Have you ever been sitting alone in your living room when suddenly the lights flickered for no reason? Or maybe you’ve felt a sudden chill run down your spine, even though all the windows were closed. Perhaps you’ve caught a whiff of your grandmother’s perfume in a room where no one was wearing it.
If experiences like these have happened to you, your first instinct might have been fear. Is my house haunted? Is something wrong? I totally get it, movies and TV shows have conditioned us to think that any unexplained phenomenon must be something dark or scary.
But here’s what I want you to know: as a psychic medium who has connected thousands of people with their loved ones on the other side, I can tell you that most of these experiences aren’t paranormal in the spooky sense at all. They’re actually peaceful visits from people who love you and miss you just as much as you miss them.
The Truth About “Paranormal” Experiences
Let me be real with you. The word “paranormal” has gotten a bad reputation. When most people hear it, they think of horror movies, ghost hunters, and things that go bump in the night. But all “paranormal” really means is something beyond the normal range of experience, and that includes the beautiful, loving visits from our deceased loved ones.
I once knew a woman who was terrified because objects in her home kept moving. Her keys would end up in different places, picture frames would shift, and she even found her late husband’s favorite coffee mug sitting on the counter one morning when she was certain she’d put it away. She thought something sinister was happening.
When I connected with her husband during a mediumship reading, he was practically laughing on the other side! He told me he’d been trying everything to get her attention, to let her know he was still around. He wasn’t haunting her, he was loving her.
7 Signs a Loved One is Visiting You
So how do you tell the difference between something to worry about and a loving hello from the other side? Here are the most common signs I’ve encountered in my work as America’s Top Psychic Medium:
1. Flickering Lights and Electrical Disturbances
This is probably the most common sign people ask me about. Lights flickering, TVs turning on by themselves, or your phone acting strangely can all be signs of spirit presence. Why electrical devices? Because souls are pure energy, and it’s easier for them to manipulate electrical currents than physical matter. If your lights flicker right when you’re thinking about someone who passed, that’s not a coincidence!
2. Familiar Scents
Has the smell of your dad’s cologne ever appeared out of nowhere? Or your mom’s famous Italian gravy when you’re nowhere near a kitchen? These phantom scents are one of the most powerful and personal ways our loved ones reach out. They choose smells that are uniquely connected to them, something only you would recognize and understand.
3. Objects Moving or Appearing
Finding coins in unexpected places, a feather on your doorstep, or noticing that a photo has shifted on the mantle, these aren’t random occurrences. Recently, a client of mine kept finding dimes everywhere after her mother passed. During our session, her mother confirmed she’d been leaving them as little “hello” gifts, knowing her daughter would eventually understand the message.
4. Feeling a Presence
You know that feeling when you just know someone is in the room with you, even though you can’t see them? Trust that instinct! Many people dismiss this as imagination, but your soul recognizes the energy of those you love, even when they’re no longer in physical form. This sensation is usually accompanied by a feeling of peace or comfort, not fear.
5. Dreams That Feel Real
Dreams are one of the easiest ways for spirits to communicate with us because our logical, doubting minds are at rest. If you’ve had a dream about a deceased loved one that felt incredibly vivid and real, more like a visit than a regular dream, it probably was exactly that. In these dreams, your loved ones often appear healthy, younger, and radiantly happy.
6. Animal Messengers
Cardinals, butterflies, dragonflies, deer, these creatures often show up at meaningful moments as messengers from the other side. I can’t tell you how many people have told me that a cardinal appears at their window every anniversary or birthday. Animals are more attuned to spiritual energy than we are, and spirits often work through them to send signs.
7. Songs and Meaningful Coincidences
Your loved one’s favorite song playing on shuffle at the exact moment you were thinking of them? That’s not random. Spirits can influence the world around us in subtle ways, including prompting certain songs, commercials, or even conversations to happen right when we need to hear them.
Can the Dead See You When You Visit Their Grave?
This is one of the questions I get asked most often, and I love answering it because the truth is so comforting. Yes, absolutely: your loved ones know when you visit their grave. But here’s what might surprise you: they’re not actually at the cemetery waiting for you.
Your loved ones in spirit aren’t bound to any physical location. They can be with you anywhere, anytime. But when you visit their resting place, your intention and love act like a beacon. They feel that pull of emotion and they come to be with you. So when you’re talking to them at the graveside, sharing updates about your life, crying, or even laughing at old memories: they hear every word.
Why There’s Nothing to Fear
If you take away one thing from this article, let it be this: spirit visitations from loved ones are not to be feared. The energy they bring is love, not harm. Think about it: would your grandmother, who spent her whole life protecting and nurturing you, suddenly want to scare you after she passed? Of course not!
The fear we feel around these experiences usually comes from not understanding them. But once you recognize these signs for what they are: loving hellos from the other side: they become sources of comfort rather than concern.
During my mediumship readings, I’ve connected with thousands of spirits, and I can tell you that their messages are overwhelmingly about love, forgiveness, and letting their families know they’re okay. They want to ease your grief, not add to it.
What to Do When You Experience These Signs
Next time you notice a flickering light, a familiar scent, or that unmistakable feeling of presence, try this:
- Take a breath and stay calm. Remember, this is likely someone who loves you.
- Acknowledge the sign. Say out loud or in your mind, “I see you. I feel you. Thank you.”
- Pay attention to your emotions. Do you feel peaceful? Comforted? That’s the energy of love.
- Keep a journal. Write down when these experiences happen. You might start to notice patterns around significant dates or moments.
The more open you are to receiving these signs, the more frequently they tend to occur. Your loved ones are always trying to reach you: sometimes we just need to learn how to listen.
Continue Your Spiritual Journey
If you’re hungry to learn more about connecting with your loved ones on the other side, I’d love to help you go deeper. Consider joining me for an online group reading where you can experience the power of mediumship firsthand. You might also enjoy exploring my course, “It’s Never Too Late”, which can help you develop your own intuitive abilities and strengthen your connection to the spirit world.
Remember, the bond you share with those who have passed is never broken. They’re still with you, still loving you, still cheering you on. You just have to open your heart to the signs.
With peace from the other side,
Matt Fraser
America’s Top Psychic Medium
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