One of the most common questions I get asked is, “How can I guarantee my loved one comes through during a reading?”
The truth is, while I do my best to serve as a conduit between the spirit and the physical world, I can never guarantee that a specific soul will choose to come through and communicate. Here’s why timing is everything…
The Importance of Free Will
It’s important to remember that souls in Heaven have their own free will. Just like we can’t force someone to speak to us here on Earth or take our phone call, we can’t “make” a soul to communicate in a reading. Souls will choose when and how to make contact based on a variety of factors.
The Emotional Sensitivity of Souls
Your loved ones in spirit have the ability to gauge the emotional readiness of their living loved ones. I once met a grieving mother whose son chose not to communicate during a live event, only to appear the next day to me in private to explain that his mother’s emotional state was too fragile for a message. It’s not just about the soul’s readiness to speak, but also about your emotional readiness to hear.
When the Time is Right
It’s also worth noting that when the time is right, your loved ones will find a way to communicate.
I once met a woman at one of my events who was deep in grief over the recent loss of her son. As much as I tried to establish a connection with him, he would not communicate. I could sense his presence but could not bring forth a message from him. I tried and tired, however I just could not make him come through.
The following day, he appeared to me in my own home. He explained that he didn’t communicate during the event because he felt his mother was too emotionally fragile at the time. A message would have likely caused her to spiral into deeper grief and confusion. He told me that we would come back with a message for his Mom, but he needed her to heal a little bit more.
This experience was when I first started to realize that a message cannot be forced. You’re loved ones in spirit are extremely sensitive to your emotional state and will hold back if they feel a message could cause harm.
Messages for Healing, Not Hurting
Souls don’t wish to add more pain to their passing; their main goal is to help, heal, provide closure, and remind you that they are with you and at peace. They know when a message will be beneficial and when it will cause more pain. When your loved ones transition on, they have a different level of understanding than we do here on Earth. Although, sometimes you might not agree with their decision, they can see you life clearly and know best what you need to heal.
Trust the Process
While it might be disappointing or frustrating when a specific soul doesn’t come through, remember that this doesn’t mean they don’t want to communicate with you. They’re picking the perfect time for both of you. The souls who do choose to make contact often offer the messages we need most, even if they aren’t the messages we were hoping for.
An Unexpected Message
A woman came to me with her heart set on connecting with her mother. She had all of these thoughts in her head of things she wanted to hear from her Mom, and you could almost feel her anticipation. Yet, it was her estranged step-brother who chose that moment to reach out from the other side.
The relationship she had with her step-brother during his earthly life had been strained by conflict and his own battle with alcoholism. He came through for one reason, to ask for forgiveness. He expressed regret for allowing his struggles with addiction to come between them while he was alive and wanted to make things right from the afterlife.
At first, the woman was visibly shaken. This was not the reunion she had prepared her heart for. However, as the reading continued and her step-brother’s sincere apologies filled the space, something extraordinary happened. Her eyes began to well up with tears, and you could see a subtle shift in her demeanor. She seemed to come to an understanding that her step-brother’s message, though unexpected, was helping her unearth layers of pain and resentment she hadn’t even realized she’d been carrying.
Don’t Give Up – A Message Will Come
When a loved one passes away, it is normal to want to communicate with them right away. However, as souls acclimate to their new existence in Heaven, there’s a learning curve for them, too, in figuring out how to effectively communicate to a psychic medium. Similarly, you also go through a process of learning how to open up and tune in to their messages.
If it feels right, try attending some group events, either in person or online, not as a guarantee, but as an invitation to the universe, signaling you’re ready and willing to receive messages.
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When your loved ones have something truly important to share, your presence could provide that beautiful moment where two souls, separated by different realms, can once again feel close. Trust in the process and in the timing—sometimes the most meaningful messages come when you least expect them but need them the most.
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Will you ever do the uk ?
My healthy husband passed almost two years ago from Covid…he was gone in twenty days. I’m grieving and miss him terribly! I will be in the audience on Friday evening in Harris Michigan…I hope he comes through.
We had no goodbyes, he was on a ventilator and heavily sedated. I have done three online group sessions with you, but no message for me. I need to know he is okay and that he is with me. I have had no dreams of him and no signs from him at all.
Oh my. I’m so sorry. I’m wondering if there’s any signs at all – like you get in the car and there’s a song. Or you keep seeing the same numbers. You smell his cologne or something he loved and you are seeing it all the time or at moments in time that are significant. My dad loved birds. I grew up in a yellow house. After he died I kept seeing vibrant bright yellow birds and red cardinals. Every time I spoke to my sister about him (phone) she would see a red cardinal and gasp and I’d see a butterfly at the same time. The messages stopped being so frequent. I am so sorry about your grief and pain. Sending you love
I so badly want to hear from my mom.
