From Holiday Blues: A Guide to Lifting Your Energy This Season

Can you believe Halloween is next week? It feels like summer just ended, and suddenly the holiday season is upon us. It came faster this year, didn’t it? And for so many of you reaching out to me lately, that quick approach brings anxiety instead of excitement. I understand completely.

This week alone, I’ve had three different people tell me they don’t know how they’ll get through Thanksgiving or Christmas without their loved ones. One woman said, “Matt, I’m already anxious about my mom’s empty chair at Thanksgiving.” Halloween isn’t even here yet, and the weight of the upcoming holidays is already heavy.

Your loved ones in Spirit are already preparing for the holidays with you. They see your anxiety, they feel your love, and they’re sending you strength. They want you to know something important: they’re not missing the holidays. They’re experiencing them through your eyes, through your heart.

So how do you turn holiday pain into celebration? Here’s what Spirit has shown me through countless readings:

Share Their Stories at Every Gathering

Make storytelling part of your holiday tradition. Before dinner, invite everyone to share their favorite memory of someone in Spirit. These stories aren’t sad; they’re bridges to Heaven. They bring our loved ones right back to the table. Share the funny ones, the touching ones, the ones that capture their essence. Spirit loves when we share these stories because it keeps their energy alive and present.

Add Their Mementos to Your Celebrations

Use grandma’s gravy boat. Wear dad’s old holiday sweater. Put their ornaments front and center on the tree. Display their photos as part of your celebration. These aren’t just objects; they’re physical connections to Heaven. When you use something they loved, you’re inviting their energy into your celebration.

Create a Memory Table

Set up a special table with photos, their favorite things, maybe something they collected. Let guests add to it. Write notes to them. Light candles. This becomes a portal of love where Heaven meets Earth. Your loved ones see this, and it brings them joy.

Honor Them Through New Traditions

Start a tradition in their honor that brings joy. Make their famous cookies, play their favorite holiday music, or do something they loved. When you do this with love in your heart, they’re right there with you, guiding your hands, sharing the moment.

Turn Their Chair Into a Place of Honor

Instead of seeing an empty chair, make it a place of celebration. Put a photo there, their favorite flower, or something that represents them. Toast to them. Include them in grace. Heaven doesn’t see empty chairs; they see opportunities for connection.

Feel Their Presence in the Moments

When you smell their perfume out of nowhere, when their favorite song plays unexpectedly, when you feel that warm sensation around you, that’s them. Heaven works overtime during the holidays to let you know they’re near.

Just last week, I had a reading where a mother in Spirit came through so clearly. She told her daughter, “I’m not missing Christmas. I’m helping you bake the cookies, I’m there when you wrap the presents, I’m in every warm memory you share about me.” The daughter broke down because she’d been smelling her mom’s perfume while baking.

That’s the secret Heaven wants you to know. Your loved ones don’t want to be the source of holiday sadness. They’re not watching from some distant place feeling left out. They’re right there with you, in every tradition, every memory, every moment of love.

The veil between Heaven and Earth gets thinner during the holidays. Not because of any mystical reason, but because love is so concentrated during this time. When families gather, when traditions continue, when memories are shared, Heaven comes closer.

If the holidays feel heavy, please remember this: Your loved ones in Spirit are not in pain. They’re not sad. They’re not missing out. They’re experiencing pure love and they’re sending that love to you. They want to see you smile when you remember them. They want their memory to bring comfort, not just tears.

Spirit has shown me time and time again that our loved ones celebrate with us. They see every decoration you put up in their honor. They hear every story you tell about them. They feel every moment you think of them with love. Heaven is not separate from our celebrations; it’s woven throughout them.

This holiday season, don’t hide their memory to avoid pain. Celebrate it. Share their stories. Display their mementos. Honor them with joy. Feel their presence in the traditions. Know that Heaven is celebrating with you, not watching from afar.

Because that’s what the holidays are really about. Love that connects Heaven and Earth, transcending everything, even death.

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With love, light, and heavenly connection, Matt