Have you ever caught yourself in the middle of a normal day folding laundry, driving to work, standing in line for coffee and wondered… What are they doing right now?
Not “Are they sending signs?” (we talk about that a lot). I mean the real question underneath it all:
What is life actually like for your loved one on the other side?
As a psychic medium, I’ve spent my entire life in afterlife communication and I can tell you this with total confidence: your loved ones don’t “disappear.” They transition. They adjust. And yes… they continue to live in a way that’s hard for us to imagine from here.
In this post, I’m giving you a “day in the life” look at the afterlife. We will cover what spirits do, how they grow, who they’re with, and why you can stop worrying that they’re stuck, lonely, or suffering.
First, Let’s Clear Up the Biggest Misconception
A lot of people picture the afterlife like an endless white hallway with harps and clouds. Or the opposite: a place where souls are trapped, wandering, and lost.
Neither is true.
From what spirits show me in mediumship readings, the other side is alive. It’s filled with connection, learning, laughter, comfort, and familiar energy. And the biggest surprise for most people?
Your loved one still feels like your loved one.
Same personality. Same sense of humor. Same opinions. (Yes, even on the other side, some people still have a lot to say.)
So… What Do Spirits Actually Do All Day?
If you’re expecting me to say “they just sit around and watch you,” I want to gently reframe that.
Spirits do stay connected to you, but they also have their own life, their own healing, and their own experiences.
Here are the most common “afterlife routines” spirits show me again and again.
1. They Reunite (And You’d Be Shocked Who Shows Up First)
One of the sweetest truths I share as America’s Top Psychic Medium is this: your loved one is not alone.
When they cross, there’s a reunion energy. It can include parents, grandparents, siblings, best friends… and yes, sometimes it’s the person you weren’t expecting.
Recently, a client of mine came in terrified that her dad would be “by himself” because most of his family had passed long before she was born. When he came through, he immediately showed me an older man with a very specific hat like a “signature” hat.
It turned out to be her dad’s grandfather, the one he always talked about as “the only person who really got me.”
That’s the vibe on the other side: the hearts you’re connected to find each other.
2. Yes, Pets Are There And They’re With Them!
This is one of the most asked questions I get at live events: Do we see our pets again?
In my experience through afterlife communication, pets absolutely come through. Dogs. Cats. Even birds. I’ve had horses come through, too.
And here’s the part that makes people cry in the best way: your loved ones often reunite with your pets the moment they cross.
I’ve seen spirits show me a dog running up like, “Finally! You’re here!” I’ve also seen pets act as “greeters” for people who were nervous crossing over.
If you’ve ever worried that your dog is “gone forever,” I want you to breathe. Love doesn’t work that way.
3. They “Rest” First, But It’s Not Like Sleeping
Think about what the body goes through at the end of life illness, pain, exhaustion, trauma, emotional stress.
When spirits cross, there’s often a period of recalibration. They show me something like a peaceful decompression.
Not boredom. Not darkness. More like: relief.
I’ll have spirits say (in their own way), “Tell her I feel light,” or “Tell him I’m not hurting,” or even, “I can breathe again.”
If your person had a hard passing, please know this: the suffering does not follow them. The soul steps out of that.
4. Do They Have “Jobs” on the Other Side?
This question always makes me smile, because it sounds so human: Do they work? Do they have jobs?
They don’t punch a time clock. But spirits do show me purpose.
Some souls become helpers—supporting people who are grieving, guiding newly crossed souls, or working with what I can only describe as “teachers” or “healers” on the other side.
Other spirits show me creative energy like they’re learning, building, studying, or exploring.
I once connected with a man who, in life, was an engineer. When he came through, he made me feel like he was “fixing things” still like he was obsessed with how energy works over there.
His wife laughed through tears and said, “He couldn’t stop tinkering here either.”
Same person. New environment.
5. Do They Watch Over You?
Yes—but not in a creepy, “I saw you do that” way.
Spirits don’t stand over your shoulder judging you. What they show me is more like a loving awareness. They can tune in, they can be present, they can witness big moments and they can send you support.
Think of it like this: they’re not stuck to you, but you’re never out of reach.
And when you’re in deep grief, or you’re about to make a major life decision, or you’re falling apart in your car at a red light? That’s when they tend to come closer.
This is not to be feared. It’s love showing up.
6. They Keep Their Humor (And Yes, They Still Roll Their Eyes)
If you’re reading this and thinking, “My mom would absolutely be making jokes,” you’re right.
The other side isn’t only serious and sacred. Spirits often come through laughing, teasing, and bringing up the most normal things.
In mediumship readings, I’ve had spirits complain (lovingly) about family drama, joke about who took their favorite sweater, or bring up the weirdest little details because that’s how you know it’s them.
That personality doesn’t die. It continues.
7. They Review Their Life—With Compassion, Not Punishment
Another big fear people carry is, What happens to them after they die? Are they judged?
What spirits show me looks more like reflection and understanding. They become aware of the impact they had, the love they gave, the pain they caused, the lessons they didn’t get to finish here.
But it’s not a “point system.”
It’s growth. It’s healing. It’s seeing the bigger picture with more compassion than we’re usually able to access while we’re human.
If you have complicated grief, if the relationship was messy, or there are things you wish you could’ve said please hear me: healing is still possible. On both sides.
8. They Still Feel Your Love (And They Still Want You to Live)
Here’s the part that always matters most.
Even if your loved one has “things to do” in the afterlife, you are still connected. Your love reaches them. Your thoughts reach them.
But they don’t want you to pause your life to prove you miss them.
I can’t tell you how many times a spirit has come through and made me feel this exact message:
“Tell her to stop being so hard on herself.”
“Tell him I’m okay—he doesn’t have to carry this forever.”
“Tell them I want them to laugh again.”
That’s the real day-to-day of the other side: love, growth, connection… and a constant hope that you keep going.
What If You’re Thinking, “Okay… But How Do I Know This Is Real?”
You don’t have to force belief.
If you’re skeptical, I get it. Healthy skepticism is normal. It’s why I do what I do the way I do—bringing through details I couldn’t possibly know: names, dates, locations, specific memories.
That’s what makes a psychic medium reading different from a generic message.
And yes, people call me the best psychic in the united states. I don’t say that to brag—I say it because my job is to bring you real evidence that your loved one still exists, still knows you, and is still part of your life.
A Gentle Exercise: “Check In” With Them Tonight
If you want to feel closer to your loved one, try this before bed:
- Say their name out loud.
- Ask them to show you how they’re doing in their world—not just a sign here.
- Ask for a feeling: peace, warmth, calm, relief.
- When it comes, don’t overthink it. Just receive it.
You’re not making it up. You’re learning a new language.
Experience Afterlife Communication for Yourself
If you’re craving real connection—not just wondering, but knowing—I’d love to help you experience it in a way that feels healing and grounded.
Join me for an online group reading where I connect you with loved ones on the other side through live mediumship readings. Or come see me at a live event if you want that in-the-room energy. And if you want to go deeper on your own, explore my books about the afterlife, or check out my course It’s Never Too Late to strengthen your own intuitive ability.
With peace from the other side,
Matt Fraser
America’s Top Psychic Medium
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