Thank you Matt. I hope my son comes through during the on line reading next month, I believe. I am so ready and I hope he knows that. Thank you for all you do.
I really need to hear from my son, I need to get what the heck happened to him. We’ve had some very tough times but we love and miss you so very very much.Mom
I need to hear from my husband to hear if he is alright and is with family and pets. I miss him so much . Married for 58 years, to my high school sweet heart.
I completely believe that a soul will not communicate if your not ready. I do believe that they don’t want to cause you more pain than you are suffering
I was with you on line on September 12 will join you again October 3. My birthday is the 4th I hope one of my relatives decides to come through this time. So many questions.
I was with you on the 23 of September by boyfriend never came true find it very strange as I get signs and he’s well over a year dead now and he was a very out going person in this world don’t no weather to believe in this type of on line reading I wasn’t even called on zoom I went to a card reading and got told a lot of stuff also I was very upset that nobody came true
Can a spirit be so upset that they will never send you a message?
We had one online reading and although my husband didn’t come through, there were tidbits that came through during the session, there were little tidbits throughout the reading that applied so much to me, I know that my husband passed away unexpectantly at only 48 a few months ago so I understand sometimes they are not ready. We did sign up again because I truly believe he has messages for me. Matt…you are completely amazing and your personality is even better!
If you see your loved ones in dreams, does that mean they don’t need to come through to medium because dreams are already them coming through?
Great read and validation I have been to see you now a few times with my Mom and even though no one for us came through it was healing to watch other people’s loved ones came through ❤️ I believe when mine are ready it will happen maybe sept 24th Mom and I be joining your group reading bless you Matt
I was at a group reading in the 16th and I didn’t get a reading but I felt that the read that were given were some how for me as what you said in the reading about police line and 13 Year Old boy that was everything that we went through is this possible
I just want to hear from my husband so bad!
Thank you Matt
That was a nice message
I can’t wait for Sunday
Looking forward to watching you
Thank for the newsletter. Tough day. Depressed.
I miss my little sister so much, I hope to hear from her soon! I can feel her presence around me… especially when I need her the most and I’m going through a hard time. She communicates with me through signs that I can easily read and understand, but to be able to talk with her through Matt would be a dream! I hope she’ll be ready the next event we attend. ❤️
Greetings Matt. I am calling in from tenerife canary islands. I would dearly love to join you and your mum on October 30th . I am nervous about computers and bank details on line . Can you please advise me thankyou Jimi
PLEASE COME TO GEORGIA!!!
I pray you do, and my mom and dad come through.
PLEASE COME TO GEORGIA!!!
I try to keep up with what you talk about but I only get out here in this small town I live in and a lot of doctors appointments so I can’t get out where you are doing the readings and I don’t have the money for tickets but it’s really good for what you do for people God Bless you matt ❤️
Thank you Matt for this wonderful email, I now have a better understanding. I am looking forward to hearing you on Oct 1st & I am so excited to finally meet you even over the computer and in a group session.
God Bless, Love & Light
MaryAnn
I feel like this message from you was exactly meant for me to read. I felt every meaning of these words. I was at an online reading and became terribly upset when my loved ones hadn’t come thru. Now after reading this it makes perfect sense that my loving souls stayed a distance. I’m kinda crazy as it is so I’m sure they were stepping one behind the other not wanting to be the one to deal with my BROKENESS at the time. Haha I can see them now pushing one another forward while not wanting to be ” the one”. Thank you for this message Matt. I will see you soon in an online meeting. Have a blessed day.
I appreciate the message Matt. I’m so grateful for your gift! I can’t wait for October 5th to be online hopefully my son will come through. His sisters birthday will be on the same day of the reading. They we’re like twins..thank you so much!
Do you have any plans to come to Wisconsin perhaps the Milwaukee area?
I need to hear from my husband. I know by watching your shows that the more family members that are present the better the chance that your lioved one will come through. But I have no one anymore. And what’s really sad even the rest of my family in heaven that passed years ago don’t want to communicate with me. IDK
I think this is my primary concern.. I lost my 28 yr old Son, 2 1/2 years ago, and am still emotionally so fragile about it. I found you through my journey in trying to reconnect with him.. He sends me signs almost daily, so I know he is with me.. I just don’t know if a reading will heal me or break me.. Everyday I get your messages and I just spoke to my Daughter about both of us getting in on a group chat to get a feel for it. I just haven’t been able to push the go button yet.. I would love to hear your thoughts on this..
