Over the years, I’ve connected with thousands of souls who have crossed over, and one message comes through again and again: They wish they had lived differently.
It’s not about the money they made or the houses they owned. It’s about the love they held back, the dreams they didn’t chase, and the time they wasted waiting for “the right moment.”
If you could hear what they have to say, you’d realize something powerful: You don’t have to wait until you’re dead to start truly living.
Here’s what the spirits want you to know about living a life without regrets.
1. Stop Waiting for the “Perfect Time”
One of the biggest regrets I hear from spirits is that they kept waiting—waiting for the kids to grow up, for retirement, for more money, for “one day.” But one day never came.
I once connected with a woman who had a message for her daughter. She told me, “I should have taken that trip to Italy with you. I thought I had more time.” Her daughter started crying as she admitted that she, too, had been waiting—putting off her own dreams just like her mother did.
The spirits want you to know: There is no perfect time—only now. If there’s something in your heart that you keep delaying, stop making excuses. Take the trip. Start the business. Say yes to the opportunity. Your time is now.
2. Tell People How Much They Mean to You
If there’s one regret I hear all the time, it’s this: “I didn’t say ‘I love you’ enough.”
In a reading, a father came through for his son. He said, “Tell him I was always proud of him, I just didn’t know how to say it.” The son burst into tears—he had spent his whole life wondering if his dad was proud of him.
The spirits remind us: Don’t assume people know how you feel—tell them. Say “I love you.” Say “I appreciate you.” Say “I’m proud of you.” Don’t wait until it’s too late.
3. Live for Yourself—Not for Others
So many souls regret living a life that wasn’t truly theirs. They tell me:
- “I became a doctor because my parents wanted me to.”
- “I stayed in a marriage because I was afraid of what people would say.”
- “I ignored my passion because I didn’t think it was practical.”
I remember one spirit who shared how she spent 40 years in a job she hated because it was the “safe” choice. Only after retirement did she finally allow herself to paint—something she had secretly loved since childhood. Her regret? That she waited until the end of her life to embrace who she really was.
Ask yourself: If I had one year left, what would I do differently? Then start doing it now.
4. Don’t Let Fear Steal Your Opportunities
Fear is a liar. It whispers, “You’re not ready,” “You might fail,” “What will people think?”
A mother once came through in a reading with a message for her daughter. She said, “Stop waiting until you feel ready. You’ll never feel ready.”
She had spent her life afraid to take risks, always planning but never doing. And her daughter had inherited that same fear, constantly second-guessing herself.
The spirits want you to know: Courage doesn’t come first—action does. Take the leap. Make the move. Say yes. The fear fades once you’re in motion.
5. Cherish the Little Moments
At the end of life, spirits don’t talk about their big achievements. They talk about the small moments—the morning coffees, the belly laughs, the warm hugs, the sunsets.
One grandmother told her granddaughter, “I should have put down my to-do list more often. I was always ‘too busy,’ but now I see—the little moments were the big ones.”
Next time you’re with someone you love, put your phone down, take a deep breath, and be fully present. Because one day, those tiny moments will be your most precious memories.
Live Now, Love Now, Be Bold Now
The spirits have one final message for you: You still have time to change your story.
If any of these regrets sound familiar, let today be the day you shift. Say yes to adventure, express your love freely, pursue your dreams, and savor each moment.
And when your time comes, may you look back with a full heart and say, “I truly lived.”
Because life is short.
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