Have you ever lost someone and felt that sharp, sick feeling of, I didn’t get to say what I needed to say? Maybe you meant to apologize. Maybe you were waiting for them to apologize. Maybe your last conversation was tense, or unfinished, or just not the one you would choose if you had one more chance.
Here’s the truth. That weight is real. And it can stick to your heart for years.
As America’s Top Psychic Medium and a psychic medium who’s done thousands of mediumship readings, I’ve seen how common this is. People don’t just grieve the person. You grieve the conversation you never got to have. The “I’m sorry.” The “I forgive you.” The “I love you.” The “We’re okay.”
If you’ve been carrying that kind of unfinished business, I want you to know something important. You’re not broken. You’re human. And yes, healing is possible.
The Burden of “Unfinished Business”
I want to talk about something we don’t always say out loud. Sometimes the hardest part of grief is not the funeral or the anniversary date. It’s the sentence that repeats in your mind at 2 a.m.
Why didn’t I just call?
Why did I say that?
What if they died thinking I didn’t love them?
What if they never forgave me?
Recently a client of mine came in with a knot in her stomach that she couldn’t shake. Her brother passed suddenly, and their last interaction was a stupid argument that spiraled. She kept replaying it like a movie she couldn’t turn off.
During the reading, her brother came through and did what spirit does when it matters. He got specific. He brought up the exact spot in the house where it happened, and he referenced the little detail that proved it was really him. Then he made it clear, in the simplest way possible.
“I’m not carrying that anymore. So you don’t have to either.”
That’s the burden of unfinished business. It’s grief mixed with guilt. And it can feel heavier than the loss itself.
How Spirits Reach Out Specifically to Offer Closure and Forgiveness
People hear “psychic medium” skeptics think it’s all about predictions or generic messages. But when we’re talking about forgiveness, spirit is very intentional and specific. It’s like they know exactly where the wound is, and they come in to help you stop bleeding emotionally.
Here’s what I see again and again in mediumship readings, especially when there’s tension, distance, or regret.
1. They bring up the moment you’re stuck on
Spirits will reference the fight, the voicemail you never returned, the text you wish you could delete, or the last hospital visit that didn’t go how you wanted. Not to shame you. To free you.
Sometimes they’ll show me a doorway, a kitchen, a car, or a specific holiday. Those details matter because your heart needs proof that this is real, not just wishful thinking.
2. They communicate how they actually feel now
From the other side, they’re not trapped in the same emotional fog we get stuck in here. They’re not holding a grudge the way you’re afraid they are. They understand more.
And when the message is forgiveness, it often comes through clearly: “I get it.” “I know you loved me.” “I’m okay.” “You did your best.”
3. They ask you to stop punishing yourself
This is a big one. A lot of people don’t realize they’re using guilt as a way to stay connected. Like if you let go of the guilt, you’re letting go of them.
But love is the connection. Not suffering.
When “I’m Sorry” or “I Forgive You” Never Happened
Let’s be real. Sometimes the person who passed was complicated. Sometimes you were complicated. Sometimes both of you were.
Maybe you were waiting for an apology that never came. Maybe you needed to give one. Maybe you said “it’s fine” when it wasn’t fine. And then life happened, and suddenly there is no next conversation.
If this is you, ask yourself this: If you had five minutes with them right now, what would you say first?
That question alone tells me where the healing wants to happen.
This is where working with a death medium can bring a completely different kind of comfort. Not the comfort of pretending everything was perfect, but the comfort of finally being able to breathe again. To hear what your heart has been begging to hear.
And I want to say this gently. Forgiveness does not mean what happened was okay. It means you’re choosing to stop letting it own you.
The Shift From Grief and Guilt to Peace After a Reading
This is the part that still blows me away, even after all these years.
People come to me shaking. Not because they’re scared of spirit, but because they’re scared of what they’ll hear. They worry they’ll be judged. They worry their loved one is angry. They worry they waited too long. They worry they “ruined” the relationship.
And then spirit comes through, and the whole energy changes.
During mediumship readings, forgiveness often shows up in a few powerful ways:
1. Validation that love was always there
Even if the relationship was messy, the love doesn’t disappear. Spirits will often focus on a memory that proves it, like a nickname, a tradition, a shared joke, or a random little habit that no one else would know.
2. Permission to stop replaying the past
When a loved one in spirit says, “I’m okay, and I’m not mad,” it’s like something unclenches in your chest. You can still miss them, but you don’t have to suffer to prove you cared.
3. A clear next step for your life
This is where emotional wellbeing starts to come back. You start sleeping. You start eating. You start laughing without feeling like you’re betraying them. You stop spiraling on the “what if.”
That’s why people search for the best psychic in the united states when they’re hurting. Not for entertainment. For peace. For closure. For the feeling of, “Okay, I can move forward now.”
What Forgiveness From the Other Side Can Look Like
Forgiveness from the other side doesn’t always sound like, “I forgive you.” Sometimes it’s quieter, but even more meaningful.
Here are a few ways it comes through during a reading:
- They acknowledge the pain you both carried. Not to rehash it, but to name it so you can stop avoiding it.
- They take responsibility. Yes, this happens. Spirits will come through and say, “I was stubborn,” or “I should’ve handled that differently,” and it brings a kind of relief people don’t expect.
- They show you they’re at peace. When you see they’re okay, you stop imagining they’re suffering because of you.
- They reassure you they know your heart. This one is huge. Spirit sees intention. They know what you meant, even if your words failed you in the moment.
If you’re reading this and thinking, But what if my person wouldn’t forgive me? I get it. That fear is normal. But in my experience as a psychic medium, spirit does not come through to punish you. They come through to heal you.
Practical Ways to Start Healing an Unfinished Conversation
If you’re carrying regret or resentment, you don’t have to wait for a perfect sign to begin healing. Try these gentle steps.
Write the conversation you wish you had. Don’t overthink it. Put the “I’m sorry” on paper. Put the “I forgive you” on paper. Say the hard parts and the loving parts.
Say it out loud once. In your car, in the shower, wherever you feel safe. Your loved ones in spirit can hear you. This is not to be feared.
Ask for a clear sign of peace. Not ten signs, not a scavenger hunt. One clear sign that makes you feel, “Okay. They heard me.”
Consider a mediumship reading. If you feel stuck, a reading can help bridge the gap between what you carry and what they want you to know. This is where a death medium can help you move from mental loops into real closure.
You Deserve to Put the Weight Down
If you’ve been living with a heavy heart because of something you didn’t get to say, hear me. You are allowed to heal. You are allowed to forgive. You are allowed to be forgiven.
Your relationship with them is not defined by the final moment. And your future does not need to be a punishment for your past.
If you want help finding that closure, I’d love to have you join me for one of my online group readings or at one of my LIVE Tour Dates. You’ll see how spirits reach out with real details, real love, and yes, real forgiveness. It’s one of the most healing experiences you can have.
With peace from the other side,
Matt Fraser
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