As a psychic medium, there’s one question I get asked more than almost any other:
“Do our loved ones know when we visit their graves?”
The answer is yes—but not in the way you might expect.
Where Are They, Really?
When we visit a cemetery and stand before a headstone, we often feel a wave of emotion—sadness, love, longing. It’s a sacred moment. We talk to them, maybe bring flowers, and sometimes we cry. But here’s what I’ve learned after thousands of readings connecting with the other side:
Your loved one is not waiting at their grave.
They are there when you are there.
Souls don’t spend eternity in cemeteries. They don’t sit beside their headstones in the rain or wait quietly in the cold. The truth is, once we cross over, we’re no longer bound by physical space. Heaven isn’t a place you can point to on a map—it’s an energetic dimension that exists all around us. And in that space, our loved ones are free. Free to visit, free to roam, and free to be wherever they are needed most.
Spirit Goes Where Love Goes
One of the most incredible things I’ve witnessed as a medium is the way spirit shows up—not just at cemeteries, but everywhere. I see them at birthday parties, graduations, baby showers, weddings, even family vacations. They show up when we’re in the hospital, when we’re going through a divorce, when we feel alone, and yes—even when we’re cooking dinner or folding laundry.
They show up for the moments that matter most.
In the afterlife, they realize how precious life is and how much they want to be part of it. That’s why they don’t hang around their headstone waiting for someone to visit. They want to see their grandchildren grow up, be there when you land your new job, and witness the love you’ve built.
They want to be where you are.
A Reading I’ll Never Forget
I remember doing a reading for a woman whose mother had passed away. Her mom had been terrified of death, and she spent years carefully planning her burial. She wanted everything to be perfect. She researched cemeteries, selected the most peaceful plot by the water, even paid extra for a mausoleum so she wouldn’t be buried underground. She had statues placed, trees planted, and benches installed so her family could come and mourn her properly.
Before she died, she made her daughter promise:
“Come visit me every week. Bring me fresh flowers. Clean my grave. Don’t forget me.”
Her daughter honored that promise, week after week, year after year. But then she came to me for a reading. And what happened during that session forever changed both of our perspectives on what truly matters after death.
“Stop Visiting Me So Much!”
The moment her mom came through in spirit, she was radiating joy. She was free, light, and beaming with pride over her family. But then she said something that surprised us both:
“Tell her to stop wasting money on flowers. The cemetery is boring!”
We both burst into laughter, and her daughter had tears in her eyes.
Her mother continued, telling her she had seen everything—the new house her daughter had just moved into, the trips she and her husband were planning, and even the birth of her great-grandchild who had been named after her.
“I’m not at the cemetery,” she said. “I’m with you.”
She told her daughter something I’ll never forget:
“Turn my grave into a celebration. Let it be a place of remembrance, not mourning. Fill it with stories, laughter, and memories. Make it a place where people come to feel connected—not to cry, but to smile.”
A Headstone Should Tell a Story
After that reading, her daughter did exactly what her mother asked. She removed the somber benches and stopped spending money on weekly bouquets. Instead, she added laminated photos, a collage of memories, quotes her mother used to say, and a small plaque that told her mom’s life story.
She transformed that grave into a celebration of life—and something miraculous happened.
She said that, for the first time, she didn’t just feel like she was visiting a grave.
She felt like her mother was truly with her—not just in that moment, but everywhere she went. At dinner, in the car, during family gatherings—there was a peace, a lightness, a closeness she hadn’t felt before.
That’s when it hit me:
It’s not about where the body is placed. A headstone should be like a museum—a tribute to the soul that once lived, loved, and shaped the lives around them.
A New Way to Remember
That experience stayed with me, and it changed the way I looked at cemeteries.
Imagine if every headstone told a story. If you could walk through a cemetery and truly know the people buried there—not just names and dates, but their passions, their joys, their legacies.
Well, not long ago, I discovered something that makes that possible: Life’s QR
Life’s QR is a modern way to honor our loved ones and preserve their stories for generations to come. With just a simple scan of a stainless steel QR plaque placed at a grave or memorial, you can instantly open a custom-made online tribute page filled with photos, videos, memories, and even messages from friends and family.
It’s weatherproof, beautiful, and built to last forever—just like the love we hold in our hearts.
You can customize the memorial, update it anytime, and make sure your loved one’s story lives on—not just as a headstone, but as a legacy.
Let Their Spirit Live Through Your Love
As a medium, I know our loved ones never truly leave us. They want to be part of your life—not mourned, but remembered. They want to be with you in joy, not just in sorrow.
Visiting the grave can be a beautiful moment of connection, but the truth is:
They don’t live at the cemetery.
They live in you.
If you’re ready to honor your loved one’s memory in a way that reflects the beauty of their life, I encourage you to check out Life’s QR. It’s the most meaningful way I’ve found to bridge the physical world and the spiritual one—and to ensure that every visit to their grave is filled with purpose, connection, and celebration.
CLICK HERE >> To Visit The Life’s QR Website
Because in the end, remembering their life is the greatest way to keep their spirit alive.
Responses
When my husband was dying, he told me that he wanted to be remembered for his life not his death.
I keep asking my parents to let me know if they are here with me. But I have never seen or felt anything. Am I wrong for asking this of their souls ??
Thank you for this explanation. I have always felt we aren’t ashes in a box or a body buried in one place.
I’ve always felt just as you have said here, you don’t need to be at their grave to connect with them. They are with you when you need them . They check up on you when you don’t even know it . They are all around us and hear us when we speak to them no matter the location. I’ll be seeing you soon Matt at an up coming online group reading, this will be my second time. Fingers crossed . God bless
When my dad passed I was numb with grief then the night after I had a dream where he showed me to honor him through the work he proudly held. And in the dream I saw his colleagues at the Hospital clapped for him and cherished his legacy he left behind.
That made me realize that he wants me to remember the good things of his life and not cry for him but celebrate his life.
one year i throw bells on trees by the graves . my brother didn’t know and when he went he heard a tink of bells. and told me i hadn’t totd him about the bells. they let me know what i had done.
I 💯agree with this. I habe so many loved ones that are in spirit now, and i know they are around a lot. To often sometimes. They need to stop hiding my things and them putting them back months or years later. Lol.
I had a tremendous experience with my husband when we went to the Cemetery at Easter to visit my son. I think my son knows that him donating his heart ripped mine out completely. But to get back to the story, my husband stated, “Happy Easter Keith, I Love you” then sat down next to me on the bench next to his headstone. A few Seconds later, a heartbeat could be heard coming from his grave, that lasted about thirty seconds. My husband, said, “Are you hearing this?” I said yes, but I think he just wants us to know he Loves us and that is his way and telling us. A memory I will always treasure.
You and your psychic associations are, in this day, the most valuable mortals in our era. I read this piece to my wife, Dorothy…we are both pleased with your honest contacts, and often tap into your videos to confirm your truths. I have thought this ‘grave visit’ as a bit nonsensical for decades, and appreciate having my view confirmed. Thank you.
Matt thank you for this. I was back home visiting my family in PA and didn’t have time to stop at my dad’s grave and I felt so guilty. I know his presence is with me, but I didn’t look at this perspective until I read this.