You’re getting ready for your wedding day. You’re nervous, excited, and maybe a little overwhelmed. Then suddenly, you smell your grandmother’s perfume. The same scent she wore every single day. She’s been gone for three years, but in that moment, you know she’s right there with you.
Or maybe you’re going through the hardest time of your life. A divorce. A job loss. The kind of grief that makes it hard to get out of bed. And one night, you wake up at 3 a.m. feeling like someone’s watching you. Not in a creepy way, but in a protective way. Like someone’s standing guard.
Has something like this ever happened to you?
If so, you’re not alone. And here’s what I need you to know: you have nothing to fear. These aren’t signs that something’s wrong or that your house is haunted. These are visits from your loved ones on the other side, and they’re showing up because they love you.
As a psychic medium who’s done thousands of mediumship readings across the country, I’ve learned something important: spirits don’t come to scare you. They come to support you. And understanding why and how they visit can transform fear into comfort.
Why Spirits Show Up During Your Most Important Moments
Your loved ones on the other side aren’t gone. They’ve just changed addresses. And one of the most beautiful things I’ve witnessed in my work as a death medium is that spirits are incredibly present during the moments that matter most to you.
They show up during challenging times because they can feel your pain. When you’re going through a breakup, struggling with an illness, or grieving another loss, your energy shifts. And spirits, who exist in pure energy form, can sense that shift immediately. They come closer during these times because they want you to know you’re not alone.
I once did a reading for a woman named Sarah who had lost her father to cancer. Six months after he passed, she was diagnosed with breast cancer herself. She told me that during her first chemotherapy session, she felt a hand on her shoulder. No one was standing behind her. But she described feeling this wave of warmth and strength wash over her. Her father was letting her know he was right there, giving her the courage to fight.
Spirits also show up during your celebrations because they don’t want to miss out! Your wedding day, the birth of your baby, your college graduation, your big promotion. These are the moments your loved ones would have been there for if they were still in physical form. Death doesn’t change their love for you or their desire to celebrate your wins.
Think about it this way: if your mom never missed one of your birthdays when she was alive, why would she start now? She’s still your mom. She’s still proud of you. She’s just cheering you on from a different seat.
Demystifying the “Scary” Experiences
Now let’s talk about the experiences that freak people out. The ones that make you think your house might be haunted or that something sinister is going on. I’m going to walk you through the most common “paranormal” experiences and explain what’s really happening.
Shadow Figures: Just Energy Taking Form
You’re walking down the hallway at night and you see a dark figure out of the corner of your eye. Your heart races. You turn on every light in the house.
Here’s the truth: shadow figures are usually just spirits who don’t have enough energy to fully manifest. Think of it like trying to tune into a radio station that’s just slightly out of range. You get some static, some faint sound, but not the full signal.
When spirits visit, they need energy to appear. Sometimes they can only gather enough to create a shadow or a silhouette. It’s not something dark or evil. It’s actually your loved one working really hard to show themselves to you in whatever form they can manage.
One of my clients told me she kept seeing a tall shadow figure in her son’s nursery. She was terrified until we did a reading and her grandfather came through. He had been 6’4″ in life, and he was watching over his great-grandson. Once she understood it was him, the fear disappeared completely.
Temperature Drops: Spirits Drawing Energy to Visit
Ever walk into a room and suddenly feel like you’ve stepped into a freezer? You check the thermostat. Nothing’s changed. But you can see your breath.
This happens because spirits draw energy from their environment to manifest. Heat is energy. When a spirit is trying to make their presence known, they literally pull the warmth from the air around them. It’s physics, not something to be afraid of.
I remember doing a live event where the entire left side of the auditorium dropped about 20 degrees. Everyone felt it. Turns out, there was a woman in that section who had lost her husband in a car accident, and he was coming through with an incredibly strong message for her. He was drawing so much energy to communicate that he affected the whole area.
The cold isn’t a sign of something negative. It’s actually a sign that a spirit is working overtime to connect with you.
Feeling Like You’re Being Watched: Their Protective Presence
This is probably the most common experience people tell me about, and it’s the one that causes the most anxiety. You’re alone in your house, but you feel like someone’s there. Maybe you’re in the shower, or you’re reading in bed, or you’re cooking dinner. And you just know someone’s watching you.
That feeling isn’t paranoia. It’s awareness. And nine times out of ten, it’s a loved one checking in on you.
Your grandmother isn’t creeping on you in some weird way. She’s doing what she always did: making sure you’re okay. Your dad who passed isn’t trying to scare you. He’s keeping an eye on his kid. Your sister who died too young isn’t haunting you. She’s hanging out with you because she misses you.
One woman told me she always felt watched when she was putting her kids to bed. It bothered her until we connected with her mother, who told her: “I never got to meet my grandchildren in person, so I’m not going to miss tucking them in now.” The woman cried tears of joy. What she thought was creepy was actually the most beautiful gift.
They Come from a Place of Love, Not to Haunt
Here’s what I need you to understand as a psychic medium who connects with spirits every single day: the other side is filled with love, peace, and light. Spirits aren’t sitting around thinking of ways to scare you or make your life difficult.
When your loved ones visit from the other side, they’re motivated by the same love they had for you when they were alive. Actually, that love is even purer now because they’re no longer weighed down by human ego, grudges, or misunderstandings.
Your dad who was emotionally distant in life? He gets it now. And he’s trying to show you the love he couldn’t express before.
Your friend who died in that argument you never resolved? She forgave you the moment she crossed over. And she’s been trying to send you signs of peace ever since.
The best psychics in the United States will tell you the same thing I’m telling you: spirits want to heal, not haunt. They want to comfort, not terrify. They want to connect, not scare you away.
What to Do When You Experience a Spirit Visit
So what should you do if you experience one of these signs? First, take a deep breath. You’re safe. Then, acknowledge them.
You can say it out loud or in your head: “I know you’re here. Thank you for visiting me. I love you too.”
That simple acknowledgment can bring so much peace to both you and the spirit trying to reach you. You’re opening the door to communication instead of slamming it shut out of fear.
And if you want to understand these visits more deeply, consider getting a psychic reading or mediumship reading from someone who can help you interpret the specific signs your loved ones are sending. As someone who’s built a career as one of the best mediums in the US, I can tell you that understanding these connections can be life-changing.
You can also work on developing your own intuitive abilities. We all have psychic potential. Some celebrity psychic mediums might make it seem like you need a special gift, but the truth is, anyone can learn to strengthen their connection to the other side.
You’re Never Truly Alone
The next time you smell that familiar scent, feel that sudden chill, or sense that protective presence, I want you to smile instead of being afraid. Your loved ones are closer than you think, showing up during your hardest days and your happiest moments because death hasn’t changed their love for you.
They’re at your wedding, even if they’re not in the photos. They’re at your child’s first birthday party, even if there’s no place card for them. They’re with you during your 3 a.m. panic attacks, reminding you that you’re stronger than you know.
Spirit visits aren’t something to fear. They’re something to cherish.
Want to connect more deeply with your loved ones on the other side? Join me for an online group reading where I connect audience members with their departed family and friends. Or come see me at one of my live events, where the energy is incredible and the messages are undeniable. You can also check out my books on understanding heaven and the afterlife, or explore my courses to develop your own psychic abilities and learn to recognize the signs your loved ones are sending you.
Remember: love doesn’t die. It just changes form. And your people are always, always with you.
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