It’s the question that keeps us awake at 3 AM. The one we whisper to ourselves when we’re sitting alone in the hospital waiting room, or standing at a graveside. Where do we go when we die?
I’ve been blessed, and sometimes it feels like a burden, to have this question answered for me over and over again. In my 15+ years as a psychic medium, I’ve connected with over 10,000 spirits who’ve crossed over. And you know what? They all have the same beautiful story to tell about where they went.
Let me share what they’ve shown me.
The Moment of Transition: It’s Nothing Like You Think
First, let me put your biggest fear to rest. Dying isn’t scary. Not once, and I mean not once, has a spirit ever come through to tell me they experienced pain or fear during their transition. Even those who passed from illness or accidents.
I remember connecting with a man named Brian who had passed from cancer. His wife Kelly was terrified he had suffered. But Brian came through laughing, actually laughing, saying, “Tell her I felt like I was taking off a heavy winter coat I’d been wearing for months.”
That’s what spirits consistently describe: a sense of relief, lightness, and immediate peace. The physical body is released, but consciousness, your true self, continues seamlessly.
Here’s what typically happens in those first moments:
You’re Met by Loved Ones
Every single spirit I’ve connected with tells me they were greeted by family members, friends, or spiritual guides who had passed before them. Your grandmother who raised you. Your best friend from high school. Sometimes even beloved pets.
A young mother named Linda who passed unexpectedly came through to her husband during a reading. She said, “Tell him my dad was there waiting for me, and he had our dog Buddy with him. The same Buddy who used to sleep at the foot of our bed.”
You Experience a Life Review
Not a judgment, don’t let anyone scare you with that. Spirits describe it more like watching a movie of their life, but experiencing it from everyone else’s perspective too. The love they gave, the kindness they showed, the impact they had on others.
“I got to feel how my smile made the grocery store clerk’s day better,” one spirit told me. “I never knew that mattered so much.”
The Different Realms: Where Spirits Actually Go
Now here’s where it gets really fascinating. The spirit world isn’t just one place, it’s like different neighborhoods in the same city.
The Healing Realm
Many spirits first go to what I can only describe as a healing realm. This is especially true for those who passed from illness, addiction, or emotional trauma. It’s like a spiritual hospital where souls are restored to their perfect state.
I connected with a veteran named Mike who had struggled with PTSD. He came through to his daughter saying, “Sweetheart, all that darkness is gone. I’m me again, the dad you deserved to have.”
The Learning Realm
Spirits tell me about beautiful libraries and centers of learning where they can explore any knowledge they desire. A scientist who passed came through to his wife explaining he was studying “the mathematics of love.” An artist described painting with colors that don’t exist on Earth.
The Service Realm
Here’s something beautiful: many spirits choose to serve as guides for souls still on Earth or help those transitioning. Your passed loved ones often become your spirit guides, watching over you and trying to send you signs.
The Creation Realm
Advanced souls work on manifesting new worlds, new experiences. It sounds fantastical, but spirit after spirit describes being involved in creating realities we can’t even imagine.
Why Some Spirits Stay Close to Earth
Not every soul immediately moves to the higher realms. Some choose to stay in what I call the “Earth-adjacent” dimension. Here’s why:
Unfinished Business
Not the Hollywood version with revenge and hauntings. Real unfinished business is usually about love. Making sure their children know they’re okay. Protecting family during difficult times. Guiding loved ones through major life decisions.
A mother named Patricia stayed close for three years to help her teenage daughter navigate high school and college applications. “I couldn’t leave until I knew she believed in herself,” Patricia told me during a reading with her daughter.
Sudden or Traumatic Passing
Sometimes spirits need time to adjust to being on the other side, especially if their passing was sudden. They’re not lost or in pain, they’re just learning their new existence.
Strong Earth Connections
Spirits with deep earthly attachments, to places, people, or purposes, sometimes choose to remain accessible to help their loved ones. I’ve connected with grandmothers who stay close to help with grandchildren, and husbands who remain near to support their wives through widowhood.
Real Examples from My Readings
Let me share some specific examples that might sound familiar to your own experiences:
The Father’s Workshop
During a reading, a man named Jim came through to his son. He described watching his son restore the old pickup truck in Jim’s workshop. “Tell him I see him talking to me when he’s under that hood,” Jim said. “And yes, I moved that wrench last Tuesday: he wasn’t going crazy.”