My mom passed two days ago. Last night before going to bed, I asked mom to show me sign that she’s around. This morning I found the jade pendant that mom had given to me laying on the bathroom floor. I started wearing the pendant since her passing, and there was no sign of breakage on the chain nor on the pendant loop. I took this is the sign from my mom.
I have always wondered when our loved ones die, for instance lets say my mom died when she was 40, and now I die when I’m 80…when we meet how will she even know who I am because I lived way longer then she did. When we die do we stay at the same age forever as we were when we passed??
I have dream visit experiences from my departed son, but I really want to know that he is Ok in heaven and that he felt no pain as he passed away. I wonder about his last minutes here on earth….did he know that he was dying. I had many signs in retrospect that he would be gone soon…..why couldn’t I sense that he needed me at that moment. I am very intuitive and sensitive but wasn’t that day. I guess I want to know for sure that he is OK…..
Prior to my sons death I was watching Matt Fraser on u tube trying to connect with his older brother who had died 6 years earlier. My son laughed at me and lovingly said ,” I just talk to him mom. “ Six months later , my son died in a skydiving accident. I bought tickets for a gallery reading hoping both would come through. Matt walked right past me, looked me in the eye and continued walking upstairs and gave another reading. The reading was very profound for the other family. All I can say is they must have thought the other family needed a reading more than me. I was disappointed but I’ll just keep talking to them. I know they are listening.
I would like to hear from my significant other who passed away on November 5, 2022. I really miss him but I know he is in a much better place now. He suffered a lot before his passing. I do talk to him every day to keep him alive in my world. He does send me the number 11 all of the time so I can feel that he is still with me. I have an online reading with you on November 4, 2023 the day before his passing last year. I hope he decides to come through. It will be the fourth time I have been to the online reading. Thank you for all that you do for people.
Thank you for the formative information in preparation for a reading.! I am very intuitive or physic as people have share with, me. It’s hard to get clarity for yourself ,when it’s about my loved ones. Aware that they may or may not come through and grateful if they do and if they don’t I trust I in the process, and will appreciate just sitting in online reading invent . Love and gratitude,
Mat, you affirmed a connection I have recently with my stepdaughter who passed away a few months ago.I had an experience with a butterfly circling around us about 10 minutes . I knew it was her as there were chills all over me and my cat was just staying in one spot watching this butterfly visit us. Totally memorized in the experience.I shared this with a friend and she said soon after she was listening to you in the background while she was doing a painting and all she heard was ,you saying “butterfly’s and dragonflies are spirits coming through for you!” She had to call me back to tell me what she heard you say as she wanted to affirm for me that what I experienced was real. I love how energy works and is passed on. My friend never heard of you before this time . I been listening to you for years ,and appreciate your service for helping us feel more at peace when our loved ones leave there body. I have also lost another daughter 31 one years ago.. i would love to receive and open to receive any messages that may come through on October 3 rd reading. Pura Vida
Hi there!
This is Priya from Bangalore, India. My mom who means the world to me and our family passed away suddenly in March this year. I am unable to come to terms with it. We used to do everything together. Go out on weekends, go on road trips, be on calls all day long, I had to see her everyday, else I wouldn’t be at peace. Doctors always said she is in the best of her health. Not in the wildest dream i thought she would go to hospital and never come bk. My dad is really shattered, so is my brother. We are all broken into pieces and the only person who could fix us was her. She was the glue who kept us together. I miss my mama every minute.
Would love to see you in Sydney, Australia!!
I have been to both live and online reading with you Matt and although I have never had a reading I was truly amazed. I will be at the September 24 online reading and I am hoping that some of my loved ones come through with a message for me. Bless you for helping all of us in the healing process.
Hello Matt Thank you for your email I enjoy reading them I sign up with you 3times no one has came threw I talk to my family members that passed on.I Dnt feel there present or signs as if they Dnt wanna be around I hope they hear me Maybe it’s not the rite time and will try again all I wanna know is there okay I missed my family so much.Thank YouLife is so different and at times I feel lost just wanna know there okay.It’s been 2years.I’m still grieving and so upset behind loseing them I feel loseing them life’s been tuff I’m trying to cope and make better and struggling behind loseing them I really miss them ..
I’ve been a fan of yours from afar for a while now. Have also attended some online groups & have booked again for the near future. I’m amazed at your ability & hope so much that someone very special to me pushes to the front of the cue to communicate with me in the near future, I’m seeing Angel numbers everywhere over & over 🙁
Please come to the UK
You truly are a blessing Matt ! Love and light
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