The death of a loved one is never easy, and for many people the pain is intensified by guilt. It’s easy to look back when everything is over and realize you could have done better. It’s normal to have regrets – you wish you’d spent more time with them when they were alive; you weren’t with them when they passed over; you said something hurtful and never apologized – but remember, no relationship is perfect, and beating yourself up over something that can’t be changed isn’t healthy.
You Can’t Turn Back Time
I recently did a reading for a woman who had lost her brother to suicide. The moment I tuned into her energy I could feel her tremendous pain. She and her brother had a close relationship, and she had been aware of the emotional struggles he was going through and knew of his suicidal thoughts.
She had always done the best she could to support him. She would call him every day to check up on him and ask him how he felt. She constantly reassured him that she was there for him and loved him.
The night before his passing, she called him and right away sensed something was different. She asked him repeatedly if he was okay and he reassured her that he was fine. She kept her phone on that night and had it under her pillow in case he needed her. Unfortunately, the only call that came was to let her know that he had passed away.
Ever since that day she had been weighed down with grief and regret. She replayed the night over and over, imagining different scenarios where she rushed over, broke down the door, and saved him. She was drowning in guilt and emotional pain.
When her brother came through during our reading, his message was filled with love and healing words. He told her he appreciated her always being there for him, and that their relationship had been one of the best things in his life. He assured her that the suicide was not her fault, and that there was nothing she could have done to stop him.
Finally, he told her that he was happy in Heaven, and urged her to forgive herself so that she could heal and be happy too.
Allowing Yourself to Heal
One unfortunate reality of life is that you can’t control everything and everyone. The woman who lost her brother might have stopped him that night, only to lose him to suicide another day. People have free will, their own lessons to learn, and choices that only they can make. When someone passes, you can’t turn back the clock and bring them back for good, but there are ways to replace your grief and regret with loving memories.
Here are some techniques that can help:
1) Start by remembering the good times. Grief is funny. It blocks out all the happy memories and only leaves us with pain. Don’t let the good memories be lost. Think of the person when they were enjoying life, happy and healthy. Remember the experiences you shared, holidays, trips, inside jokes. Train yourself to replace the sad, regretful thoughts with memories that make you smile.
2) Look back on old photos. See the person when they were happy and vibrant. If you can, get a photo album or browse a social media page where there are pictures you haven’t seen before. Images of your loved one during family gatherings, celebrations, and vacations will help you remember them at their best – and keep them alive in your heart.
3) Talk about it. Sometimes people avoid bringing up the name of someone who has passed over. Do your best to break through that barrier and share a happy memory. Encourage other friends or family members to relay their own stories about the departed. If you’re not ready to talk to family members or mutual friends of the deceased, consider a support group. Talking to others who have been through the same thing might be hard at first, but hearing what they have to say will help you
When I speak to the dead, one thing always comes through. They don’t want their death to hold you back. Guilt can prevent you from moving on with your life. Give yourself permission to be happy again and let go of the guilt and regret you’re holding on to.
If you would like to join me for an online group reading, you can sign up for one here. To make it even more special your family can attend with you and all you need is one ticket. Just make sure they are sitting with you on camera. It doesn’t matter where you live and you don’t need any fancy technology. All you need is a tablet, computer or a smartphone to be able to join.
I believe, the more that you learn about Heaven, the more that you learn that your loved ones are not far away. That’s exactly why I want to share my gift with you ! I hope that by attending an event with me, you’ll feel closer than ever to the people you love. I hope it helps you to open yourself up to sensing and feeling spirit and tuning into their special loving vibration!
I hope to see your face, and the faces of your loved ones in Heaven, on my computer screen during my next online event!
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Does Matt do individual online readings?
Does Matt do individual online readings?
Yes. But he’s booked 2 years out. You can submit to be notified and submit your name and email address. Go to his home page and look for the section that says Book a reading.
Matt? Do you do individual readings?
Dear Matt,
I am praying that you can help me find peace & forgiveness. My mom passed away on Aug 8, 2021 from Covid and I feel tremendous guilt. I feel like I have no purpose here on earth and feel very lost & lonely. I hope you can help me.
Thank you & God Bless you
Irene G
Individual reading
Thank-You Matt for All that You do for Us
I really do look back at pictures and think of Happy Memories.
I am remaining Positive and Colourful and moving on.
Not away from Husband, My SoulMate but with Him in Soirit by My side, Guiding Me.
I can “feel” Him around Me, I gain comfort in this.
I heavily rely on My intuition &: feelings.
I am Empath.
However, I really struggle with getting rid of guilt,
I have so much.
I know He is Proud of Me and I want to make Him Prouder.
Thanks again Matt
I wish You Matt, Alexa, Your Families & Crew a Wonderful Colourful Life.
❤️
Hi Matt
Do you have any on line openings in January and any openings for a one on one reading?
Dear Matt
I am praying that you can help me to get through this. My husband and I left North Carolina yesterday morning heading to Newport, RI, where we’re going to be staying until Monday when we head to my hometown Swansea, MA to bury my beloved sister, her husband, and their son. We were already stressed and then got caught in this horrible storm coming north and had to stop to sleep in our car in Maryland. We’re back on the road and should arrive in Newport around 11AM. My sister passed away October 18 from Covid and her husband 5 days later on the 23rd. Their son passed on Easter Sunday about 12 years ago. I’m the oldest of the 4 of us sisters remaining and can’t find what I need to comfort them and give them some little bit of closure. Can you please help me? Thank you and God bless you.
Elizabeth
Hi Matt. I listened to one of your group readings and was so happy for those that were able one. You connected with people and the relief is something to see.
I know you talk of butterflies and I had an experience today and it was a monarch. It fluttered all around and circled my head several times almost landed on me. It flew to a neighbor’s yard and then came back and did the same thing. I had to bring my cat in because she wanted to get the butterfly, she was his baby. I am just teary I miss him so much it hurts. Hopefully it was him sending a sign.
Hello Matt for some odd reason I have been feeling like u want me to reach out to you I believe in what u are capable of communicating with those who have crossed over and I can sometimes but never my family and it saddens me I tend to block out the spirts I can hear it’s overwhelming at times,any how i just never got to say goodbye to my family nor my friend or tell them how much I loved them I miss them so much I lost two sisters my mother and my father my oldest brother and my best friend I never really had the chance to mourn for any of them I always had to keep the rest of my loved ones comfortable I always had to do everything I could do to in arranging everything so they won’t be bothered with it and I am the youngest now it’s been rough for me I feel alone in this world at times I had to even unplug my mother from life support cause my step father couldn’t this was so hard for me life has hit me so hard I just need them to know how much they mean to me. Thank you matt
Mat, about 2 months ago my elderly father that i live with n care for passed away from covid. I was also in the hospital with blood clots n phenomenon just a few doors done. Before I was admitted I found my very best friend passed away on my couch where I sleep, he spend mo his time with me side by side never judged, accepted all of me, everyday told me how much he loved me n how beautitful3 I was n would never leave me. Encouraged me to get out n enjoy life.
Owe Matt & what I read resided in me because , I had blamed myself for the passing in my life first it was my grandmother , & then it was my aunt that had passed on with Cancer & wanting her to forgive me for helping her when she would get mad at me but all I was doing was helping her . Then with my uncle that passed unexpectedly & suddenly I started questioning everything even GOD & so this is what I need help with because , now I’m feeling the pains & I know it was when I read this post .
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