The Mother’s Kitchen
A woman named Rose appeared to her daughter during a reading, describing how she stands in her daughter’s kitchen every Sunday morning. “I watch her make my Italian gravy recipe,” Rose said. “She adds too much salt, but I love that she’s trying to keep our tradition alive.”
The Child’s Playground
One of the most touching readings involved a little boy named Tommy who had passed from leukemia. He came through to his parents describing a playground in the spirit world where children play and grow. “I’m seven now,” he told them through me. “And I’m not sick anymore. I can run as fast as the wind.”
The Universal Message: Love Continues
Here’s what every single spirit wants you to know: death doesn’t end love: it amplifies it. Without the limitations of physical form, their love for you becomes pure, unconditional, and infinite.
They watch your children graduate. They celebrate your successes. They comfort you during your lowest moments. They send you signs: the butterfly that lands on your shoulder, the song that plays at just the right moment, the coins you find in impossible places.
A woman named Helen came through during a reading with her husband of 50 years. Her message was simple but powerful: “Tell him I’m not gone. I’ve just moved to a place where I can love him even better.”
What This Means for Your Life Right Now
Understanding where we go when we die should change how you live today. Your passed loved ones aren’t gone: they’re closer than ever. That feeling you get that someone’s watching over you? Trust it. That sudden memory of your grandmother that brings comfort? She sent it.
Death isn’t an ending: it’s a transformation. Your consciousness, your soul, your essence continues in a realm of pure love and infinite possibility.
The next time you wonder where your loved ones are, remember this: they’re not “somewhere far away.” They’re in a dimension of love that exists right alongside ours, watching over you, guiding you, and waiting for the beautiful day when you’ll be reunited.
Until then, they want you to live fully, love deeply, and trust that this physical life is just the beginning of your soul’s incredible journey.
If you’re feeling called to connect with your passed loved ones, I’d love to help you during one of my Online Reading Events. The spirit world is always ready to share messages of love and healing.
Responses
Thank you Matt this has found me today when I need it. My husband had the sudden passing we were out for the day, he went to the toilet and died, I’ve never been right since!
A question you must get asked is, I was the second wife to Robert will he be mine again or first wife? I hope he’s met his son there he was murdered at a young age. My goodness I’m in tears here!
Thanks Matt x
Sending prayers 🙏🙏
I would love to reconnect with someone close to me that I’ve known for many years. He passed 2 years ago and I haven’t been able to move on. I need your help.
Bobbi~
Thank you Matt thus gives me hope. My Austin F31
this is what i believe to be true its beautiful.
thankyou
ps i would love a reading from my mum plz xxx
My dad has ever shown me a sign in 19 years of passing. Ive asked him so many times for them and for his help, Ive got angry with him, feeling he cant love me if Ive not felt his presence. I just want to understand why hes not here for me when Ive had such a hard life and needed lots of miracles. Ive just wanted to feel he is looking out for me. Where is my dad? 😔
I keep waking up at 3am and today I read this email. Thankyou Matt for providing many with answers we have been searching for. You’re a blessing
Beautiful. Looking forward to the group meeting on Saturday in January. Praying I get a reading. Thank you for writing that. It’s very helpful❤️
I would love to talk to my sister or my nephew. I miss my sister so much and I always wonder if she is ok. And my nephew Kevin we were very close and I never got to say goodbye and that just kills me. Thank you for this it really helps to think that they are as happy as they have ever been.
Hi Matt ive just started following you.im going though health problems right now and you’re videos are helping me a lot.thank you.
Thank you matt, this answers some of my questions, my husband was diagnosed with cancer and passed away 5 days later, been 2 1/2 months now he is still here. He talks to me thru electric current. He makes the grandkids toys randomly go off. I signed up for thec6th time and hope that my husband comes through, or another family member. Thank you so much.
Thank you Matt. I needed to read this today. I lost my dad 11 months ago and I’m just heartbroken. I hold on to the hope and belief that he is at peace and not in anymore pain, hoping he knows now just how loved he was and still is. I also hope he’s with my grandfather now and they’re feeling all the love we have for them both.
Thanks again Matt 🙏🏽
I’m attending your reading on the
22nd . Reading this really made me me so much better. Thank you so much
I had a reading by you Matt back on January 11,2024 in west palm Florida. You were able to connect with my son. My daughter was with me and she couldn’t believe how accurate you were on this reading. Thank you again. You are so gifted
I would like a reading just like others do .
My soul mate Anthony took his own life in Oct 2020.
I tried to stop him from leaving our town to go live somewhere else , i knew something was wrong .
