Healing the Wounds of Generations: A Spiritual Approach to Ending Trauma

They say that when you have a child, everything changes—and this could not be more true. After Alexa and I welcomed our first son, Royce, into the world, we began to see life through an entirely new lens. Suddenly, every decision we made felt weightier, infused with a sense of responsibility not just for his future but for the legacy we were creating. We started to think deeply about how we wanted to protect him from the things in our past that caused us pain and how we could parent in a way that broke the cycles of hurt we had experienced.

This reflection led me to look at things spiritually: Have you ever looked back on your younger years with regret? Maybe there were moments you wished had never happened, things you wish you had said or done differently, or decisions you wish you had approached with greater clarity. Regret is part of being human—it’s how we learn, grow, and evolve.

The lessons we take from our past shape who we are today and influence the decisions we make for our future. But sometimes, our regrets and pain aren’t just personal; they’re passed down through generations. This is what we call generational trauma, a cycle of emotional pain, patterns, or behaviors inherited from those who came before us. Alexa and I knew that breaking this cycle wasn’t just about healing ourselves—it was about creating a new path for Royce, one free from the shadows of the past.

Breaking this cycle is no small task, but it’s one of the most profound ways to transform not only your life but also the lives of those who come after you. And it starts with courage—the courage to face the past, heal its wounds, and step into a future where love and growth take the lead.

The Painful Roots of Generational Trauma

Generational trauma begins when pain, fear, or dysfunction is passed down through families, often without anyone realizing it.

For example, if you had a father who used physical punishment to enforce rules, that pain likely stayed with you. It might have shaped your parenting decisions, making you determined never to use physical discipline on your own children. Similarly, if you experienced toxic relationships as a teenager—where you felt taken advantage of or mistreated—you may now feel an instinct to be fiercely protective of your children, ensuring they don’t experience the same pain.

This is how trauma works: it lingers, embeds itself into our decisions, and influences how we navigate the world. It’s a survival mechanism, born from a desire to protect ourselves and those we love. But here’s the problem: trauma that isn’t healed can create patterns that perpetuate the cycle. What we experienced can become what we unintentionally pass on—unless we break the cycle.

Lessons from the Spirit World

What if I told you that breaking the cycle of generational trauma isn’t just something you’re meant to do on your own? Our loved ones in spirit have shared with me time and time again that they are actively helping us from the other side, guiding us to break free from these patterns.

When a person passes away, their soul enters a state of clarity. They are able to look back on their entire life, reflecting on their choices, relationships, and actions with divine understanding. Any regrets they have become profound life lessons that they now want to share with those of us still living.

I’ve often seen this play out in readings. A mother who passed away once came through with a message for her daughters, who had been feuding for years. While alive, the mother had avoided confronting the conflict between her children. She moved in with one daughter, which caused the other to pull away entirely. After her passing, she realized how her inaction had deepened the rift. She regretted not stepping up to reconcile her daughters and brought this message to encourage them to mend their relationship.

This story illustrates an important truth: souls in the afterlife see the impact of their actions (or inactions) and want to help us avoid making the same mistakes.

Messages from Spirit: Breaking Free from the Past

The wisdom that comes through from the spirit world is simple but profound. If we could see life through their eyes, we would live very differently. Here are some of the lessons that spirits often share:

1. Forgive Often
   Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. Carrying resentment or anger only weighs you down. Spirits remind us that healing relationships while we are alive is far better than waiting until it’s too late.
2. Don’t Be Afraid to Speak Your Truth
   Many people hide their feelings or avoid confrontation out of fear of rejection. Spirit encourages us to be honest and open, as truth brings clarity and understanding.
3. Lean Into Your Gifts
   Don’t hide your talents or abilities out of fear of judgment. Embrace who you are and use your unique gifts to bring light to the world.
4. Bring People Together, Not Apart
   Conflict creates unnecessary divisions. Work toward unity in your family and relationships whenever possible.
5. Resolve Conflict While You’re Alive
   Waiting for “the right time” to heal a rift often leads to missed opportunities. Spirits often express regret for unresolved conflicts and encourage us to take action now.

Generational Healing: The Power to Change

The spirit world tells us that the cycle of trauma can be broken—but it takes effort and intention. While you can’t change the past, you can create a ripple effect of healing that impacts future generations.

Breaking generational trauma begins with you. Here are some divine steps to help you stop the cycle:

1. Acknowledge the Trauma

The first step to healing is recognizing the patterns that have been passed down. Ask yourself:

• What pain or behaviors am I carrying from my family’s past?
• Are there beliefs or habits that no longer serve me or my loved ones?

By identifying these patterns, you bring them into the light, where they can no longer control you.

2. Forgive Yourself and Others

Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning harmful actions; it means releasing the hold they have on you. Forgive yourself for any mistakes you’ve made and forgive those who have hurt you, even if they never apologize.

A simple affirmation can help:
“I release the pain of the past and choose forgiveness for myself and my family.”

3. Set New Intentions

Decide what kind of legacy you want to leave behind. Write down the values and beliefs you want to pass on to your children or loved ones. Let these intentions guide your actions moving forward.

4. Seek Support

Healing generational trauma can be challenging, but you don’t have to do it alone. Therapy, spiritual counseling, or even talking to trusted friends can help you process your feelings and experiences.

5. Connect with Spirit

Ask your loved ones in spirit for guidance. They are with you, helping you every step of the way. Through prayer, meditation, or quiet reflection, you can receive their messages of support and wisdom.

6. Take Inspired Action

Healing isn’t just about reflection; it’s about action. If you see a pattern of anger, work on responding with patience. If you notice a lack of communication in your family, make an effort to reach out. Small changes can create big shifts over time.

The Role of Divine Knowledge

Our loved ones in spirit have access to divine knowledge that they wish they could share with us directly. They see our struggles and are eager to help us live better lives.

In my book, Don’t Wait Till You’re Dead, I share the advice and messages that spirits have given me over the years. They remind us that while we are alive, we have the power to change, grow, and heal. Life is too short to carry pain and resentment.

Change Begins With You

Breaking the cycle of generational trauma is a powerful act of love—for yourself, your family, and future generations. It requires courage, self-awareness, and a willingness to change, but the rewards are immeasurable.

Remember, you are not alone in this journey. Your loved ones in spirit are cheering you on, guiding you, and providing the wisdom you need to heal. By taking inspired action, you can create a new legacy—one rooted in love, forgiveness, and unity.

If you’re ready to learn more about the divine knowledge our loved ones in heaven want to share, I invite you to explore my book, Don’t Wait Till You’re Dead. It’s filled with messages and insights to help you live a more connected, purposeful life.

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