Grief Isn’t Always What You Think

The deepest pain you can ever experience is losing and missing a loved one. It is an invisible pain that nobody can see, but you can feel just as you would an illness. It’s a weight that presses on your chest, a hollowness that echoes through your days, and a longing that seems impossible to fill. This is grief—an unwelcome energy that reshapes your life in ways you never expected.

Grief Isn’t Always What You Think

When people think about grief, they usually think about the loss of a loved one. But the truth is, grief can come from any loss that shakes your foundation. Losing a pet, a job, or a relationship can all bring on the same overwhelming sadness and emptiness. It’s there when you lose a pregnancy or face a chronic illness that changes your body. It can even sneak up on you during life changes that seem positive on the surface, like moving to a new city or retiring.

Grief is invisible. It’s not something you wear on your face, and it doesn’t have a timeline. People might expect you to “move on” quickly or assume you’re fine because you’re not visibly upset. But inside, it’s a whole different story. Grief doesn’t work that way—it stays until you work through it.

How Grief Changes Your Life

I’ve seen it time and again. People come to me feeling stuck and disconnected from the world. They’ve stopped doing the things they love—dancing, writing, cooking, or even spending time with friends and family. What they don’t realize is that grief is often at the root of their pain.

One story that stands out is a psychic medium who came to me after her mom passed away. She had spent years helping others connect with their loved ones on the other side, but when her own mother died, she was completely lost. She couldn’t feel her mom’s presence, see any signs, or connect in the way she had always been able to. She started questioning everything—her gift, her beliefs, even whether her mom had made it to heaven.

When I read for her, it became clear that grief was the block. It was standing between her and her ability to feel her mom’s presence. Once she recognized this and started working through her grief, the connection returned. Her mom had been there all along; she just needed to heal to see it.

Why Healing Requires Support

This is why healing is so important. It’s what allows us to reconnect—not just with our loved ones but with ourselves. But here’s the thing: you can’t do it alone. Even the strongest among us need help navigating grief.

Healing from grief doesn’t mean forgetting your loved ones or moving on without them. It means learning how to carry their memory with love rather than pain. It’s about transforming the sadness into a connection that brings peace, knowing that love never dies and that the bonds we share with those who have passed continue beyond this life.

Imagine what it would feel like to let go of the heaviness you’ve been carrying. Here are a few action steps you can take right now to start your healing journey:

Practice Daily Reflection: Set aside a few quiet minutes each day to acknowledge your feelings. Journaling or meditating can help you process emotions.

Connect with Your Loved One: Talk to your loved one in spirit, write them a letter, or ask for a sign. This simple act can bring comfort and connection.

Take Care of Your Energy: Grief affects your energy. Practice grounding exercises like walking in nature, deep breathing, or using protective visualizations.

Seek Community: You’re not alone. Join a grief support group, whether in person or online, to share your experience and feel supported.

Show Yourself Compassion: Grief is a process. Give yourself permission to feel, heal, and move forward at your own pace.

Imagine waking up and feeling a little lighter, a little more hopeful. To start seeing the signs from your loved ones again and know that they’re still with you. That’s what healing can do. To wake up and feel a little lighter, a little more hopeful. To start seeing the signs from your loved ones again and know that they’re still with you. That’s what healing can do.

To learn more about connecting with your loved ones in spirit and finding peace after loss, check out my new book, Don’t Wait Till You’re Dead: Spirits’ Advice from the Afterlife, available now wherever books are sold or by Clicking Here.