a unique number or symbol) as confirmation that they’ve received your message. This exercise serves two purposes: it helps release pent-up emotions and strengthens your connection with the other side.
2. Identify Grief’s Impact on Your Life
Grab a journal and write down all the activities you’ve stopped doing since your loss. Have you quit painting, dancing, or socializing? Did you cancel a dream trip or stop planning for the future? Grief often tricks us into believing that by pausing our lives, we honor our loss. In reality, we only deny ourselves the love and joy that our loved ones want for us.
3. Create a Memorial of Life
One of the most profound readings I gave was to a mother who had lost her daughter to cancer. Her daughter’s ashes were locked away in a bedroom, along with all her belongings. The mother felt disconnected from her daughter’s spirit. In the reading, the daughter shared her wish for a memorial garden—a vibrant, living space filled with flowers, angel statues, and her favorite colors.
The mother later created the garden, and the change was remarkable. She began to feel her daughter’s presence more strongly than ever before. The act of creating something beautiful in memory of her child shifted the focus from death to life, from loss to legacy.
4. Reclaim Your Power Through Your Story
Grief has a way of convincing us that our story is over. But your narrative is still being written. Share your loved one’s story with others. Speak their name. Celebrate their quirks, their passions, their dreams. When you share their story, you keep their spirit alive.
I often think about how Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis preserved President John F. Kennedy’s legacy. She ensured that his ideals, accomplishments, and vision were remembered for generations. You have the power to do the same.
When Grief Manifests as Anger
Anger is a common, yet misunderstood, face of grief. One client lost her son to addiction. In her anguish, she blamed his wife, convinced she had enabled the relapse. Over time, her anger isolated her from her grandchildren. In a reading, her son came through and urged her to reconcile.
“My kids need their grandmother,” he said. “They’ve lost me. Don’t let grief take you away from them too.”
She listened. She reached out to her daughter-in-law, apologized, and gradually rebuilt the relationship. Today, she’s an active, loving presence in her grandchildren’s lives. Her grief didn’t disappear, but it transformed into a powerful force for connection and healing.
Grieving Someone Who Is Still Alive
Grief isn’t limited to physical death. We grieve relationships that end, estranged family members, or even the loss of who we once were. If you’re experiencing this type of heartbreak, write a letter to the person (or the situation) as if you’re speaking directly to their soul. Express your emotions, then release the letter by burning it, shredding it, or placing it somewhere safe. The goal is to unburden yourself, not necessarily to send the letter.
Honoring Your Loved One in Daily Life
Your loved ones in spirit don’t grieve. They see the bigger picture, knowing that you’ll be reunited one day. What they want is for you to live fully until that time comes. So, how can you honor them in everyday life?
- Speak their name: Share their stories, traditions, and life lessons.
- Create rituals: Light a candle on special occasions or cook their favorite meal.
- Engage in acts of kindness: Donate to a cause they cared about or perform random acts of kindness in their memory.
Your Eyes Are Their Eyes
Remember: Your eyes are their eyes. Every beautiful sunrise you witness, every laugh you share, every adventure you embrace—they experience it with you. Grief may try to convince you that their absence defines your present. But love, real love, transcends death.
Take a deep breath. Step into the light of your own life again. Your loved ones are already there, waiting to share the journey with you.
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