Have you ever wished you had the opportunity to say ‘goodbye” ?
When you lose someone close to you it hurts, no matter what the circumstances. But when someone dies late in life or after a long illness, you at least have the chance to tie up loose ends and resolve unfinished business. Most importantly, you have time to share your deepest feelings and say goodbye.
The saddest thing is when you don’t get to say goodbye to a loved one. When someone passes over unexpectedly, friends and family are left regretting all the things left unsaid. If this has happened to you, you would probably give anything for just a few more minutes with that person.
When I do a reading, I’m basically giving someone those precious few minutes they have longed for. It’s so gratifying to be able to ease someone’s mind by giving them a chance to say goodbye and letting them know their loved one is safe and at peace on the other side.
“Nobody is going to die.”
I once did a reading at an event for a couple who had lost their young son to cancer. The little boy came through with a beautiful message for his parents. After the event, the father told me something that really touched my heart.
“A few weeks before he died, my son came up to me and said, Dad, no one in this family is going to die. It seemed like an odd thing for him to say at the time, but today it makes sense. I realize that my son never really left us – he is still right here.”
If you are dealing with guilt, sadness, and frustration because you didn’t get to say goodbye before your loved one passed, take comfort in the fact that it’s never too late. They’re not really gone – they are still watching over you, and they hear and see everything!
Here are five ways to say goodbye to a loved one in Heaven – even if you think you missed your chance:
- Talk to them! Let them know everything you didn’t get the chance to tell them while they were alive. Tell them what they meant to you, what you learned from them. Thank them for being in your life. And you don’t have to walk around muttering to yourself- your loved ones hear you whether you talk to them out loud or in your head .
- Write a letter. Some people love writing their thoughts down. If that’s you, don’t hesitate to put pen to paper any time you want to connect with your dearly departed. You can keep your letter, burn it in the fireplace, put it in a bottle and toss it in the ocean! It doesn’t matter how you “send” it – your loved one will get the message!
- Honor them with a special ritual. Funerals are a way for the living to honor the person who has passed, but it might be hard for you to say goodbye when the grief is so fresh and there are so many people around. It might help to create a special ritual to say goodbye. Write a message on a balloon or release a paper lantern up into the heavens. You can even write your loved one a message on a sandy beach, and let the waves wash it away.
- Remember them with a song. If there’s a song that reminds you of the person you’re missing, make it a point to think of them whenever you hear it. A friend of mine feels the presence of her grandfather every December when she hears “The Little Drummer Boy,” That was Grandpa’s favorite song, and she says a silent “Merry Christmas” to him every time it plays.
- Be aware of the signs. Your loved one is always with you, and they’ll send you signs if you’re open to receive them. To encourage them, ask them to send a penny, a butterfly, or a bird to let you know they’re around. You’ll be surprised at how quickly they will come through!
Losing a friend or family member is hard. There is no easy way to say goodbye to someone you love and no perfect time to let go, but it helps to realize that souls never really die, and they are still around, sending you love. I hope you will make it to one of my group reading. Each is a special experience where I will be helping you connect with your loved ones that have passed on. Click Here, to find upcoming group readings near you.
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I just read your blog about not being able to say goodby. Thats what happened to me when I lost my husband so suddenly, he was working in back yard and front yard, came into house and went down the hall said he got stung by a bee, by time we got the epi pen unwrapped he had fell over the tub and was gone. I talk to him all the time but, am finding it hard to come to grips with it all.
Therefore readuing this has gave me some insight.
Thank you as I type this with tears running down my face
Message to my uncle tom in heavy
How do I get over missing the physicality of the person Matt. I lost my son to cancer this July and I know he’s still around and always will be, but I can’t hug him and I miss that so much…his text messages, his voice ?
Matt thank you for this. I lost my Mom three years ago to cancer. I was there the day before she died she was all drugged up on morphine for comfort and slept most of the time. I have a lot of guilt over the fact there was some unspoken words that needed to be said. I think of her often and miss her everyday. The guilt I have for not being able to talk with her is eating away at me. She hasn’t come to me in my dreams but she has to others. Why is that?
I was with my husband when he transitioned. Yet he suffered for 15 months. The day he went was sudden. I sang my wedding song to him as he was leaving this world. It wasnt till I saw a medium afterwards and got a message saying Thankyou for singing to me. It broke my heart. Yet made me believe they he was still with me even as he was leaving me. Thankyou Matt
My loving son Ryan, got his wings on 12/3/2013, I never got to say goodbye, how do I go on? I miss him terribly I think about him 24/7. I just miss my son Ryan so much. ??
Beautiful I lost my daughter in a horrific car accident the hospital personnel would not let me see my beautiful Nicole no goodbyes I cry for her I pray she is in heaven I need that confirmation please please help me I loved my baby only daughter of 4
Matt I am very sad. I had not seen my oldest daughter in 9 years. My son was looking online to if he can find information on sister. He found New paper. Chicago sun time. There was listening woman 46 hit by a train November 18 2018 and die. Vicky Zamora..He just told yesertoday. I am hurting so much. My heart is broken..Emmarosa Morris.
My brother died in 2018! He had been in Hospice for 4 days; never notified by his wife or 3 children til after he passed! I will never understand! Also,they never included us in in the obituary that was posted in the newspaper. I was so close to him,and stayed in contact,although he was a busy man! There was some estrangement between him and his dad,but he was around in his dad’s last days and very much included with all the funeral.arrangements! I miss him so much!
I saw Matt Fraser on October 27th 2019 in Wareham, MA. I was NEVER expecting for my Dad to come through, but he did. After my Dad’s suicide 2 years ago I have been tormented every day, almost every waking moment. I have never been to a psychic medium and my daughter asked me if I would be interested. I figured, why not? Matt delivered a message to me from my Dad that was beyond what I ever thought. It has brought me some sort of piece and some closure so that maybe, just maybe, I can start to heal and not wonder what I did or didn’t do to save my Dad. A woman sitting behind me prior to the beginning of the event advised me to voice record the show. I never thought in a million years that I would get a message from Dad, so I shut off my phone and did not record. I’m so saddened that I can’t hear the message again and share it with all of the family and friends of Dad’s that are still struggling as I am to make sense of this horrific event. I pray that someone, somewhere has that event recorded and that eventually it will make its way to me. Matt was so compassionate and accurate when relaying my Dad’s message. I am forever grateful to him for that. The chances of hearing a message are pretty slim is my understanding, but you NEVER know. Thank you Matt. You are a God send to many.
How do you say goodbye to the one you loved when he was murdered and you have so many questions un answered
Only one dream since my sister passed from accidental overdose in 2004. She walked out from the trees and sat next to me on the bench. Gave me a hug and when i looked up a tear was forming. Then she got up and walked back towards the trees. That was the dream over 10 years ago and its so fresh in my mind like it was yesterday. I know it was our goodbye.
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