I asked him to come live with me bc we were separated bc he wouldnt stop sabotaging our marriage.
Took all our money in the bank and spent it on his own personal use .
Took it away from our family, how are we to survive.
We lost the house bc he didn’t care enough to make our marriage a success.
Instead he threw it all away by spending all the money on drugs etc
Why did he throw his family away 😕
Thank you for this I really really need it I am asking for signs but just not sure what to look for while living in an apartment but I am looking I sonwsnt to connect with my parents very very much and my little sister snd my grandma and my ex husband he’s come to me in dreams before so far he’s the only one thank you tho for this very much
I wish to get reading from you . All the way from Philippines
Walk with me in death as you did in life and know the only boundaries are the ones you choose I’m as close as your breath.
What am awesome gift you have! I believe in everything you said. My mother passed away unexpectedly about 2 months ago. Always wondering if shes still with us. Trying to learn how to read signs that she might be leaving for me. Its been very difficult. But ty for sharing your gift with the world. I’m sure you have giving alot of people some closure! Amen to you!
Hi Matt, i would like to connect with my grandmother, mother and elder sister. My life has been submerged in difficult for years more especially my mother she passed when I was not around, I want to ask for her forgiveness for not been there for her on her last days. Im in South Africa, i just want to know if they okay. I just need clarity. Please 🙏
Thank you Matt I miss my family that past away. I have been thinking about them a lot lately. Specially my birth mom. I never got to meet her. I know 1 day I will . Then I will hear her side of the story. Not that it matters anymore. Thank you very much for sharing this with us.God Bless you.
I would so love to know how my husband is and if he is with my parents and his parents,he was dsaf and mute we comunicated thdough sign language.
Thank you so much Matt for explaining this topic. I felt very comforted as I read what you wrote. My Dad passed almost 2 years ago and we weren’t super close in the living world but right after he passed I kept getting signs from him. My Mom has not been the same. They were married for 63 years. I wish I could have you do an on-line reading for me so I could let my Mom know he’s ok. Things have been extremely hard for her since his passing. Let’s just say that she has had some extremely hard obstacles to which she’s had to handle alone. If I could just connect them thru you, I know she’d be ok. Thanks for your time and beautiful info you share with us all. Danea
This came a the exact time I needed it to. My mom is in her last days she has dementia and I’ve been taking care of her in my home for the past year. TGE docs gave her two weeks. And it’s so comforting knowing this before she goes. Thank you so much!!
I haven’t gotten a true answer from the people investigating my son’s death it went from self inflicted to accident because they found his gun under him but I have pictures that people that wouldn’t stay for the police took and it shows a bunch of people right there stealing from his pockets he had a different outfit on when I found these pictures the police don’t have nor do they care and his gun is by his foot and the only reason the coroner had to put accident was based on his there was no hole in his pants but was one in his underwear please ask my Moochie what happened in that building that I have to live without him please ask him is he the one that makes the lights go bright like my sister did
This was such a beautiful read. Thank you for sharing Matt.
I have lost my two best friends since childhood. I feel I have Noone else – certainly Noone that understands my loss. One’s daughter has said some terribly mean and hurtful things to me that I can’t forget and causes me to question everything about what I felt for over 60 years. I desperately need assurance and/or closure to be able to move on and live what’s left of my life in a way that’s not without purpose. I am lost and don’t know how to react without just breaking down. I am more than flat broke and unable to pay anything so I think I’ll be like this forever. If there is someone who could be a gi between for me and maybe go through you to connect with them and somehow help me to repair this hole in my heart and let me know for sure that they are still with me and love me and know I love them, I would be so grateful. I’m 62 and wish I could be positive in my last few years I have on this side. I try, but it’s difficult in this day and time. Forgive me for asking something from someone I don’t even know.
Sincerely,
Diana Mesa
This has made my day! Matt, please email me!
Thank you Matt, I want so hard to believe that my son is at peace and waiting for me. The struggle is real and I am reaching out for hope, peace and prayers. Tyler F29 💜
Hi Matt I would love to meet you i have so many questions please help I feel so lost overwhelmed with all info out there
Thank you Matt
I’m looking forward to clarity and l appreciate your blogs.
Kind regards
Cathy Brennan.
These descriptions are very comforting and full of love and caring. I am mindful of Maxim Naumov the figure skater now going to the Olympics whose parents perished in the Washington DC plane crash last January. He is still dedicating himself to honor their memory. I can only imagine how much joy contacting them would bring him!